Understand How The UNDERBELLY Works
How often have we seen these days when corporate executives are enjoying the comforts of their swivel chair while they signoff this and that document? Yes it is still happening but comparatively, that has drastically gone down by approximately 90%. WHY? Because these days, we need to Understand How The UNDERBELLY WorksπππNo one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Saturday, October 7, 2023
Understand How The UNDERBELLY Works
Crabs Dragging You Back
Crabs Dragging You Back
Friday, October 6, 2023
Don't Keep Things 'BOTTLED UP' !
Don't Keep Things 'BOTTLED UP' !
No sirrrrs, our thread today is NOT about booze, drinks and wine. It's this problem that is NOT seen or felt much on the surface simply because Things seem to be 'BOTTLED UP' ! And we're referring to the intangibles, our EMOTIONS, our FEELINGS and no more than that. So you might wander why this serves a space in our thread today? Precisely, it's because this dilemma is prevalent amongst us BUT if it NOT easily felt, it's simply because the fact is, it really seems Things are 'BOTTLED UP' ! Obviously, when Things are 'BOTTLED UP', even we ourselves would suddenly become oblivious, if at all, when Things seem to be 'BOTTLED UP' ❗❗❗So, what really happens when we BOTTLED UP our feelings? Hmmm, we all must learn how to express our emotions in a healthy way. And the very first step is having that AWARENESS or knowing the signs that you're indeed BOTTLING UP your emotions and understanding the repercussions if that miscue continues. So, let's assess that situation when we BOTTLED UP. Likely, that's when we either feel worried or anxious all the time. And if you choose NOT to deal with your feelings, those BOTTLED UP emotions will likely start to creep out of nowhereπππLet's take a real-life experience IF/WHEN you face financial woes. Once you OPEN UP with your spouse/partner, trust me, you will feel better. WHY? Because you will receive the support you need, and your partner/spouse can even help in your budgeting and that happens by NOT BOTTLING UP. Too bad some of us would resort to some unhealthy coping mechanisms when there is just one too many emotions to mask. Other people will drink all night to forget their problems. While a more extreme action is when some would do resort to substance abuse [simply to have that euphoric feeling]πππOthers take the worse path by expressing their negative emotions in an unhealthy way by lashing out at their loved ones. Some even harm themselves or contemplate on suicidal thoughts when too much emotions CAN'T be handled anymore. These unhealthy coping mechanisms will NOT do you any good as they are all self-destructive behaviors that ironically will HARM you and HURT those who care for you. BUT we can avoid all that if we let all our emotions OUT in a healthy way✅✅✅
Thursday, October 5, 2023
Is Time Our 'ALLY'?
Is Time Our 'ALLY'?
Is Time Our 'ALLY'? Let's face it. Our societies, regardless of culture, all promote for us all to be busy at all times and at all costs. As a result, it seems that we all end up always rushing. But before we deep-dive in this thread, let's face the fact that TIME can be our ALLY or our NEMESIS depending on the circumstances at hand. Time being our ALLY should not be a hard-sell because TIME as our resource makes them as our best ALLY we can ask forπππOh, we all learn that we learn early on in our life that we better be ON TIME for things or bad stuff may happen. Be late to turn-in your papers and your grade may end up potentially lower. Be late to pay your bills and you may end up stuck with penalties and surcharges. Be late to finish your work and at worst, we might end up out of job. As a result, many people conclude that TIME is our NEMESIS. THAT it must be battled and beaten⏳⏳⏳NOT being akin to turtles, we all agree that prevailing and winning over TIME can never be permanent. WHY? Because the clock gets RESET either tomorrow, the next week, the next month or in that next cycle. How often have we heard "LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO HOLD ON TO REGRET" or LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WORK ON A JOB YOU DISLIKE" or "LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE ON HOLIDAYS WITH MY FAMILY"πππAphorisms like all these tend to imply that TIME is our NEMESIS !@#$% But should we agree that TIME is NOT the reason why we ought to to give up regret or to 'UP' our game? Even the shortness of life is NOT the reason. There is an assumption going on that the entirety misses where the real problem lies. Obviously, a short life and limited TIME would be a blessing❗❗❗But when we approach our problems and challenges at hand from this standpoint, TIME becomes NOT only 'NOT OUR NEMESIS' but TIME can become our ALLY. When we have that habit that needs fixing, imagine how our life would be if we delayed action to fix it? So, let's be TIME-conscious every step of our way because in an instant, TIME can turn from our ALLY to our NEMESIS✅✅✅
Don't Make Your FIRST TIME The LAST TIME
Don't Make Your FIRST TIME The LAST TIME
Finding or sometimes being given an opportunity is NEVER a monopoly of the chosen few. We all have had our fair share of opportunities. Whether it's about our family and relationships, OR in school, OR at the job market OR even in the commercial space. So, our thread today is figuring out if we should reinforce this 'unpublished' mantra for everyone's consideration, that is, Don't Make Your FIRST TIME The LAST TIME✅✅✅I remember those years I was enjoying my work life @ Shell Oil until I was given an all-expense paid roundtrip to the location hosting one of the biggest pineapple plantations in Southeast Asia. The rest is moot and academic because I then 'jumped ship' coming from a European MNC to a U.S. Fortune 500. Thing is, I made sure that FIRST TIME opportunity won't be the LAST TIME❗❗❗
When I took a 'HIGH RISK' step many years ago of exploring my opportunities out there in Singapore, I admit I accepted each email and call I received. And I accommodated EACH request to meet me up. After those flurry of face-to-face appointments, myself as a PRODUCT I was marketing, I had as much choice/options as much as my prospective employers were having. It was a WIN-WIN thing, just so I made sure the FIRST TIME someone reaches out to me, it won't be the LAST TIMEπππ
Wednesday, October 4, 2023
That Cycle To LEARN-DO-REPEAT
That Cycle To LEARN-DO-REPEAT
Isn't this so elementary, so basic for us to talk about That Cycle To LEARN-DO-REPEAT? Yes supposedly we should NOT be wasting our precious time for this kind of thread BUT are we aware that this is a problem lying beneath all that is obvious, all that is seen, all that is heard? Because ALMOST all of us, and that includes me until recently, [wrongly] thought that all these are no-brainers, that although when compartmentalized, to LEARN, to DO and to REPEAT all are seemingly straightforward but what is overlooked is that all these are intertwined❗❗❗
What is equally overlooked is that learning is NOT only a lifelong process BUT surprisingly, it runs through courses of ZIGZAGs that will make one dizzy at the very least. And as we are all aware of JIGSAW PUZZLES, they are no different from all the ZIGZAGs which do feature TRAPS, most of which are dead-ends and some are FATAL dead-ends. Point here is that life is NEVER that straightforward, NEVER linear even in the best scenario❎❎❎So what is/are our shortfalls[s]? Here's the truth. SOME of us are so focused in LEARNING & LEARNING [and they expect a 'BIG BANG' once they complete all their LEARNINGS? Some of us are doggedly DOERs, the hands-on types, which by itself, is laudable BUT after they stumble. they go and plunge back to RE-DO and RE-DO [missing out to LEARN & REFRESH]πππAnd here's a quite funny thing. Despite all the leaps in technologies, why on Earth did the brightest gurus realized that there is a need to have a REFRESH button? Simple. Much as we humans need to REFRESH our learnings from time to time, even technology needs that REFRESH button. At work, REFRESHER TRAININGS are embedded in our normal practices simply as an appreciation and recognition that everyone needs a REFRESHER LEARNING regardless of his level of knowledge over time. So, let;s NOT debate on our need to REFRESHπππOh, this is another pitfall most of us have had. Once we commit lapses, we kept REPEATING, REPEATING and REPEATING over and over again. When we should reassess things, identify the root cause[s] of our shortfalls, rectify it before you go to REPEAT and REPEAT. One last plea. Let us consistently embrace this LEARN-DO-REPEAT Cycle over and over again because no other practice beats thisπππ
Don't Be Presumptuous
Don't Be Presumptuous
Allow me to borrow this post by Ghost Girl @ Quora.com last August 1st. A blonde walks into the police department looking for a job and the officer starts to test her. OFFICER: What's 2+2? In a blink, the blonde blurts '4'! OFFICER: What's the square root of 100? In a second, blonde says '10'! Then, OFFICER asks: WHO KILLED ABRAHAM LINCOLN? Blonde says 'I DUNNO'. OFFICER then says: WELL YOU CAN GO HOME, THINK ABOUT IT, COME BACK TOMORROW'. The blonde goes home and calls up one of her BFFs who asked her if she got the job? Blonde proudly proclaims: I'M ALREADY WORKING ON A MURDER CASE ! Oh my, Don't Be Presumptuousπππ
Indeed, PRESUMPTION is so powerful and for the most part, unchallenged. Let's look back, all those public declarations of LOVE, the suitor WHO makes his marriage proposal atop the peak of the mountain, OR that one who announces in primetime TV or at a bigtime sporting event his declarations of LOVE. These are all public spectacles based on the PRESUMPTION that everyone else should be as excited, happy and agog as you are about to push your romantic life to the next level✅✅✅Much as we DON'T begrudge people who prefer to profess their joyfulness with all that aplomb, I personally do begrudge them for their PRESUMPTION that their values are also mine, something that is NOT shared by default though. Some examples of PRESUMPTUOUSNESS may be minor or small ones but they add up. But without sounding that critical, I was wondering if we manifest things more consistently acrossπππLike, if we were going to cheer for one persons anticipation of wedlock, WHY can't we applaud that other person who just bought her/his first home? OR the person who is taking care of his aging parent while multi-tasking at work? The latter example may sound strange BUT isn't that exactly a more noble commitment than that promise to marry? All things being equal, it still makes a lot of sense for us NOT to be PRESUMPTUOUS in life because given all the probabilities in life, nothing is really cast in stoneπππNow, who says to be PRESUMPTUOUS is much more a serious than mistakes that happen innocently? Discussed profoundly, PRESUMPTUOUSNESS may likely lead to a strife but again, wisdom belongs to those who seek advice. When it becomes so obvious that we have acted PRESUMOPTUOUSLY, we may end up embarrassed. humiliated OR even worst. Factually speaking, studies have shown that PRESUMPTUOUS acts frequently DON'T TURN OUT WELL. So, here's hoping it is NOT a hard-sell for us to encourage everyone NOT to be PRESUMPTUOUS, else we might end up TOAST❗❗❗
Tuesday, October 3, 2023
Treading on Eggshells?
Treading on Eggshells?
Theoretically, this is hogwash. No such thing as us Treading on Eggshells but in real life, YES we do and we are Treading on Eggshells. What this exactly refers to are circumstances or situations where you need to literally TREAD so cautiously, so carefully, so lightly so as NOT to 'ruffle feathers', hurt some 'sensitive nerves' or strain a relationship that is teetering and on the brink of weakening or even totally breaking up❗❗❗As much as no one calls them 'EGGSHELL relationships', that is what they turn into. Relationships where you have to tread lightly. Imagine each day when you wake up, you are figuratively having to walk on EGGSHELLS because your partner/spouse behaves or acts all too frequently with a 'constellation of traits' that seem toxic as a whole❎❎❎And when someone seems to be so TOXIC that you have to be ever careful around them, lest they lash out at you, that is a situation that needs to be reassessed because those bellwether signs all point to emotional instability. And when we bear witness to these situations, it does give us an insight as regards those suffering with such behaviors. True, one word or one behavior does NOT make for a TOXIC personality. BUT what if such exceptions recur over time❓❓❓BITTER, CLINGY, CONTROLLING, DENIGRATING, HYSTERICAL, IRRITABLE, MASOCHISTIC, NASTY, RESENTFUL, SUFFOCATING, TORNADO, UNFORGIVING, VIOLENT. We can go on and on but these behavioral symptoms hardly scratch the surface. Yet if you are going through any of these, indeed you're TREADING ON EGGSHELLSπππWhile all of the above behaviors is NOT a part of a 'DIAGNOSTIC TOOL', if someone is manifesting a combination of this sampling of traits, very very likely we are looking at someone who is emotionally unstable and THEY NEED HELP. And this when and where we can pull a 'positive spin', counsel and talk to that person we're concerned, enlightening him/her that a turnaround in his/her behavior would mutually do wonders and avoid a situation to spin from bad to worse. We just DON'T want you to be TREADNG ON EGGSHELLSπππ
Progressing Versus Regressing
Progressing Versus Regressing
Progressing Versus Regressing, such a boring thread to eat up our time? No sir, as much as PROGRESSING and REGRESSING are poles apart, there a huge gap between them because it seems almost everyone of us is constantly sharply aware of PROGRESSING but REGRESSING? Who cares anyway.PROGRESSING? Everyone is too quick and precise when things are PROGRESSING? When our school grades are going up, when our salary is creeping up, when our customer commendations are becoming more and more, when [finally] successfully settle down to start off our family, when we finally have our first car, albeit a second hand one, when we finally have a home we can call our own because we finally got our own property, albeit mortgagedπππBTW, when we're just novices and raw straight from school, progressing seems more apparent [and we LOVE it]. You didn't even need to track it because it would seem Lady Luck is on your side, where successes come with less effort, where successes seems a foregone thing to happen. NOT until once we do begin to stumble down⏳⏳⏳
Monday, October 2, 2023
When Was The Last Time You BROKE NEW GROUND?
When Was The Last Time You BROKE NEW GROUND?
When Was The Last Time You BROKE NEW GROUND? Seriously, this is NOT an inquisition. Neither is this a demand. BUT in life, we all agree that after you have reached your PIT STOP and achieved on a milestone, you deserve a RESPITE, a BREAK and more than that, you deserve that 'MINI' milestone celebratory pause from your normal frenetic pace. I patted many folks on their back for their various achievements within a milestone. And we understand that no matter how minor or negligible a milestone achievement may be, we do deserve that celebratory pause. I myself i did WALK THE TALK since time immemorial till to date. I never look the other way around whenever I had a milestone achievementπππ
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