Think Things Through

Think Things Through

Do we really Think Things Through?  Uhmmm, some may say, SOMETIMES.  Others would react, LET'S NOT EVEN TALK ABOUT IT.  But hey, WHY is THINKING THINGS THROUGH so hard to do?  Procrastinate on thinking out important personal problems and you will [probably] doom yourself to repeat them. Of course, if you wait long enough, your problem MIGHT go away.  REALLY❓❓❓

Sweeping problems UNDER THE RUG is a formula fpr continuing to feel burdened by unresolved problems and/or conflicts.  And that is SO EASY to do.  THINKING THINGS THROUGH can be hard to do.  Thus, it is EASY to skip [frankly, to IGNORE] it.  BUT, dodging problems carries a PRICE TAG.  You'll probably [and VERY LIKELY] keep repeating the same problem [over and over again].  You may then likely to accumulate more pain over time than facing to resolve the problem early📌📌📌

On the other hand, resolving problems can feel LIBERATING.  You'll gain a big benefit.  And you'll likely have fewer painful recurring problems.  So, here I am, have grabbed this 'THINKING IT THROUGH' sheet.  Very practical, no frills.   But the challenge is whatever cheat sheet you have, you got to commit yourself to follow through it no less.  This is NOT a piece of paper for semantics and documentation.  This is here to likely compel you to do things the right way💊💊💊

If ever you count yourself amongst the millions who selectively put off thinking out and resolving some of their personal problems, the chances are that you may end up to fictionalize reasons for delaying.  In exploring this ART of MISDIRECTION, this does NOT lead you away and farther from that hated world of procrastinators.  Now, let's be fair and square here✅✅✅

That big, huge gaping hole that traps many of us is PROCRASTINATION.  And despite your awareness of PROCRASTINATION, you have your VALID reasons.  MAYBE you DON'T want to stir up unpleasant emotions. MAYBE you feel uncertain about how to approach a problem.  MAYBE you're engaging yourself in defensive tactics.  So, do THINK THINGS THROUGH❗❗❗

The GAP From INTENDING To DOING

The GAP From INTENDING To DOING

Our thread today has got nothing to do with road infrastructures.  Neither is it about DRIVING.  I just grabbed this round-about picture [a.k.a. ROTONDA or ROTUNDA [in Italian] referring to round infrastructures.  Instead we'd like to zero-in on that huge gaping GAP between INTENDING and DOING.  WHY?  Our journey in life is shaped and impacted by the extent of that huge GAP between INTENDING and DOING.  What we are TODAY versus WHAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN could be totally different 

I myself, I am farthest from being perfect but with all humility, I can attest that while I am NOT in that big league of the business magnates, I can comfortably admit that WHAT I am today could have been ten times worse had I missed out in reducing the huge gap between INTENDING and DOING,  If my intentions was kilometric-long and my 'DOING' plate was empty, things could have been utterly different

Oh, this is a very picturesque poster I grabbed but beyond the surface, this highlights people WHO did WHAT others were simply INTENDING.  The differences between such two segments of people could be ten times wider when the Red Sea waters parted.  But this tells us is that in life, what matters is the DOING because that leads to RESULTS

Let's do a quick REWIND with the recent pandemic wherein around 20 percent of those who fell ill with the Covid coronavirus NEVER complied with the health and hygiene protocols at all.  But let's give them the benefit of the doubt.  Let's NOT assume thst they were opposed to such protocols.  It's even likely they wanted to comply but DIDN'T have the means to comply

Yesirrrrs. we agree everything starts with I-N-T-E-N-T but even if such is done in good faith, STILL, it does NOT matter because at the end of the day, it's either a BLACK or WHITE, DONE or NOT DONE.  Sadly, I have witnessed people who got STUCK and STALLED because for the longest time, they had all the best INTENTIONS but they never pushed themselves to bridge the GAP from INTENDING to DOING❗❗❗

The Wisdom of STEVE JOBS

The Wisdom of STEVE JOBS

STEVE JOBS is a household name both in the business and technology spaces but for those unsure,  STEVE JOBS was an American business magnate and inventor who co-founded the very successful APPLE company [who has not heard of iPhones, iPads? and MACs?].  Why does STEVE JOBS really deserve today's space for our thread?  I thought this is long overdue for us to share and dissect some of the most substantive and messaging-heavy words STEVE JOBS has left for us to ponder.  For the doubting Thomases, sharing The Wisdom of STEVE JOBS WON'T cost us even a cent because he bequeathed all these to us before he died💎💎💎

Dying at the very young age of 56, on his death bed, STEVE JOBS blurter:  WHAT's the difference between a wristwatch worth $30 versus $300 when both will show you the same TIME?  What about a purse worth $30 versus $300 when it may have the same amount?  And if you drive a car worth $30k versus $300k. both can cover the same journey, distance and destination💊💊💊

Please DON'T get me wrong.  there is NOTHING wrong if from time to time we do SPLURGE.  When we achieve some of our milestone successes, we do deserve to REWARD ourselves for us to enjoy the fruits of all our hard work and labor.  But to SPLURGE and REWARD ourselves from time to time is NOT akin to those who are so enamored to peg their [default] standards to the top tier luxury brands whether it's for watches, cars, perfumes, bags, name it.  WHY?  Let us just go back to the words STEVE JOBS' words of wisdom whether it's all about cars, wallets, watches📌📌📌

Even for things SIMPLE versus COMPLEX, STEVE JOBS had very insightful words for it as part of his mantras.  He espoused FOCUS and SIMPLICITY amongst his mantras but he forewarned his believers that "SIMPLE CAN BE HARDER THAN COMPLEX".  WHY? It's because, to quote him again, "YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO GET YOUR THINKING CLEAN TO MAKE IT SIMPLE"✅✅✅

To our counterparts at the workplace, here are strong words from STEVE JOBS: 'THE ONLY WAY TO DO GREAT WORK IS TO LOVE WHAT YOU DO'.  If I may piggy-back on these words, allow me to extend these words to almost anything and everything you'll do in life.  THAT's why two weeks ago when I drove back for vacation in the countryside, it took me fifteen [15] hours driving one-way but did I get tired?  Of course I was.  BUT I did I regret getting into that quagmire?  NO, not at all.  WHY?  It's because 'I LOVE WHAT I DO'❗❗❗

Quid Pro Quo [DAR y RECIBIR]

Quid Pro Quo [DAR y RECIBIR]

I am no linguist here as My Latin is putrid and my Espanol is pidgin at best.  Having said it, Quid Pro Quo [DAR y RECIBIR] is worth our piece today because in life, there has been one too many negotiations, horse-trading and the like.  And that's just normal and a given but we need to revisit the essence of Quid Pro Quo [which in Espanol means DAR y RECIBIR]💎💎💎

Whether we're talking commercials or the intangibles, 'VALUE versus PRICE' should be at the core of our thought process way before we make up our minds to reach to an INFORMED DECISION.  IN fact, this infographics is a no-brainer.  Simply put, if the PRICE outweighs the VALUE, it is a NO GO.  Whereas if the latter weighs heavier, that should be the input and trigger for your INFORMED DECISION📌📌📌

BTW, in the Untied States, one of the most rewarding career is to be a LOBBYIST, a legitimate party who will push hard and so goal-centric that they will do what it takes to meet his client's marching orders.  Obviously, in the U.S. landscape peppered with lawsuits any and everywhere, such QUID PRO QUO need to be legal and legitimate✅✅✅

Swinging back to our own lives, in many instances, that option to uptick is driven by our desire for MORE.  MORE security.  MORE happiness.  MORE peace.  MORE stability.  And for the more responsible ones, the 'MORE' is a motivation if it will be for his/her spouse, loved ones and family, which are all very laudable.  Bottom-line is, you should NOT get short-changed when you're willing to pay that EXTRA in exchange for an uplift💊💊💊

So, where you are that lobbyist at the U.S. Capitol or an Espanol focused on DAR y RECIBIR, everything should be equitable, fair, just and reasonable.  DON'T emulate the high-stakes games at the Las Vegas Strip where the high-rollers go for the max, NEVER TAKE THAT PATH, dude❗❗❗

At Some Point, You Gotta Pick A Horse

At Some Point, You Gotta Pick A Horse

Life can never be a zone of neutrality.  And in the midst of healthy discussions and debates, we would sometimes come across parties who would be buying time before they make up their minds to formulate a specific decision.  That 'WAITING GAME' can only wait for so much because At Some Point, You Gotta Pick A Horse.  And frankly, in life, there will be many instances when we reach decision points which can only wait so much.  As a first person account, I have witnessed close friends and relatives who took their own sweet time in the name of prudence and caution💎💎💎

Chocolate or strawberry?  BLACK PINK or BTS?  Life or death?  We make some choices quickly and automatically, relying on mental shortcuts our brains have developed over the years to guide us in the best course of action.  Understanding strategies such as maximizing versus satisfying, fast versus slow thinking, and factors such as risk tolerance and choice overload can lead to better outcomes   At Some Point, You Gotta Pick A Horse💊💊💊

When making a decision, we tend to form opinions and choose actions versus mental processes which tend to be influenced by biases, reason, emotions and even memories.  That simple act of deciding supports the notion that we have FREE WILL.  We weigh the costs and benefits then cope with the decision's consequences⏳⏳⏳

So, what kind of decision should we all make?  It should be INFORMED DECISION which, briefly, it is that ability to think critically because that is key to making decisions without easily succumbing to the very common errors or bias.  This mean, NOT just going with your GUT but rather figuring out what knowledge you lack and obtaining it✅✅✅

So how do we choose between two or more options that seem equally appealing on the surface?  That would entail a mixture of INTUITION and RATIONAL THINKING, critical factors including personal biases and blind spots which are often unconscious, which then makes decision-making hard to fully operationalize or get a handle on.  At some point, YOU GOTTA PICK A HORSE.  Just DON'T wait way too long❗❗❗

What Do You Bring To The Table?

What Do You Bring To The Table?

Oh, this very frequently quoted statement resonates and reverberates across over and over again because it holds water! What Do You Bring To The Table?  You can be student in the academe now OR you're part of the workforce OR you're wooing your 'ideal' lifetime partner OR you're getting into a business venture⏳⏳⏳

Oh, this picture was lifted straight from your fav comic strips but this speaks volumes.  When financially you hit rock bottom, DON'T be surprised if you're asked with this brutally frank question because IT IS WHAT IT IS.  In life, we could be asked this interrogative statement a zillion times especially if we're skidding down, your life-journey going down south.  Unless your trajectory takes a 180-degree turnaround and bounces back from a negative shortfall to a positive note, you better be prepared to spew out the tangible response that will be scrutinized like a needle💎💎💎

Turns out, one of the most IGNORED boring question is:  WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS?  Many of us have seldom considered this question.  Sure, you might love drawing, your friends might laugh at your jokes, and you might have an impressive collection of THANK YOU notes.  But maybe you have NOT thought of creativity, humor and kindness as your STRENGTHS.  In the various studies by psychologists, the studies show that the strength-based approach lies in its paradigm-shifting capacities before considering their flaws and weaknesses.  In short, let us train our brains📌📌📌

In relationships. researches also show that feeling appreciated in a relationship is a significant predictor of whether the relationship endures.  Over time, we can start taking our spouse/partner for granted because when we intentionally train ourselves to see our partner's STRENGTHS and place attention on their good qualities, we begin to see them with 'NEW EYES'✅✅✅

The question I tried to find an answer was this:  WHY DO RELATIONSHIPS FAIL?  Studies show that lack of recognition and appreciation is the most common reason.  A strength-based relationship helps partners to feel being seen and more importantly, appreciated.  But all these are semantics.  So HOW?  Step back and look at your partner with fresh eyes.  Remind yourself of their STRENGTHS.  From thereon, YOU'VE GOT SOMETHING TO BRING TO THE TABLE❗❗❗

An Easy Sail NEVER Makes A Good Sailor

An Easy Sail NEVER Makes A Good Sailor

Who buys this one-liner.  That indeed, An Easy Sail NEVER Makes A Good Sailor.  I buy this.  WHY?  Because this practically applies to any endeavor in life.  You want an easy ride, an easy life, a low-effort journey, a flight where you can just activate the AUTO-PILOT?  Of course that's feasible for aircrafts but if you are an up and coming pilot, will you learn your trade effectively via that AUTO-PILOT button❓❓❓

There's a saying that LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS.  While you may try to be ready for every eventuality, setbacks will happen along the way regardless of your intense preparedness.  We've all been in a situation in which an obstacle would have left us either intimidated or worse, quite frightened.  Seriously, given all the variables in our life, t becomes imperative that we view these times NOT as an invitation to give up BUT rather as a chance to prove our mettle📌📌📌

So, when you get hit with challenges, what do we do?  Remind yourself that what you are going through is relative in nature.  Think of others are are facing much bigger obstacles than yourself.  Instead, BE THANKFUL that your challenges are NOT as intense [as what others are facing].  Take a deep breath, make a plan of action and prepare for both the BEST and the WORST scenarios.  Being in that game is already half the battle.  You've got to figure it out to survive the second half of the game⏳⏳⏳

Fears, any?  Obviously we have all our fears.  So, how do we handle it?  REFRAME YOUR FEARS because the more we think about something, the bigger it gets.  Acknowledge your FEARS and sense of feeling overwhelmed and ask yourself for another perspective.  Do engage in SELF-TALK.  When FEAR arises, we are often too quick to react to it BUT living it out or pushing it aside only feeds it further❗❗❗

In brief, LET GO OF WHAT YOU FEAR. That fear of losing those things is usually strong enough to prevent us from accepting the loss.  If we can imagine life 'without the thing', we can proceed with COURAGE [and be detached from the OUTCOME].  Truly, AN EASY SAIL NEVER MAKES A GOOD SAILOR✅✅✅

Get Back On The Horse, PRONTO!

Get Back On The Horse, PRONTO!

When You Fall From The Saddle, Get Back On The Horse, PRONTO!  Makes sense?  I think so.  WHY?  Because along that long journey, we all fall along the way.  Anyone exempted from those various forms of falls from the saddle?  No one.  So, what's in it for us?  It is for us to develop that acumen for reflexes quick enough to bounce back from a fall and Get Back On The Horse⏳⏳⏳

So, when do we fall off from the saddle, it could be due to failing health [either ours or someone from our loved ones/family], suddenly out-of-work [regardless of the reason], relationships getting strained and weakened, business venture floundering or cashflow issues pushing the situation into dire financial straits.  Just one too many but this is NOT to dampen or weaken our innermost drive💊💊💊

Regardless of the UPs and DOWNs in our life, we generally bounce back from adverse life situations and sometimes we do get derailed.  So, what's our dire need now?  It is HOW TO GET BACK ON TRACK.  First off, ensure you have that 'MOTIVATING ENVIRONMENT' in your life.  Decluttering experts claim that your surroundings have a big role to play in how you feel, think, and act💎💎💎

We often feel side-tracked as we end forgetting what amazing things we are capable of and how far we have come in our lives.  That is WHY getting a reminder of the same and a push to get back on track is really needed.  What can be better than someone who knows you?  So, connect with a loved one and share to them how you've been feeling and likely they'll extend a helping hand✅✅✅

Now, DON'T forget to COACH YOURSELF [although we'll always hear that we seek out other life coaches].  WHO can be a teacher or the DRIVING FORCE to get back on track than yourself?  Yes, it's you, dude.  You can then regain your FOCUS and gain CLARITY.  Start building a growth and learning mindset because your bottom-line is to GET BACK ON THE HORSE, pronto❗❗❗

Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?

Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?

Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?  No sirrrrrs, we're NOT pushing hard for you to constantly stand out there in that mammoth crowd.  Instead, we'd like to see you being an active party in a discussion but, like a pro boxer, stepping in to unleash a jab and stepping out to avoid a counter jab.  In conversations, however, there is a common recurring trap and those are the questions thrown on you till you get caught 'flat footed'.  So, will you answer all questions thrown to you?  No sirrrrrrs, not at all.  Fact is, DON'T feel obliged to answer every question even if you are either NOT in a position or you feel to be the wrong respondent📌📌📌

So, what do you do next?  Either IGNORE that misplaced question OR ask a question in return.  You need not be non-commital if you would say you'll be responding to it but would like to validate your understanding [of the question].  And if the question is NOT that crystal-clear, request to have it clarified.  In the basic protocols, when a person asks a question, normal social rules say that the questioned person must answer the question⏳⏳⏳

Be cautious though because if you DON'T answer the question, the other person becomes confused not only you do something to tweak the roles.  Besides being reactive, you can actively join the communications by wiggling yourself out of a [pestering or annoying] queston and instead, you start initiating a topic/discussion.  From a POINT to INTERRIPT to and to start a new conversation. this is the BEST WAY OUT [besides interrupting].  

So, here you go, you could be GAME-CHANGER.  And that is often a goodth thing to do when the discussion is flagging and people are beginning to repeat themselves.  And changing the topic is an ACT of CONTROL in a conversation and thus positions you in a position of relative power.  Initiating a new topic is an ACT of CONTROL and thus positions you well in the ongoing discussion.  As the initiator, changing the subject is an ACT of CONTROL in a conversation

So WHAT and HOW do we haggle here ON BEHALF possible collateral damages?  That you are much better off than you really are. So, what benefit do we get out of this aggressive & proactive stance?  First off, we get recognized that you will be able to soluve the crisis but even before going into that, allow me to temper your curiosity, if any.  Instead, you DON'T need to grab the microphone.  You just DON'T want to 'gate-crash' the party and end up as the spoler.  Endeavor to be the STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK✅✅✅

Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back

Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back

Be Wary, For Some Losses You CAN'T Get Back.  Unfortunately, there are LOSSES which are FORCE MAJEURE, way beyond your control.  And a very common scenario is GRIEF.  And can you guess the struggle when GRIEF strikes?  Yesirrrrrs, it is our brain that really struggles to cope.  Not the best example but when a family member dies, adjusting to the fact that you'll NEVER again spend time with your departed loved one can be painful.  In fact, it takes time but more than that, way beyond our consciousness, it involves changes in our brain💊💊💊

Much as we want to embrace what this poster screams 'TAKE NO LOSS', When we experience being in a relationship, the sense of who we are is bound up with that other person.  The word SIBLING, the word SPOUSE, they imply two people.  So when the other person is gone, we suddenly have to learn a totally new set of rules to operate.  'WE' becomes 'ME' and even our brain needs to change for a good reason💎💎💎

So our brain also feels that way, as it were and codes that 'WE' and updates it to 'ME'.  Before we get mixed up, let's differentiate grieving from grief where the latter is the emotional state whereas grieving is WHAT HAPPENS as we adapt to the fact that our loved one is gone, that we're carrying the absence of them with us.  And the reason that this distinction makes sense is, grief is a natural response to loss.  But GRIEVING means that our relationship to that GRIEF changes over time.  So, the first time or even the first 100 times, you're knocked off your feet with GRIEF, it feels terrible, awful and unfamiliar.  But when the 101st comes, you might blurt out 'I'LL GET THROUGH THIS'.  What is imperative, however, is for us to be aware and conscious that there are CONTROLLABLE losses📌📌📌

Uhmmm, sometimes we DON'T know WHEN to 'throw the towel'.  As time passes, it becomes clear that things AREN'T working out as you planned.  You then realize that pursuing whatever it is that you're pursuing will cost you too much financially or emotionally or it will take too long.  Whether that's being successful in your career OR mending a troubled relationship OR renovating your house.  But instead of moving on to new opportunities, all too often you simply STAY THE COURSE and sacrifice your own well-being in the process.  Hey, you're NOT alone.  Most of us want to stay in a job or relationship long after it ceased to be satisfying⏳⏳⏳

The costs to the person who CAN'T see the reason [in terms of time, effort or lost opportunities for happiness] can be enormous.  We recognize this kind of foolishness immediately in others but that DOESNT stop us from making the same mistake to lead us to losses AGAIN.  Be wary, as for SOME LOSSES YOU CAN'T GET BACK❗❗❗