Control Your Anger [Before It Controls You]

ANGER thread today, anyone?  Let's GO.  This is a 'HOT' topic especially with the simmering heat of summer in the tropical zone. And to add to that, we'll here those record-breaking traffic gridlocks in Asia's mega-cities like Mumbai, Jakarta, Manila, amongst others.  SO, is it true that IF YOU DON'T CONTROL ANGER, it can CONTROL YOU [eventually].  YES, I strongly believe this hypothesis and I'll welcome healthy arguments, if any📘📙📗

We all know WHAT anger is, and we've all felt it.  WHETHER as a fleeting annoyance OR as a full-fledged rage, ANGER is NOT just a nuisance for us to handle.  BUT before it gets negatively tagged, let's agree that ANGER itself is a completely normal and usually healthy human emotion.  BUT WHAT kind of raises alarms and increases the decibel volumes is WHEN it get's OUT OF CONTROL and turns destructive💥💥💥

ANGER can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.  WHAT makes matters worse here is that ANGER can be caused by either external OR internal triggers.  You could be angry at a specific person OR it could an external trigger like those perennial monstrous traffic that's NOT just about the huge wastage of burned fuel OR your ANGER could be caused by worrying OR brooding about your personal problems OR even traces and memories of past traumatic OR even enraging events that can trigger ANGER❌❌❌

Something triggering our ANGER is one thing BUT it's a totally different thing the way we express ANGER itself.  The instinctive and natural way to express ANGER is to respond aggressively.  ANGER is a natural and adaptive response to even threats as it tends to inspire powerful and often aggressive feelings and behaviors WHICH would allow us to fight and to defend ourselves WHEN are either threatened OR attacked.  On that note, it should safe to have a consensus that a certain amount of ANGER is indeed necessary for survival💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  People can use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their ANGRY feelings.  And even in recent researches, EXPRESSING, SUPPRESSING and CALMING will come our way, like it OR not.  YES, expressinve our ANGER in an assertive [BUT NOT aggressive] manner is the healthiest way to express ANGER. WHICH means, to do that, we have to learn HOW to make clear WHAT our needs are, and HOW to get them met without hurting OR offending people.  Being assertive DOESN'T mean being pushy OR demanding.  it means being respectful of yourself and even others.  YES dude, ANGER can be suppressed and then, as per psychologists, we can 'redirect' it LIKE, you stop thinking about it and focus on something that's positive.  YES dude, let us CONTROL OUR ANGER [before it controls us] dude😡😡😡