Are You Into 'PEOPLE-PLEASING'?

 

Are you into PEOPLE-PLEASING?  For alignment, WHAT exactly is a PEOPLE-PLEASER?  By definition, that's typically someone everyone considers helpful and kind [and supposedly, there's NOTHING wrong with that].  WHEN we need help [WHETHER at work OR in any undertaking], the PEOPLE-PLEASER will always be more than willing to step up, even if it means he/she has to 'move mountains'.  Just IF ever you see yourself somehow in the above-mentioned definitions, you may be a PEOPLE-PLEASER.  BUT at some point, constantly making yourself available to others can take a huge toll on you, NOT just emotionally BUT even physically if that means your physical presence [even remotely]📗📙📘

The mother of all worst implications and ramifications, you may even find yourself to be neglecting your very own needs because you simply fear disappointing others WHEN they ask for your help.  I guess WHAT's interesting here are the tell-tale signs that someone is indeed a PEOPLE-PLEASER.  True, it's one thing to want to help others because it's part of your nature.  BUT PEOPLE-PLEASERs often end up being taken advantage of by others.  This is a FACT no less📌📌📌

SO HOW?  HOW can we nip things in the bud? 

• CHANGING personality like a chameleon
• YOUR WORTH on how others would see you
• NOT being able to say NO - even if you want to
• APOLOGIZING even WHEN you're NOT at fault
• AGREEING to get their admiration and NOT because you believe on it

To be frank, NOT all PEOPLE-PLEASERS are motivated to be as such due to their ulterior motives.  Some eventually would eventually develop that PEOPLE-PLEASER habit because of circumstances, like any of the following:

• In some cultures, being the youngest or one of the youngest amongst the siblings, they are expected to be acquiescing until it becomes PEOPLE-PLEASING
• In some circumstances, someone is staying in a home NOT by his/her immediate family.  That situation then leads someone to be a PEOPLE-PLEASER
• PEOPLE-PLEASING out of reciprocity [e.g. favor]

Our takeaway:  Generally, being a PEOPLE-PLEASER never happens overnight.  Instead, it is molded and developed, sometimes unconsciously, sometimes NOT premeditated.  SO HOW?  It is imperative that we 'police' our own, being mindful WHEN tell-tale signs show that we are succumbing to that PEOPLE-PLEASER syndrome because that's the last thing we want for you to be, dude😌😌😌