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Why Saying 'NO' Is Sometimes MOST DIFFICULT???

WHY Is The Easiest Word To Say Is Sometimes The MOST DIFFICULT One???

Oxford says there are 171,476 English words in use and over 47,156 obsolete ones WHEREAS the dictionary has 157,000 combinations and derivatives and another 169,000 phrases and combinations.  In sum, roughly we have over 600,000 word-forms in English and YES, one of the most simple words to pronounce is 'NO'.  YET, what befuddles is this:  WHY Is The Easiest Word To Say Becomes The MOST DIFFICULT One???

YES, I do feel it OR I do hear you.  HOW can you say NO to your best best friend ever?  OR to your closes buddy at the workplace?  OR even to your valued client WHO you DON'T want to lose at all given all the deals that client always signs off [even before you end your sales spiel].  OR your boss?  OR the priest OR pastor in your neighborhood WHO you considered already as 'family'?  OR for someone caught by the authorities and now undergoing interrogation WHO may probably never say 'NO' especially under a climate of fear, coercion OR duress?  Indeed, that dilemma of saying NO is a puzzle difficult to resolve BUT that will be the case IF you are unprepared to SAY NO WITHOUT SAYING NO.  BUT frankly, first and foremost, let's digest the possible implications [and even consequences] WHEN you say YES but meant to say NO instead.  YES, it's NOT simply responding and it gets closed as a discussion point because it can even 'haunt' you back❎❎❎
WHEN saying YES [but you meant NO], think about all these:
  • DID YOU falsely raise expectations out of deference?
  • DID YOU end up committing to do something you CAN'T?
  • DID YOU simply maintained a 'clean slate' at your expense?
  • DID YOU think you were fair enough to yourself to say YES?
  • DID YOU come prepared for that question BUT unprepared?
  • DID YOU paint yourself in a corner, difficult to extricate from?
  • DID YOU end up pleasing the other party, solely for pleasing?
  • DID YOU avoid creating a problem only to create a new one?
  • DID YOU ease out the pressure on you only to pressure you?
  • DID YOU simply shelved the problem only to haunt you back?
NOT to host a clinic for a 'SAY NO' 101 Course, allow me to share some of the AI insights to SAY NO WITHOUT SAYING IT:
  • I'M ALREADY BOOKED
  • MY CALENDAR IS FULL
  • UNFORTUNATELY I CAN'T
  • I'M NOT ABLE AT THIS TIME
  • THAT DOESN'T FIT MY SCHEDULE
  • I'M NOT THE RIGHT PERSON FOR THIS
  • I'M AFRAID I DON'T HAVE THE BANDWIDTH
  • I NEED TO PRIORITIZE THE EARLIER TASK I HAVE
  • LET ME  CLEAR UP MY QUEUED TASKS FOR NOW
  • I'M AFRAID TO STEP ON OTHER'S TOES FOR THAT
Our takeaway:  We need to factor-in peculiarities of some cultures BUT this should NOT be a blocker for us to SAY NO WHEN IT HAS TO BE NO:
  • In Thailand, NO does not directly translate to 'NO'
  • In the Middle East, NO may be taken as rudeness
  • In China, they want to avoid conflicts if they say NO
  • In Japan, where politeness prevails, NO is difficult
  • In Chile, they might say MAYBE OR POSSIBLY
YES dude, it still befuddles me till to date as to WHY Is The Easiest Word To Say Is Sometimes The MOST DIFFICULT One???

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