Do You Know WHO Is Holding You Back?

Do You Know WHO Is Holding You Back?

Through the years, I have known people on a first-hand basis WHO had grandiose plans, ambitious goals, concrete objectives and roadmaps in life that made me no less than envious BUT appreciative.  BUT before you jump and sing all the hosannahs and hallelujahs, let me dampen your expectations because roughly, for every ten people I came to know, maybe one to two of them had their respective plans and goals come intro fruition.  So, you would ask me now, WHAT HAPPENED to the 80%? The answer is NOT that difficult to fathom.  Something else was HOLDING THEM BACK.  And of the 80% WHO were HELD BACK, 100% of them all were HELD BACK by their very own.  That answers the question: Do You Know WHO Is Holding You Back???

Culling from my past interactions with them, easily 30% of them were dependent [AS IN] on someone as the leader, the initiator and he/was contented to be the follower, simply replicating the steps made by the leader.  Sometimes, their dependency is NOT on a person BUT on a future factor that is very 'iffy', e.g. someone will pursue options to migrate to another country if that country's immigration laws become less stringent💧💧💧

Another day-to-day scenario I do bear witness is that CLOUD of FEAR that is enveloping him/herself.  BUT getting into that FEAR FACTOR could be a complex topic to dissect because there is a mile-long list of FEARS we commonly face in life.  And setting aside the most mundane FEARS, the FEAR that is legitimate to be tackled is that FEAR of FAILURE.  Until and unless you overcome that FEAR of FAILURE, you will NEVER inch forward even if you continue to dream about your plans💚💛💜

Another common culprit is NOT related to FEAR but that person seems to be toeing [hook, line and sinker] someone's definition of SUCCESS.  That means you will end up comparing your performance to someone else's timelines and even goals, WHICH in the end will likely end in an incorrect assessment.  BUT to be fair to each of us, FEAR of something bad happening in the future is one of the things that make us human.  Animals might fear an immediate danger, that is happening right now BUT only we FEAR something that might happen, that ISN'T happening now, that ISN'T even showing its ugly face at the moment.  This FEAR, some might say, is necessary as it stops us from doing something stupid.  BUT I've found most of these FEARS to be unnecessary, to be baseless, to be holding us back from achieving something.  Failure.  Abandonment.  Rejection.  Intimacy.  Success.  Being broke.  NOT being good enough.  FEARS can go on and on😔😔😔

Our takeaway:  Of all the multifarious common triggers of FEAR, NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH is actually at the root of all the others.  We FEAR we'll fail because we're NOT GOOD ENOUGH.  We FEAR we'll lose our relationships, that we'll be abandoned, that we'll be rejected.  Even that FEAR of SUCCESS is based on the worry that we're NOT GOOD ENOUGH.  Dude, do you know WHO [or WHAT] is HOLDING YOU BACK???