Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back

Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back

Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back.  Unfortunately, there are LOSSES which are FORCE MAJEURE, way beyond your control.  And a very common scenario is GRIEF.  And can you guess the struggle when GRIEF strikes?  Yesirrrrrs, it is our brain that really struggles to cope.  Not the best example but when a family member dies, adjusting to the fact that you'll NEVER again spend time with your departed loved one can be painful.  In fact, it takes time but more than that, way beyond our consciousness, it involves changes in our brain💊💊💊

Much as we want to embrace what this poster screams 'TAKE NO LOSS', When we experience being in a relationship, the sense of who we are is bound up with that other person.  The word SIBLING, the word SPOUSE, they imply two people.  So when the other person is gone, we suddenly have to learn a totally new set of rules to operate.  'WE' becomes 'ME' and even our brain needs to change for a good reason💎💎💎

So our brain also feels that way, as it were and codes that 'WE' and updates it to 'ME'.  Before we get mixed up, let's differentiate grieving from grief where the latter is the emotional state whereas grieving is WHAT HAPPENS as we adapt to the fact that our loved one is gone, that we're carrying the absence of them with us.  And the reason that this distinction makes sense is, grief is a natural response to loss.  But GRIEVING means that our relationship to that GRIEF changes over time.  So, the first time or even the first 100 times, you're knocked off your feet with GRIEF, it feels terrible, awful and unfamiliar.  But when the 101st comes, you might blurt out 'I'LL GET THROUGH THIS'.  What is imperative, however, is for us to be aware and conscious that there are CONTROLLABLE losses📌📌📌

Uhmmm, sometimes we DON'T know WHEN to 'throw the towel'.  As time passes, it becomes clear that things AREN'T working out as you planned.  You then realize that pursuing whatever it is that you're pursuing will cost you too much financially or emotionally or it will take too long.  Whether that's being successful in your career OR mending a troubled relationship OR renovating your house.  But instead of moving on to new opportunities, all too often you simply STAY THE COURSE and sacrifice your own well-being in the process.  Hey, you're NOT alone.  Most of us want to stay in a job or relationship long after it ceased to be satisfying⏳⏳⏳

The costs to the person who CAN'T see the reason [in terms of time, effort or lost opportunities for happiness] can be enormous.  We recognize this kind of foolishness immediately in others but that DOESNT stop us from making the same mistake to lead us to losses AGAIN.  Be wary, as for SOME LOSSES YOU CAN'T GET BACK❗❗❗