The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!!

The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!!

The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!! Yow Yow Yow, I have to take back everything in the past WHEN I said that the GRASS IS GREENER AT THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE.  Nope Nope Nope.  Logic, reason and basic commonsense tells us the other way around [ON ONE CONDITION though].  As long as you do water your own grass.  YES, with life getting tighter, the world giving us challenges, it is only natural to reflect on the relationships in our lives [and NOT JUST romantic relationships] BUT on all our life-nurturing connections

To quote American author David Wolfe, SOMETIMES THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE BECAUSE IT'S FAKE.  Oh Oh, Oh, that CAN'T be farther from the truth.  Even as we are concerned in repairing and even strengthening our connections with others, it is appropriate for us to realize those few things in life that impact the quality of our lives more than the health of our relationships.  As to WHY the GRASS IS GREENER WHERE WE WATER IT, the wisdom of this saying is that we are wise NOT to focus on finding GREENER pastures somewhere else BUT instead, let us nurture and grow the vitality of the relationships we already have in life

That wisdom applies to caring to all areas of our lives, and even our spiritual lives, the work we do in this world, caring for our bodies, our health AS IF they are our actual gardens.  Like a garden, all relationships require regular watering and even attention.  NOW let's pull the brakes for a bit and align as to HOW do we really WATER our very own GRASS.  The lowest hanging fruit has always been to show REGULAR appreciation for and the people we care about.  Ooooops, please note I intentionally typed REGULAR in upper case.  WHY?  Because there are many instances of FLASHES IN THE PAN where you blurt out niceties literally ONCE IN A BLUE MOON!@#$%?

Coming close to the heels of APPRECIATING our relationships is to earnestly STRENGTHEN our connection by being BETTER listeners.  HOW many times were you doing your CAR WASH and as your wife is blurting at the background, you kind of shove her off by just reacting LATER LATER, I'M BUSY.  Or if your spouse/partner is tossing up an idea OR suggestion, even before the sentence gets completed, you tend to SHUT IT OFF, shrugging off your shoulder like IT'S MY WAY OR NO WAY???

Our takeaway:  Learning my own lessons [the HARD WAY] from the past, NEVER NEVER NEVER miss out the FUN part of our relationships.  If you take on your relationship as an obligation, a contractual one in fact [no thanks to the marriage contract], NOT to sound like Nostradamus BUT very likely that relationship will be doomed in the long haul.  Even psychologists have chimed in, claiming that 'PLAYING IS NOT JUST A NICE EXTRA' in a relationship BUT it is essential in keeping relationships energized, sizzling and NOT losing the momentum for that matter.  A closer synonym for PLAY is RECREATION and the psychologists encourages us to think of "RE-CREATION" because every relationship we have created in our lives will benefit from intentional times of RE-CREATION and RECONNECTING.  YES YES yoW, THE GRASS IS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT❗❗❗

The POWER OF WORDS

Be Careful With What You Say

A few times in the past, I was counselled this way:  DON'T SAY ANYTHING YOU WILL HAVE TO APOLOGIZE FOR LATER.  And till to date, I think there's wisdom in that.  And indeed, that's a good reason to Be Careful With What You Say because there is NO 'edit' button on our conversations.  Words are the bells that CAN'T be muted.  You can try and walk things back, try and explain yourself and even try to justify the words you said BUT in the end, there's that POWER OF WORDS💚💛💜

As an afterthought, THAT comment, THAT remark, even THAT tone, it's all there.  Always.  And you DON'T want to be embarrassed later by WHAT you said at the moment.  BUT let's face it, there are other reasons besides avoiding embarrassment to watch WHAT we say.  Likely, there may be deeper reasons.  And probably some more important ones.  So, WHAT's next?  Let's spend a fraction of our time to dissect the words we uttered, we typed, we messaged in social media.  True, you can UNSEND that social media message BUT you CAN'T UNDO its impact💥💥💥

To be a bit poetic about this, our words are like water.  Water, being that stuff of life, it can also be incredibly destructive.  Similarly, our words are incredibly powerful to destroy OR build up, especially those WHO claim to love.  Through the years, I'll admit I did witness on a first-hand basis relationships that were so robust one day only to flounder come next day.  And the mother of all surprises hovers on the fact that there was NOT a tinge of an embedded friction OR even the slightest disconnect, NOT until the bomb blows up💧💧💧

True-ness.  WORDS ARE TOOLS.  WORDS are the very conduit and channels of communications.  Regardless as to how a relationship's health stands at the moment, it will always stand on the very core foundation, which WHEN concretized, it shapes up into WORDS.  I've witnessed interactions that were going back and forth smoothly until one of the parties unconsciously blurted quite a frank and sarcastic WORD.  From that point onwards, that discussion I was witnessing was teetering on the edge, WHEREIN one party was becoming guarded💢💢💢

Our takeaway:  Historically, the POWER of WORDS has been grossly underestimated such that most of us would commit recurring and sometime chronic lapses in the most unconscious manner, turning parties OR protagonists from unflappable ones to vulnerable ones.  WHAT is indeed regrettable here is that WORDS do not require financial outlays.  In English alone, the 550,000 reservoir of WORDS should give us NO excuse that we RAN OUT of WORDS OR that we just missed out on the synonym.  Apologies dude, there is NO UNDO in WORDS.  BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU SAY in a consistent manner💦💦💦

What's Your Playbook?

What's Your Playbook?

Anne Chow was CEO of AT&T Business till she retired two years back.  And as her colleagues were bidding her adieu, she declared she WON'T be into retirement.  Instead, she will be into REWIREMENT, a new career phase that comes after climbing the corporate ladder and embracing a more purpose-driven work.  Today, Chow serves on the board of three public corporations and is a fellow and adjunct professor at the Kellogg School.  What's Your Playbook???

Chow advises those going OR are already into RETIREMENT that while it is deeply fulfilling, it also comes with pitfalls.  As transitioning from a frenetic phase at work to a more controlled phase, it will be a significant change both financially and even in terms of personal identity.  BUT she clarifies that transitions will always be unique and different for each person.  And Chow says, there is NO default playbook that can be replicated and rolled out for execution across.  Having said this, she has shared how she has managed it😊😊😊

And if she has seen one serious miss during REWIREMENT, they were unable to apply their natural business instincts to themselves.  In short, people missed out planning WAY AHEAD while they were still in their current roles at that time.  WHY?  Chow explains that those REWIREMENT opportunities that you will eventually be angling for WON'T just fall on your lap. While competition within the corporate world is damn tough, during that REWIREMENT phase, things will NOT be served to you on a silver platter.  In short, if you miss out planning thoroughly for that next phase, you will be playing in a not so level playing field.  WHO wants to play in that kind of field???

And I couldn't agree less on that point.  Indeed, a lack of planning can also mean that rather than branching out, some people would eventually default to staying within their old industries.  And that could be a particularly difficult situation WHO were used to wield authority, influence and for those at the C-level, those impactful powers reverberating across organizations.  YES, I did witness seeing people WHO swirled up in the ecosystem they had left, becoming a consultant OR even working for a supplier OR vendor.  BUT psychologists opine that that move is NOT 'mentally healthy'  because if you're going to REWIRE, grab that opportunity to RESET yourself, and NOT hang on to the glory days of the past.  You can only cling along the surface within a very limited window and if that happens, it will be something superficial and effectively uneventful❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  In a nutshell, even before one reaches that final turn towards REWIREMENT, we need to start [by then] start exploring WHAT will be our PURPOSE in that next phase.  Missing out that crucial step will be a major miss.  Problem is we've seen many WHO didn't have that crystal-clear clarity of their next PURPOSE in that REWIREMENT phase.  YES dude, each us need to draft our own PLAYBOOK NOT as a post-mortem BUT way prior💥💥💥

Is Boredom Bad?

Is Boredom Bad?

HOW's BOREDOM defined?  It is that persistent itch you CAN'T quite scratch, that nagging lull that feels more like a gray cloud hanging over your head.  BUT, Is Boredom Bad?  OR taboo?  YES it is that effortless and easy to dismiss BOREDOM as just another way to manifest our waste of time.  that state of being to be avoided at all costs.  BUT WHAT if we're told that BOREDOM ISN'T just a necessary evil BUT that it's a potential 'gateway' to something better???

WHY DON'T we dive in, into this discourse.  Let's face it, in our ever hyper-connected world today, being BORED is almost taboo.  We're constantly fed a stream of content, entertainment and stimulation.  TRUE.  HOW can you blurt out you're BORED WHEN there's social media, there's Netflix, those endless news feeds.  In fact, every second, there's always something to distract us.  BUT seriously, this constant barrage can be damn exhausting, leaving us very little room for one important, WHICH is, managing our own thoughts💜💛💚

DON'T we realize it that WHEN we're BORED, our mind is free to wander?  And it is in those moments of wandering that some of our most creative can indeed emerge.  Think about it.  WHEN we're in the shower, OR on those long drives out-of-town with NO particular destination, HOW often do you find yourself coming up with solutions to problems OR even new concocted ideas for a new initiative OR project???

YES YES yow, dude, that's the beauty of BOREDOM as it forces us to tap into our inner creativity and imagination.  BOREDOM also encourages us to try new things.  WHEN you've scrolled through every possible mobile or social app on your phone and watched every show on your list, WHAT's left for you?  YES, you might pick up a book that's been gathering dust on your shelf OR finally you start that DIY project you've been putting off for quite sometime.  YES, BOREDOM can push us out of our comfort zones and into new, sometimes surprising activities [that for sometime were that unthinkable to begin with].  Moreover, BOREDOM can be a signal that something in our life needs change!!!

Our takeaway:  Instead of seeing BOREDOM as our foe and enemy, can we consider it a helpful hint from our subconscious, telling us to SHAKE THINGS UP, to seek out new experiences and challenges.  And let's NOT forget about our mental health benefits.  In this world WHERE we're constantly on the go, taking a moment to be bored can actually be a form of self-care as that allows us to slow down, to disconnect and give our brains that much-needed and much-deserved break.  IS BOREDOM BAD?  Nope!!!

It's A Matter Of 'OPTICS'

It's A Matter Of 'OPTICS'

To quote American writer and poet Edgar Allan Poe, ALL THAT WE SEE OR SEEM IS BUT A DREAM WITHIN A DREAM.   And I CAN'T agree less because probably a big chunk of WHAT you have seen in life may be no less than a figment of one's imagination.  To piggy-back into neuroscience, scientists have proven over time that our sensory experience is constructed entirely by our brains, and by the same parts concerned with dreams, hallucinations and even memory failure.  So, the biggest question is, HOW MUCH OF WHAT WE SEE IS REAL?  YES dude,  It's A Matter Of 'OPTICS'📘📙📗

To quote the experts and SMEs, our brain paints a picture of the world around us with incomplete information, and it does so without us noticing.  They claim that our brain uses prior knowledge and assumptions to construct a logical piece and finish that 'JIGSAW PUZZLE' of sight.  And that seemingly remarkable process does help us see without staring at our noses all day, and covers up gaps of our visions like that famous 'BLIND SPOT' WHERE the optic nerve blocks the retina of our eye.  Quite interestingly, if it WEREN'T for the brain fixing images on the go, we would see the entire world upside down.  Ouch💥💥💥

Surprisingly, WHAT lures me into these insights is the fact that apparently, our brain turns images 'RIGHT SIDE UP' while simultaneously performing thousands of other functions like keeping us all alive and making sure we DON'T forget WHERE to retrieve our car keys, whew!  BUT historically, through the centuries, historians have documented the discovery of a few glitches WHERE the almost perfect functioning of our senses suddenly go awry.  Oh Oh Oh📌📌📌

And a quick litmus test to see one of these confirmed glitches is an OPTICAL ILLUSION in WHICH our brains misinterpret a picture based on informational clues in it.  Hearing the technical explanation of neuroscientists, they claim that OPTICAL ILLUSIONS operate on cues that our brains pick up from visuals and form assumptions around it.  The odd and exciting quality of illusions, though, is that even if we are aware that WHAT our brain is perceiving may be false after all, we still tend to see it that way anyway.  For better OR worse, there are indeed certain ways that we see the universe that we simply CAN'T influence OR correct❗❗❗

Our takeaway:  WHILE we do recognize ILLUSIONS WHEN presented to us, truth of the matter, we experience one too many ILLUSIONS in life that we tend to take it for granted  Oh, have we ever wondered WHY artwork of still life looks like an actual still life?  So, could we manipulate the world around us for our own benefit?  YES, artists and designers have perfected that craft.  So, IS ANYTHING YOU SEE REAL IF IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD?  Think about it, let's accept the fact that in life, IT'S ALL A MATTER OF OPTICS😌😌😌

[ALERT For Android Phones] "THIS MALWARE ADDS A 'TRUSTED' CONTACT TO YOUR ANDROID PHONE"

 

Reposting EN TOTO from lifehacker.com datelined 06.04.2025 [from Emily Long]:  "THIS MALWARE ADDS A 'TRUSTED' CONTACT TO YOUR ANDROID PHONE".  As scam detection features for calls and texts get more sophisticated, so too do the threats designed to evade such measures. Right now, Android users are being targeted with malware that can create fake contacts on your device, so calls and texts from threat actors appear under a trustworthy name rather than an unfamiliar number, making you more likely to fall for them.  The Crocodilus malware, first identified by fraud prevention firm Threat Fabric earlier this year, is a device takeover Trojan initially deployed to trick users into giving up crypto wallet seed phrases under the guise of needing to back up their keys

Once downloaded—such as via a malicious ad, smishing campaign, or third-party app—the malware was able to evade Play Protect on Android 13 (and later) and gain access to Accessibility Service, ultimately logging and harvesting typed account credentials. As a result, threat actors could gain control of and empty victims' crypto wallets.  The latest iteration of the program has evolved to deploy a command that adds contacts to a device locally. If an attacker calls, they'll appear in caller ID under a seemingly legitimate name, such as "Bank Support," making targets more likely to answer and trust the contact. As Bleeping Computer reports, the fake contact isn't connected to your Google account, so it'll show up only on the compromised device, not any others you've logged into

WHAT ANDROID USERS need to do?  At first, Crocodilus campaigns were limited to a few countries, but the malware has now spread around the world, including to the U.S. To avoid infecting your Android device, stick to Google Play for downloading trusted apps and software, and keep Play Protect active to catch as many threats as possible

FAKE CONTACTs.  A notable feature in the latest Crocodilus malware version is the ability to add fake contacts on the victim's device. Doing so would cause the device to display the name listed in a caller's contact profile rather than the caller ID when receiving an incoming call. This could allow the threat actors to impersonate trusted banks, companies, or even friends and family members, making the calls appear more trustworthy

Crocodilus can variously manipulate text messages, e.g., set itself as the default SMS manager, send SMS to a specific number or to all contacts (options to send just a single message or large numbers), and acquire SMS contents.  The trojan's text message abilities allow it to be used as Toll Fraud malware; however, it has not been employed in this capacity as of the time of writing. Since this program can send SMSes in bulk, it could be utilized to send spam or even self-proliferate through lures sent in text messages.  Our FIX:  Please run SCAN ASAP on your Android device

Are You Missing The 'MACRO'?

Are You Missing The 'MACRO'?

Are You Missing The 'MACRO'? For simplicity, let us get aligned as to WHAT we're referring to with that 'MACRO' because we're referring to that 'BIG PICTURE' in our life, NOT a fraction, NOT a fragment, and NOT even a pigment of our imagination.  True, sometimes we need to get down into the nitty-gritty of a specific task, while other times, you need to see the BIGGER PICTURE from start to finish.  Absolutely true, with the right kind of strategic thinking, you can stay motivated in the short-term by keeping long-term, BIG PICTURE goals in mind📗📙📘

Truth be told, one of our most unseen human frailty is to keep focusing on the smudges.  Given a clean white paper, we WON'T hear one recognizing it's whiteness BUT instead, that one single obscure tiny-whiny dot gets noticed.  And WHILE that minor observation may be legitimate, that is just another fraction of that MACRO thing, the BIGGER PICTURE.  LIKE when you arrive home for dinner and on your first taste of the home-cooked dish, you'll blurt that it's either bland, salty OR bluntly, quite tasteless💦💦💦

So, WHAT is that BIG-PICTURE thinking we are encouraged to get embedded within ourselves?  That BIG-PICTURE thinking is that ability to take a wide-angle view of any situation OR initiative.  Rather than getting into the weeds, as is the case with more detail-oriented thinking, we focus instead on imagining the more far-reaching implications of a project.  In the very short-term, BIG-PICTURE thinking helps you see the end goal even as you chip away at individual tasks one day at a time💚💛💜

In the long-run, it helps that we follow through on distinct initiatives in the interest of a broader goal.  YES, seeing things from start to finish can be very helpful.  That is the simple explanation as to why, NOT to be biased to project managers, it explains WHY they are generally successful.  True, some people get so bogged down in the minutae of completing everyday tasks they lose sight of HOW to best reach their end goals.  BIG-PICTURE thinkers realize they'll come up short on individual ways BUT they temper knowledge of their failures with the confidence their mistakes will empower them in the long run💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Let us NOT compartmentalize things in life.  And if seem to be living in a silo, extricate yourself out from it because that is a 'ticking time bomb' that will blow you up and out anytime you least expect it.  Instead, never miss out to take the MACRO view, that BIG-PICTURE thinking and then dice-and-drill it because you need such nitty-gritty despite getting glued with the MACROs in life, WHICH you shouldn't miss dude❗❗❗

The Game ISN'T Over Till The Clock Says ZERO

 

Quoting retired NBA Boston Celtics player Paul Pierce:  THE GAME ISN'T OVER TILL THE CLOCK SAYS ZERO.  Well said and that is NOT even debatable for another millisecond.  In the ongoing NBA Finals Game 1, the Indiana Pacers DIDN'T lead for 47 minutes and 59.7 seconds NOT until there was 0.3 seconds left in the game clock when Tyrese Haliburton unleased a mid-jumper that went straight to the cup, whooooaaa, silencing the hostile crowd @ Paycom Center Arena @Oklahoma City!!!

That's exactly HOW it is in life.  For example, if you got entangled in a major property mortgage and suddenly you're out of job.  And there you are, confronted with that huge mortgage liability.  WHAT NEXT?  Do you simply give things up, throwing things up in the air?  NO sirrrrrs.  Instead, you got to go to your mortgagee company and propose a counter-measure to either restructure your mortgage OR explore the feasibility of another counter-measure with the intention of you NOT GIVING UP THE GAME TILL THE CLOCK SAYS ZERO [and it becomes GAME OVER]💥💥💥

This is WHY we play the games, as the old adage goes.  In recent years, the later rounds of the NBA Playoffs [and even the Finals in particular] have somewhat felt rote.  They've gone chalk, so to speak.  The drama was kinda minimal even under the brightest lights of the league's biggest stage.  And this year has been NO different.  A  Playoffs phase filled with suspense, tension and plot twists galore.  BUT at the start of the NBA Finals, the scene was set for a regression to the intrigue-less mean.  BTW, almost every single basketball pundit has NOT picked the Indiana Pacers to win BUT here they are, flipping Game 1💦💦💦

BUT if there's one thing we shouldn't gloss over, it is the fact that TIME NEVER RESETS BACK TO ZERO.  True, the game clock resets BUT the time we live through life NEVER resets.  Instead, just like that old locomotive, it will continue to chug chug chug along the rails.  Lesson here is, let us invest in time for things and activities that matter.  So, WHAT is the one good and necessary thing we have always wanted to do and have NOT done yet?  We better figure things out before the game gets over with ZERO time left for us to continue going through [and NOT just going through the motions BUT endeavoring to achieve what we plotted to achieve] within the timeframe we have preset for us to achieve💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  HOW time flies.  BUT even if it seems like time is fast fleeting and you seem to be far behind and simply 'eating the dust', the game ISN'T OVER till IT'S OVER.  As some of us end up facing the more serious challenges in life [like a family member seriously ill and never progressing to recover OR your finances going from bad to worse to worst], plot a 'GO TO GREEN' plan for you to GO BACK TO GREEN😌😌😌

How's Your Life's BUCKET LIST?

How's Your Life's BUCKET LIST?

NOT to pressure you.  BTW, How's Your Life's BUCKET LIST?  YES YES yow, life is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest and crafting our own BUCKET LIST of our 'biggest' aspirations can arguably help you achieve those dreams in your life.  To borrow a simple translation [from the jargons of psychologists], creating a BUCKET LIST can be viewed as another way of setting your goals for your own self.  Countless researches show that people WHO are that intentional about writing down goals are MORE LIKELY to reach and achieve their goals.  YES, a BUCKET LIST can help you to remain laser-focused and goal-oriented and even excited to engage in new initiatives and positively impacting adventures in life.  Personally, I'll admit that I can guarantee you having that feeling personal satisfaction to complete [and achieve] an item in your own TO-DO List.  You can just imagine how great a feeling it will be WHEN and IF you achieve your lifelong dreams📗📙📘

YES dude, trust me, crossing things off your BUCKET LIST can provide a sense of accomplishment and pride and that's WHAT psychologists claim will ultimately help build your own self-esteem and confidence.  True, you never know WHEN your own BUCKET LIST experience might come in handy [WHETHER you're learning a new skill, language OR life lesson].  Oh yes, as icing on your cake, do remember that a BUCKET LIST is also a way for you to reward [and even] celebrate yourself.  NOW here's the thing.  A BUCKET LIST is NEVER carved in stone.  NOT at all.  If you find that some [and sometimes many] of your goals from previous years DON'T fit your current aspirations, there should be NO shame OR hindrance for you to tweak and correspondingly adjust your BUCKET LIST💥💥💥

On the other hand, being very incisive [call it 'CHOOSY'] with your BUCKET LIST will absolutely help you reinforce your focus on your bigger and more important goals.  Remember that it's ONLY you and yourself WHO will be crafting that BUCKET LIST so if there's any validation, it should come from you.  And human nature tells us that sometimes, we DON'T see [outright] even our most obvious misses OR mistakes.  So, do create that elbow room for your flexibility to either add, change OR delete a previously listed item in your BUCKET LIST.  BTW, this has got nothing to do with age brackets.  You can be 15 OR 65 today BUT keeping that BUCKET LIST will make sure that there's always that exciting escapade on your horizon😌😌😌

NOT to pre-empt you, some novel ideas for one's BUCKET LIST can include any of the following:

• Visiting your 'dream destination'?
• Learning a new skill?  Like painting?
• As a breakthrough, have something published  
• HOW about volunteering for a cause you're passionate for you to feel you make a difference
• See your fav singer/band.  YES, concert tickets are pricey BUT you deserve that treat, right?

Our takeaway:  WHILE it's true we are all focused with our goals in life, that's NOT everything we deserve in life.  It's MORE than just achieving your goals.  It could even be hying off for that envied holiday in Bali OR Maldives [as you deserve that kind of respite after grinding hard and kicking your ass day-in day-out.  If someone [falsely] accuses you of self-aggrandizement, IGNORE THE NOISE because you know best WHAT you deserve.  So, HOW'S YOUR BUCKET LIST in life dude???

You CAN'T Be Everyone's CUP OF TEA [And That's A-OK!!!]

You CAN'T Be Everyone's CUP OF TEA [And That's A-OK!!!]

You CAN'T Be Everyone's CUP OF TEA [And That's A-OK!!!].  BUT to think about it, you DON'T even like everyone to begin with.  And you CAN'T make everyone think and feel as deeply as you do.  That is indeed a human tragedy because we understand ourselves at the depths. Quick question.  Have you ever been selfless just for others' sake?  You might NOT be fully conscious about it BUT WHO knows, you might be a 'people pleaser'?  Prioritizing others' happiness over your own, fearing rejection and even hate and constantly struggling to even say NO.  You may even be constantly needing to be available for everyone.  In the past, I tried to make myself useful so that people WON'T reject OR replace me so easily.  I even tried to learn many things so that I could always be there for them.  YET, I failed to value myself since the world previously taught me that I'm ONLY valued if I had something to give📗📙📘

NOW, here's the kind of harsh truth.  NOT everyone will do the same for you regardless if you go beyond your own limits.  Some people will only remember you WHEN it's convenient and once they've taken WHAT they want OR WHAT they needed from you, they'll literally disappear without a second thought.  Sounds familiar?  They WON'T even care about the way you did care about them.  See HOW one's memory becomes that short with a limiting factor?  YES, I have to admit, at some point in the past, I realized I was getting exhausted from being a 'people pleaser'.  That idea of being liked by everyone is indeed a fantasy that belongs in fiction, NOT reality💥💥💥

YES, after so much ordeal, I have accepted that I'll never be everyone's CUP OF TEA.  I'll NOT be always qualified in someone's eyes, in someone's standards.  NOT everyone will like me BUT I still hope to find and come across true and genuine people.  And to be honest, there are one too many of them.  Challenge is, you just need to identify them from that huge mammoth crowd.  They are the ones WHO will support me and be by my side even through my most difficult ordeals.  YES, I was getting by, learning a hell lot and establishing my boundaries even though it's difficult. And I did learn to filter WHO has access to me and my own inner peace😌😌😌

YES, through the years, I kept pushing forward, even on days that were quite difficult to continue because it hurts.  YES, sometimes it can feel quite incredibly unfair BUT I did realize that we CAN'T force others to understand OR love us as we wish!@#$%?  Mixing empathy with people-pleasing can lead us to that deep disappointment and even pain within us.  That's WHY it is really imperative NOT to take on others' energies constantly.  Because sometimes, just observing is enough.  YES, you may find the courage to detach from situations and people WHO DON'T serve you right anymore [BUT that's another narrative]❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  Be WHAT you are.  Meet your own expectations and goals and be wary and cautious NOT to [falsely] raise expectations of others because that is a common issue WHEN people either start to frown on you OR worse, they start looking down on you.  Everything boils down to being true and genuine in our daily lives.  Never ever come up with a false facade, even if sometimes that is unintentional because intentional OR not, people will NO doubt make their [INSTANT] judgment call on you.  YES dude, YOU CAN'T BE EVERYONE's CUP OF TEA [and hey THAT's A-OK]!!!