Are you just SPINNING YOUR WHEELS?

 

Many times in life, we were always peppered with lessons and reminders to keep moving and with such reminders peppered with threats like sedentary life is the start of your end. Seriously though, Are you just SPINNING YOUR WHEELS?  Shifting over to our daily lives, WHILE we can set our intentions for a better future, if and WHEN we DON'T accept our life now and make peace with the present moment just as it is, I am quite NOT so optimistic that struggles might pop-out down the road.  The reality is that for many of us [and I was once one of them], we tend to have those negative 'programming beliefs',  where we tend to live in a way that does NOT align with the life that we want for ourselves and so, we have those physical manifestations of things WHICH we DON'T want.  And the more we feel bad, sad OR mad about it, the more we will feel stuck📗📙📘

Imagine if we keep pressing forward, SPINNING THE WHEELS hoping it moves forward BUT it DOESN'T!  Besides having that pent up feeling of frustration, it does nothing but create that level of resistance that goes against the current momentum of our life, sending muddy waters flying everywhere and messing everything up.  Years back, I vividly remember WHEN my car got stuck in the mud, literally speaking, and despite the endless spinning of the wheel, I tend to resist against it💚💛💜

By wanting to leave so badly to leave WHERE you are and go elsewhere WHEN you are yet to learn the 'LESSONS', we end up creating that level of resistance and cause more suffering for yourself and everyone around you.  And this is where STRESS gets into the equation as STRESS is something that everyone experiences and oftentimes, we STRESS about things that seem to have NO foreseeable solution.  All along, I always [wrongly] thought that behavior was stupid and yet, at some time OR other, we all find ourselves doing that too, SPINNING OUR WHEELS, sometimes minus the noise💥💥💥

SO HOW can we stop SPINNING THE WHEEL?  Here's the thing.  WHEN I asked myself that question many years ago, I ended up confronting myself with another question, to wit:  Am I SPINNING MY WHEEL FOR WHAT?  True, it sounds simple and intuitive BUT identifying WHAT it is that you are upset about is NOT necessarily obvious, so identifying exactly WHAT it is that you are upset about is an important first step.  So, we need to know WHAT upsets us in the first place❗❗❗

Our takeaway: Besides knowing WHAT, we need to know WHY are we indeed SPINNING THE WHEEL, it is equally important because NOT being aware of the WHY aspect, HOW can we move on to the next logical step, which is to disengage from that unacceptable outcome so that it will lead us to a solution in contrast to having to be right OR vindicated.  True, sometimes there is NO immediate solution to a problem.  Sometimes, people just DON'T behave the way we think they should OR are just plain wrong.  And true, sometimes, life ISN'T fair.  And this leads us back to ask to be sharp enough once we realize ourselves SPINNING THE WHEEL😌😌😌