Screwing Up WHEN LIFE IS GOOD?

 

Heard of someone blurting:  WHY DID I SCREW THINGS UP WHEN LIFE IS GOOD?  Really puzzling even to experts hence they initiated multiple studies WHICH concluded that 'SELF-SABOTAGE' is most common in life WHEN life is at its best, whew!  Dissecting much deeper, the studies showed that most of the time, we feel comfortable with things going really well in our lives ONLY FOR A CERTAIN PERIOD OF TIME.  WHEN we hit our threshold of our happiness, something inside us would whisper on our left ear LIKE:  YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.  LET'S DO THIS AND DO THAT.  WHAT happens next, that cools our momentary bliss and guess WHAT happens next?  You're spot on, our upward trajectory suddenly grinds to a halt, NO thanks to that 'whisper'💚💛💜

Allow me to share these random samplings:

• A successful entrepreneur sells his business with a huge windfall and then announces he's getting divorce!@#$%?
• A woman falls in love, head over heels and gets married BUT experiences endless 'drama' with family or friends
• A politician gets elected and at the peak of his career, he binges on drugs OR alcohol [or gets into an affair]!@#$%?

In a nutshell, we have that tendency to shoot down our feet during those days and times when everything is shining and dandy.  By the way, most of those narratives are NOT intentional and the thing is, most people DON'T mean to screw things on purpose BUT sometimes, our sneaky fears get into the way!!!

So, WHAT is it really that triggers us to MESS UP things WHEN LIFE IS GOOD?  Famous author Gay Hendricks opines in his book four hidden that tend to trigger our very own foul-ups:

Primero, we seem to be fundamentally flawed, like that belief telliing us to play it safe because we DON'T deserve.  In that way, IF we fail, we will fail 'SMALL' [ouch really???]

Segundo, he highlights our belief in disloyalty and abandonment such that it prevents us from reaching our full potential because it causes us to feel disloyal to our own roots [ouch really???]

Tercera, believing that success brings bigger burden.  Baloney!

Lastly, that crime of 'outshining' becomes a barrier that is common among gifted and talented folks WHERE their innate skills tell them "DON'T SHINE TOO MUCH", you will make others look bad

WHILE life has its UPs and DOWNs, some people find it difficult to feel happy even WHEN things in their life appear to be going well.  Sometimes, there are valid reasons LIKE past [unfortunate] experiences OR genetic predispositions. In any case, it is imperative that we are able to identify the very root cause as to WHY we are feeling OR manifesting that particular way and thereafter find ways to work through those feelings to learn how to accept and appreciate the GOODNESS of LIFE.  It may also help to reach out and tap on your helpline and IF that is insufficient, nothing wrong to seek professional help💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Psychologists counsel us that our lives are made up of a combination of multifarious elements LIKE our emotions, our thoughts, our relationships and even external factors like $$$$$$ OR status.  And even if most aspects of our lives are favorable, one area is sufficient to drag us down and stop us from feeling as happy as we could be.  It's also possible that WHEN LIFE IS GREAT, it does overwhelm us, leading us to feel LOW and unsatistfied even IF everything is in fact seemingly perfect.  Indeed, SCREWING UP WHEN LIFE IS GOOD😡😡😡