When The Well Goes Dry
Anyone who buys the line that, in life, we've got a bottomless pit? No sirrrrs, I DON'T buy that because on the other hand, When The Well Goes Dry, that's one of the realities in life. Deep inside us, we have our respective rivers. Virtually, each of our rivers flow with our good health, that positive outlook in life complemented by that positive attitude. And ideally, that river flows freely through usπππWhether it's faucets, artesian wells or rivers, when we allow this flow and keep our own 'WELL" from getting plugged up, there's a peace or an ease, a current that takes us along, then everything seems easier when good things come our way. When wonderful opportunities are presented to us, we're ready for themπππIt also refreshes, renews and revitalizes our lives. Surely, we have known people from time to time who defied all the LOGIC and stayed alive years longer than they should have. Or you may have known people who've been able to keep a POSITIVE OUTLOOK on life even though terrible things happened to them. Their RIVER ran strong and their WELL never went dry⏳⏳⏳When the WELL goes dry, when the WELL gets clogged, those are the days when things seem to be DOWN in us, whether it's physically or emotionally. No matter what we do, we CAN'T seem to 'snap out of it'. That WELL, that RIVER has gone dry and only a little trickle seems to pass through. Sadly, many people allowed their WELL to go dry✅✅✅They are easily discouraged and they seem to be easily mired n a mud hole and every step becomes a struggle. So, what's our FIX? Discover that clogged WELL and UNCLOG that WELL. Until you get your WELL cleared out and unclogged, everything will be difficult, disappointing and unfulfilling. So, tap into that stream because water satisfies like nothing else. The last thing we want to happen is WHEN THE WELL GOES DRY❗❗❗No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Friday, September 1, 2023
Expectation Is The Root Of All Heartache
Allow me to quote the great William Shakespeare who said: Expectation Is The Root Of All Heartache. There's just NO way I can disagree with this truism. Indeed, EXPECTATIONS are a funny thing. We all have them, and we rarely even realize it because they're so ingrained in our psyches. It's easy to take for granted that others will meet an EXPECTATION [that someone will do what you want or need them to do without a second thought]. BUT what if they DON'T❓❓❓
WHAT if your EXPECTATIONS of others is quite unrealistic? Having high EXPECTATIONS of others is 'PREMEDITATED' discontent no less. What you think will happen may NOT, and if it DOESN'T, we feel unfulfilled. Now, let's dive into the common reasons having high EXPECTATIONS of others is indeed BAD for us. Obviously, the most common trigger why we have high EXPECTATIONS of others are our past experiences. If in the past, that person always met our EXPECTATIONS, obviously we will continue to hope for the same thing to happenπππIn the PAIN SCALE, surely you know where you're pain points are. So, what pushes you with those EXPECTATIONS? Your influence triggers that when you believe that your ideas, thoughts, actions and words have an influence on events✅✅✅And when you think your way is the BEST WAY, you tend to harbor high opinions, then you expect others to hold them high as well. And that feeling of PRAISE feels good when someone acknowledges your achievements. You expect others will feel just as good when they accomplish thingsπππNow, if there is a FEAR that triggers HIGH EXPECTATIONS, that FEAR of FAILURE is the culprit. If you manage people, your reputation is on the line if you fail in your duties. This FEAR of FAILURE makes you HIGH-pressure and HIGH-stress. Having HIGH EXPECTATIONS of others comes from your mindset, fears and experiences. It is important to recognize this firm belief that something will happen so can have realistic expectations. Lest you forget, EXPECTATION IS THE ROOT OF ALL HEARTACHE [to quote the great William Shakespeare]❗❗❗
Thursday, August 31, 2023
Why Things RISE Before They FALL
Why Things RISE Before They FALL
More than a decade back, every week I was hopping on my weekly flightst between Mumbai and Hyderabad in India and I made sure all my domestic flights were via KINGFISHER. Just a few years after I completed my India project, I learned that Vijay Maliya, the high profile KINGFISHER owner ran away to the UK over debts of more than US$ 1 Billion. This tragic fall should help explain Why Things RISE Before They FALLπππLet's set aside that tragic KINGFISHER story. Instead, let me share the JETSETTING lifestyle of someone I personally knew UP CLOSE. Prior to the pandemic, he bragged [and I totally believe him] that he was logging an average of twenty four flights per year [mostly within the Middle East [with Dubai frequently one of two end-points]. As we speak now, sadly, that person has hit rock bottom, penniless literally speaking⏳⏳⏳So, what explains trajectories that may seem to go up the farthest north only to take a deep nosedive, sometimes towards deep south with hopes of even recovering a long shot, if at all? Simple explanation. Once we have risen up to the top, humans generally become cocky a.k.a over-bearing, blustering, swaggering that becomes the very recipe of his downFALLπππ
From a statistical perspective, this is what LAW OF AVERAGES is all about which, in technical jargon is defined as 'the principle that supposes most future events are likely to balance any past deviation from a presumed average'. Depending on the context, it can be considered a valid commonsense observation or a misunderstanding in the science of probabilities. Translating in layman's terms, we should be wary when the trajectory keeps zooming up because that is an anomaly✅✅✅What's our FIX for this conundrum? Let us remain hopeful and welcoming when things are on the upswing but if that trajectory seems to run unabated, better be wary because that may likely be an outlier that will be eventually corrected by the LAW OF AVERAGES. Problem is, when that trajectory keeps zooming up, some of us tend to get ;hostaged' by it, wrongly thinking that that upswing is a legitimate one. WHEN in fact and in truth, he himself CAN'T explain that trajectory. WHAT is imperative is to be constantly aware that, more often, THINGS RISE BEFORE THEY FALL❗❗❗
Wednesday, August 30, 2023
That Wherewithal In Life
That Wherewithal In Life
Changing our life can be both scary and exciting but more than anything, it is necessary to grow. Most people come to a point one day where they have to make a change in their life to either grow personally or professionally but it's hard to figure out when you're ready to make that change. At that point, the question to us is if we have That Wherewithal In LifeπππTuesday, August 29, 2023
Why Can't The 'COMBINED FORCES' Ever Bring Down Trump?
Why Can't The 'COMBINED FORCES' Ever Bring Down Trump?
So much mud, rocks and even the whole kitchen sink have all been thrown on Former U.S. President Donald Trump as recent as we speak. To think that he had to endure a flurry of indictments. BUT before I get accused for being a non-entity prying into the U.S. domestic politics, I hope we can meet halfway wherein America has always been the bastion of Democracy, so I hope this does justify me, a non-American, throwing my 2-cents Why Can't The 'COMBINED FORCES' Ever Bring Down Trump? And despite the indictments he recently went through [which, technically, the charges seemed to be that 'jaw dropping'] considering that it's the very first time a former U.S. president has been indicted in a federal court [and earlier in New York]πππAnd indeed, what makes all those charges quite dumb founding is that they come at a [WRONG] time when Trump is running for president. But over and above the Trump indictments, everything else is shining nice and dandy. Ironically, an ABC News/Washington Post Survey, a 54% majority of Americans favor him facing criminal charges while only 38% do not favor. Ironically, Trump remains popularπππEven the recent Florida head-to-head polls show him leading by a mile when matched against four out of five Democrats whereas in the head-to-head with incumbent president Joe Biden, it's a 50% dead heat, whew. WHY? What can explain all of Trump's popularity despite all the mud [and now the indictments] thrown on him? But this should not need rocket science to explain [despite that I'm NOT an American]✅✅✅My layman's explanation here is that, all things being equal, there must that 'goodness' combined with goodwill that continues to carry Trump's flame of popularity. This explains why the Democrats are NOT taking things likely how the Trump Train's chug-chug locomotive is worming its way back to the electorates. Did we hear this old cliche that NO ONE CAN BRING A GOOD MAN DOWN? Me thinks. That explains WHY CAN'T THE COMBINED FORCES EVER BRING DOWN TRUMP❗❗❗When You're In A 'HOLDING PATTERN'
When You're In A 'HOLDING PATTERN'
Remember those times when you felt anxious, like you were waiting for something to happen BUT didn't exactly know what that was? If it sounds familiar, because at some points in time, we were in that situation When You're In A 'HOLDING PATTERN'. Mr Webster defines HOLDING PATTERN as that 'state of waiting or suspended activity or progress'πππMonday, August 28, 2023
Are You A PILLAR? Or Just A Piece?
Are You A PILLAR? Or Just A Piece?
In the rough and tumble world of the NBA in the United States, the road to stardom is plotted on the assumption if one is deemed a PILLAR [or a FRANCHISE player] or just another PIECE as part of the rotation. From a $$$$$ perspective, a player tagged and pegged as a PIECE can dream of an annual contract around $2 million whereas a PILLAR or FRANCHISE PLAYER can look for a 'MAX DEAL' anywhere north of $150 million. In life, Are You A PILLAR? Or Just A Piece❓❓❓
In our daily life, HOW are we? WHERE are we in that mammoth crowd? Are you just another needle in a haystack? Or do you somehow play a specific role with a deliverable? We may NOT be that aware but in life, there are PILLARS across, encompassing HEALTH, MONEY, HAPPINESS and RELATIONSHIPS. Miss one pillar and likely you can't cover the whole nine years in lifeπππ
Sunday, August 27, 2023
The Thrill Of The Hunt
The Thrill Of The Hunt
Why are the safaris so popular in Kenya and the rest of Africa? Why hass so many have gone crazy with deer hunting? Why does the Amazon continue to lure the most daring hunters? If there is a commonality between all of them, it is because they all have That Thrill Of The Hunt. No amount of success can supplant that sense of fulfillment πππBut, before we end up in a disconnect, let me clarify that our thread today is NOT literally about hunting but instead, this is about HUNTING for opportunities, HUNTING for changes and HUNTING for breakthroughs. So, I might get asked: Why do we need to go HUNTING for all these in life? Simple. Those windows of opportunities are not for our takingπππSo, what happens if we DON'T go HUNTING because we DON'T find the THRILL with it? Nothing catastrophic OR disastrous but simply put, what that means, you will lose by default. WHY? Because you missed out unearthing and uncorking opportunities that were all over the place except that they were planted in obscurity like land mines. So you might ask me, did I have that THRILL OF THE HUNT? Absolutely. That explains I did 'bring home the bacon' many timesπππSo, you might push me against the wall and ask as to what are the PERILS of HUNTING? Just one too many. First of, you got to be willing and raring to take the risk. As the old adage goes, NO GUTS, NO GLORY. So, if there is a non-negotiable pre-requisite here, it is for you to have that intestinal fortitude to take risks and be ready to fail [because many times, you will fall flat on your face]. And since you are bracing for failures and shortfalls to happen, reset your expectations that once you fail, your setback means you will take steps back from where you fell [because that's a SETBACK]✅✅✅BUT we should NOT feel daunted despite the daunting prospects ahead. WHY? Because going for HUNTING is a WIN-WIN for you. You got nothing to lose the fact that you're on that HUNTING. If you need to be egging yourself to go for those HUNTS, think about the THRILL OF THE HUNT because that will be your biggest motivator. Nothing beats you❗❗❗
Saturday, August 26, 2023
BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better
BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better
BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better. This is neither scare tactics nor Armageddon-like forecasts. But have we ever wondered why some things get WORSE before they get BETTER? Like when we opt to avail of professional counselling [to address a chronic issue like anxiety], and then just when you are about to commit to a CHANGE, you notice that every little thing seems to make you more anxious and stressed out.Friday, August 25, 2023
Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY?
Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY?
We used to believe that we humans are fragile, frail and worst, vulnerable. Which, in essence, is never farther from the truth. But several years ago, I did come across my own realization that indeed, we can turn our weakness into strength. Without redefining things, i realized that we should NOT bottle up emotions. While most of us were taught to hide our emotions or run away from them, frankly, this causes undue and continuous pain, which translates into stress. So, Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY❓❓❓
And if there is one thing we should invoke and leverage on, it is our own COURAGE to take on our vulnerabilities. Unfortunately, our modern cultures tend to err on the side of suppressed feelings in an effort to display strength. BUT psychologists have proven in their studies that VULNERABILITY is anything but a weakness. They say farther that it takes true STRENGTH and COURAGE to allow yourself to be vulnerableπππWHAT'S our next move? In everything we do, FEAR and CRITICISM will always be there to greet us [and make us COWER in FEAR]. In fact, FEAR is that restrictive force that stops most of us from ever stepping ore than one foot outside our own comfort zone towards realizing our true desires. And since FEAR and CRITICISM will always be there in some form, our best course of action is always to SHOW UP and MOVE FORWARDπππ
Now, I grabbed this poster of our worries that define our FEAR of VULNERABILITY. No matter what we're doing, let us SHOW UP everyday to do what we were meant to do and DON'T let these hindrances stop us. WHY? It's because the more we stand up to these NEGATIVE FORCES, the more we'll FLEX our COURAGE and resilience, eventually with us coming out stronger for it [despite that challenge]✅✅✅Indeed, LIFE is a BLUR. So how do we run counter to this? Psychologists do advise us to go and aim for EXCELLENCE [and NOT perfection] because they say perfectionism is that belief that we live perfectly, look perfectly and act perfectly [when we are NOT]. So, DO WE HAVE THAT POWER IN OUR VULNERABILITY? Absolutely, we do have that❗❗❗
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