Often, The HARDEST Times Lead Us To The GREATEST Moments

Often, The HARDEST Times Lead Us To The GREATEST Moments.  Frankly, this is one of the most oft-quoted one-liners BUT allow me to re-quote it because sometimes, this gets lost in translation.  Trials, travails and tribulations are never new to us all BUT the huge miss I have been witnessing over and over again is that, when we get hit with that hard fall, sometimes, we would think that the whole world is crumbling down to our feeble feet,  WHAT happens next is that panic and pressure would surface all over the place BUT we're all missing out the fact that we become stronger coming out of the adversities in life.  True, WHEN faced with a crisis, it can be difficult in that moment to think how far you can go📗📙📘

This is WHERE RESILIENCE starts to surface as that becomes our ability to bounce back from those adversities and grow from the challenges we grappled with.  NOT just psychologists but all studies and researches show that past adversities can help us persevere in the face of a current stress.  And those past struggles help us become more RESILIENT with that increased empathy.  And leading and living with empathy has never been more important in our world than right now.  Because empathy is that ability for us to identify with the challenges that other people face and to see those challenges from their perspective.  You can run into an 'empathy roadblock' WHEN you think you have to fix another person's situation or respond with an answer💧💧💧

RESILIENCE will also help us find the 'GOOD'.  Through the years, WHENEVER the clouds hovering me get gloomier and darker, I would do my darn best to find that silver lining in the midst of those challenges. And a lot of WHAT's going on feels outside of my control during those times BUT I endeavored to keep some perspective so that I DON'T get off-tracked.  Finding the UPSIDE to adversities change the way we cope💚💛💜

YES, one realization I have had through the years is that those adversities in life helped me reframe stress as a challenge.  How we think about stress matters enormously in terms of HOW we process it.  Some people even view stress as a threat [ouch!!!] WHILE others are able to view it as a challenge.  With that challenge response, we end up getting that additional energy, and suddenly our heart's beat gets to be pulsating in an increasing crescendo and before you know it, your adrenaline shoots up💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Without painting a rosy picture, if your world feels out of control right now and your stress levels are shooting up at an all-time high, go back and recall your past struggles, even those small ones, because at the end of the day, it should have 'hardened' you enough to have a much better ability to manage your current struggles, even if it DOESN'T feel that way in the very moment.  RESILIENCE DOESN'T always look pretty, because in some days it could look like that it's just about middling through as best you can.  Thing is, WHATEVER you're doing now is enough.  That said, leverage on the strengths you gained through the past adversities and ask yourself these basic questions:

• WHERE do I have control, influence OR leverage?
• WHAT is a [proven] specific action plan I can take?
• WHAT are my strengths which fixed those 'chinks in my armor'?

Yes dude, OFTEN, THE HARDEST TIMES LEAD US TO THE GREATEST MOMENTs.  Go for it!!!