Tidy Up OR The Mess Will Get Messier
Life is all a matter of choices and at any given time, we could end up with situations either in a mess or at the very least, not so tidy enough. And that's fine as long as we have our buy-in that the next decision point is to Tidy Up OR The Mess Will Get Messier. But a devil's advocate can argue, WHY NOT LET THE MESS DIE A NATURAL DEATH. Good grief. Too bad though, any mess in life never dies a natural death but instead, the ugly head of the snake might even spring out of it and before you know it, you have a situation that is not only unmanageable but worse, one that may be unresolvable.Do an apples-to-apples comparison. Isn't there a huge difference between a BEFORE and the AFTER if ever a mess did gets put back in order? And take a contrarian view. WHAT IF you didn't lift a finger? Do you think the status quo would remain AS IS? Oh, DON'T buy that fallacy at all.So, what's really the QUICK FIX? Dude, this is all a D-I-Y thing. Clean up your own mess but how? First off, atone to it, accept it, own it. From there, plot your action plan how to attack that mess. And if we're referring to a messy relationship, that's a steep mountain to climb up and overcome. Bottom line, is NEVER turn around and look the other way because you're DIGGING YOUR OWN GRAVE for that. You got to pull the bull by its horn no less.BTW, if children can clean-up their own mess, why can't we? Frankly though, taking the first step is the hardest part because you got to halt that momentum of your skid and turn it around in one hundred eighty degrees. And that is huge turnaround! So how? Simplify a complex and tricky situation. First things first. Go for the low-hanging fruits. Don't cherry pick though. Take as you pick. Take that need to fix a relationship, that could be akin to a TUG of WAR because likely, two protagonists will hold their ground and wpn't cede an inch, whatever happens.And when protagonists reach an impasse, there will be NO QUARTERS given or taken. Each one will dig up their heels in their respective trenches. Oh, sorry about that. That reminds me when I witnessed relationships eventually floundered because neither party would want to cede or give up an inch. Why? More often, the ugly head of PRIDE creeps in and everything just crumbles down. So, let's put back SANITY in the rightful place and let us be fair and just if we have that good faith and resolve to really TIDY UP THINGS or the MESS GETS MESSIER❗❗❗No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Friday, June 24, 2022
Thursday, June 23, 2022
Seize the Moment [Carpe Diem]
Seize the Moment [Carpe Diem]
Throughout our lives, we all go through zillions of moments, peaks and valleys, troughs and and trenches but what most of us tend to miss is that opportunity to Seize the Moment a.k.a. Carpe Diem. This may be quite convoluted because there are moments in our life which we'd rather forget and obliterate from our memories and that's understandable. But how about all other moments which we could have Seized the Moment and end up on the uptick.Wednesday, June 22, 2022
Know the PRICE POINT
Know the PRICE POINT
Oh, today's piece is not a commercial doc. You could be a student now or simply a partner of your spouse. Nevertheless, you cannot be bailed out from Knowing your PRICE POINT because each of us does command a PRICE but the bigger question where all the interested parties will be likely begging to hear and know is that what is your PRICE POINT. Unfortunately, everything has a PRICE POINT.
And the variable that is always pegged to one's PRICE POINT is your very own VALUE as a product. So, where's the beef? For you to have a good and reasonable PRICE POINT, your VALUE will need to be figured out. And how will you be assessed? Like it or not, you will BENCHMARKED with today's market. How good are you in your craft, how efficient are you, how good is your quality, among others.Tuesday, June 21, 2022
Are You Cooked and Burned?
Are You Cooked and Burned?
Nope, today's thread is NOT about culinary arts. But instead, we'd like to peek into our lives and ask ourselves if we are Cooked and Burned as we speak now? Frankly in life, we do NOT expect to be that Cooked and Burned so soon in life because even our normal trajectories normally shapes up in a gradual, managed approach. But if you got Cooked and Burned so soon in life, we got to figure out why this early, you really got Cooked and Burned because that's alarming So, what does being Cooked and Burned really mean? Frankly, if you're in a workplace, that could imply that you're feeling BURNT OUT. It's like your energy is spent, your drive is drained. That's when you feel zapped. But the bigger question stomping right in our face is as to what and why it took that fast for you get drained, spent and zapped? Is/Was it your lifestyle? Your discipline in life? Or how purposeful your life was?If there's a word we need to attack now, it is 'BURNOUT' because whether you're still in the academe or now in the workplace, you might get caught with 'BURNOUT' much sooner. Why? Could it be discontentment either with your academic nentors in school? Or your bosses at the workplace? Or it could be a rough-and-tumble relationship that has been rocking wildly till you got thrown off?Monday, June 20, 2022
Go Beyond Being Cynical
Go Beyond Being Cynical
Please allow me to day-dream now, albeit in a fleeting way. I closed my eyes and I ask myself how often have I been cynical in life. And regardless if it is often or rarely, it's worth asking why can't we Go Beyond Being Cynical? Definitely, this could open up the floodgates for a debate whether it's worth our time today to discuss being cynical. But let me be frank enough on this. Cynicism impacts our life.The worst thing about the constant barrage of negative voices is that they snuff out HOPE. And you never get to a better future without HOPE. So how do we handle the cynics? First off, trace back the SOURCE. Drill down further and you might discover that in their personal livs, they've rarely attempted anything. Lesson here: NEVER TRUST those who have opinions on everything and even attempt nothing with their own life. BTW, cynicism is NOT a spiritual gift. HOLD ON though. NOT all negative opinions are bad opinions. Sometimes, what you're saying or doing needs correction in whole or in part. And I learned in life that the best critiques come from people who are attempting to do something significant with their lives. So, please let us GO BEYOND BEING CYNICAL📌📌📌
Sunday, June 19, 2022
Cover Your Tracks
Cover Your Tracks
Good morning and HAPPY SUNDAY. Oh, did it ever cross your mind that you need to Cover Your Tracks? Nemind. Let's just agree to this basic ground rule that while being an 'OPEN BOOK' seems to be ideal, life ISN'T all about being an 'OPEN BOOK' because reality is, it is imperative to Cover Your Tracks when needed. In any facet of your daily life, a modicum of prudence and privacy dictates upon us to take those proactive measures. Even at the workplace where you are fully aware of what/where are the 'CHINKS IN YOUR ARMOUR' so you would come up with a remediation plan to resolve those 'chinks' because no way should you be 'EXPOSED'BTW, this ground rule is equally imperative in our digital activities. That explains why browsers and apps would always give you an option to CLEAR HISTORY because simply put, you need to Cover Your Tracks. Leave that OPEN and UNATTENDED. Voila, you will be EXPOSED [you DON'T want that]Even in your best plans with the best intentions, you want to keep things under wraps because by doing so, it gives you that motivation to push yourself to go for results and that's by way of covering your tracks.Not to impute that there are people around/near you with ill intentions but that's the harsh reality we need to face especially when we're dealing with strangers. So you don't spill out details of your financials, be it your savings or liabilities. And in the workplace, by being aware of your weaknesses at work and working to fix it all, until then, you continue to cover your tracks.
So as I won't be misconstrued of ramming this through your throat, we fervently hope that we're all aligned with the given that life is all about repeated 'BALANCING ACTS' when you need to weigh when to be COVERT versus OVERT as either option has its UPsides and DOWNsides. Bottom line is Covering Your Tracks will always hinge on your JUDGMENT CALL because that's all matters in life⏳⏳⏳
Saturday, June 18, 2022
Watch Your TRAJECTORY
Watch Your TRAJECTORY
Seriously, how's your TRAJECTORY as we speak now? Not to be scared, there is no right or wrong answer but we need an answer, I'm serious. Otherwise, if you tell me now that you are totally clueless as regards your TRAJECTORY as we speak now, that is so alarming because that tells me of fluttering RED FLAGS that need to be addressed with no less than an urgencySo, the biggest question you might dump on me is this: WHO CARES about the TRAJECTORY. Ooooops, we got to know our TRAJECTORY as we speak now because we got to pay attention to how our we faring in life. Starting to build SELF-AWARENESS is the first step after all.Seriously, it's hard to find our purpose because we DON'T really know ourselves. We DON'T know what we genuinely like to do or why we do what we do. We NEVER question what influences us. We even end up in a career because our parents approved of it, because we thought it would be safe or because it was easy enough.
Friday, June 17, 2022
Recency Bias
Recency Bias
For us to be on the same page, let me quote how Recency Bias is defined in Wikipedia: It is a COGNITIVE BIAS THAT FAVORS RECENT EVENTS OVER HISTORIC ONES whereas in MEMORY BIAS, it gives MORE IMPORTANCE TO THE MOST RECENT EVENT. In brief, it is no less than a psychological phenomenon where a person can remember something which has happened recently.If you are into trading, Recency Bias is your #1 enemy. Why? Because it tends to extrapolate the recent experiences that will happen to you in the future. And if you are into investing and trading, Recency Bias is one of the biggest disasters that you may face because when investors try to invest, the Recency Bias skews the entire reality.Thursday, June 16, 2022
When The Price is Too Steep
When The Price is Too Steep
It is a given that NOTHING IS FREE IN LIFE, not those freebies, not even those tempting 'FREE LUNCHES'. Why? Simple. There will always be strings attached to it. Even those tons of 'giftaways' Third World politicians would wantonly throw around during their political campaign. Why? Because out of that largesse, they 'might' be anticipating to 'REAP the FRUITS' once they become the political incumbents. That is When The Price is Too Steep.When we plan out our holidays, we would be spending so much time with the travel industry's market players like Agoda and Booking.com and as the caveat goes, 'LOVELY PLACE BUT ENTRY PRICE IS TOO STEEP'. Such is life. For every premium add-on, the price tag levels up as well. Even when when you go to McDonalds, the counter personnel will throw up tons of queries like, would you UPGRADE your fries, your drinks, and all that stuff. Things get murkier and a bit complex when we delve with our relationships with our partner, spouse and even with our immediate family circle. The equation will never be as simple as X's and O's.
Over at the NBA, it is a wild marketplace no less. Players get traded and flipped overnight, sometimes not to their liking but as long as the interested party can meet even a steep orie, then the trade transaction is a 'GO'. And trading NBA players sometimes involve more than just an arm and a leg. In relationships and even in commercials, QUID PRO QUO prevails most of the time. And the exchange or transaction that gets consummated may not be on par in terms of value. I may have a lemon and you got an apple but even if that apple is pricier, if you need my lemon, things become at par.If QUID PRO QUO is too much of a jargon, let's settle with GIVE and TAKE. And let's buckle down with relationships with couples. WHY the friction? WHY the tiff? WHY the tantrums? WHY the standoff? Point it to the GIVE and TAKE equation. Likely the desired equilibrium in a relationship is slanted. Either there is too much GIVE or there is just too much TAKE. Why are we always in this conundrum? It's because when we fail to realize When The Price is Too Steep, then we would [wrongly and falsely ] believe that all is FAIR and JUST when in truth, things seem UNFAIR and UNJUST, all because When The Price is Too Steep❗❗❗
Wednesday, June 15, 2022
What Goes Around Comes Around
What Goes Around Comes Around
What Goes Around Comes Around. Yesirrrrs this is a FACT. Nothing in life takes the one-way road. You can traverse any road and get assured that at some point, What Goes Around Comes Around. Anything that transpires along that long winded road will get back to you either in a positive or negative manner. Your good deeds will surely bounce back to you in multiples forms and shape. Any bad deeds, if any, will surely haunt you as well. Knock on wood, we hope not.It's an open book that almost all of the world's billionaires are all philanthropists in their own right. Don't get me wrong though. We're not implying that we should turn a leaf and be philanthropists as well. Certainly NOT. But if we buy-in to the fact that what goes around comes around, at the very least, at the barest minimum, go beyond yourself.And this goes true from either side of the coin. Whether it pertains to your good deeds or your NOT SO GOOD deeds, do remember that What Goes Around Comes Around. To temper expectations and ensure we're all on the same page, we are NOT expected to come up with anything that approximates earth-shaking actions in life. Instead, it could be sharing a piece of bread similar to that piece of bread you're taking. We are NOT expected to do things in a spell-binding and spectacular way.Just yesterday, I went out to the gate when I heard our favorite Tofu Vendor. And when I saw him together with his 6-year old son, my heart just 'melted'. I told myself, if I could not even endure walking under the scorching heat of the sun for four hours or more, how can this 6-year old boy endure it if I can't see myself enduring that? Off the cuff, I rushed back and looked for some goodies to gift the boy together with a small token amount. Just an instantaneous act.This reminds me of a story shared by the late writer [Ricky Lo] about that story way back 1892 at Stanford U wherein two students who were unable to meet ends thought of organizing a small-scale concert featuring the famous pianist Ignacy Paderewski, whose manager demanded a $2,000 guaranteed fee. The concert did happen but the student organizers were in the RED because the total revenues totaled $1,600 only.
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