Are You Overlooking Your NEEDS?

Are You Overlooking Your NEEDS?

Are You Overlooking Your NEEDS?  The mother of all ironies is that we live in societies that praises people for putting their needs last and no more than that.  In short, everyone in our society expects a SELFLESS act from us.  YES it's true that there are times in life WHEN we have to be SELFLESS but again, this CAN'T be an everyday occurrence.  BUT if there's a mix-up that keeps happening, let's NOT confuse SELFLESSNESS with compassion📗📙📘

BUT what compromises SELFLESSNESS is WHEN we manifest our COMPASSION but having said that, you DON'T need to give every single piece of yourself.  NOW, let's accept reality, that we have a society that makes us feel validated for putting our needs last.  Praise is given to the person WHO always put others' needs before their own, to the person WHO shows up at work NO matter WHAT is going on in their personal lives.  Then, we'll commend that person as a 'GREAT PLAYER'???

Reality again is that at home, NOT all the time BUT usually the woman is praised for putting the needs of her children and partner before her own, sometimes even the needs of the pets would come first, whew.  At the workplace, we are even praised for killing ourselves for a job that would replace us tomorrow.  Extra hours, working on weekends and NOT taking medical leaves even WHEN you're sick, oh oh that makes us stand out against the crowd WHEN it comes to the eventual promotion of employees in the organization.  BUT the thing is, almost everyone of us did embrace these practices in society💦💦💦

On the other hand, we tend to stuff down our frustrations OR negative emotions as we DON'T WANT to upset other people.  Instead, our own NEEDS and health end up being pushed over to the back burner so that we can ensure that the NEEDS of others are met and that they are happy.  REALLY?  BUT WHAT about us?  WHY do we think it is ok to push ourselves all the way to the edges leading us to the breaking point???

Our takeaway:  The undeniable truth is that NO one else can be responsible for meeting all our needs.  And most people WHO try [and unfortunately, many inevitably fail]. are dealing with and licking their very own wounds, fulfilling some kind of 'savior complex' that resulted from childhood trauma.  Bottom line is that IF we want to feel happy, worthy and loved, we have to take full responsibility for meeting those needs for ourselves.  That DOESN'T mean we CAN'T also form relationships with people WHO see our worth,  Just that we WON'T depend on their perception to maintain their own.  And we WON'T require anything from them to fill up our cup because we'll NOT only have the awareness and tools to do it ourselves BUT the confidence that we truly deserve it😃😃😃