Wanna Change Someone's Mind? Better NOT Argue!

 

WANNA CHANGE SOMEONE'S MIND?  These days WHEN every gap, every disconnect and every misunderstanding may sometimes end up in an argument [sometimes known as CLASH OF TITANS], it tends to be like a battle for that moral high ground.  Psychologists tried to debug this issue and find a modus vivendi and the sage advice is:  DON'T ARGUE.  Instead, to disarm the other party, INVITE that person for a healthy interchange and initially, self-commit yourself to spend more time LISTENING than talking💚💛💜

Philosophically, experts say that in the middle of arguments, it is NOT far fetched that one of the variables is related to one's beliefs and WHEN beliefs get into the equation, they claim that beliefs tend to be tied up to one's identity, emotion, and even persona.  And in almost all interchanges that eventually escalate into a full-blown clash, people will tend to cling to their respective viewpoints [NO MATTER WHAT]❎❎❎

UNTIL that full-blown argument evolves and escalates to a full-fledged no holds barred confrontation that often backfires because the moment one of the protagonists feels judged [WHETHER prematurely OR not], that party will simply go on 'auto shutdown' mode, hearing and listening NADA and NOTHING.  HOW do we wiggle out of that impasse?  Experts advise that we can lead them into that PATH OF CURIOSITY.  HOW? Ask politely and calmly WHO OR WHERE was his source of that information OR data😌😌😌

In a subtle approach, let's try to reflect their concerns BACK TO THEM, hoping that we can dissect and mine 'shared values' before you start offering your own perspective.  YESsirrrrrs, this is NOT about backing down OR compromising your own principles.  Instead, this is all about creating enough trust for someone to even consider shifting theirs.  BUT human nature tells us that as much as you CAN'T fire with fire OR venom versus poison, WHEN we are in a standoff that still remains civil, this is all about figuring out WHAT OR WHERE is the chink in his armour😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Almost everyone is pitching [including the late Steve Jobs WHEN he launched iTunes for Windows] that arguments all boil down to persuasion and persuasion itself is never about charisma OR authority BUT more on the 'sequencing' of our approach to reach for 'common ground'.  There's that common pitfall, though, WHEN both protagonists never ever hoped to reached a 'common ground' because both parties are so glued to that 'LAST MAN STANDING' mindset WHICH then leads arguments to turn its ugly head. So, WANNA CHANGE SOMEONE'S MIND?  Better NOT Argue, not so fast!!!