What You See Is What You Get
Borrowing this post from Quora by Ghost Girl: An old lady was standing by the railing of a cruise ship holding her hat on tight so that it would not be blown off by the wind. A gentleman approached her and said: 'Pardon me Madam, I don't intend to be forward but sis you know your dress is blowing up', The old lay said: 'I l know that's why I need both my hands to hold on to this hat'. The man said: 'But Madam, you're not wearing anything under your dress and your privates are exposed'. The old woman blurted: 'Sir, anything you see down there us 85 eight years old whereas this hat, I just bought this yesterday. Ouch, indeed What You See Is What You Get๐๐๐If at all, this is what is expected from us all. BE WHAT YOU ARE [and DON'T project something you are NOT]. Express your GENUINE thoughts and feeling [and DON'T spew out anything which you are NOT]. What complicates things in life is when we are NOT that genuine and truthful enough. And what is the complication? The person[s] receiving your expression or act will, by default, think that such expression is genuine and truthful enough, so they might react or reciprocate, aligned to your expressions which are UNTRUENo one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Sunday, February 12, 2023
What You See Is What You Get
Saturday, February 11, 2023
What Comes Along With DESPERATION
What Comes Along With DESPERATION
I've come across numerous threads where DESPERATION has been equated with DEPRESSION. Which means there is a huge disconnect because DEPRESSION is more of a medical illness that affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Whereas DESPERATION per se is NOT DEPRESSION. So, the question that begs to be enlightened is What Comes Along With DESPERATION๐๐๐
Whereas, DESPERATION is often NOT a medical illness [although it is unavoidable that those struggling with DEPRESSION tend to manifest DESPERATION. No worries, we won't tackle DEPRESSION as that is NOT my turf. Instead, HOPELESSNESS is a manifestation of feeling HOPELESS due to a situation one is grappling with. Examples would be when you're getting HOPELESS to get out of debt or worse, you're feeling HOPELESS of anything you pursue in life, you've been FAILING and FAILING no end⏳⏳⏳Indeed, feeling stuck in a state of HOPELESSNESS makes life really tough. But hold on, there are some things you can do when feeling HOPLELESS, if at lease to make life a little bit better, to alleviate you from the bigger problems you're facing. HOW? Play devil's advocate. Consider your brain might be lying to you. your brain might be telling you that things are awful and horrible. And that there's NO way you can succeed๐๐๐
BUT c'mon dude. Just because you did think about it does NOT mean that that's TRUE at all. Who knows at that point in time, your thoughts may be distorted, inaccurate or just downright WRONG. Remember, HOPELESS FEELINGS FUEL HOPELESS THOUGHTS. And as humans, we are so vulnerable and so easy to get caught up in a NEGATIVE CYCLE that makes it hard to see that things can get better.So, how can you be your own devil's advocate? ARGUE THE OPPOSITE. When you feel HOPELESS, you'll likely think about all the reasons why nothing will ever get better. Thinking a bit about the 'POTENTIAL POSITIVES' can open you up to more possibilities. And while there's a chance that things might NOT turn out good enough, keep 'ARGUING' [to yourself] to open your brain up that things are NOT as gloomy as they seem to be. OVERCOMING DESPERATION is not that steep❗❗❗
Friday, February 10, 2023
Is Your Cupboard Emptying Soon?
Is Your Cupboard Emptying Soon?
No sirrrrrs, much as we want our cupboard to be full up to the rafters, that would have been a happy problem. But WHAT IF your cupboard is emptying soon? Obviously, human nature will tell us that that should NOT be a burning question. BUT here's the BUT. If you want to be PROACTIVE and be a STEP AHEAD, being alerted or worse alarmed at that point in time will be the best time for you to chart your NEXT MOVES. That can never be deemed early enoughLet's go back to our households and take a reality check. How often are you 'on your toes' enough to alert you to 'TOP UP' the cupboard before it gets emptied? How many times did you realized that your own 'life cupboard is almost empty' and you had to run out and scamper for a quick fix? What causes these scenarios? It is when we are dependent on someone else instead of us taking charge of things๐๐๐Thursday, February 9, 2023
Misunderstandings May Just Worsen
Misunderstandings May Lead to 'WAR'
Let me share this short story I came across from Quora.com today: A married couple was walking through a garden when suddenly a dog ran towards them. Instantly, the hubby lifter his wife to let the dog bite him instead of his wife. Then the dog stopped before them , barked a bit then ran away. The hubby then put his wife down, expecting a hug and a few kind words. Instead, wifey said: "I'VE SEEN PEOPLE THROW STONES & STICKS AT DOGS BUT THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I SEE SOMEONE TRYING TO THROW HIS WIFE AT A DOG". Indeed, Misunderstandings May Worsen'Apologies, we DON'T intend to sow discontent or rub salt on open wounds, if any. Instead, we'd like to highlight that NOT all conflicts and quarrels really started 'BIG TIME' as full-blown ones. Quite often, it could be either petty, minor or differences in preferences or opinions. What exacerbates things are words [and expletives] that get spewed out during exchanges that get heated up as it worsens. Top it off with emotions. VOILA, that's the best recipe to start a fire that can spread out much faster than the bushfires in the Australian Outback๐น๐น๐น
Tuesday, February 7, 2023
FOFO [Fear of Finding Out] - Our Incognito Enemy
FOFO [Fear of Finding Out] - Our Incognito Enemy
Please DON'T get me wrong. We're not hear to concoct or create imaginary enemies. BUT truth is, we do have 'enemies' in our life and some of our 'enemies' are very much internal and worst, UNSEEN at that. And FOFO [Fear of Finding Out], Our Incognito Enemy, is our piece today as FOFO is defined as the "PSYCHOLOGICAL BARRIER THAT STOPS A PERSON FROM LEARNING MORE ABOUT A POTENTIAL PROBLEM BECAUSE THEY'RE AFRAID OF THEY'LL DISCOVER"๐๐๐
As FOFO became familiar in the medical field, there was an increasing number of patients who needed to be treated due to FOFO. So, going back into our life, why and when do we experience FOFO? Real-life examples of FOFO- Avoiding honest/deep/frank conversations
- Shunning critical feedback about yourself
- Refusing to reassess a critical situation
- Turning a BLIND EYE on a deteriorating relationship mired with constant quarrelsBTW, only an ostrich is entitled to bury its head because it has to dig shallow holes that will serve as nests for their eggs. BUT for us? At the very least, it will be a scare once you exhibit those FOFO manifestations so the immediate question is, what's our antidote to FOFO? Tap ypur emotional intelligence. Emotions like FEAR occur almost instinctively so you CAN'T control how you feel when they hit. BUT you can control HOW you react to those feelingsYou might get mixed up. Doesn't the FEAR you're experiencing influence the thoughts you're having? Indeed yes BUT while you CAN'T prevent a negative thought from entering your mind, you CAN control how long you dwell on it. So, how do we really deal with FOFO? First option, you can allow the emotion to control you
- Second option is you can take control of your thoughts which may likely influence your emotions. Between those two options, the second options the emotionally intelligent one. So, if you're dealing with FOFO, never forget that YOU HAVE A CHOICE and DON'T let your FEAR control you, rather, you can take control of your fear by taking control of your thoughts. No easy way out but it can be done❗❗❗
Monday, February 6, 2023
Come To Grips With What You Have Right Now
Come To Grips With What You Have Right Now
Is this worth our piece for today? That is, how to Come To Grips With What You Have Right Now. Before we get bogged down with semantics, let's admit it that we humans have a bit of a problem with reality. We experience it all the time but struggle to define it, let alone understand it. Sometimes, it seems solid enough and yet when we examine it much closer, it seems to 'MELT AWAY' like a mirage. We DON'T know when it began, how big it is, where it came from and where it came from and where it is going and very likely we DON'T have the slightest clue why it exist๐๐๐Sunday, February 5, 2023
Do You Have A 'HOMERUN ANSWER'?
Do You Have A 'HOMERUN ANSWER'?
Baseball may NOT be the most popular sports outside of the United States but regardless, in life, this is worth asking: Do You Have A 'HOMERUN ANSWER'? That 'HOMERUN ANSWER' is NOT equivalent to a magic answer but instead, it should be one's answer to a question one should pose to himself/herself if one sees it to be potentially coming or that the probability for it to materialize gives it a fair chance to happen.Saturday, February 4, 2023
'Slay Your Demons Before You Slay Dragons'
'Slay Your Demons Before You Slay Dragons'
'Slay Your Demons Before You Slay Dragons', my apologies I have to write this one-liner in quotes because while I can't figure out who said this, surely from the longest time, this has been one of those quotable quotes. And who says he has NO inner demons? Everyone has, in fact. The huge gap does exist because while many of us accept this harsh truth, a similar plurality NEVER acknowledges and accepts that they have such inner demons that do exist in the first place. And that is NOT just pitiful but worst, it is pathetic because NO one can slay dragons UNLESS he slays his inner demons first๐ง๐ง๐งTo our dear readers of Chinese descent, please DON'T get me wrong. I DON'T intend to taint or besmirched the dragon because in the Chinese culture, the dragon does represent good luck, strength, health and the male element of Yang. But in real life, let's face, when we utter dragons to slay, we're referring to challenges in our life that is so formidable to overcome, hence we hear 'SLAYING THE DRAGON'๐๐๐Friday, February 3, 2023
Still Struggling With SELF-DOUBT?
Still Struggling With SELF-DOUBT?
Still Struggling With SELF-DOUBT? As the song of the late great singer Michael Jackson goes, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are many of us in that same boat [including myself in the past]. But that is NOT a LOST CAUSE for us to abandon and given up as there is still that 'light at the end of the tunnel' [and BTW, it is NOT an incoming train]. Challenge is, how do we figure things out to throw away out to the window that SELF-DOUBT๐๐๐Yes, everyone catches SELF-DOUBT from time to time. And indeed, it can be a terrifying feeling when you catch it out of nowhere and wonder if you're good enough, smart enough or worthy enough to make positive progress in your life. SELF-DOUBT cap sap your energy and make you feel as though you have nothing left to offer. So, what is the way out if we are into this dilemma? What is the best way to tackle this SELF-DOUBT❓❓❓Truth is, the most common culprit is our tendency when we let the BAD outweigh the GOOD. The amount of BAD stuff that you're thinking about is way more than the amount of good stuff that you're thinking about. That's NOT to say that the BAD stuff doesn't exist because it does. We all have problems and issues that we have to deal with on a daily basis. But instead of focusing on the BAD, try to find the GOOD⏳⏳⏳Find the little little things that you're doing well and that others are noticing. Focus on those and let the bad stuff go. And here's the fact. You got to believe in yourself and in your abilities. Believe in what you can achieve because that belief will help you to overcome SELF-DOUBT and reach your full potential. If you DON'T believe in yourself and what you have the potential to do, you're more likely to give up when the going gets tough๐๐๐At the end of the day, despite the myriad of colors we have in life, realistically, life's colors is simply either BLACK or WHITE. Either HOPE or HOPELESSNESS. Either SELF-ESTEEM or SELF- DOUBT. Either POSITIVITY or NEGATIVITY. There's NOT much choice in life. And the scary thing here is that if you DON'T do anything, you will lose by default because of SELF-DOUBT๐๐๐Thursday, February 2, 2023
How Much Thread Is Left On Your Tires?
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