Don't Lose That COMPASS in Life

Don't Lose That COMPASS in Life

Throughout these times, we kept harping that we should have a direction in life and that's a given.  What we missed out highlighting is that in going through our journey, there is one thing that is indispensable and that is the COMPASS.  Without it, we would likely get waylaid or lost along the way.  Why ?  There are multifarious reasons why our COMPASS becomes that handy.  Without sounding as a threat, a life with no COMPASS will be a life in peril and if I don't have to mince words, your life is doomed to fail with no COMPASS in life.

This poster may be one of the most exposed but I'd still piggy-back on this as this says it all.  It gives us the simplest equation, i.e. LIFE with COMPASS equates to DIRECTION whereas no COMPASS means NO DIRECTION. As a first-person account, I have witnessed lives with no direction at all.  Some were even well-bred, coming from decent middle-class families but as they [wrongly] thought that they didn't need any compass, their life just went berserk, nowhere to go.

Too bad, one too many things are intertwined in our life.  Your single misstep can cause you to get waylaid next.  Once you fumble once, you can stumble next.  Question is, why is it sometimes lightning seems to strike us non-stop?  Studies did show that a life that is direction-less is the most common culprit that causes a spate of failures and fallouts in life.  And this is where the COMPASS of our life kicks in again.

Question is, when can we discern that we seem not to have a COMPASS in life ?  These symptoms will lead us to that diagnosis:  LOST? CONFUSED? PERPLEXED?  DISORIENTED? Which symptoms are all self-explanatory.  Now, how can we get back on track ?  A few basic ground rules.  

#1-Grab a pen & paper. Write where you want to go

#2-Paint a scenario where money is not an object. So, envision yourself of the things you wanna do.

#3-Relook at those visualizations and revalidate it.

Unlocking the key for us is not a rocket science.  DISCOVER what energized you before.  DETECT what drained you.  Think 'SUPER SMALL'.  Good to think BIG but when you seem lost, move the goal post back to square one, at worst.  Look around.  You need a SUPPORT STRUCTURE, be it from your immediate family or trusted friends.  Just DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF ❗❗❗ 

Be That STRAW That Stirs The Drink

Be That STRAW That Stirs The Drink

Care to be that STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK ?  Humbly, I would be one of the first to volunteer given that chance [and I'll call it an OPPORTUNITY] to be a STRAW.  A STRAW may seem that typical and indeed that ordinary, not until you dissect its functional use.  And to stretch it further, more than just stirring, have we remembered those moments when we had our drinks but a STRAW was missing.  Didn't we feel that helpless and seemingly in a state of stupor ?  In life, replicating a STRAW will lead us farther than we can go, that is if we will be committed to be that STRAW.
 

To quote Reggie Jackson: "I'M THE STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK".  So, you might wonder what is there about the STRAW that inclines some of us [and that includes me] to be akin to that STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK ?  Zoom-in to our respective lives, how often where we just a part of a crowd and incognito at that ?  Aren't those missed opportunities where we could stand out ?

Why do we need to stand out in a crowd ?  This question must be bugging you.  C'mon, let's look at these scenarios.  In a full-packed class room of 50 students, are you fine to be one of them ?  How can the professor recognize and remember you [on a positive note] ?  At work, if you're in a corporate organization of hundreds or thousands of employees, is it fine if only your team lead and immediate manager knows and recognizes you?  If you're running a business located in a shopping mall, don't you want to stand out in the crowd ?

To further accentuate that STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK, let me post this idiom 'CREAM of the CROP'.  Whether in school, at work or in business, being at the CREAM of the CROP should not be a hard sell.  And it is by being that STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK, it's that exactly that will pave the way for you to be part of the CREAM of the CROP.

And tying all these to ambition, why do we need this ?  We got to accept the fact that no one can succeed without a healthy dose of ambition.  And for those who wish to be more, know more, do more, give more or have more, it is imperative to have a purpose and a powerful internal drive to lead you to dream bigger.  Who won't be a STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK if that will lead to the ambitions you set in life ✅✅✅

When Things Start to CRACK

When Things Start to CRACK

When Things Start to CRACK, what follows next is a no-brainer.  Energy NOSEDIVES.  Motivation DECLINES.  Momentum SLOWS DOWN.  Optics get DISTORTED. Reflexes get RESTRAINED. Everything else SHRINK.  Indeed, this is how impactful CRACKS can trigger in our life.  At times, the world stands still just because CRACKS have surfaced.

The bigger challenge with CRACKS is that sometimes, they are NOT visible to the naked eye, just like CRACKED bones.  Not until symptoms of those CRACKS start to surface will those suspicions of CRACKS will start to arise.  In life, most the CRACKS that happen are more akin to CRACKED bones rather than CRACKED phone displays. So, that explains why often, we end up detecting CRACKS in our life, very late in the game.

Question is, how do we handle CRACKS in our life ?
CRACKS in school ?  Work it out, study double-time.

CRACKS at work ? Address improvement areas, period

CRACKS in relationships ?  Fix it, reach out in goodwill

CRACKS in businesses ?  Right the Wrongs, period.  

In brief, CRACKS are not comparable to the worst crisis in life wherein your whole world is crumbling down into pieces BUT here's the catch.  To detect CRACKS means that's NOT the time to be unconcerned, self-assured or worst, feel conceited.  CRACKS mean you gotta make a move now, fast and quick.  Do you want to procrastinate ?  Yes you can BUT AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Just like walls.  Walls may not be the foundations but can we imagine what happens next once those will crumble down ?  This is just akin to tipping the dominoes.  Tip one and the rest will follow.  In life, if we just SWEEP UNDER THE RUGS those CRACKS, the consequences are as follows:

#1 You're delaying to know that you got a problem

#2 You're depriving yourself the chance to fix now

#3 You're in denial mode that there's a CRACK to fix

#4 You're robbing yourself a chance to be proactive

To quote American writer Benjamin Franklin, let us not PUT OFF UNTIL TOMORROW WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY.  Why ?  When things are BAD, it can only go from WORSE to WORST.  When you're down deep, you can only go deeper.  A relationship that is strained today can lead to a breakup come next day.  A business teetering in the red because operating costs constantly exceed revenues will mean that anytime soon, that business will fold up when it does not become sustainable anymore.  Folks, if and when you perceive or detect CRACKS anywhere in your life, go and fix it NOW please ❗❗❗

When You're Pressured, RELEASE THE SCREWS

When You're Pressured, RELEASE THE SCREWS

We have various nemesis in life but if there is a commonality amongst us, it is Mr. PRESSURE.  PRESSURE is an arrow directed to shoot us down and it comes because it is triggered by many factors, a sampling of which are our NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS, FAMILY, FINANCIALS, SOCIETY, just one too many.  With all the technologies on our hands, can we just BLOCK any of these pain points, adding them to our BLOCKED LIST ?  Too bad it doesn't work that way though. 

Before we start attempting to attack the very PRESSURES , we need to understand where and why are these PRESSURES coming into our way Tracing those PRESSURES from the triggers may help lead us back to figure out pre-emptive measures to avert for those pressures to recur again.  No point sulking and hosting our self-pity party because we will end up pushing our very own selves deep into that morass.

Once we succumb to PRESSURE, whether we are still in the academe or now at work or in our startup business, PRESSURES will easily push us to give up.  Isn't that mind boggling?  Once you give up on something where you did invest time, effort and even monies, all those will go down the drain and nothing comes back to you in return.  Worst is if we're talking about your family relationships.  Will you easily give up simply due to PRESSURES ?

A positive move is to figure out solutions to those problems before you succumb to those PRESSURES. But in practical terms, let me share how I did it because i've BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.  First, I pulled the brakes and did ground to a halt.  Why ?  I had to take a REALITY CHECK, a PULSE CHECK.  Where was I ?  Was that a one-off thing ?  Or have I been going down south and still trending ?

Once you have reassessed everything, this is the moment of truth.  Two words can bring up far enough to survive the next upcoming laps.  THINK POSITIVE.  And I can attest that without those two words, I could be in a place where I'll be off-grid.  To THINK POSITIVE, RELEASE THE SCREWS !  How ?  Unleash them.  And translate them into ACTION WORDS that leads you to CONCRETE ACTION no less.  Trust me, this will bring you far enough✅✅✅
 

Bet BIG, Win BIG !

Bet BIG, Win BIG !

Bet BIG, Win BIG !  Ooops, before I get bashed by those crusading on a high moral ground, this piece is not about to encourage everyone to rush over to the casinos, NO Sir.  Instead, we'd like to paint an analogy of this statement 'Bet BIG, Win BIG' which often is being tagged to casinos and gambling.  But the reality, it is much more than that because our life is really like being inside the casino.

Life in itself is like a casino.  We come into it and start playing various games in the casino.  We loose some and win some.  When we loose, we end up unhappy but when we win, lo and behold, you would relish every moment of that win.  In a real casino, we may have limited money to play and hence are forced to quit when we run out of our resources.  However, in life's casino, our 'Creator' gives us UNLIMITED credit for wagering at the games.  So, most of us get addicted and go on playing without even wanting to quit.  And if there is a commonality between being in a casino and real life casino, it's that we always want to WIN BIG.  The difference is in our approach to WIN BIG.

It's understandable, though, that we can't always play with a full deck, even in real life because we're constrained with resources.  But the stark reality is that, as it is in the casino, in real life, when we bet is mager and within our means, the statistical probability is that even if you will win, you will win small.  Chances to WIN BIG has a very low probability.

At the end of the day, it's your choice, your decision whether you want to Bet SMALL that goes along with that quite a long shot for you to WIN BIG.  Whereas, if you want to increase your chances to WIN BIG, why not Bet BIG ?  Twenty years ago, I took that huge leap when I decided to Bet BIG. At that time, there were no budget airlines so I bought a return ticket SOLELY for a scheduled job interview in a Southeast Asian Country.

By taking that huge risk of spending US$500 for a return ticket with no guarantee that I'll get the nod for that job I applied for, a week after I flew back home, the HR manager emailed me that they were commencing to process my work visa.  And when I flew back to start work, my new employer was generous enough to extend me a US$5,000 relocation allowance. And not to mention the huge leap I was taking in my career, that will lead me to a hundred-fold increase of opportunities. It was then that I realized that I did Bet BIG and I did Win BIG.  Any takers ❓❓❓

Breaking Barriers

Breaking Barriers

Failures, what leads us to failures ?  Barriers.  Hurdles,  Obstructions.  Roadblocks.  Call it by any name, they are all barriers.  So, BARRIERS are the very culprits that cause us to hit a snag until we stumble, until we fail.  This does explain why most of us really detest barriers.  Where we can avoid it, we will do what it takes.  We would rather ditch it, thinking [wrongly] that that's the best way out of it.

Back in school, when we stereo-type a professor as a 'terror', we will likely avoid that professor.  At work, where we had a choice of reports to work on, we will pick up the least difficult ones.  In business, we will strategize for the easiest way out to boost our revenues.  In our relationships where we have our shortfalls and lapses, rather than make amends to repair things that get strained, the easiest way out is we will get a token gift, hoping that fixes the strain.

But rather than avoiding those barriers, won't we be better off if we were focused towards BREAKING BARRIERS instead of avoiding it ?  There's a quid pro quo though.  BREAKING BARRIERS will need a ton of effort + sacrifice and not to mention that persistent and unrelenting focus to really go for broke in BREAKING BARRIERS.

The question we're staring now is HOW do we end up BREAKING BARRIERS ?

• REMOVE your fear of failure.
• DO what you are afraid to do.
• Turn your doubt into MOTIVATION.
• PULSE CHECK as to where are you.
• Detach EMOTIONS in what you do.
• ASSESS the barrier holistically.
• NEVER stop.  NEVER give up.
• REWARD yourself when you succeed. 

The biggest question is how can you push yourself to be BREAKING BARRIERS ? Simple.  Think of the goals you have set to achieve.  Have your goals embedded.  And everyday, remind yourself that you're starting off the day to move inches towards your goal and you won't stop BREAKING BARRIERS ✅✅✅

It's NOT What You Say. It's HOW You Say It.

It's NOT What You Say. It's HOW You Say It.

Research shows that the average person speaks at least 7,000 words per day, with many more speaking much more than that.  Think about what that means to us, to you.  Those 7,000 words [at least] you speak each day are your very imprint to the world, whew!
But do we know that in real life, practically everyone of us get misunderstood or even misinterpreted arising from our words ?

The mother of all ironies is that 80% of the time, miscommunications & misunderstandings arise NOT because of the WORDS WE SAY but instead it is because HOW WE SAY those words When we disagree with someone's opinion, that is our inherent right but that's NOT the issue.  It is HOW WE SAY it that often triggers all these miscommunications in our interactions.

Some real-life samplings of communications issues:

• Disagreeing with an opinion by ARGUING on it.
• Expressing frustration WRONGLY to someone else.
• Ventilating your anger with MISPLACED emotions.
• Spewing out words that hurt SENSITIVE people.
• FALSELY raising expectations beyond what to do
• Becoming SUBJECTIVE when you can be objective
• Giving feedback in a DESTRUCTIVE manner.
• THUMBING down an idea but with no idea to give
  

And where do words most matter ?  They matter most in relationships.  At home, in school, at work, even in business.  How many relationships that were used to be pictured as those of 'soul mates' only for things to get sour ?  How many relationships we have seen even within families which just evaporated in thin air, all because of communications ?  In business, have we heard of business partners who infused both financial, talent and all the effort and by the time their business was reaping the revenues 'beyond the roof', each of the business partners went their separate ways, all because of communications ?

Yes, this is spot on.  PHRASING MATTERS. And when do frictions arise ?  Wait till after someone reacts.  Then fireworks will start.  Friction gets triggered.  Could all those been avoided ?  ABSOLUTELY !  But we need to exert our darn efforts not just in the words we state but what matters most is the way we DELIVER and EXPRESS those words.  Not a tall order, though.  We can achieve that✅✅✅

That 'FRONT PORCH' Mentality

 That 'FRONT PORCH' Mentality

Nope, this piece is not about grandma at the porch.  Having that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality refers to being 'hands-on' in whatever endeavor we undertake in life. Is this a 'TALKING POINT' these days ?  Yesss definitely it is because I am alarmed at the diminishing 'FRONT PORCH' mentality prevailing around us.

That 'FRONT PORCH' mentality is nothing less than having that 'HANDS-ON' mentality whether it is in school, at work or even in one's business.  Till to date, I bear witness to group projects in school wherein some are fence-seaters, riding on the coat tails of his/her groupmates.  I did also bear witness at work wherein even ground-level personnel DON'T have that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality as I see that being 'HANDS-ON' is really wanting.  Quite a zillion times, I had to deep-dive and highlight at the ground-level the minute details they DON'T detect.

Let's face it.  The corporate world has undergone a dramatic change over the past decade.  Organizations are global and the workforce has become more diverse than ever before.  Not to mention there is a plethora of technological distractions around them.  Indeed, many of us are at a loss how we can positively exploit to the hilt our own capabilities.  While some prefer to have that laidback attitude, studies have shown that 70% of those with that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality succeed whereas for those lacking or wanting in that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality, 70% fail.

Like it or not, Covid-19 has literally changed the world, as this poster goes.  From academe, commerce, trade and even our religious life, everything today is at least 180-degrees different from where it was prior to the pandemic.  What do these drastic changes require from us ?  It is that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality.

Even with social media lording it over our lives, just look around and we'll know there are three kinds of people - those who HATE their work, those who just TOLERATE their work [and see it more as a PAYCHECK and aren't looking for more and finally those who LOVE their work and relish it.  Take your pick.  At the end of the day, you need that 'FRONT PORCH' mentality in life.❗❗❗

Rainbow Comes After the Rain

Rainbow Comes After the Rain

Do we need to debate whethere there's ALWAYS RAINBOW AFTER THE RAIN ?  FACT CHECK:  yes this is true.  But nope, we're no meteorologists so we won't be discussing meteorology but instead, we'd like to do a mapping instead.  Mapping the rain to the challenges we face in life and mapping the rainbow to that hope we cling to, to recover from life's challenges.

So, this comes both as a reassurance and reawakening to us all that despite the gloominess of life when we are going through various challenges in life, let us not despair because that too shall end.  Be wisely cautioned, however, that things WON'T be served to you in a silver platter.  You need to eke it out and figure it out for you to extricate yourself from whatever challenges you may be facing.  I can attest on a first-person account basis that this is the most common mistake.  We always [wrongly] thought that all we need to do is bide your time because after all the travails, eventually, your woes will simply dissipate in thin air.

Oh yes, some of us would compare that rainbow to that light at the end of the tunnel.  And that's half-correct at most because in reality, that light at the end of the tunnel is that of an incoming train that will just fatally smash and crash you.  Lesson here ?  Let us NOT assume that the next rainbow and the next light at the end of the tunnel will fix your woes effortlessly.

Oh, I got captivated by this 'HOPE' poster because it coined things to read as 'HOLD ON, PAIN ENDS' which is spot on.  We gotta hold on, meaning, be persistent and unrelenting because problems do not last forever.  The unanswered question, however, how long will the problems in our life linger around like a leech ?  Hmmmm, only GOD knows.  I can bear witness to some people whose problems remain unresolved for a very long time.

Are we now saying that challenges will remain in our lives ?  Yesireeeee as long as you continue traversing the roads, you will always see a marker out there.  So, how do we handle all our challenges till the RAINBOX COMES AFTER THE RAIN ?  #1 - MAKE A PLAN.  #2 - KNOW YOU'RE NOT ALONE.  #3 - ASK FOR HELP.  #4 - ACCEPT SUPPORT.  #5 - HELP OTHERS.  #6 - REMAIN POSITIVE-MINDED ❗❗❗

Keeping Afloat

Keeping Afloat 

KEEPING AFLOAT ?  I'll be the last to proclaim this to be easy because this is easier said than done in fact.  Fact is, in our life, its akin to swimming in the wide expanse of the oceans that are shark-infested with you literally nowhere to go except to run for your life, with your survival as the sole goal and nothing more.  Those are situations in our life when suddenly, we would throw away all our greed and ambitions simply for the sole pursuit of surviving and seeing the next day.

How do we then survive if we are in the worst of worst scenarios ?  #1 - PUSH YOUR LIMITS.  Do something that pushes your ability to improve on.  #2 - DON'T GO THROUGH LIFE ALONE.  You may be an introvert but there are situations which you can't handle all by yourself.  Build and surround yourself with a solid support system that really knows you.  If you're single and not committed, it could be friends you trust most.  

#3 - BE OPTIMISTIC.  Most of the time, we tend to have a negative outlook on things especially when it seems too hard to handle.  #4 - HAVE A JOURNAL.  Regardless if you're in a good or bad mood, having a journal allows you to write down your thoughts when you feel uncomfortable talking to people.  #5 - STOP COMPARING - Your life is different from others so you shouldn't feel bad if others are already at the peak of their success [while you're not].  Learn to trust the process and believe in your strength and capabilities that you can achieve whatever goals you have in life.  

#5 - AVOID HAVING A PITY-PARTY - Feeling sorry for yourself will get you nowhere so never drown yourself in self-pity.  Always remember that you're human.  Don't let the negativities get to you, and never ever think that it's the end of the world.  They are there to help you become strong.  

#6 - FEEL THE PAIN - Pain is inevitable, you'll feel it one way or another.  Remember that surely there's another opportunity out there waiting for you. #7 - STAY COMMITTED & FOCUSED - Have a focus and stay away from distractions and things that may hinder you from achieving your goals.  Every time you face a problem, you overcome a mental hurdle.  

#8 - DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF - It should be a constant reminder that you should always be kind to yourself.  The challenges that we face are there to bring out the best and the worst in us. Sometimes you can only depend on yourself and no one else.  #9 - ENJOY SOLITUDE - You might think that the best way to cure your problems is by drowning in alcohol and going all-night partying ??? Listen, booze and parties WON'T solve anything.    And lastly, #10 - DON'T EVER STOP TRYING. Giving up is not an option, dude ❗❗❗