Living Life On Our 'OWN TERMS'

 

Best things in life?  Of course, we can all sing in chorus and rattle off monies, properties, plum job, holidays, name it, we'll be on the same page😁 BUT seriously, those are NOT for everyone's taking.  So, WHAT else is left for our taking?  GOOD NEWS, the best thing we can have in life is to LIVE LIFE ON OUR OWN TERMS, with NO one and NOTHING else along the way and with NO preconditions to block you off📗📙📘

Through the years, I've witnessed first hand people WHO were living their life NOT ON THEIR OWN TERMS, ouch!@#$%?  There was this very religious family, whose eldest child became a Catholic priest.  Theafter, the parents wanted his next brother and even the next-next brother to follow the same footsteps,  ouch!@#$%?  YES, we can guess HOW this narrative goes.  That next siblings were adamant and refused to follow the 'marching orders' by the parents and they left their home to LIVE LIFE ON THEIR OWN TERMS💚💛💜

YES, I can go on and on to share multiple first-hand accounts of people WHO DIDN'T LIVE LIFE ON THEIR OWN TERMS and without sugar-coating it, it is regrettable that some people end up taking that path NOT on their OWN TERMS.  BUT not to heap the blame on people WHO would end up side-tracked OR worse, even off-tracked, LIVING LIFE ON YOUR OWN can become a challenge to the person himself because there's one thing missing in him/her and that's the answer to the question 'WHAT DO YOU WANT'?  That's very key.  Even assuming there is/are no people around you trying to control or exert undue influence over you, it is very key that every person has an honest answer to that question.  Otherwise, up front, it can be safe to speculate that a person WHO DOES NOT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS is doomed to fail even from OR somewhere near the start.  In short, translate your 'OWN TERMS' in concrete terms you can execute it✅✅✅

NOT to be defensive though, there are phases in our life WHEN we're struggling to know our OWN TERMS

LIKE in our 20s, we're figuring out to be adults, following the scripts on jobs, relationships, etc

LIKE in our 30s, we're building family, career, home

LIKE in our 40s, we wake up one day and realize we've been living someone's version of a good life

Our takeaway:  Thing is, to LIVING LIFE ON OUR OWN TERMS, define it with NO IFs and BUTs.  I've been hearing this slip-ups many times:

I WANT to live in the metro BUT traffic is bad there

I WANT a plum job BUT I want to be my own boss

In a nutshell, there are times there a conflict deep within ourselves so weve got to rectify it for us to be LIVING LIFE ON OUR OWN TERMS!!!