[Sometimes] The Harder You Try, The Worse It Gets

[Sometimes] The Harder You Try, The Worse It Gets

Heard of someone berating you, like:  THE MORE YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT, THE MORE YOU GET DISSATISFIED.   Been there, did that.  Endured that.  YES, this is the paradoxical dance we humans do with desire, effort and entropy.  We strive and toil, yearning for that elusive state of 'HAVING ALL OF IT TOGETHER'.  Yet, the universe seems to chuckle, swapping our crystal ball of hopes with a kaleidoscope of chaos.  Indeed, dude, The Harder You Try, The Worse It Gets📗📙📘

Recently I attended a TED TALK and for the first time, I heard this jargon 'LAW OF REVERSED EFFORT'.  At hindsight, I realized that except for that jargon itself, this was happening in our every day life.  WHY trying too hard could indeed ruin our road towards the success we yearn.  HOW often do you feel that despite your best efforts, success STILL eludes you?  You could be unknowingly violating that LAW OF REVERSED EFFORT😗😗😗

WHEN I did a lookup with regard the LAW OF REVERSED EFFORT, it tells us that any goal that requires too much consistent effort in one direction will eventually lead to frustration and a lack of progress.  Understanding how this law works is critical if we want to overcome obstacles and take a more effective action.  Let's take the most simple scenario of your glass of water.  Is it half-full OR half-empty???

HOW you answer that basic question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself and whether you're optimistic OR pessimistic, and it may even affect your health.  Indeed, some studies show that personality traits such as optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being.  The positive thinking that usually comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management as, according to health experts,  it is associated with many health benefits.  On the other hand, if you tend to be pessimistic, DON'T despair, you can learn [OR re-learn] positive thinking skills [all over again, sometimes and many times thereof].  BUT again, psychologists remind us to NEVER give up regardless of the avalanche of challenges we would face❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  Life is like the seasons, as they say.  Sometimes, you're basking in the warmth of summer, WHEN everything feels light, easy, shiny and dandy, offering full of hope.  BUT then, out of nowhere, if you live nearer up north, the biting winter sets in.  If you're in the tropics, typhoons and tsunamis will hit hard.  Yes, indeed, sometimes happiness could feel like punishment, there are days you will feel that you DON'T deserve to be happy at all.  BUT hey dude, I get you.  Life could be hard on you now with the walls closing in BUT days are NOT linear because it could be suffocating and comfortable at the same time.  BUT dude, surviving DOESN'T always mean you look strong.  Sometimes, we're hanging by a thread, one breath at a time, AND THAT'S OKAY!!!