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Sunday, February 28, 2021
In Life, Do You Perform Your Tasks in PARALLEL ? Or SERIALLY ?
Saturday, February 27, 2021
How Far Will the Smooth Train Travel Go
How Far Will the Smooth Train Travel Go ?
Analogous to a train ride, in our life, we have much more moments of smoother rides than those rough patches, rough rides. Problem is, when life is so good, we are tempted to have kampai's left and right. We may not be that prematurely celebratory but when a friend taps our back and flatters you even with a minor-minor success, you fall prey and end up succumbing to host kampai's left and right.And when onboard that smooth freight train ride, it feels to be a smooth one till you reach your finish line. Lowering our guard during those moments become our point of reckoning. And all your efforts can go for naught just for those fleeting moments of undoing, of utter remiss.
Geoffrey James calls it the 'upward momentum' @ https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/how-to-create-upward-momentum.html. And he clearly cautions us that if we "don't do the work to keep moving up, you're doomed to go downhill". And by the way, you can run like Usain Bolt [the Jamaican who's considered the greatest sprinter ever] but if you're running around in circles, you'll not get the finish line. Tough call for you dude.🌈🌈🌈
Thursday, February 25, 2021
Get Your MOJO Back !
Get Your MOJO Back !
Remember how pumped up you were ? Those first weeks of your class. Those early weeks in your new job. That first month of your new project. Until one day when you woke up, you realized you lost your mojo. Suddenly, the drive was gone, the energy seemed spent, the inertia seemed lost and you realized of late that you were now a shell of that pumped-up, energized and extremely motivated fellow during those first weeks. How time flies, really.At the other side of the coin, there seems a plateful of things for you to get focused on. It's not something where you're really idle. You realized that that burning motivation suddenly fizzled out. Suddenly, you realized that what is all left are the sands and the camels. Unfortunately, much as you wanted to lift your finger now, your moves seem so contrived, no one is biting. OR, have you priced yourself well beyond ? Josh Linkner says it @ https://www.forbes.com/sites/joshlinkner/2012/08/16/you-lost-it-7-ways-to-get-your-mojo-back-yeah-baby/?sh=55f1026a7044 wherein he kept harping you gotta CHANGE. CHANGE your view, CHANGE your attitude, CHANGE your patterns, CHANGE your priorities, CHANGE your mentor, BUT and here's the BIG BUT. not all of those CHANGES will be easy. In fact and in truth, none of them are. To quote Linkner: 'they all require a forced change of habit'.Oh, I love this piece from Emily Hurley-Wilkinson, an accredited personal coach and who became famous for her book 'RECLAIM YOUR MOJO' wherein in her piece @ https://www.irishtimes.com/culture/books/to-get-your-mojo-back-get-your-breathing-right-1.3361653, she exclaims that what matters most is resiliency because that's at the very core.
Lolly Daskal says it all in her piece @ https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/6-simple-steps-to-get-your-mojo-back-after-you-lost-it.html#:~:text=Get%20unstuck%20by%20shifting%20your%20perspective.&text=Nothing%20you%20try%20seems%20to,way%20you%20look%20at%20things which can be summed as follows: go for a QUICK WIN, FOCUS on your mission and NOT on your obligations, get UNSTUCK [by shifting your perspective], stay fat from NEGATIVITY [remember those naysayers], mind what you're saying to yourself [because that matters most] and tap your helpline. Dude, if you wanna be back to your horse, stay focused & DON'T look back at your past.📌Wednesday, February 24, 2021
Life has no STOP Button
Life has no STOP Button
If there's something that sets apart our lives from basketball, boxing and athletics, the latter will offer you a timeout, a half-time break and even in boxing, round-breaks every three minutes. Not in life though. Once you get out into the rat race we are all in, life becomes a non-stop grind that will ground to a halt only if either you reach the pinnacle of life or you hit rock bottom that's beyond resuscitation.Andre Gide, the French Nobel Prize winner in Literature once said: 'Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. Justin Bryant articulates it well enough @ https://selfmadesuccess.com/man-cannot-discover-new-oceans-andre-gide-2/. Oh, this hits us hard because it accentuates that human fear from getting out of his comfort zone. At the Forbes piece @ https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2018/02/05/six-fundamental-human-needs-we-need-to-meet-to-live-our-best-lives/?sh=7b67185344a0, psychologist Abraham Maslow defines the hierarchy of human needs. But over time, life's basic needs evolved.
Life is NOT a Checkers Game
Life is NOT a Checkers Game
Checkers anyone ? Sure as long as you don't take things seriously because a plurality of us end up lost in the maze, thinking that our life is a checkers game. No senor. Ours is a game of chess. Right from Day-1 till to date, surely you would agree that life is unfolding everyday not in a straight line, not even in a black or white scenario. Obviously, when we finally hear the newborn baby's first cry, life looks as simple as checkers. But that's about it. After the first move, after Day-1, life can never be simpler from thereon.Take it from the great American legendary hero, the late Kobe Bryant. To quote him: 'these young guys are playing checkers. I'm out there playing chess'. That's a mouthful. Let's picture things out. Before a chess match starts, the chess board is so neat and orderly. And that's a replica of life when you hear the newborn baby's first cry. But that's about it. At the first move, things will spiral.As in chess, real life needs a strategy to begin with. Without that direction, you're akin to a rudderless boat out there in the high seas, at the mercy of the furious and merciless waves. Back to the chess board, after both players make just the first move, presto, 400 possible scenarios will arise. After the second pair of turns, the possibilities suddenly sprout to 197,742 probabilities and after the 3rd move, open your eyes, there will be 121 million options.Take it from Israel Horowitz, the American International Master who was more famous for his chess books. As in life, he says: 'One bad move nullifies forty good ones'. Exactly, that's how our life spins and shapes up or shakes out. You could have taken all the right moves and made all the right decisions the past 30 days but when you woke up today, you made one harrowing decision. That moots and negates everything you did correctly the past 30 days. Worst, that may wreak havoc than expected.As in chess, NEVER as in NEVER announce your moves before you make them. Doing so will telegraph your moves. Before you know it, you are the 'talk of the town' amongst that platoon of kibitzers out there, scratching their heads while waiting for any next moves people around will take. Don't look farther. Look up at Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates [and even the revered late Steve Jobs]. No one had an inkling of what they were brewing in the confines of their 'war room' until, kaboom, they would launch another earth-shaking product or commercial initiative unthinkable before.And definitely we humans, we commit mistakes, we will own this faux pas and that. And that's fine but as in the chessboard, when you did fall, figure out where and how you slipped because before that fall, you did slip. And unless you fell off from a ravine or cliff, most of our falls are precipitated by a skid. So, you gotta figure it out. From Malaysia's Star Online @https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/health/2019/08/08/life-lessons-from-playing-chess, it says that we need to be creative in chess to create the headway or beach head that will lead us to an opportunity. In life, to be creative is a MUST-DO.Word of caution. As in chess, don't take care of your ego. Make the move that's rightful even if you need to move backwards by a couple of steps if that leads you to move forward thereafter. As in chess, in life you gotta be strategic but if you gotta be tactical, take it, do it. Swallow that dose of pill even if it's hard to swallow. If taking a step backward softens the impact of your previous wrong move, then you'll be fine.Sunday, February 21, 2021
Ebbs and Flows in Life
Ebbs and Flows in Life
Ebbs and Flows in life is always part of the equation. And if you're not managing it the way it has to be, so sorry, your life could end up in shambles. What's the logic of going from the frying pan into the fire if you think it will be a fool's errand to take that path ? Too bad many of us would look at the other direction when we hit a snag. In that touching blog by Stephanie Hill @ https://www.herald-dispatch.com/life-like-the-ocean-ebbs-and-flows/article_b393b339-5db8-5331-9b4d-1c08e24d9637.html, the message is crystal clear. Ebbs and flows. Inhale and exhale. Sunrise and sunset. These are inseparable twins in our lives. After all, life is a journey but be mindful that life is a trap game as well. Unless you wiggle yourself out in a trap game, you could end up 'dead in the waters'. Our relationships is never far from the picture though. Joyce Marter reinforces that in her blog @ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-go-with-the-ebb-an_b_4498141 wherein she states that 'like rock formations, seashells and sand are weathered and polished by the ocean waves as we are shaped and smoothed by the forces of our relationships. When Covid-19 came into the picture, it threw a monkey wrench in our lives. Lurking around for a one-word solution to our ebb and flow, eureka, I found it. In Kathy Caprino's piece @ https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/06/15/10-ways-to-brave-up-how-to-rise-up-speak-up-and-stand-up-boldly-for-yourself/?sh=799d091b1093, being 'brave' is what matters. Of course, our worst fear ever has always been hitting rock bottom BUT do we agree that hitting rock bottom isthe best ever thing that can ever happen to us ? In that piece of Lyndelle Palmer Clarke @ https://dailygreatness.co/blogs/be-your-own-guru/52291205-12-reasons-why-hitting-rock-bottom-is-the-best-thing-that-can-ever-happen-to-you, she rattles off twelve reasons why, namely: you gotta REFLECT, see your dysfunctional behavior, gain a fresh perspective, self awareness of bad habits, trusting in life, humility, compassion, letting go, taking responsibility, realizing that the only way is UP, trusting yourself and gratitude.And if I may add, never belittle how MOTIVATION can bring you that far in life. Wesley So, the Filipino-American chess prodigy will always be my prime example of someone who went through the worst ebbs and flows and as of today, he is near atop the summit he has been trekking. Twelve years ago, no less than his immediate family left him alone as they migrated to Canada. A young teen struggling in life and left to fend for himself is just unthinkable but Wesley went through that wringer. Two years later, that opportunity of expanding his chess skills at the global level was too good to refuse when he was offered that academic scholarship at Webster U and who would think that for the last ten years, he has
Saturday, February 20, 2021
'LOST & FOUND' is Not Applicable with 'LOST TIME'
'LOST & FOUND' is Not Applicable with 'LOST TIME'
Lost and Found Counters are everywhere. Good Samaritans are still aplenty. You would hear a foreign tourist losing his passport and belongings only to recover it when the taxi driver traces him back. And social media has become a very helpful platform for all lost items EXCEPT 'time'. To quote Benjamin Franklin, one of America's Founding Fathers, 'LOST TIME IS NEVER FOUND AGAIN'. Supposedly, that is the end of the story but not for the stubborn folks. They will retort that there is a 'tomorrow'. That what was not done today can be done tomorrow. !@#$%? Sadly, that is a fallacy we don't want to waste our time. It's just NOT worth it. Let's just call spade a spade. LOST TIME is LOST TIME, end of story.Oh, we all have watched before that top box-office hit series 'The Twilight Saga' bannered by Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson. Most of the time, its cinematography offered us the gloom of twilight. And this is where the analogy comes in. When you got LOST TIME. think about the gloom brought about by your LOST TIME because that equates to LOST OPPORTUNITY. Even for someone defensive who'll argue that he's got nothing to do today, that's just CRAP !When this pandemic broke out a year ago, we all sighed in unison, thinking [falsely and wrongly] that working from home is a welcome relief, thinking that time is now within our palm, so easy and quick to randomly tweak and balance it out. A year after, we're all scratching our heads because task overflows have become the norm of the day, missed tasks have become the norm than the exception, reset and rescheduled deadlines kept on being pushed till it reaches the edges of the cliff and ravines. And before you know it, we're screaming that working from home is 'stressful'. Whew ! Are we now about to blame this pandemic ? And this 'blame game' points fingers to Covid-19 Wave 1, Wave 2. God knows, maybe until Wave 99 ? Whew ! Phew !Tuesday, February 16, 2021
There's Meat in the Bone, there's some fuel left [even in an empty tank]
There's Meat in the Bone, there's some fuel left [even in an empty tank]
What does the future hold for us if we keep buying in to that myth that there's no meat left on those bones, no fuel left in that empty tank? Hmmmp, if we continue to cling to that belief, i'm afraid, we'll end up expiring before we're really expired or bluntly, we might end up 'dying' even before we're really dead. Thousands and thousands of failed stories ended up that way 'coz we EASILY GAVE UP!At work, there could be tell-tale signs that you're 'south-bound'. Pictures tell us a thousand words and this frustrating pic tells it all. There are indicators which could be manifesting all over our workplace and as a first step, it's up for us to recognize and acknowledge it. Beyond that, you've gotta 'face the mirror' so to speak and DON'T the other way around in a cowardice act because that's self-defeating. Face things head-on, there's no other way to run next.Working remotely the past year during this pandemic is tormenting, to say the least, if you're desolate and all by yourself in your work-home environment. That will be tough but c'mon, that thing is 'fixable'. It's not something to cause you to raise the white flag without squeezing yourself high and dry as long as you believe that THERE'S MEAT ON THE BONES, FUEL IN THAT EMPTY TANK.Been there, done that. Yesireeee, I can attest, i've been through those moments in the past when I thought an empty tank means zero-fuel, when I [wrongly] thought bones are just bare bones. But I was proven wrrrrrrong through all those times. David Donaldson shares his insights
change but I didn't know what or how to change. I had lost sight of who I was and what I wanted for my life.' But guess what, Kristine managed to turnaround. HOW ? In a nutshell, Kristine shares to us that 'Anything worth doing in life requires you to push past your fear and take a risk. FEAR and EXCITEMENT are two sides of the same coin. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE.'📌📌📌
Monday, February 15, 2021
Measuring Our Strides
Measuring Our Strides
Everyone of us do set goals, that's for sure. Where most of us need to admit our shortfall is that innate fear for us to measure our strides, how far have we gone, how much progress have we achieved and how far are we in our journey to achieve that goal we have set. Unless we stop momentarily and take a pulse check of where we are, continuing to trudge on becomes a win-loss proposition because unless and until you know the 'real score' as to where you stand, you are losing by default in taking a checkpoint assessment of yourself.Taking a 'true read' of your strides is just 'what the doctor always orders'. For those cognizant of their strides, they tend to gloss much on it, sometimes misguiding one's self to believe that he has achieved so much and success is just around the corner, he just needs to go on 'auto pilot'. Problem is, we tend to 'count the chicks even before they are hatched'. Sometimes, we need to stomp and ask ourselves if do we deserve a bowl of bean soup at the cafeteria. Swing over to the other side of the fences, sometimes we go through a spate of failures, and that's fine, that's a fact of life. The pitfall is that it can hit hard our morale when our motivation skids down south. By taking a pulse check, who knows, there's some meat left in the bone.Straight from my thought processes...
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