Are You MORE SPOON THAN SOUP?

 

How often have you crossed paths with people WHO tend to be over-stepping boundaries?  Are You MORE SPOON THAN SOUP?  Challenge here is that discussions about BOUNDARIES in life is one of the most sensitive threads to deep-dive.  For some people, discussion around BOUNDARIES often brings up a lot of resistance.  Verily true, we often hear about the importance of BOUNDARIES.  However, we DON'T hear OR see as often about HOW to handle overstepping BOUNDARIES OR WHAT healthy BOUNDARIES really look like.  Through the years, I've been on each side of the multiple BOUNDARIES where I myself was either identified OR affiliated by affinity OR circumstance📗📙📘

On one hand, we have seen people WHO use BOUNDARIES as those imaginary rigid walls OR barriers.  BOUNDARIES for them are forms of 'electric fences' to protect themselves from being hurt OR being intimidated at the very least.  And they seem to find it difficult to trust people OR express vulnerability and as a result, they feel isolated and even disconnected.  On the other hand, we have another extreme of people WHO think it's selfish to express BOUNDARIES.  They tend to put someone's needs above their own and as a result, they would end up feel depleted and resentful💥💥💥

The biggest question stomping me now is WHAT really are the HEALTHY BOUNDARIES?  True, many people see BOUNDARIES as imaginary lines that separate you from others, something like your own personal space, so to speak.  Me thinks, I see it differently though.  Setting BOUNDARIES means simply expressing WHAT we prefer.  Being straightforward.  Saying HOW and WHAT we feel.  Asking for changes!!!

LIKE standing for WHAT we believe in despite potential disapproval [or worse, even a backlash].  Saying NO without having a need to make excuses [or, apologize at that!] OR even justify our preference.
At the same time, BOUNDARIES are NOT there to control WHAT other people do OR DON'T.  It also DOESN'T mean that we will always get WHAT we want. In short, BOUNDARIES are about defining and following our preferences, personal integrity desires and even our needs💚💛💜

Our takeaway:  More than anything else, and more than any sensitivity of any person [even those closest to you], WHAT is really the crux of the matter is that it is damn crucial to know yourself more and your own personal truth if you really want to develop and envision those HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.  In short, to heed WHAT we're hearing from the experts themselves, our PERSONAL BOUNDARIES are and should be based on our very own VALUE SYSTEM and perspective and might be totally different from those of your friends, and even your immediate family and relatives.  Bottom line is, NOBODY and NOBODY else BUT YOU can tell you WHERE your BOUNDARIES like.  So, ARE YOU MORE SPOON THAN SOUP [meaning, are you overstepping BOUNDARIES]???