Getting Things Done

Getting Things Done

Getting Things Done is the ever easiest words to express anytime any day BUT the bigger question is how can you translate into concrete words when saying Getting Things Done.  Through the years, I went through the wringer, sometimes right on the frying pan, and at times straight into the fire because with multifarious tasks to perform and deliver, more often, time was NOT on my side BUT was non-negotiable is the Getting Things Done deliverable💴💷💵

And with humility, people [especially my work colleagues] have often told me that they're surprised by HOW much I get done within a time frame, sometimes within a day or by a stretch, within a week.  I'm NOT saying that to brag BUT to relate that I forget how much work I've done to be able to make a bigger impact within the confines of my environment, be it at home or at work.  To be fair to my readership, allow me to share some of my proven tricks in Getting Things Done📗📙📘

BTW, I'm NOT a member of anything like a productivity cult but simply getting things done.  While sometimes it seems to turn us into machines that just keeps churning things out meaninglessly and admittedly, this leads to BURNOUT and a feeling of pointlessness.  And I have to admit that I am constantly too aware of that risk, hence my pacing even when Getting Things Done💎💎💎

Again, being PRODUCTIVE just for the sake of being PRODUCTIVE or because it is a 'good thing to do' because that's like missing the point.  Just like this blogsite, no factor will stop me from publishing my blogs.  Even when we went on family holidays and out-of-town schedules, I made sure my publishing of my blogs won't be hindered, like I will look like OFFLINE or 'missing in action'.  WHY?  Because it all boils down to one's commitment to Getting Things Done✅✅✅

So when do we move fast?  When things are tagged as 'URGENT'?  Good grief.  Indeed, that URGENCY BIAS is so impactful because we [including myself] unconditionally subscribe to it.  In short, when something gets tagged as 'URGENT', Getting Things Done becomes a given.  WHY?  It's because we really can Get Things Done if we want to❗❗❗

NO-NOs In Life

NO-NOs In Life

Life itself is NOT a complicated labyrinth BUT it does get complicated depending on the way we steer our life on the treacherous roads.  YET, there are NO-NOs In Life which can help us avert getting into those deep holes, deep trenches akin to hopelessly floating in the high seas waiting for a God-sent rescue.  And while these NO-NOs won't guarantee, our life can be absolutely less burdensome💴💷💵

The story about Marcus Aurelius, emperor of Rome approximately 2,000 years ago is so unique but relevant to us all.  As his entire life was met by hardship, both as a family man and as the emperor of Rome, on whose shoulders he bore the weight of the Roman Empire, he proudly declares that he managed to SURVIVE  based only on 'PHILOSOPHY'.  Through restraint, he found the answer to each problem.  And by doing less, he found a way to do more📙📘📗

How?  First off.  STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK.  If someone doesn't like you, so be it.  There are 7.6  billion other people in the world for you to befriend.  Focus on improving yourself  daily and people will flock to your new brilliant attitude. Another NO-NO In Life is us DOING SO MUCH.  You DON'T need to do LESS but DO what's essential💎💎💎

In a culture that favors activity over inactivity, we've been hardwired to believe that doing SOMETHING, anything, is greater than doing NOTHING.  BUT at what cost does this busy lifestyle come?  Question for us:  ARE WE DISTRACTING OURSELVES from dealing with the real issues at hand?  OR ARE WE DISTRACTING OURSELVES with trivial tasks rather than confronting our greatest FEARS and problems✅✅✅

 If you realize that your grinding your ass off to no avail, run a PULSE CHECK to figure things out.  CAN'T be for you to maintain the STATUS QUO if you're going OFF TRACK.  Rather than spreading yourself thinly across multifarious activities, focus on one and do it well [with QUALITY].  The last thing we want to happen is your life ending a failure simply because of NO-NOs in life which you could have effortlessly avoided in the first place❗❗❗

Coping With CHANGE

Coping With CHANGE

The one constant in life is CHANGE.  That DOESN'T mean we ever get used to it or fully embrace it, though.  Realistically, Coping With CHANGE should NOT be a 'BIG DEAL' unless it's game-changing, life-changing.  Regardless of the severity and unpredictability of a CHANGE, there are basics and fundamentals that can help us become more ready and resilient in the face of Coping With CHANGE💴💷💵

Sometimes, we get so caught up in fighting CHANGE that we tend to put off actually dealing with it.  Denial is really a powerful force and it protects us in many ways.  However, stepping outside of it and saying to yourself "THINGS ARE CHANGING AND IT IS OKAY" can be less stressful than putting it off📙📘📗

Now and then, even GOOD CHANGE happens but even then, it causes stress.  Sometimes when people go through a positive life CHANGE, such as graduating or having a baby, they still feel a great deal of stress.  We have to bear in mind that POSITIVE CHANGE can create stress just like NOT-SO-SENTIVE CHANGE.  Stress is just our body's way of reacting to CHANGE.  Now, when CHANGE happens in the middle of your daily life, the most important thing is to STICK TO YOUR SCHEDULE💎💎💎

And when CHANGE happens, a lot of us tend to reach for carbs, like bread, muffins, cake.  This may be because eating carbs boosts serotonin, a brain chemical that may be somewhat depleted when one undergoes CHANGE.  And it is fine to soothe oneself with comfort foods [in moderation].  And notice if one is experiencing an increased use of alcohol or other substances when we are under stress❌❌❌

And DON'T ignore your support structure.  No one gets through life alone.  It is okay to ask for help.  Never miss out your family members, your trusted friends.  Chances are that they are happy to help if you need them to watch you while you run errands OR if you need some 'ALONE TIME'.  Most importantly, write down the POSITIVES that have come from this CHANGE.  CHANGE presents us with the opportunity to grow and it's important to acknowledge how things have become.  COPING WITH CHANGE is no rocket science but we got to do it in earnest❗❗❗

Self-Acceptance Is A MUST-DO

Self-Acceptance Is A MUST-DO

Though related, Self-Acceptance is NOT the same as Self-Esteem.  Whereas Self-Esteem refers to specifically to something valuable or worthwhile we see ourselves. Self-Acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of one self.  When we are self-accepting, we're able to embrace all facets of ourselves, NOT just the positive parts.  As such, Self-Acceptance is unconditional💴💷💵

Expectedly, we should be able to recognize our weaknesses, our limitations BUT that awareness in NO way interferes with out ability to fully accept ourselves.  Challenge for us is to determine our Self-Acceptance in the first place.  In general, similar to Self-Esteem, as children we're able to accept ourselves only to the degree we feel accepted by our parents.  Studies have shown that before the age of eight, we lack the ability to formulate a clear sense of self📗📙📘

Given how the human psyche operates, it is almost impossible NOT to parent ourselves similar to how we were parented originally.  If our caretakers dealt with us in a hurtful manner, as adults we'll find all kinds of ways to perpetuate that unresolved pain onto ourselves.  And if we were frequently ignored, berated, blamed or worst, physically punished, we'll somehow continue this Self-Dignity💎💎💎

So, IF and WHEN we 'beat ourselves', we're typically just following our parents' lead.  Having to depend so much on them when we were young and thus experiencing little authority to actually question their mixed verdict on us, we felt pretty much obliged to accept their negative appraisals as valid.  They constantly put us down BUT historically it is well known that parents are far more likely to let us know when we do something that bothers them than to acknowledge us for our behaviors❎❎❎

So, how do we become more Self-Accepting?
In the shortest words I can recall from experts, we need to cultivate Self-Compassion, letting go of guilt and learning to forgive ourselves.  Accepting ourselves unconditionally would have been almost automatic had our parents conveyed a more predominantly positive message about us BUT if that's NOT the case, we need on our own to 'CERTIFY' ourselves to validate our essential OK-ness.  Indeed, Self-Acceptance is a MUST-DO❗❗❗

Quantity Beats Quality? Not So Fast.

Quantity Beats Quality?  Not So Fast.

Quantity Beats Quality?  Not So Fast.  The late NBA Great KOBE BRYANT was developing his jumper during the offseason, making 2,000 shots a day.  NOT taking.  MAKING.  And this reminds me of a simple general principle to operate by, especially for those of us in a working career, that is, QUANTITY TRUMPS QUALITY.  Let me qualify my thoughts here.  QUANTITY should be a higher priority than QUALITY because it leads to higher QUALITY.  The shorter the path to maximized QUALITY, and executing on the feedback after each finished product📌📌📌

Accomplished author David Bayles shared about an experiment wherein he tested his class, with those on left side of the class, would be graded solely on the QUANTITY of work they produced while all those on the right, will be graded solely on QUALITY and his procedure was fairly simple.  On the final day of the class, he would bring in his bathroom scales and weigh the work of the "QUANTITY" group, 50 pounds of pots rated 'A', 40 pounds a 'B' and so on.  For the 'QUALITY' group, they needed to produce only one pot, albeit a perfect one, to get an 'A'📗📙📘

Came grading time and a curious fact emerged.  The works of the 'QUANTITY' group was busily churning out piles of work [and learning from their mistakes] while the 'QUALITY' group had sat, theorizing about PERFECTION, and in the end had little more to show for their efforts than grandiose theories and a pile of dead clay💎💎💎

A surprising but consistent finding among researchers is that the greatest innovators, artists and thinkers DON'T have a better ratio of good ideas to bad ideas than the rest of us.  BUT the difference lies on the fact that they had MORE ideas.  And the end result?  They end up with a greater number of GOOD ideas.  So, a simple way to begin to improve our creative output is to switch focus, from QUALITY to QUANTITY.  Truth is, you have way MORE ideas in you than you think you do.  And those EARLY ideas you need to get out of the way, as they're likely to be conventional✅✅✅

Let's face it.  Assuming I pick someone who's either a lemon OR mediocre but he processes 100 transactions per hour with an error rate of 1-2%.  And let's assume your TOP QUALITY guy is really tops in terms of QUALITY but he processes 10 transactions per hour.  Where would you bet?  Hands down, QUANTITY BEATS QUALITY❗❗❗

[PHISHING SECURITY ALERT] S$ 446,000 Lost In 2 Weeks of DECEMBER

For our thread today, allow me to veer away from our popular threads of interests to interject this PHISHING SECURITY ALERT because within a two-week period in DECEMBER 2023, customers of one of the biggest banks in Singapore lost approximately S$ 446,000, all because of PHISHING.  Of course, there is NOTHING NEW about PHISHING as we have covered our grounds quite several times on this [NOTE:  These incidents were investigated & confirmed that the bank is NOT culpable]📗📙📘

I myself, I received at least two SMS messages last December, purportedly advising me that 'YOUR DELIVERY IS ON HOLD. PLEASE CLICK THIS'.  It was as simple as that.  WHAT action did I take?  IGNORE it, period.  WHY?  Once you CLICK a link sent to you, either via email or via SMS, God knows what will happen next.  Try CLICKING it and the device you used will be tagged from thereon💵💴💷

For a quick debrief, people WHO attempt PHISHING attacks are usually a group of professionals [NOTE, they are PROFESSIONALS] running ILLEGAL operations.  And WHEN calling OR sending emails to customers or victims, the hackers take a common approach of asking to help customers RESET or UPDATE their banking data by asking for login OR other personal information.  And that can be done by CLICKING on a link or verifying personal information over the phone to an automated call or live individual📌📌📌

So, HOW can you really PREVENT PHISHING?  People are easily enticed to CLICK on links that seems either exciting, worrisome OR inquisitive.  DON'T be easily provoked to CLICK on any links until you consider WHO is the email or SMS sender + WHAT is the intent  + WHERE the links OR instructions are asking you to go❎❎❎

So HOW?

• CHECK THE SOURCE [of the email or SMS]
• VALIDATE THE LINK [call hotline if you can't]
• DETERMINE THE PURPOSE [of email or SMS]
• CHECK FOR ERRORS [in the email or SMS]
• REPORT SUSPICIONS IMMEDIATELY

These are no-brainers, dude.  To be forewarned is to be forearmed❗❗❗

When To HALT DECISIONS

When To HALT DECISIONS

Borrowing this cover page from reknown Australian transformation coach and author Emma Queen, what her cover tells us when we're either HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY or TIRED, that is the time for us to HALT DECISIONS.  Results from studies show that we should avoid making important decisions on an empty stomach, literally speaking as that hunger significantly altered people's decision-making, making them impatient and more likely to settle for a small reward that arrives sooner than a larger one promised at a later date📗📙📘

There was an experiment designed by neuroscientists wherein respondents were asked questions relating to food, money, and other rewards when satiated and again when they had skipped a meal.  The results show that while it was NOT surprising that hungry people were more likely to settle for smaller food incentives that arrived sooner, the researchers found that being hungry actually changes preferences for rewards entirely unrelated to food.  So, there was a large effect on people's preferences💴💵💷

That study indicates that a reluctance to defer gratification may carry over into other kinds of decision, even on financial and interpersonal ones.  So, it is really imperative for us to be aware that hunger might affect our preferences in ways we DON'T necessarily anticipate or predict.  There is even a lurking danger for people experiencing hunger due to poverty may make decisions that entrench their situation💎💎💎

Emma Queen's studies went a step farther than those researches because she highlighted that besides being hungry, even anger, loneliness or being tired are factors that are as impactful to decisions as being hungry.  Further, the studies show that there was a large effect as people's preferences shifted dramatically from the long-term to the short-term when hungry❎❎❎

These results fit well into a larger effort in psychology to map the factors that influence our DECISION MAKING.  This potentially empowers people as they may foresee and mitigate the effects of being HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY or TIRED.  Those are the times when we should HALT DECISIONS, holding it in abeyance❗❗❗

Oh, Life Is NOT A Sprint. It Is A Marathon!

Oh, Life Is NOT A Sprint.  It Is A Marathon!

These days, let's accept the reality that we are all playing a high stakes game of ONE AND DONE.  WHICH means, we have exactly one life to do everything we can ever do.  There will be NO do-overs, NOT even second chances.  It's either we use this life well OR lose it.  Oh, Life Is NOT A Sprint.  It Is A Marathon!  It's indeed a tough job separating truth from legend.  Even the breakthroughs in life seem to question conventional beliefs💴💷💵

Having said that, please DON'T get me wrong.  The fact that life is a marathon does NOT tell us to procrastinate, excuse-making and all kinds of diversionary behavior which will only succeed to sabotage our chances of accelerating our results and enjoy the massively abundant fruits of life, fruits of our labor📗📙📘

Much as we were guided in life to sit still.  Stand in line.  Keep your head down.  Follow the rules.  Do as we're told.  Play it safe.  DON'T risk it.  Wait your turn.  Ask permission.  Slow down.  BUT much as I subscribe that LIFE IS NOT A SPRINT, I firmly believe that within the marathon, life is a series of HIGH-PERFORMANCE SPRINTS💎💎💎

Let's face it.  We live in a world of accelerated change and exponential growth.  Technology is multiplying our capabilities as a civilization.  YET, too many of us seem to operate with antiquated beliefs, outdated tactics and even inferior execution skills.  Rather than adapt to the demands of change and accept the idea that we should push for HIGH-PERFORMANCE SPRINTS, a vast majority still resists and even reject the need for CHANGE❎❎❎

Yet, we look closely at the landscape across, we'll find a small group of people who refuse to think and act like the masses.  They are the non-conformist who buck the system, who question conventional belief and as a result, wind up doing extraordinary things in an implausibly short amount of time.  BUT we should have a fair chance similar to the SUCCESS STORIES we hear around✅✅✅

Step YES, Step NO

Step YES, Step NO

Hearing Step YES, Step NO reminds me of children long time back when there were no gadgets, no internet.  Fast forward to today, we live in the midst of technologies and unabated social media apps all around us.  NOT to blame technology and social media, BUT let's face it, they are a major influence with us creating our own COMFORT ZONEs💴💷💵

Let's face it, each of us has our own COMFORT ZONEs which, more than actual place, is a psychological/emotional/behavioral construct that defines the routine of our daily life.  Being in one's COMFORT ZONEs implies familiarity, safety and security.  It described the 'patterned world' of our existence, keeps us relatively comfortable and calm, and helps us stay emotionally even, free from anxiety and worry to a great degree📗📙📘

Creating a COMFORT ZONE is a health adaptation for much of our lives.  BUT so is stepping out of our COMFORT ZONE when it's time TO transition, TO grow, TO transform.  In fact, experiencing a little stress and anxiety now and then is a good thing too.  If all you ever do is stay wrapped in your little cocoon, keeping warm and cozy, you may be missing out on a lot, like NEW experiences, NEW challenges, and risks💎💎💎

And looking at the bigger picture, if you CAN'T step out of your COMFORT ZONE, you may experience difficult making CHANGE or transitioning, growing, and ultimately transforming.  In the shortest words, all those things that define WHO you are and give your life meaning.  Simply put, WHAT we fear most about challenging ourselves is that we may fail and/or even get hurt.  BUT most of us have the ability to rise to the occasion, overcome hurdles and actually succeed in accomplishing something new and challenging enough❗❗❗

Definitely there will be DISRUPTIONS in our life [just like that Covid pandemic] and that should lead us to really serious soul-searching as we need to learn to see the world in some very new ways.  So, let's throw away the window the old ways of STEP YES, STEP NO because our 'REAL LIFE' awaits us when we step out of our own COMFORT ZONEs✅✅✅

Flux Mindset, Anyone

Flux Mindset, Anyone

In the 'turbulent' world we live in now, everyone of us need to put more focus to improve our tolerance for UNCERTAINTY and that ability to embrace CHANGE in all its forms at all levels.  BTW, this is NOT just for organizations.  We as individuals just CAN'T afford to ignore or NOT invest in terms of effort to prepare us with a Flux Mindset, that state of confusion, dread and imbalance borne out of a lack of control, even economic upheavals, existential threats, rapidly evolving technologies, the fierce WAR FOR TALENT, work-life stresses, and even mental health crises.  Plug in the full-blown war between Israel and the Palestinians, we now have the recipe for a Flux Mindset💴💷💵

This laundry list of factors would leave us at a loss how to tackle the slew of issues we're facing, mired in the midst of anxieties, incapable of even inching forward.  By itself, this is a complicated set of dynamics to address given both the slew of factors and the importance of given people's lives are at stake📗📙📘

BUT, there is OPPORTUNITY IN CHAOS. and studies show that we can endeavor to develop that Flux Mindset in which CHANGE is NOT seen as inherently frightening, and uncertainty leads to less stress.  This leads to personal benefits so we can experience less fatigue.  This UNCERTAINTY will always be around us and much of what lies ahead in life remains uncertain.  Yet, as human beings, we crave for security.  We want to feel safe and have a sense of control over our lives and well-being💎💎💎

FEAR and UNCERTAINTY can leave us feeling stressed, anxious and sometimes powerless over the direction of our life.  It can drain us emotionally and trap us in a downward spiral of endless "WHAT IFs" and worse-case scenarios about what tomorrow may bring.  True, we're all different in HOW much UNCERTAINTY we can tolerate in our life💊💊💊

Some people seem to enjoy taking risks and living unpredictable lives [I'm NOT that one, though].  While others find the randomness of life deeply distressing [I'm NOT distressed either].  Bottom line is to take earnest, serious efforts to better deal with UNCONTROLLABLE CIRCUMSTANCES, alleviate our anxiety and face the unknown with more confidence.  That's a FLUX MINDSET❗❗❗