When You Need A JOLT In Life

When You Need A JOLT In Life

All year-round, we have tons and tons of reasons [a.k.a. excuses] NOT forging and moving forward with a plan [that was cooked up much earlier].  Beef that up with birthdays, anniversaries, celebrations, you have the perfect recipe to slow down and sometimes pull the brakes.  BUT at some point, we would realize that our in-transit pauses need to be unlocked because we got to buckle up, kick our ass hard and grind hard like 'DAWGS' from the kernel.  So, When You Need A JOLT In Life📗📙📘

BUT again, sometimes, life rushes us.  There's barely enough time to fit all of WHAT we need to do in.  And invariably, something suffers.  WHILE  there's a long term fix required on WHETHER we should continue being rushed, life is NOT about that.  Instead, WHEN we get rushed, WHAT suffers is our health, period.  And YES, all of us know WHAT to do.  And if you think you are being held back because you DON'T know WHERE to start, that's NOT true at all💧💧💧

YES we know the obvious ones.  Sleep well.  Exercise daily.  Eat more veggies [and LESS junk].  YES we all these.  WHAT happens is we let ourselves be swept up by life and its events.  We then end up eating WHATEVER is convenient, WHATEVER is quick, and WHEN our brains are frazzled by one too many decisions.  This means we would end up in poor choices instead of eating the high-quality food our body needs💥💥💥

YES, lacking the time even for the most modest daily exercise could be another side-effect of being 'TOO BUSY'.  Crippled by choice OVER WHAT to do, with all the nonsensical options out there that promise random things.  WHAT happens next?  Suddenly we will find ourselves unfit.  EXCEPT that it obviously was NOT sudden.  BUT it is sudden because one day WHEN the fog clears up, then that's the only time we will wake up from our deep slumber, waking up and realizing things quite late in the day😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  We should NOT even reach that point WHEN we need to be JOLTED.  Way long prior to that need for that jolt, there should be more than sufficient tell-tale signs of things to come.  Symptoms OR any behavioral sign should point us towards a 'dark alley' that is getting narrower and darker of course.  And that should be enough to trigger us momentarily slow down, pull the brakes and if necessary do a reboot OR a reset.  WHY go to that extent of needing a JOLT IN OUR LIFE?  We DON'T need that dude❗❗❗

It's OK To Say "NO"!

It's OK To Say "NO"!

The Oxford English Dictionary tells us that there are around 170,000 English words in current use while there are an additional 47,000 obsolete words to date.  Before we get embroiled as to WHY It's OK To Say "NO", let's spend time to dissect as to WHY WE SAY YES [more often than NOT].  At the top of my list, I believe this is very cultural in nature.  Like Asians, generally, they would struggle to say NO, instead ending up to say YES [when, all along, they really want to stamp down their foot and say NO].  That explains why foreign investors are very Asian-centric because by and large, Asians struggle to say NO.  On the other hand, in general terms, westerners will say NO if and when they need to say NO.  That's without even batting an eyelash📗📙📘

Besides that cultural aspect, part of that can explained by the nature of Asians wanting to avoid confrontation and add to that, that 'PLEASING OTHERS' mindset all rolled into one.  I would admit that a few times in the past, I did say YES when our American CFO invited me to the the CNY [Chinese New Year] dinner he hosted for our American-Chinese guests.  In short, most of us do this to a lesser extent , because people generally want to help the interest of others.  Things get a bit tricky if we tend to manifest that FEAR OF MISSING OUT [FOMO].  And FOMO is a very real thing and WHEN we feel as if saying NO will prevent us from experiencing something we perceive others will, saying YES feels like the only natural option [good grief]💦💦💦

And the most frequent 'wild card' that seems to throw a monkey wrench in our decision-making process is our COMPULSIVITY, that situation WHERE we feel naturally compelled to 'overdo it' and say YES to any situation out of a compulsive nature.  On the other hand, the power of saying NO really comes down to the effects it has on our brain.  WHEN we say NO more often, we shift the way our brain thinks and reacts to situations, allowing us more ability to make decisions for ourselves.  BUT experts tell us this will have a tremendous effect on our mental health as it allows us to value ourselves much more✅✅✅

Bottomline, it allows us to SET BOUNDARIES.  And since BOUNDARIES in mental health treatment are typically that critical, saying NO allows us to develop the necessary skills and tips for SETTING BOUNDARIES ahead of time.  It's true that even if we deem to enforce these thought processes into our mindsets, we will still find ourselves in numerous situations WHERE saying YES is the better decision.  So, HOW do we know exactly WHEN to say NO???

To quote the revered late Steve Jobs, "IT'S ONLY BY SAYING NO THAT YOU CAN CONCENTRATE ON THE THINGS THAT ARE REALLY IMPORTANT".  Before we get to our takeaway, HOW do we know that saying NO is eitherq right OR wrong? WHEN we learn to say NO, we must ask ourselves certain questions about the situation.  WILL saying YES prevent us from focusing on something that's more important?  WILL saying YES make us even more tired OR burnt out?  These questions will give us the framework for WHEN it's finally time to say NO.  Otherwise, this is a judgment call WHERE our the interplay of our decision-making skills will surface.  Oh YES, it's ok to say NO❗❗❗

Is Hitting ROCK BOTTOM Bad OR Good?

Is Hitting ROCK BOTTOM Bad OR Good?

Is Hitting ROCK BOTTOM Bad OR Good?  Before I get bashed with that question, allow me to pre-empt your 'needles & arrows' by declaring up front that everyone of us [YES, that includes moi] dread to talk about the ROCK BOTTOM, much more for us to hit ROCK BOTTOM.  BUT, let me ask this blunt question?  WHO has NOT hit ROCK BOTTOM, yet?  I can bet, we won't see a show of hands here.  WHY?  Simple.  It's because no can claim any form of immunity from hitting ROCK BOTTOM.  NOT Jeff Bezos WHO got divorced with his wife [with whom he started his rag tag business right from their car garage].  NOT Bill Gates and Melinda Gates WHO crossed paths way back in 1987 and whose marriage also ended in a divorce years ago.  NOT Jack Ma whose Alibaba conglomerate's market value rose up to US$ 193.9 Bn. as of May 2024.  Yet, where is Jack Ma?  NOT in China.  NOT crossing continents.  Last year, he was last reported as a visiting professor in Japan.  Beyond that, our lips are sealed [to be safe]📗📙📘

I myself, I was NEVER shielded from hitting ROCK BOTTOM and as much as NEVER wanted it to happen, in all transparency, I'll admit with a clean chest that I would NOT be today had I not hit ROCK BOTTOM.  NOT because hitting ROCK BOTTOM unearthed the untold formula to lead me towards success in my endeavors.  NOT because by hitting ROCK BOTTOM, it was part of my detoured plan after all.  Now, you might think I'm crazy to say this BUT I have to hit ROCK BOTTOM [again], in a heartbeat, for the incredible sights and growth through WHAT was definitely the 'DARKEST NIGHTS' [which I thought I CAN'T hurdle]💦💦💦

BUT here's the BIG BUT.  Like in any good adventure, it's only worthwhile if you come back having learned some SOLID LESSONS and with the wisdom to share from having survived the fall [or maybe, several falls].  And so, with twenty-twenty hindsight, please allow me to share WHY everyone of us should NOT be scared to hit ROCK BOTTOM

REFLECTION & REALISATION - Yes, I'll be candid to admit that WHEN you're down there at the 'GUTTER-level', you would realize HOW far off course you were, and that your life choices were simply NOT sustainable.  And in those darkest moment of despair that your anger and/or frustration is at an all-time high, you would be promising to yourself NEVER again to accept such level of mediocrity from yourself, AS IN, NEVER❎❎❎

YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIORS - At that bottom part, all our DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIORS are obviously UNMASKED [to our consternation, so obviously].  WHAT IF you DIDN'T hit ROCK BOTTOM?  I can be cocksure that all those DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIORS would continue to go UNnoticed and worse, UNchecked, playing out under that 'DENIAL RADAR' and inevitably creating bigger dysfunctions and a harder fall down the track.  Until that bubble bursts, you would cleverly delude yourself into thinking that everything is just great [REALLY!@#$%?]

Our takeaway:  Allow me to quote this incognito poster that 'ROCK BOTTOM IS A BEAUTIFUL START'.  You might blurt out, WHAT'S SO BEAUTIFUL hitting ROCK BOTTOM?  Simple dude.  Tons of lessons hitherto previously masked would have been unearthed by then.  Trust me, I learned my lessons the hardest way and WHAT was the outcome?  My fortitude was reinforced.  My off-tracks were rectified.  My blind spots were unmasked, all paving the way to my SIMPLE ME today😀😀😀

EXECUTION TIME Is All That Matters

EXECUTION TIME Is All That Matters...

In the technology space, especially in the developers' world, we would hear compile TIME versus, load TIME versus execution TIME but all along, EXECUTION TIME Is All That Matters.  BUT setting aside all these jargon, in our daily life, we can say WHAT we want to say.  And if you want to spread it out via social media, that's your call BUT  EXECUTION TIME Is All That Matters, and NO less than that.  Set aside all the hullaballoo and all the hype BUT all those WON'T matter because in life, only OUTPUTs and OUTCOMEs do matter📗📙📘

It's true there are hundreds, maybe even thousands of POSITIVE habits we can build and a lot of books and speakers on the internet have a high volume of information BUT WHAT most of us are missing out is EXECUTION.  We can have 8 billion brains and 8 billion ideas and plans BUT a very few among the trillions make it to the real world and survive.  And EXECUTION is no less than transformative✅✅✅

BTW, EXECUTION is NOT just the fuel BUT the very whole seed in itself.  Ideas and plans are cheap and plentiful BUT EXECUTION is rare.  If you sit down and think about solutions to a problem you will get multiple ideas that can solve the problem it takes a couple of seconds depending on the problem to generate ideas, BUT the thing is, EXECUTION takes effort no less💥💥💥

Problem is, the majority of us think that ideas and mentality are the seed of something [else] OR something great BUT in reality, it is NOT.  Instead, ideas and mentality are nothing until an effort to EXECUTE is made.  And beyond that, the ultimate output OR outcome comes into fruition.  Take out any of these variables, you WON'T have the basic equation to succeed in life.  And while in the past I always thought that mindset is everything, although it is a big deal, it is NOT everything at all.  In fact, let's give credit WHERE credit is due.  At the very least, a plurality of us are fully cognizant of that EXECUTION phase of an idea OR a plan❗❗❗

Our takeaway:  EXECUTION per se is NOT the be all and end view of everything.  Instead, it is our consistent action over time that leads us to disciplined EXECUTIONS. And it pays off to have a defining question WHICH keeps you focused and on track.  Be wary of the old school's READY-AIM-FIRE motto is that we end up spending more time planning until the opportunity has slipped past behind us.  So, is there anything else is of more paramount importance than EXECUTION???

Going Against The Tide WHEN IT'S NOT POSSIBLE

Going Against The Tide WHEN IT'S NOT POSSIBLE

Many years ago, I was feeling frustrated WHEN several things in my life DIDN'T seem to be progressing based on my own expectations [and timelines], as I'd hoped.  And that made me feeling like I was getting nowhere.  Those were 'simple truths' BUT to me they were deeply profound that, even in those trying moments, I was unable to confirm OR deny.  Instead, I felt they just are, and they shake you to your deepest core.  At hindsight, they usually begin as tiny passing thoughts BUT that will grow over time into an undeniable screaming in your head.  Fact is, they just CAN'T be ignored BUT WHAT pushed me was Going Against The Tide WHEN IT'S NOT POSSIBLE📗📙📘

BUT from beneath, I heard myself screaming loud enough to myself, that WHAT I was doing was NOT working and that was the time to try something different, albeit with NO guarantees that another try, another attempt will work out.  BUT in the context of working out, as well as many things, it was quite 'spot on'.  Much as I was pushing myself hard, some things were NOT just working. In short, I was NOT producing the results I expected and I was looking for so I got stomped and confronted myself, right in my eyes, this question:  WHY DO I INSIST TO CONTINUE DOING THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER [when I've proven wrong, when I was proven to have failed]💧💧💧

Indeed, this is a limited sampling of the SIMPLE TRUTHS wherein, indeed they're that SIMPLE.  And sometimes they may seem obvious BUT sometimes, we do get so wrapped up in working on things [THAT ARE NOT WORKING] and till the end, we just CAN'T figure out the obvious solution.  Thing is, IF IT'S NOT WORKING, TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT [even as this means us going against the tide WHEN it's NOT possible]💦💦💦

BUT WHAT seems to be our biggest problem that seems to exist incognito?  It's that we are inundated with a damn ridiculous amount of information on the web, from friends and family, even neighbors, and even kibitzers.  Add the news and the overflowing social media, you have a ballgame at hand.  We're told to lose weight, to shape up, to grow a business, to raise a child in a thousand different ways by a million different people.  WHEN this happens, we feel overwhelmed and even lose touch with reality❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  In practical terms, WHEN things are proven to be NOT working, NOT workable:  ACKNOWLEDGE that it's NOT working.  NO judgement.  NO negativity. It DOESN'T work for you and that's ok.  And STOP TRYING TO MAKE IT WORK.  Just stop forcing things out.  Instead, TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT.  And I take a leaf from my personal experiences.  I refuse to pounce my head on a concrete wall because that wall WON'T break.  Figure things out, pick up the pieces, and if you need to reset and reboot, JUST DO IT dude❗❗❗

The MORE You Take, The LESS You Have

The MORE You Take, The LESS You Have

Many of us will remember our childhood days WHEN we were taught to be thrifty and save save save in our piggy bank?  Until we became so over-protective of our piggy bank to a point WHERE, if we had siblings or other relatives in the same home, we [unconsciously] started to develop that NOT so good mindset of being over-protective of our piggy bank to a point WHERE we became suspicious in case someone else is dipping his hands into your piggy bank.  BUT today, what do we know? The MORE You Take, The LESS You Have📗📙📘

NOT in bad faith, you would develop that greediness till you yourself will feel it disgusting to a point you will end up embarrassed. WHAT do we learn from this?  THAT it DOESN'T have to be something you take entirely BUT instead, it is the intention that you DON'T want to give to other people that actually leads you to become LESS.  Years back, I learned this WHEN I heard well known philanthropists forking out monies left and right💥💥💥

Simply put, WHEN you try to get MORE out of life to satisfy your wishes, wants and unsatiable desires, BUT later on, you will tend to lose sight of WHAT TRULY MATTERS.  And likely, you might even lose yourself in the process, losing that 'REAL YOU'.  In the end, instead of being happy, you end up longing and wishing that you should have focused on the more important things around you and NOT to grab everything that comes your way😖😖😖

I learned this WHEN I witnessed countless well-meaning people NOT only shelling out resources BUT spending their time and exerting efforts to help others.  And with technology in our very own finger tips, we have seen many SMEs and experts willfully sharing their expertise, and that's for the entire world.  Then I realized and learned that they DIDN'T become poorer OR less than before after receiving those 'values' 💦💦💦

Our takeaway:  To this day, I firmly believe that WHEN we give something, I did NEVER become less.  I can attest to how one feels when the past months, we cleared our condominium unit of all the appliances and furniture, giving them all, lock, stock and barrel to our trusted handyman [in exchange for nothing, nada, nichts].  WHAT did I get in return?  A LOT, as in A LOT.  I feel more grateful for sharing my blessings.  I feel more accomplished for uplifting someone's plight.  I feel many notches a much better person than I used to be😀😀😀

Words Can NEVER Be Louder Than Action

Words Can NEVER Be Louder Than Action

A decade or two ago, the loudest noises came from the media, both print and TV.  That brought about the media conglomerates like Time-Warner, Disney, Rupert Murdoch's News Corporation.  Until the likes Netflix, Comcast, etc took over.  BUT alas, let us NOT envy them because those conglomerates DON'T have a monopoly of the action and noise in the world today.  Instead, it is the fact that Words Can NEVER Be Louder Than Action.  WHAT is quite typical these days is WHEN a person says one thing BUT does another thing.  WHAT do we do then?  Experts advise us that weight should be given to the subsequent action.  And that is based on the assumption that the behavior more accurately reflects the person's motivations and goals.  In such situations, we discount words as kind of a 'lip service'.  YES, we are all too familiar with empty promises📗📙📘

And the quite risky assumption in all these is that we can count only on people WHO deliver through behavioral action.  However, this interpretation of inconsistency, between WHAT one says and WHAT one does, is based on a belief that there is a freedom of choice with respect to one's words and one's actions.  Various studies did cover a focus on situations WHERE people's behavior is constrained through NO fault of their own and compares WHEN they can OR cannot speak.  WHEN the system prevents the high power player from contributing behaviorally, yet enables communication, we find that words mitigate the impact of selfish behavior💦💦💦

Extensive researches have shown that despite the selfish behavior of those WHO are either superior OR with power, low power members contribute to the group as well.  And in those situations, given the situational constraint on behavior words speak louder than actions.  Unfortunately, there are many situations WHERE those WHO have power are NOT able to immediately help those in need of resources.  BUT just because as the 'power holder' is NOT helping at the moment, does NOT mean they will NOT help in the future.  They may then be constrained at the moment, for one reason OR another.  Power may be reflected by other circumstances by then.  Unfortunately, there are many real-life situations WHERE we will be challenged to interpret situations.  And WHAT they say can guide your attributions and shape how you feel and act💧💧💧

Thing is, the words we choose are important.  The way we say those words matters too.  Our words can absolutely influence other people.  BUT here we go again, ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.  We can tell people WHAT a good leader, manager, father OR mother OR friend OR colleague should be OR we could show people through our behaviors.  YES we can wax lyrical about WHAT a good artist should be OR we can show the world our expertise and capabilities.  And we can even argue about which direction is right OR how a process should work OR WHAT a good business should look like OR we could simply do the work and work it out, then show people💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  YES we could tell people WHAT behaviors we'd like for our culture OR we could be a role model and showcase ourself to people.  BUT at the end of the day, our ACTIONS [and that includes our behavior and emotions] always speak louder than our words.  And WHEN we say one thing BUT do something else, we send a clear message [and unfortunately, that may not sending a good message].   WHEN we ask people to behave in a POSITIVE way and we do the opposite, we send a message.  YES, people will resent hypocrisy.   Thing is, WORDS CAN NEVER BE LOUDER THAN ACTION❗❗❗

How Often You Ride The BANDWAGON?

How Often You Ride The BANDWAGON?

For alignment, let's do a lookup of BANDWAGON EFFECT which is defined as that psychological phenomenon in WHICH people do something primarily because other are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs, WHICH they may [sometimes] ignore OR override.  So, How Often You Ride The BANDWAGON which is sometimes tagged as that HERD MENTALITY for that tendency of people to align their beliefs and behaviors with others📗📙📘

Let's look back into our daily lives.  Have you gotten into a hobby just because it seemed like everyone else was doing it?  Even if it's something you're NOT naturally drawn to, the sudden popularity might leave you wondering WHAT all the hype is all about.  Everyone else is doing it, so it must be worth doing it too?  REALLY?  Not too fast, dude.  It can leave you feeling like if you DON'T at least give it a try, you'll end up missing out on some important, shared cultural phenomenon.  So, WHAT explains this???

IF you've ever jumped on a trend, it's likely that you are manifesting either fear of missing out [FOMO], peer pressure, OR something else?   From a real-life perspective, that BANDWAGON effect is one reason WHY we often fall for short-lived trends.  It can affect our choices, in ways that can be both good and bad.  POSITIVE BANDWAGONs might inspire us to adopt healthy behaviors while NEGATIVE BANDWAGONs might lead us to try one questionable health advice OR spend money on things we DON'T need💧💧💧

Let's take a preview of the most common BANDWAGON effects happening across countries and cultures:

DIETs - WHEN everyone seems to adopt a specific diet, people are likely to try it themselves

FASHION - Fashion trends seem to be particularly vulnerable to the BANDWAGON EFFECT.  They also tend to be fleeting.  Just as one trend takes hold, others quickly become outdated and relegated to our closets💦💦💦

Our takeaway:  NEVER live your life by riding on the BANDWAGON [unless you are cocksure that that BANDWAGON is the best and most correct measure to go.  Looking back, I can humbly beat my chest and unequivocally affirm that NEVER I did ride on the BANDWAGON when life decisions had to be made.  If at all, it was during my teenage years WHEN I did succumb once or twice to that BANDWAGON.  Thereafter, I did bid adieu💥💥💥

Giving Up Something GOOD To Get Something GREAT

Giving Up Something GOOD To Get Something GREAT

Every calendar year, the NBA designates specific periods to open up the TRADE SEASON.  And for the non-hoopster, you might be wondering WHAT's the fuss?  This is all about Giving Up Something GOOD To Get Something GREAT.  In the NBA, the only constant is CHANGE and every time TRADE SEASON opens up, that's when the front office of the 30 teams would kickstart the 'horse trading' with the end view of Giving Up Something GOOD To Get Something GREAT📗📙📘

BTW, NBA teams WON'T be involved in trading players for lateral movement purposes.  And frankly, they WON'T trade a GOOD player for another GOOD player.  Instead, the bottom line is always to go from GOOD to GREAT.  NBA teams will go NOT just for a fish. They go WHALE-hunting, in fact/ Swinging over to our lives, the same mantra applies in our lives.  If you dwell in a U.S. mobile home, you WON'T dream moving to another mobile home.  If you're driving a 1.0 liter-powered car, you WON'T dream for car on the same league💧💧💧

If we have great personalities like Nelson Mandela, Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfrey, they were recognized as great ones NOT because they were hyped OR over-hyped.  It's because in their own right, they achieved things that were way beyond the realm of the good ones.  In fact, they are blue-chip BIG LEAGUE greats whose achievements should NOT even be debated on.  The question is, moving on to our lives, can we embrace that mantra of GIVING UP SOMETHING GOOD TO GET SOMETHING GREAT???

Throughout my lifetime, one of my favorite things to do is dream about the future.  It's exciting to think about the possibilities that it holds and WHAT new and exciting things we'll get to experience.  Having a dream helps you to create and set goals and having those goals help you to achieve them.  Imagine IF you are so capable and energized BUT you got zero goals?  So, you've got a great idea, create your goals especially if leads you to go from GOOD to GREAT no less💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  WHEN an idea pops-up, DON'T ignore it, DON'T miss it out.  At the very least, give it a thought like, WILL THAT MOVE ME FROM BEING GOOD TO BECOMING GREAT?  Weigh in things.  If it will probably come out as a lateral move, WHY do it in the first place?  OR if there are attendant risks that may even cause you a setback, WHY take that plunge if that is NOT a WIN-WIN proposition for you?  Dude, let us GIVE UP SOMETHING GOOD [only] TO GET SOMETHING GREAT, period❗❗❗

What Feeds Into Your Brain Goes Out

What Feeds Into Your Brain Goes Out

There's this boring riddle from the bake shop which tells and asks us, IF I PUT A PAN OF COOKIES IN THE OVEN TO BAKE,WHEN I PULL THE PAN, WILL I HAVE A CAKE?  Of course, absolutely NOT, that was so obvious.  What Feeds Into Your Brain Goes Out,  in fact.  And that is exactly true in our lives.  WHAT we put in will have a powerful effect on WHAT we believe and WHAT we do.  BUT dude, this is NOT all about controlling our mind.  Maybe we want to stop thinking about a recent foul-up at work.  OR we flopped in a missed major sales opportunity and we thought it's the end of things📙📘

BUT the thing is, unwanted thoughts can indeed cause plenty of frustration [and even stress, NOT to mention distress].  And you're NOT alone in wanting to make them go away.  It's just normal to have trouble convincing oneself to look up WHEN feeling downcast in the face of stress and other steep challenges.  BUT while actual mind control belongs in the realm of science fiction, we can work to change our mindset, right???

So, HOW can we move forward?  Psychologists tell us to identify our thoughts which we want to change in the first place.  It goes without saying that you have to figure out WHAT'S on your mind before you can even begin to control it.  And nearly everyone experiences discouraging thoughts OR even emotional setbacks from time to time.  That's just a given.  And if you're currently experiencing some of life's challenges, you might even find it even harder to maintain control over things that seem to be spiraling thoughts OR even clouding your mindset.  BUT experts do assure us that occasional 'INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS' are pretty normal, so that does NOT trigger the alarm bells [yet]💧💧💧

BUT before we feel so overwhelmed [and swamped over], experts do counsel us to accept even those unwanted thoughts because it is indeed human nature to flinch away from pain, so of course you would prefer to avoid thoughts that seem to [potentially] cause distress [and even stress].  YET let's face it, pushing away unwanted thoughts ISN'T the way to gain control because that's usually just makes them more intense instead.  So, WHAT's the antidote?  Experts advise us to accept those thoughts, and LET THEM IN, period.  Like, say you feel a little low because NOTHING in your life seems to be happening the way you planned despite all the hard work you poured💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  WHILE acceptance might involve telling yourself 'NOTHING SEEMS TO BE GOING RIGHT [and that's discouraging], there's only so much you can do to create that change for yourself BUT giving up entirely ISN'T the answer either because acceptance can even offer clues as to WHY specific thoughts keep rushing back OR coming up.  MAYBE, you keep thinking alongside your fears, worries, apprehensions and the like.  OR  you may be brimming with optimism.  WHERE you're pessimistic, that can push you down to your downfall.  WHERE you're optimistic, that will push your chances up.  YES dude, WHAT FEEDS INTO YOUR BRAIN GOES OUT❗❗❗