How Much Effort Is Needed For Relationships?

 

How Much Effort Is Needed For Relationships?  BTW, me thinks that RELATIONSHIPs should not be a boring thread today, right?  The perennial fallacy we have been hearing through the years is that RELATIONSHIPs are a tough nut to crack.  I'll say YES and NO.  YES because that's it IF we look it that way.  NO because of the same logic.  Otherwise, this is NO complex lab research with algorithms and machine language all over the place.  Instead, we need to just put things in the right perspective that building and maintaining healthy RELATIONSHIPS is an important part of looking after our mental health📗📙📘

There's one enduring fallacy that points to couples being afar as the very culprit of failed relationships.  NOT TRUE dude.  Instead, numerous studies showed that being far apart was the #1 factor for at least 70% of those enduring relationships.  Oh Oh.  Looks like we were looking from a different vantage point because all these data-driven conclusions are telling us that distance even reinforces human relationships💥💥💥

Now let's listen to these expert counselings:

• KNOW THYSELF - NOT knowing HOW to regulate yourself [like your emotions] is a huge handicap
• WALK THE TALK - PUT INTO WORK because healthy relationships are NOT found BUT built
• SET/RESPECTIVE BOUNDARIES - It's NOT only about WHAT you DON'T want OR like BUT it's also about letting folks around know what you appreciate

• TALK & LISTEN - Once communications breaks down, it is likely that all the dominos will fall, one by one as well.  This is WHERE communication channels become the very first factor that can MAKE OR BREAK relationships.  In practically all circumstances [YES, even in Geo-politics], once communication channels break down,  it's akin to the last nail on the coffin.
• LET GO OF CONTROL - Here's the thing.  A lot of life is about HOW we react to our experiences and encounters.  Knowing that you can only really control WHAT YOU DO  and NOT WHAT anyone else does will save you TIME + STRESS
• REFLECT & LEARN - Reacting to other people in a health way is the proven formula over and over again.  Being angry with someone often comes from a place of feeling hurt and upset

Our takeaway:  If there's one miss I often see as one chronic concern is that most failed relationships could NOT have totally collapsed ONLY IF there was mutuality in the communications channels.  BTW, this thread would have been moot and academic if there has always been that GOOD FAITH and ACT of GOODWILL between the relevant [warring] parties.  Unfortunately, all it takes is for one 'spoiler' and everything can go haywire.  SO, HOW MUCH EFFORT IS NEEDED FOR RELATIONSHIPs?  Not much, seriously💚💛💜