BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better
BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better. This is neither scare tactics nor Armageddon-like forecasts. But have we ever wondered why some things get WORSE before they get BETTER? Like when we opt to avail of professional counselling [to address a chronic issue like anxiety], and then just when you are about to commit to a CHANGE, you notice that every little thing seems to make you more anxious and stressed out.No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Saturday, August 26, 2023
BEWARE: Things Will Worsen Before It Gets Better
Friday, August 25, 2023
Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY?
Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY?
We used to believe that we humans are fragile, frail and worst, vulnerable. Which, in essence, is never farther from the truth. But several years ago, I did come across my own realization that indeed, we can turn our weakness into strength. Without redefining things, i realized that we should NOT bottle up emotions. While most of us were taught to hide our emotions or run away from them, frankly, this causes undue and continuous pain, which translates into stress. So, Do We Have POWER In Our VULNERABILITY❓❓❓
And if there is one thing we should invoke and leverage on, it is our own COURAGE to take on our vulnerabilities. Unfortunately, our modern cultures tend to err on the side of suppressed feelings in an effort to display strength. BUT psychologists have proven in their studies that VULNERABILITY is anything but a weakness. They say farther that it takes true STRENGTH and COURAGE to allow yourself to be vulnerable๐๐๐WHAT'S our next move? In everything we do, FEAR and CRITICISM will always be there to greet us [and make us COWER in FEAR]. In fact, FEAR is that restrictive force that stops most of us from ever stepping ore than one foot outside our own comfort zone towards realizing our true desires. And since FEAR and CRITICISM will always be there in some form, our best course of action is always to SHOW UP and MOVE FORWARD๐๐๐
Now, I grabbed this poster of our worries that define our FEAR of VULNERABILITY. No matter what we're doing, let us SHOW UP everyday to do what we were meant to do and DON'T let these hindrances stop us. WHY? It's because the more we stand up to these NEGATIVE FORCES, the more we'll FLEX our COURAGE and resilience, eventually with us coming out stronger for it [despite that challenge]✅✅✅Indeed, LIFE is a BLUR. So how do we run counter to this? Psychologists do advise us to go and aim for EXCELLENCE [and NOT perfection] because they say perfectionism is that belief that we live perfectly, look perfectly and act perfectly [when we are NOT]. So, DO WE HAVE THAT POWER IN OUR VULNERABILITY? Absolutely, we do have that❗❗❗
Thursday, August 24, 2023
Earning It Beats Inheriting It
Earning It Beats Inheriting It
Please DON'T get me wrong. I like and I love to be inheriting. It's the best thing that we can receive BUT come to think of it, isn't it Earning It Beats Inheriting It? I was watching the Netflix Series 'Inventing Anna [Episode 2 - The Devil Wore Anna] and I did catch this very relevant one-liner that Earning It Beats Inheriting It and instantly, I got this realization that this message really resonates with me because in the first place, my parents [who worked hard for our education and future] were, sadly, financially strapped to even let us inherit possessions that are liquid enough. It was a realization that was NOT late because every step of my run [even before hitting the next pit stop], I badly knew that I need to grind and EARN itEven in the rat race out there, with so much entitlement these days, it is NOT surprising why so many real estate agents and even account portfolio officers feel like they DON'T need to [or SHOULDN'T have to] learn HOW to get their own clients. They join a team WHERE everything is handed to them, they NEVER have to generate their own leads [from a sales perspective]
Let's face it, many of us take many things for granted especially when we are given things on a SILVER PLATTER. Surely we would have witnessed this, whether in friendships, family, love, or even the smallest things in life. DON'T look far. Instead, let's relook at those friendships. Would you prefer to find an 'instant' friend who happens to be a friend of your friend? OR do you want to build a friendship on your own volition?American Bassist Billy Cox was aptly quoted about RESPECT. And the best example here is the Japanese Culture where RESPECT, while it is inherited, it is always EARNED. And from a human standpoint, how does it feel when you did EARN the RESPECT you deserved? Contrast it to an authoritarian manner where it happens by duress❓❓❓
Taking things further, when it comes to RESPECT, earning it has been proven when you yourself will give that RESPECT on your own volition. Let's swing over to our family relationships. Rather than enforce things [like via 'BRUTE FORCE'], think about it if you let the water run spontaneously and exert everything from your end, all in GOOD FAITH because that leads you to be a step closer to that expectation which you know you deserve. Going back to financials from an EARNING versus INHERITANCE, it's even a no-brainer. By EARNING it with your sweat, the more you'll prove that you deserve every $$$$ you EARNED❗❗❗
Wednesday, August 23, 2023
Why Not Be FRONT & CENTER?
Why Not Be FRONT & CENTER?
Who Does Not Want To Be FRONT & CENTER? We do understand our unique personalities, like I could be that shy, withdrawn introvert BUT if by being that introvert, if I will deny myself that chance to be FRONT and CENTER because that's when and where opportunities may pop up and that's the opportunity that will offer us the best probability to be on the upside๐๐๐Tuesday, August 22, 2023
That Bottom Of The Barrel
That Bottom Of The Barrel
For many obvious reasons, next to Purgatory and Hell, That Bottom Of The Barrel is the most dreaded place to be in. And as a personal attestation, I admit that I did hit That Bottom Of The Barrel in my life and living through those phases in my life has been a humbling experience to say the least. To be more precise, maybe instead of saying that I lived during those phases, I should say I EXISTED๐๐๐Monday, August 21, 2023
Google Never Forgets
Google Never Forgets
I guess this is non-debatable that indeed, Google Never Forgets. So what's the fuss? The fuss lies in the fact that despite this common knowledge that Google Never Forgets, once we start through the search engines, we're totally oblivious that we are captives and hostages of the digital environment we live in, very much connected acrossHow time flies. Even cloud-based infrastructures have taken multiple quantum leaps through the decades. I remember not so long ago, just about fifteen years back, 2008 to be precise, I was based in India managing a Pan-India-wide project. From my hotel [The Resort @Mumbai], I was connecting via a 64kb dial-up. Yet, way back that time, I was already submerged with tons and mountains of information. Ten to fifteen years later till to date, these search engines have like taken over usToday as we speak, can we agree that we are all shackled with these SEO-based search engines like Google? Did we realize that there is NO WAY to get these search engine companies to erase the mountains of information from within their infrastructure. That is the HARSH LESSON the lawyers and censors should learn from the way Google is running the showThat inherent right involves removing search result information that are inadequate, irrelevant or simply excessive. In fact, now Google offers an 'application form for those who want to clean up their searchable histories. There was one time wherein in four days, more than 100,000 people invoked that form. Next day, there was a purported profiling leak of a small sampling of those 100,000 people.Perhaps, it is fair that people's pasts should NOT affect their current lives if they have done time. Discussing the fairness of their requests is beside the point, though, because their right to forget WON'T be granted in any meaningful way. FACT CHECK: Google now tells those who submit that form to GET IN LINE and that the privacy requests will be processed by real people and NOT through sheer algorithms. There is even a senior committee who will review that process. So, before we search and/or post, take note that, not just Google but the whole internet NEVER FORGETS❗❗❗Sunday, August 20, 2023
Popularity Is Irrelevant, period
Popularity Is Irrelevant, period
Who wants to be POPULAR? YES I DO, YES I WANT.... Of course, who doesn't want to? BUT that's a totally different tone if you ask, should we go al-out for POPULARITY? Unless you are a politician, or social influencer, WHY should we be angling for POPULARITY because Popularity Is Irrelevant, period๐๐๐Popularity bias is a long-standing challenge in our life. Even talking about things in life, popular items are overly recommended at the expense of less popular items. Such a bias exerts detrimental impact on both users and item providers, and many efforts have been dedicated to studying and solving such a bias. Problem is, most existing works situate the POPULARITY BIAS in a static setting, where the bias is analyzed. Popularity Is Irrelevant, period๐๐๐
Being POPULAR is whether you want to admit it or not, something we all are tempted to want. This is just totally normal and understandable. We all want to be safe from ridicule and exclusion. None of us want to be left out or overlooked. With that in mind, it becomes obvious why POPULARITY is something so many of us strive for. The POPULAR kids seem to have it all together. They seem to be protected from the bullies. They seem to be the people everyone wants to be around. The BIGGER problem is, that is just an illusion๐๐๐Let's face it though. People who are that POPULAR, have just as many problems as others do. They struggle with identity, with self-worth and low confidence. And at times, they can get so desperate to cling to their status that they will do anything to keep from losing it. All of this is rooted in FEAR. Which, when you think about it, makes sense✅✅✅Kids who DON'T have the 'right; shoes get teased. The girl who DOESN'T have the latest social media app will be railed about it. Being different shines a giant spotlight unto us and makes us the target of awful, horrible words. So indeed, the FEAR makes sense. BUT what do we do about it? The solution is to be able to stand up in the face of that fear and be yourself NO MATTER what others say. But that is easier said than done [BUT IT CAN BE DONE] because POPULARITY IS IRRELEVANT, period❗❗❗
Saturday, August 19, 2023
The Rise & Fall & Rise [of Former South Carolina Gov Sanford]
The Rise & Fall & Rise [of Former South Carolina Gov Sanford]
Last night, I was watching the Netflix Series "THE FAMILY" but I got [intentionally] side-tracked when I stumbled across that part where the travails of Former South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford started to unravel. And before I knew it, I was 'googling' more and more about Governor Sanford, his legal tiffs with his ex-wife Jenny and even his rough and tumble relationship with Maria Chapur, his girlfriend who's an Argentinian journalist. BUT it was NOT the clashing relationships that captured my attention. It was the realization that we are all BOUNCY BALLS and regardless our skids and tumbles in life, it is not bad BOUNCING BACK because the natural inertia of the BALL in us will BOUNCE BACK. Apologies I am NOT wearing another hat here as a physicist because I'm NOT✅✅✅Going back to the 'Governor Sanford Saga', if I may call it that way, his story as a 'COMEBACK KID' was NOT one typically found in scripted movies. In fact, after he reappeared and hosted a media conference a week after he disappeared, everyone [AS IN everyone] have all given up on him, down to his rabid followers and acolytes. And when he had 'ONE FOOT IN' for the impeachment process, after all the political balancing acts, the South Carolina 'powers that be' decided to let him finish his term instead of giving things on a silver platter to the then Lt. Governor who had his fair share of despised political foes๐๐๐
What are my realizations after this riveting 'Governor Sanford Saga'? A couple of lessons here. First, I'd like to state the obvious that AS LONG AS YOU'RE NOT MORTALLY DEAD, no one and no one should write you off [regardless of the severity and impact of your worst mistakes ever. Secondly, YOU and YOU YOURSELF is the primary catalyst for you to BOUNCE BACK. Not anyone else, not even your family. Thirdly, to quote a captivating one-liner in 'THE FAMILY' Netflix Series, where you have crossed the line, ADMIT, REPENT and get on track back to your RECOVERY ROAD. Definitely, BOUNCING BACK from one's darkest and worst mistake[s] ever is a tall order [BUT certainly, NOT AN IMPOSSIBLE DREAM]. I may NOT be an American [and ceetainly NOT from the Palmetto State of South Carolina] but I truly admire how Former South Carolina Governor Sanford 'rose from the ashes' to become a successful three-term Congressman, stamping a positive note as he closed out his political career. I absolutely salute Governor Sanford for his epic BOUNCE BACK both in his political life and even in his political life๐๐๐
Friday, August 18, 2023
What If You Don't Have It Right, For What It's Worth
What If You Don't Have It Right, For What It's Worth
When you feel down and 'out of sync' with your thoughts, you would probably show signs that you have a low sense of self-worth without even realizing it. You may second-guess yourself when someone questions you or try to fit into a mold that someone else wants you to be in. BUT What If You Don't Have It Right, For What It's Worth? Oh Oh, while it's completely normal to go through self-doubt every once in a while, having a low sense of self worth can dictate and control every decision you'll make๐๐๐BUT then again, knowing your SELF-WORTH doesn't mean you have to be cocky and arrogant. Instead, it's all about being comfortable in your skin, trusting your ideas and gut feelings and knowing that you deserve to live a successful and fulfilling life, no matter what other people may say. Your WORTH is probably the most valuable thing you have, got to nurture it๐๐๐Psychologists have released their studies confirming that many of us tend to settle for 'SELF-ESTEEM' for feeling good about how we act, look, feel or think, instead of seeking what lies beneath. We fail to get to know our true selves because we're too caught up in the very selves we create. No matter how much we learn to love WHO we seem to be on the outside, we will never fully embrace our WORTH until we dig deeper⏳⏳⏳Now, why DON'T we figure out those tell-tale signs that probably we're bordering or about to breach that low sense of SELF-WORTH. Now, do you want to CONSTANTLY PLEASE OTHERS? Doing this all the time can allow you to forget your own needs and wants. Now, do you allow others to treat you poorly? Have you ever said 'SORRY' when someone else bumped into you? Be careful because people will treat you the way you want to be treated✅✅✅Now, how often you think you DON'T deserve much? Having a high sense of SELF-WORTH allows you to take control of your life. Listen, you WON'T allow another employee to boss you around or have a friend disrespect you by talking down to you. Then, how often you feel like you're NOT yourself? Sometimes people lose their sense of SELF-WORTH due to a traumatic event, like being fired from job. After such traumatic situations, you may start to feel helpless and lost. WHAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT RIGHT, FOR WHAT ITS WORTH❓❓❓
Thursday, August 17, 2023
Truth Is, It's YOU Versus YOURSELF
Truth Is, It's YOU Versus YOURSELF
Who says we got tons and tons of antagonists and foes in life? Socrates, the great Greek Philosopher was quoted saying "CARE FOR ONESELF AND KNOW ONESELF". Now, from our growing up years, we were taught that being SELFLESS is a good thing and that there are many proven benefits of altruism to our well-being but we cannot disown that the Truth Is, It's YOU Versus YOURSELF๐๐๐
Often, we seek validation from the wrong sources. You will NEVER find your whole worth in another human being because you will find it in yourself and then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy. So, why DON'T we stop waiting for others to tell us how impressive we are. Instead, IMPRESS YOURSELF. SHOW YOURSELF that you can learn, grow and get better. Again, life is NEVER competing with others. WHY get bothered if your high school classmate is driving a Ferrari? WHY be insecure if your batch mate is now a CFO of a global organization? WHY feel down if your relative has a sprawling mansion❓❓❓C'mon, during those times when we feel drained, depleted and demoralized, we really have NOTHING to give. WHEN we fill our time with responsibilities and constantly prioritize the needs of others over our own, we can end up draining ourselves of energy and even desire. I guess we've all experienced the difference between GIVING from a feeling of having something to GIVE, helping a workmate, cooking meal for our family, all because we feel we SHOULD do these all๐๐๐With all humility, I would admit that I got classmates from way back my elementary and high school days who are now either a CEO, CFO and CIO. But instead of ending up pitiful, I got my 'second wind' when I realized that I have a bigger number of classmates who, unfortunately, didn't make it good enough in life. Not that I'm jumping on that but it was for me to realize that I should feel MORE BLESSED [more than I thought]✅✅✅From then onwards, I was constantly competing versus myself. When I woke up today, I would pause and ask: HOW DID I PERFORM YESTERDAY? Had I flopped yesterday, that should be rectified ASAP. Had I added another feather in my cap yesterday, I want to move up the goal post and aim higher. TRUTH IS, IT'S YOU VERSUS YOURSELF❗❗❗
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