Avoid Putting Your Foot In Your Mouth [then you'll be fine]

Call it calmness BUT I'll rather call it recklessness WHEN we spew out words that should NOT have happened in the first place because that's nothing less than PUTTING YOUR FOOT IN YOUR MOUTH.  NOT to nitpick, BUT this happens mostly WHEN we are in places WHERE we feel most relaxed, name it, your home OR your office nook.  And then WHAT often times exacerbates this situation is WHEN we are in the company of people WHO either are people we're closest to, OR people with whom we're so relaxed OR worst, people we DON'T care [which is totally wrong, BTW]📗📙📘

Many times in the past, I heard these regretful admissions:

• I KNOW I SHOULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BUT...
• BEFORE I COULD THINK, I BLURTED OUT....
• I WISH I SHOULD HAVE KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT...

BTW, those were the words NOT just of third parties BUT I myself, I was guilty [many times] on that in the past.  True enough, at one time OR another, we have all learned the hard way that our words have that super incredible power, enough to knock off the most stubborn giant, and even a supposedly emotionless person.  WHAT happens next, we often resolve NEVER to repeat that mistake.  Really???

This is WHERE our supposed 'right to speech' gets into the picture.  WHAT we hear is people invoking freedom of expression [especially for us WHO live in these very boisterous democracies].  WHAT happens next many of us engage in automatic critical self-talk and other self-defeating thought patterns.  LIKE we may chide ourselves for being 'stupid' OR 'lazy' WHEN we make a mistake and WHEN we practice that 'right to speech' inwardly, we would tend to train ourselves to notice that habitual thought that loops till we get engaged in.  We then examine those thoughts for truth and helpfulness and in so doing, we learn to avoid that temptation to mindlessly accept such thoughts as truth💥💥💥

Psychologists keep reminding us that that RIGHT to SPEECH comes with it our responsibility to say the right words at the right time.  BTW, there is NO single word has been given that 'blanket' a-ok to be spewed and uttered any day anywhere anyhow.  Telling someone that he's either handsome OR beautiful may NOT be the right words to say especially if the other person is NOT apt OR deserving enough to hear such words, even if words are expressed in good faith.  In the end, you might end up doing 'damage control' instead of that intent and spirit to be nice😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  Looking back, I have this one key realization.  I recall that those times I felt I was a 'loose cannon' were those times WHEN I was facing difficult OR challenging moments, those times WHEN I succumbed to a poor judgment call.  And bundle it with situations WHEN we're either hurt, confused, frustrated OR worst, angry, those are the times WHEN we become most vulnerable to commit those same mistakes [maybe even over and over again].  Our recommended fix:  Let us take a conscious effort to work in cultivating our inner words that are kind, helpful, true and useful.  That way, our words can even help us achieve our goals and become a better person than WHAT and WHO we are now.  YES dude, let us endeavor to AVOID PUTTING OUR FOOT IN OUR MOUTH.  That's certainly doable!!!