That 'COMPARISON TRAP'

 

One too many TRAPS in this world indeed BUT way before Google Chrome's INCOGNITO function was even conceptualized, that COMPARISON TRAP has been running in INCOGNITO mode for the longest time now.  And if you're as innocent as the new-born infant to ask if there are COMPARISON platforms?  DON'T look farther than social media.  OR if you want to travel back in time WHEN there was NO internet, we can reminisce those times WHEN we would hear from our parents and mentors that we should be LIKE THIS and LIKE THAT because he/she is a successful scientist, doctor OR an outstanding professional reaping so many laurels in his field💚💛💜

Swinging back to social media, we can find profiles so damn impressive of folks appearing to lead a charmed life, an executive at work and WHEN on a holiday in Europe, taking pictures in the most popular tourist spots!  Oh YES, even for people up close with someone, that person might also have a family of good and great standing up front.  BUT HOW can we be so sure that that person internal view of life is much darker.  WHAT IF that person is perenially obsessed and so locked in with that COMPARISON TRAP???

YES, that's the inevitable TRAP we will end up.  Try maintaining that highly visible profile in social media and then, your other FB 'friend' starts posting more impressing globe-trotting updates.  Then that leads you to feeling so down, so obscured, so 'nothing' all because your FB "friend's" posts are garnering tons of comments and HIGH FIVEs.  WHERE does that drive you to?  IF you end up COMPARING yourself with your FB friend on the basis of MORE likes, MORE comments, MORE followers, you're doomed stalled dude💥💥💥

YES, undoubtedly, those COMPARISON TRAPS will drive oneself's ambivalence about LIFE's choices, LIFE's decisions, LIFE's outcomes.  BUT does that make sense?  WHICH reminds me of a quite controversial research WHICH loudly 'proclaims' that measuring oneself against others is akin to a 'modus operandi' of our human mind [although in some way, it could be somehow helpful].  True, the inspiration we may feel about someone else's achievements can rev up our own self-motivation BUT that's about all❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Awhile back WHILE scribbling this blog today, I overheard my wife's smartphone playing out louda priest's sharing questioning WHY do we need to COMPARE yesterday with today? WHY CAN'T we be thankful that we're very much alive, health and kicking today?  Then enjoy every tick of the clock, even smelling the flowers, appreciating the aroma of your daily morning coffee?  Think about it, there are more DOWNSIDEs than UPSIDEs to that COMPARISON TRAP.  Can we just cut and cut clean from that COMPARISON TRAP dude😡😡😡