That Paradox Of LOVE And LETTING GO

 

One debate that has hardly simmered down is about That paradox of LOVE and LETTING GO.  As our primary task of parenting is to prepare our children to take responsibilities for their own lives and letting them go so they become their very own best selves out in the world.  WHAT's interesting is a recent research I stumbled across WHICH said that adults are most likely to report that they express care in their relationships with their teens📗📙📘

Furthermore, that recent study showed that in contrast, they are least likely to report 'sharing power' and expanding possibilities, i.e. those key dynamics of 'letting go'.  In the Malay language [where there's commonalities between Bahasa Indonesia and Tagalog], there's the word 'SAYANG' which means either love OR letting go, depending on one's context.  BUT there's something special about 'SAYANG'!!!

'SAYANG' is intriguing by itself because of its very obvious paradox as it could mean either love OR letting go.  At hindsight, indeed 'SAYANG' is a special form of love.  As someone with the words of affirmation, choice of word is both, a preference and confusion.  So, WHY long for fancy words while being in love?  WHY do we expect sweetness by being in love WHEN all we long for is a simple one?  Acknowledgments and something that ISN'T one-sided after all❎❎❎

Looking at LOVE at a much holistic view, LOVE can be compared to a busy city full of libraries WHERE each relationship represents each unique library.  And every moment in a relationship translates to each sentence in a book.  And with some sentences likened to the walls of a house, holding everything together ELSE it may fall apart.  WHEREAS other little details we remember long after.  YES, sometimes love feels sweet, like finding a favorite book, BUT other times, let's admit it, it can be that damn confusing and frankly, quite dull enough.  And as we go through life's UPs and DOWNs, like it OR not, we will all learn from our experiences and shape the story of our respective relationships😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  I'm still enamored with 'SAYANG' as a Malay word because whether you're an Indonesian, Malaysian OR Filipino, 'SAYANG' carries that profound duality, embodying both affection and sorrow.  It serves as a tender expression of endearment, akin to 'darling' in English WHILE also encapsulating a sense of loss and regret.  YES, 'SAYANG' encapsulates a sense of loss and regret as well even as it represents the complexity of human emotions closely intertwining the joy of LOVE with the pain of separation.  Frankly, it is that whispered 'i love you' amidst the recognition of parting ways, that morning greetings that transforms into an evening farewell💚💛💜

GUARANTEED: Scams Will Keep Knocking On Our Doors

 

NOT to alarm our readership BUT allow me to quote this statistical data from Singapore wherein for 2024 alone, at least SG$ 1.1 Billion was lost to SCAMS!@#$%?  BTW, we're here NOT to simply copy and paste data previously published.  Yesterday, that was Wednesday, August 20th, WHEN I was in the midst of my work [from home], I saw a missed call from a local mobile phone number.  So, I sent an SMS to inquire as to WHO was the caller.  Then, here comes the call purportedly he's from the Head Office of one of my local bankers!@#$%? 

Within the first minute of the call, he mentioned my full name and he mentioned the last 4 digits of my credit card [which was recently delivered like 2 weeks back].  The caller painted a picture of that legitimate proactive bank service provider WHO will volunteer on something you never asked in the first place.  The caller asked me to check if my card has that 3-digit security code at the back and I said 'BUT OF COURSE'.  He then claimed that that was the 'wrong card' and the bank will send the correct version of the credit card???

That's WHEN I hanged-up the call and pronto, I called my bank's RM [Relationship Manager] WHO then took a swift move to permanently block my credit card WHILE in parallel, she instructed me to formally call the hotline for 'fraud' so that everything will be recorded and appropriate logs are done.  WHAT's surprising with that attempted credit card SCAM to me was 2 things: first, that card was very new and secondly, to date, I never used it for any online transaction.  In fact, since it was very new, I used it just twice [to defray local hospital expenses💥💥💥

And the most shocking surprise that hit me during that 'SCAM' call yesterday was that the caller knew the last 4-digits of my credit card WHICH was fairly new [just 2 weeks old WHICH was never used for any online transaction].  WHAT this tells us is that SCAMMERS are on a rampage all over the place.  In Singapore, WHILE SCAMS totaled SG$ 651.8 Million in 2023, it spiked by 70.6% in 2024, balooning to SG$ 1.1 Billion.  Another insight here, even if you live in a legit First World country like Singapore, NEVER be cocky because you might get hit at your unguarded moments😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Even with the increasing AI-based stuff, never be confident that if your transactions are NOT AI-related, you are shielded from all these SCAMS.  NO sirrrrrs.  Even as we speak now, e-Commerce SCAMS remain as the top SCAM everywhere and as per statistical data, that is followed by job SCAMS, phishing SCAMS, investment SCAMS and 'FAKE FRIEND' SCAM calls.  YES dude, SCAMS WILL KEEP KNOCKING ON OUR DOORS!@#$%?

Are We Part Of The Problem Once We Worry?

 

Anyone here WHO's problem-free? Absolutely we have problems even as we speak now.  BUT that's NOT a talking point at all.  WHAT's triggering the ripples from the waters?  Yesirrrrrs may I guess?  WHEN we worry more, that adds to the triggers of those ripples.  Did we realize that we have enough problems in life and the last thing we dread to happen is becoming a part of the problem by topping off all those bunch of problems with our unnecessary worries📗📙📘

Medical experts opine that WORRIES can be thought of as the cognitive component of anxiety.  We tend to WORRY WHEN we AREN'T sure WHAT'S going to happen BUT we think that we may experience a negative event, like a potential flop, failure, loss, illness OR injury.  Yesirrrrrrs, WORRY does represent an attempt to engage in mental problem-solving on an issue WHOSE outcome is uncertain BUT contains the possibility of one OR more negative outcomes.  Then, consequently, WORRY relates closely to our fears💚💛💜

Experts tell us that WHEN we are anxious, it's more on our body, like our heart may start beating than faster, OR our breathing even shortens.  On the other hand, WORRY is more on our head.  It's a kind of mental anguish that most of us experience BUT are comfortable enough to overcome it.  So, WHY WORRY?  Researches on WORRY suggests that it may reduce physiological arousal and negative images by keeping us in that so called 'verbal realm'.  They say that WORRY is left-brain focused and may keep us fixated on the details, preventing us from seeing the big picture itself💥💥💥

Some experts opine that WORRYING may be a way of avoiding the bodily signs of anxiety and stress [LIKE when your heart is beating rapidly] OR negative mental images related to our stressors [LIKE the image of having to sell and move out of your house].  WORRY can also give us that illusion of control over future outcomes [WHICH is nothing less than fiction and a figment of our imagination because that's just NOT true]❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Here's a practical reason I stumbled across before.  THAT the reason we hardly live a life with NO WORRIES is because we are trying to take control of WHAT is happening outside.  We tend to overthink and allow those negative thoughts to go inside of us [UNTIL we become a captive of our own undoing].  In the end, we tend NOT to live in the present moment.  Instead, we seem to live in the past 24 hours OR living in the next 24 hours.  Rarely we live in WHAT lies in front of us.  Our fix:  Let's take control of ourselves so we'll BECOME PART OF THE SOLUTION [and NOT A PART OF OUR PROBLEM]😡😡😡

Let's Stop Optimizing Our Life

 

With the lightning pace of technology's changes the past years, let's face it, WHAT humanity faces are NOT the algorithms and that robots and AI will lord it over us and seize power all over us [because that is happening NOW as we speak].  BUT the bigger threat is that eventually we will eventually become indistinguishable from those algorithms and robots.  Sadly, everywhere from digital nomad gurus to the false prophets of productivity, we are egged to optimize ourselves.  Let us stop OPTIMIZING our life📗📙📘

Verily true, we hear OPTIMIZATION at work. And that's very fine because at the workplace, WHAT matters more are productivity, efficiencies, quality and throughput, all rolled into one.  BUT swing it into our life for us to OPTIMIZE it?  C'mon.  WHY do we need to OPTIMIZE every aspect of our existence?  We CAN'T even find carefully scripted routines for our daily mornings [and even our bowel movements]?  WHAT more of OPTIMIZING???

If there is one undeniable fact, it is the fact that there is NO aspect of human life WHICH we couldn't be doing better.  Our smartphones?  They are littered with numerous 'apps' that supposedly will help us either get better OR efficient by sort of turning our life into like a series of 'mini games' and pinging us incessantly [akin to those endless deep-sea 'pingings' trying to locate for tell-tale signs of that tragic MH370 flight💥💥💥

I remember this argumentative statement:  WE'RE SO BUSY STUDYING HOW TO OPTIMIZE OUR LIVES THAT WE NEVER STOPPED TO CONSIDER IF WE SHOULD OPTIMIZE OUR LIVES.  That brings us as unwilling hostages to the misplaced illusion of OPTIMIZATION.  As we all agree, WE ARE WHAT WE ARE.  We do have our chinks in our armor and we'll fix that [OR maybe NOT] BUT the end does NOT justify the means💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Please DON'T get me wrong.  We're all entitled to set bigger and lofty goals in life and that's WHAT really matters.  From there, we thread that long circuitous road [with all the forked roads and even the cul de sacs] as we remain focused towards achieving our goals.  BUT that OPTIMIZATION thing, at best, that will be a distraction and at worst, that MAY throw a 'monkey wrench' on our lifelong journey BUT that's NOT WHAT we want to end up, right?  BTW, many of the tragic failures in life were exacerbated by our own earnest desires [in good faith] to squeeze our own selves high and dry BUT NOT by getting dragged into that OPTIMIZATION riddle dude💚💛💜

Observing But Not Absorbing

 

Famous Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw was widely quoted:  "NEVER WRESTLE WITH A PIG, YOU'LL GET DIRTY AND BESIDES, THE PIG LIKES IT THAT WAY".  Exactly dude.  NOT to bad-mouth the pig itself, the parallelism here can be drawn with narcissists because studies show that they have that edge to control and influence their partner.  From an analogy, WHEN the innocent partner steps into the world of a narcissist, that is tagged as analogous to ingesting toxins.  And thinking logically, WHEN we drink something toxic, we may feel ill.  Similarly, WHEN we let the narcissist bring us into their world, experts tell us that likely we'll lose our emotional control.  Think about Observing BUT NOT absorbing📗📙📘

The thing is, we can ONLY control WHAT's controllable.  BUT that's NOT the point.  The perils here start to surface WHEN we end up getting controlled of something WHERE we can have the gumption to resist and even counter.  LIKE WHEN someone is throwing tantrums, you DON'T cast stone to a stone thrower.  It just DOESN'T work that way.  Best way?  Avoid it.  WHERE you are unable to avoid, figure out WHY you are being stoned at?  BUT for you to get dragged into it, with your emotions even showing up the ugly side, you can even end up as the culprit rather than the hapless and innocent victim at that😔😔😔

WHAT do the experts counsel us?   We are advised to kind of 'detach' ourselves from the antagonist and simply put, we are advised to watch and observe and as long as you can keep your 'safe distance', it will be far fetched to think that you will get dragged especially emotionally.  There is a clinical explanation as to WHAT happens WHEN we succumb to such a situation as we will end up unwittingly participating in that 'dysfunctional' interaction and end up losing control.  By then, we will be hard pressed to properly protect ourselves within the so called 'healthy boundaries'.  In essence, WHAT the messaging resonating from the experts is for us to end up in a 'healthy dissociation'.  As the old cliche goes, THERE ARE NO TYRANTS WHERE THERE ARE NO SLAVES.  Do we see the parallelism there???

Studies show that there is a big chunk of researches WHICH proved that generally, we struggle and end up instead succumbing to the clutches of the 'predator'.  HOW can we counter that?  We are encouraged to repeat an affirmation to our own selves LIKE 'I AM STRONG AND IN CONTROL'.  Blurting that one-liner will hardly help if you say it simply for the sake of toeing the line.  Instead, we are encouraged to repeat that affirmation over and over during those touchy moments.  By doing this, studies proved that 90% DON'T fall like a victim and instead, they remain in control and very much 'secure' within their personal boundaries.  Put it in another blunt way, there are NO manipulators IF NO ONE wants or allows his OR her own self to be manipulated❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  The toughest 'wild card' to deal with in our life are those emotions.  WHEN emotions start to fly and lord over us, things can go south pretty fast and quick.  HOW to counter emotions on the loose?  We are advised to keep an even tone, preferably in a low volume WHILE breathing deeply.  And we are advised that that is critical if we want to stay detached from the enveloping argument.  And it also helps to figure out HOW and WHAT's the easiest way for you to get and feel relaxed.  Some will light up a cigarette.  Some will take a shot of vintage wine.  And staying connected to our body will significantly help prevent us from absorbing those toxins that will only lead to perilous stress and worse, anxiety.  YES dude, let us endeavor to OBSERVE BUT NOT ABSORBING or getting ABSORBED💥💥💥

[Re-post from Channelnewsasia] Etomidate [In VAPES] About To Be ILLEGALIZED

 

[Re-post EN TOTO from Channelnewsasia 07.20.2025] Etomidate [In VAPES] About To Be ILLEGALIZED 

Singapore is working to list etomidate, an anaesthetic that has been found in vapes, as a Class C drug under the Misuse of Drugs Act, Health Minister Ong Ye Kung said.  Recently, authorities randomly tested more than 100 vapes that were seized, and one-third were found to contain etomidate. Pods that contain vape juice mixed with etomidate are also known as K-pods📘📙📗

Vapes, or e-vaporisers, are banned in Singapore. They are controlled and enforced under the Tobacco (Control of Advertisements and Sales) Act. Etomidate is a controlled substance under the Poisons Act💙💛💜

For us to appreciate the seriousness of Singapore's stringent VAPING laws, appending below latest statistical data of offenses:

More than 2,500 reports of vaping have been made in the first half of 2025, the Health Sciences Authority (HSA) said on Sunday (Jul 20).  Officers conducted raids and seized almost three tonnes of vapes. He was charged in court on Jul 14, with the case adjourned to Aug 11.  In May, HSA raided the homes of two 16-year-old boys who were allegedly vaping in a private-hire car. The driver had reported the incident to the traffic police, who seized two vapes from one of the boys.  Another 54 pods and three vapes were found in his residence. Some of the pods were tested by HSA and found to contain etomidate💧💧💧

Etomidate is a fast-acting anaesthetic used in medical procedures. Adverse effects of etomidate include nausea and vomiting, uncontrollable movement or spasm of muscles, changes to breathing and blood pressure, and seizures and psychosis that can endanger health.  In the same month, a video was posted online showing a 58-year-old man sitting on a road and holding a vape. He was unable to walk on his own and was shaking uncontrollably, with passers-by helping to get him off the road💥💥💥

HSA officers raided his residence but did not find any vapes, although the man admitted to vaping. He was issued a fine.  In another case, a man was filmed vaping in a lift at Sim Lim Square and the video was posted on social media. HSA identified the 24-year-old, raided his residence and seized two vapes. He is assisting with investigations.  Dude, to be FOREWARNED IS TO BE FOREARMED

Do We Really Need To SHOOT FROM THE HIP?

 

Much as we take things one step at a time, from time to time, indeed there are circumstances WHEN it's NOT apt to do it that way.  Do we really need to SHOOT FROM THE HIP?  Frankly, though, at some points in our respective lives, we do SHOOT FROM THE HIP.  LIKE WHEN we get suddenly BUT wrongly accused of something where our conscience is 100% clear.  LIKE WHEN we are pushed in an unexpected situation that puts us on the spot.  LIKE WHEN circumstances may thrust us towards an embarrassing situation that renders us defenseless to an extent looking ignorant [if NOT an idiot].  LIKE WHEN scenarios you least expected seem to catch you 'with your pants down', figuratively though📘📙📗

Surely, you have witnessed a behavioral pattern of others [if it's NOT you] WHO, during heated moments, they become vulnerable to knee-jerk reactions.  LIKE between spouses, WHEN one spouse's spending habits gets flagged down by the partner, one can immediately become defensive and in fast throttle, will start justifying each single purchase.  Call it being defensive, it really is.  In household responsibilities, one spouse may tend to interrupt the spouse to assert his/her own efforts, overlooking all the other contributions by the wife [WHO undoubtedly, has been on her feet all day long way before anyone else woke up]💥💥💥

UNLESS you're a pro hoopster in the NBA, you and me will be likely questioned WHY do we need to SHOOT FROM THE HIP.  And sometimes, things brew up in a silly way, LIKE WHEN one spouse will suggest changes in their daily routines, then the other spouse will instinctively resist and oppose even if the other partner has NOT even finished the first sentence.  Sounds familiar???

In the end, we deprive the other partner the chance to give his/her perspective.  Unfortunately, those impulsive reactions are NOT always conducive to a healthy dialogue, something WHICH ends up detrimental to both partners hearing each other well enough.  So, HOW is it?  Do we react clumsily to criticism OR even plain constructive feedback?  Definitely, unless that's rectified, that is inimical to all parties❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Let's think about the unnecessary but sometimes uncontrollable flow of emotions WHICH get into the way, depriving all parties of a healthy dialogue.  One common culprit as well is our tendency [if at all] or 'quick-draw-tongue-lashings' because that damages and even ruins relationships.  Dude, we're NOT shooters from the WILD WILD WEST so let's NOT SHOOT FROM THE HIP, where possible😊😊😊

When You're OFF THE GRID, OFF THE GRIND

When You're OFF THE GRID, OFF THE GRIND

When You're OFF THE GRID, OFF THE GRIND.  Those are scenarios we hardly thought of or even anticipated more often than not.  BUT before anything else, let us align as to what OFF THE GRID really means?  Simply put, if you're NOT tied to a physical grid OR network, then you live OFF THE GRID, which means you WON'T even have electrical power OR water connection.  BUT we'll discuss When You're OFF THE GRID, OFF THE GRIND from the context of living our life💡💡💡

Unfortunately, moving OFF THE GRID is often associated with criminals and fugitives, extremists and even cults, NOT quite WHAT most people want to be associated with just because they're NOT connected to a power grid.  Going OFF THE GRID is also something backpackers and people WHO enjoy slow travel experiences. It could be finding out that cave you want to explore OR it could be as easy as turning off your mobile phone OR gadget at night.  In that sense, 'GOING OFF THE GRID' might be enjoyable💥💥💥

Most of the time, though, WHEN you hear OFF THE GRID, it is more associated with PREPAREDNESS OR wilderness survival, whether that's for a weekend hideaway OR as a way of life.  These days, I'd like to tie this up to living 'OFF THE BEATEN PATH' as it immediately creates the association of NOT having a lot of people around us, NOT having easy access to a lot of modern goods and services and without having people WHO think they do know better to tell us that we're NOT REALLY OFF THE GRID.  And generally, I found that there are many groups and opinions within the OFF THE GRID living community, from vegans to people WHO raise their own animals for meat, etc💥💥💥

And there could be more,  LIKE people WHO bathe in luxury to people WHO only have bare necessities, from people WHO grow their own food and try to live a more sustainable life to people WHO couldn't care less and drive hours every week just to get their favorite brands from the supermarket, from people WHO live in the middle of the city BUT got disconnected from the GRIDS, to people WHO live in the middle of nowhere.  WHETHER you want to consider living OFF THE GRID quite literally OR figuratively, either way, be prepared with the possible outcomes of your forays💚💛💜

Our takeaway:  We've heard all these.  Keep grinding.  Keep hustling.  Sleep WHEN you're dead.  We've all heard these trite mantras about harder than others.  The dream being sold us is that IF you work hard enough, harder than others, that you too can have it all.  There's even an idea I've never really understood.  THAT time is a zero-sum game.  THAT every hour spent at work is an hour NOT spent with your family and vice versa.  In fact and in truth. you literally CAN'T have it all.  If you choose to make your work your priority, that time will NOT be spent with your family.  And if you choose to grind for 16 hours a day in hopes that one day it pays off, YES you might get there.  So dude, WHEN YOU'RE OFF THE GRID, OFF THE GRIND, you're NOT that OFFGRID as long as you're ON THE GRID for the big-ticket tasks dude😃😃😃

When You Stay In Business Way Too Long

WHATEVER endeavor, pursuit OR calling we're IN, When You Stay In Business Way Too Long, it does NOT become the best proposition [even if that's me as the incumbent you're referring to].  We have seen state leaders and presidents WHO got so drunk with POWER [and sometimes $$$$$$] to an extent that they just CAN'T and WON'T relinquish the office they have, even if it means perpetuating themselves in power.  So sorry, I WON'T dip my fingers into that muddy cookie jar of politics📗📙📘

Back to our private lives for now.  For almost all workers, tenure at one's job is vital and appealing especially to almost all employers.  On the other hand, a majority, if NOT an overwhelming one, of workers value the tenure at work as it gives them that sort of 'PEACE of MIND' especially in times of economic turmoil [BUT again, that DOESN'T stop businesses to come up with business decisions, hard and difficult it may be] with regard retrenchment and downsizing.  Sadly, many went jobless during the pandemic, really a once in a lifetime downturn NOT one of us least expected.  BUT assuming everything is normal, the school of thought here is that WHEN YOU STAY IN BUSINESS WAY TOO LONG, it somehow becomes inimical😗😗😗

Inimical to the employee.  And somehow inimical to the employer.  Although, generally, employees and employers alike are on the same boat insofar as longevity at work is concerned.  NOW, without sounding critical OR negative, WHEN some workers stay put in a single company way too long, is that a sign of loyalty OR do we call it unconscious passivity?  This is debatable indeed because it becomes YOUR WORD versus mine💥💥💥

Looking things in an impartial manner, in a way, it does make sense that the stalwart 'company man', someone WHO knuckles down at a single organization for many years, if NOT their entire career, remains atop a pedestal.  After all, they are revered for that staying power and focus combined with unfailing loyalty and commitment.  YES, these are all very desirable qualities in a potential hire.  BUT there's a gathering storm WHERE experts say there actually can be such a thing as too much staying power😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  Although there's plenty to be said for having extended experience, and lots of benefits that can come from digging in your heels with one organization, spending too long in one role may work against people in some cases.  And experts claim there is a 'tipping point' at which loyalty can potentially signal OR manifest complacency.  And there is plenty of truth to the idea that a long stay at a company is generally looked favorably as it is an indication of expertise.  BUT we need to be watchful if we seem to be unconsciously 'sliding down' OR tapering off in terms of energy and motivation because that can manifest WHEN YOU STAY IN BUSINESS WAY TOO LONG dude❗❗❗

How Many Times Can You Go Fishing Anyway?

Watching the Netflix movie SNIPER:  ULTIMATE KILL, the sniper asked his senior: I THOUGHT YOU RETIRED BUT suddenly, he was back in the thick of operations.  How Many Times Can You Go Fishing Anyway?  The retired ex-general then blurted out:  I WANNA GIVE MY ONE LAST GO.  Obviously that was something that was like 'too good to be true'.  BUT hearing the retired general blurt out still with that air of gung-ho and confidence, the sniper was motivated NO less, hearing it straight from the horse's mouth!!!

Very obviously, there is NO formula here, NO barometer that can measure HOW far can we go, HOW long can we drive more, HOW much mileage can our gas tank still accommodate down the road.  Having said this, the onus remains within each of our own selves, to listen to our own selves, to identify and recognize our inherent limitations [call it 'handicaps'] because that will dictate things as well.  This explains WHY we come across 'weak-hearted' folks WHO can't imagine themselves failing, only to realize that till today, they got stuck up through the years💧💧💧

Through the years, I've seen first hand, people WHO have pushed themselves way too far, way beyond their capability at that point in time, people WHO 'fell flat' and very much bruised 'black and blue' as an aftermath, yet they endeavored to keep alive their flickering hopes alive to no avail.  At the other end of the spectrum, I've seen and witnessed folks WHO were lazier than the laziest spoiled dog sleeping right on the velvet plush sofa.  And at that point, I felt one too many things got wasted, like lost opportunities, lost hopes, lost chances.  Twice OR thrice, I did counsel some of these folks WHOM I know well inside-out personally.  As I knew it that some of them were hopelessly clutching on the last straws, I thought I should give it my shot, where ever it may take once I do take my chances.  At the end of the day, the final score of the game heavily hinges on us, on you, on the very person💥💥💥

WHAT IF we over-stretch ourselves?  Especially if we'll declare that there's NOTHING TO LOSE?  This one-liner from American Poet T.S. Eliot is far-reaching:  ONLY THOSE WHO WILL RISK GOING TOO FAR CAN POSSIBLY FIND OUT HOW FAR ONE CAN GO.  Thing is, let us NOT dilly-dally as to HOW much and HOW far can we go.  And WHAT's the risk if you squeeze yourself high and dry?  Nothing, Nada, Keilner👎👎👎

Our takeaway:  One thing I learned and witnessed in life is the value and importance of each moment.  WHEN you find an opportunity to go farther, GO.  WHEN you can tap into your reservoir of unused energy, GO.  WHEN you think you can push yourself farther down without any serious risk OR peril on your well-being, GO.  WHY do we egg you to give it a GO?  As the old cliche goes, OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS ONLY ONCE.  And if I may add:  The next time it knocks, it's NOT as impactful as it was then😔😔😔