Going Once, Twice OR It's Gone!

 

Going once, twice OR it's gone!  NO sirrrrs, our thread today is neither that song of Bob Dylan nor HIkaru Utada.  I just want to share one [overdue] realization I had that indeed, life is a continuous journey of growth and self-discovery, filled with ups and downs, challenges and moments of triumph.  Along this path, surely many of us have encountered transformative rules that could have reshaped us📗📙📘

YES, very true, even our very own perspectives are never cast on stone. It gets reshaped either for the better OR if the stars are NOT aligned, for worse.  Let's start with frugality.  I've seen, met and known countless people WHO were so frugal because they are so generous to so many other people.  And WHAT else can be more laudable than being that generous to people NOT just to those we know BUT most heartwarming is WHEN we're generous even to strangers, people we hardly know.  NOW, time to swing back the klieg lights upon our own selves because of most paramount importance is our us, even before we start delving into others' lives💥💥💥

At one time before, I was having coffee with a psychologist and our tete-a-tete turned towards generosity and selflessness.  Out of the blue, the psychologist asked me:  Would you agree we should be as selfless as possible?  With alacrity, I said, BY ALL MEANS.  BUT here comes his rejoinder.  He retorted:  I beg to disagree with you because we got to be SELFISH too.  Pushing farther, he challenged me with this frank question:  SHOULD YOU NOT BE SELFISH?  I retorted back:  I'm sorry, I DON'T have the tail OR head on this.  In a moment, I was like in 'blank space', unable to process even a fraction of a thought❎❎❎

Then, he went on his spiel starting off by warning me that unfortunately, the word 'SELFISH' has always that negative connotation.  The long and short of it, everyone of us will, without hesitation, admit that we DON'T want to be associated at all with 'SELFISHNESS'.  BUT here comes the SME who tells me that SELFISHNESS allows us to be good to others because we were first good to our own self.  To put oneself above others is always seen as inherently wrong BUT if you DON'T put yourself first, WHO WILL???

Our takeaway:  This reminds me of that oft-quoted one-liner:  AN EMPTY CUP CANNOT POUR INTO OTHERS.  And WHEN we are SELFISH, it allows us to take care of ourselves so we can tend to others.  True, most people are nursing that feeling of guilt OR shame WHEN they put themselves first BUT we are challenged to realize that it is A-OK to make sure your needs are met FIRST and FOREMOST.  Let's NOT run rings around this because for you to be selfless, you gotta be SELFISH to some extent dude😁😁😁