It Never Hurts To Be Nice

It Never Hurts To Be Nice

Being NICE may seem to be the last ever topic we can talk about, right?  NOPE!  Much as being NICE seems to be one of the more uninteresting and frankly, boring topics, let me get your buy-in by reinforcing the reasons It Never Hurts To Be Nice and to have it as our topic today.  First off,  in this tough world we have been grinding, we can bear witness to many exceptions of people NOT being NICE.  Regrettably, in more instances, those instances are detestable because generally, to be NICE will NOT cost us an arm and a leg.  YET, conversely, WHEN we should have been NICE to someone BUT did NOT manifest it, that could have caused an arm and/or a leg to the hapless and helpless person.  Let's ponder about it.  A nicety that entailed not much effort equating to a significant benefit to the supposed beneficiary of your nicety📗📙📘

As science proves that being NICE benefits both the giver and the receiver, the pestering question I often hear is as to WHY some people are so much better at putting others first?  BUT much as I have totally embraced kindness and being NICE in life, the bigger question is WHY are some of us are kinder than others.  And a much bigger question is:  WHAT stops us from being kinder.  Alas, that Covid-19 Pandemic is credited for turning around many of us as one study shows that two-thirds of people became much KINDER and NICER and nearly 60% of the population confirmed to have become beneficiaries of various acts of KINDNESS and NICETIES💧💧💧

Other encouraging findings include the fact that two-thirds of people believe that the pandemic has proven that it ia big part of human nature to be KIND and NICE because it is such a big part of HOW we connect with people and HOW we have relationships.  Indeed, this is very much akin to that principle of reciprocity WHERE it is always a WIN-WIN situation because we like receiving KINDNESS BUT we also like being KIND and NICE💥💥💥

Let's admit it.  Generally, our desire to be kind is actually quite selfish, on one level, because we all have seemingly evolved to have empathy, we have all sorts of 'ulterior motives' [Oooooops many will be hard pressed to admit that, ouch] for being KIND and NICE, the chief one of being that it makes us feel good.  Experts have revealed that from their brain research, there is a warm fuzzy feeling that people feel straight away.  BUT also, it gives us that sense that we are that KIND and NICE person WHO really genuinely cares about other people.  And we want to be good, we want to feel good about our own selves and WHAT we are like???

Our takeaway:  One think I noticed through the years is that people WHO have been told they should be KIND and NICE are naturally more likely to notice and detect those NOT so obvious opportunities to be KIND and NICE.  True, they have expectations WHICH might be the expectations of their religious teachings OR it might be the expectations of those around them.  And if there is one thing that concerns me, it was WHEN I came across the #BeKind on social media because it tends to shut people down from talking, to suggest that they CAN'T hold an opinion simply because they've got to be KIND and NICE.  Really?  BUT obviously we do want social media to be a kinder place BUT if KINDNESS then gets weaponised and used to stop people talking, then that's kind of worrisome because essentially, IT NEVER HURTS TO BE NICE, dude💚💛💜