Will You Give Up The Farm [JUST FOR THAT]?

 

In life, we dream about having and acquiring a farm.  Farms?  YES, because that's one reflection of one's success.  THEN, along the way, here you are again, running a full circle and nursing to achieve another success BUT the biggest question is, WILL YOU GIVE UP THE FARM [just for that]?  There's this story about Pablo Picasso, the famous Spanish painter. Legend has it that he was sketching in a park WHEN an audacious woman approached him.  And she insisted that he must sketch her portrait, right there and then📗📙📘

So, Picasso agreed to sketch the woman.  And after studying her for a moment, he used a single pencil stroke to create her protrait.  He handed her his work of art.  And the woman blurted "It's perfect!.  You managed to capture my essence all in one stroke, all in one moment.  Thank you.  How much do I owe you?".  Picasso replied, "Five thousand dollars".  BUT the woman protested WHY Picasso is asking for so much WHEN it took him a very short time to do that sketch.  Picasso calmly replied, "Madam, it took me my entire life" [to come up with that sketch for you].  How's it?  Have you struggled with the value you bring to the table?  Picasso had NO such trouble in this story💥💥💥

Truth to tell, in our life, more often, it's NOT just the face value BUT its intrinsic value as well.  It's NOT just tit for tat.  It's NOT bread for bread all the time.  When we're tapping on the services of people, it's NOT just the end result that matters because you are leveraging on that person's capabilities and competencies.  A fortnight ago, we treated our 'on call' handyman and his wife to a sumptous meal in a 'top-rated' restaurant and from there, we brought them to the supermarket and advised them to 'cart in' WHATEVER consummables they will find in the supermarket [and we'll just wait at the Checkout Counter]💚💛💜

NOT to defend the behemoths in the multiple vertical industries, I always believed in free enterprise such that companies should sell based on VALUE [and NOT simply the cost of the product].  The key here is to think about WHAT one is providing by identifying the value one is offering as a proposition.  The key here is for the 'seller' to think about WHAT he is providing and identify the value so that he can present his offering in a way that becomes NOT just acceptable but 'palatable' to the recipient he is offering his services😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  Regardless if the engagement or interaction is on a 'commercial' basis OR purely personal [within your family], let's consider all these:

• Understand your VALUE PROPOSITION.
• Understand someone's pain and value you're offering
• Understand WHAT IF you're in the shoes of that person
• Understand your 'true' costs before any 'mark ups'
• Understand to focus your efforts for that person to appreciate the value you're offering BUT WILL YOU GIVE UP THE FARM [just for that]?  No way dude!!!

Life is Never 'CUT & DRY'

 

Oh NO, LIFE IS NEVER A 'CUT AND DRY' stuff.  WHO says it is?  Just a few years ago WHEN we all got hit hard by that Covid-19 Pandemic, our world turned upside down and our whole world just ended more than just topsy-turvy.  True, literal things like meat, flowers and wood are all 'CUT and DRIED'  BUT dude, there there are many more things in life WHICH is NOT 'CUT and DRIED'📗📙📘

Issues?  Answers?  BTW, even phone-cleaning is certainly NOT as CUT and DRIED as you thought.  Far from CUT and DRIED, science is dynamic and messy and, like a great novel , filled with changes in plot.  As such, science has always been peddled as the best example of NOT being CUT and DRIED because it's always fresh.  That's the parallelism when we get drawn in our daily lives. And even we do a mapping with technology, there is NO 'PLUG and PLAY' in our daily lives💥💥💥

In real life terms, we heard heart-rending narratives from the Third World WHERE a parent works damn hard overseas and sends his financial help to his family every month or so.  UNTIL the beneficiaries got so used to it.  UNTIL the recipients [wrongly] believe that that was the 'DEFAULT SETTING' in their lives and therefore, without lifting even a finger, $$$$$$$ will trickle in come next month and in this age of digital wallets, one DOESN'T even need to go to the bank.  $$$$$$$ would just trickle in effortlessly into their digital wallets.  One day, those $$$$$$$ DON'T get into the digital wallet and people 10,000 miles away start to get anxious and yes, damn worried.  WHY?  It's because they [wrongly] thought that life is a 'CUT and DRY' thing, WHICH is NOT.  BUT alas, people's perspectives get mixed up❎❎❎

Over at the workplace, typically, if you've got those 'wet ears' straight from university, you are so enthused and excited to plunge into work.  BUT down the road, some of us would [wrongly] thing that life becomes 'CUT and DRY' at the workplace environment.  THAT salary increments will happen.  THAT job promotions are no-brainers.  THAT variable bonuses are a given.  Until, someone gets hit by very unpleasant things LIKE that salary increment NOT happening, that JOB promotion never coming into fruition and that variable bonus becomes nothing more than just a figment of one's imagination😕😕😕

Our takeaway:  Life is NOT a point-to-point thing, NOT akin to that tourist Hop-IN Hop-OUT buses.  While the parallelism is consistent with the START and END of that journey, once the engine in our life gets ignited, expect a road with potholes, with gaps, with some hard gravels and sometimes with slopes too steep for the inefficient engine to struggle upwards.  Yes dude, to set expectations, LIFE IS NEVER 'CUT & DRY'❗❗❗

That Unwritten Rule That Our LIPS SHOULD BE SEALED

 

These days, WHEN our communities are wired seamlessly with almost NO boundaries, the magic words most we hear most often are collaborations and interactive, a far cry from those times WHEN technology and the internet for that matter was light years away.  BUT in our life, we often think about our UPs and DOWNs, the HIGHs and the LOWs and also we tend to contemplate about WHO we can share it with.  BUT alas, there are also some things in life that should be kept under wraps and kept private at all times, in fact.  It may be an unwritten rule BUT it resonates the loudest because we should NEVER breach the unwritten rule for some things in life WHERE our lips should be sealed💚💛💜

Topping the list is our FINANCES.  NO sirrrrrrs, contrary to the skewed understanding that only the impoverished OR those with financial challenges should keep their lips sealed, that's only one half of the unwritten rule.  And the other half is that even if you Elon Musk OR Jeff Bezos, keep your finances under wraps as well.  WHY flaunt it?  OR WHY SHARE it like an open book? There is NO single compelling reason to do so.  BUT if ever you breach this unwritten rule, WHAT happens next?  If you're awash with wealth, either you will be besirched as flaunting your wealth OR you can up risking the safety of even yourself💥💥💥

If you are conscious enough as to HOW people will look upon you, build up your credibility, your track record, your standing BUT finances?  Shut off the windows.  Coming close to the heels are family matters.  Regardless of the severity of family issues, NEVER wash dirty linen in public.  There is NO gain for doing because the only people WHO deserve to know your family issues are either an immediate member of your family or a professional therapist OR counsellor whose services you are tapping.  Thing is, the MORE YOU TELL, the MORE THE NEWS will spread like bushfires and wildfires and before you know, you are the 'HOT TOPIC' of kibitzers and hobnobbers, ouch❎❎❎

Next foxhole are problems in a strained relationship.  True, the hubby has a trusted friend and so is the wifey.  BUT once things turn its ugly head in a relationship, keep that equation as simple as possible, i.e. anything and everything is between the partners OR spouses.  It behooves to NOT involve anyone else as advices can be diverse and it will likely end up as a contributor to making the situation more complex than it was.  BTW, this is human nature.  If you step into a room with ten people, expect ten opinions.  It is an outlier to stumble across someone WHO, when you solicit an opinion, will tell you that he has 'NO OPINION'😗😗😗

NEXT?  Your future plans.  Your next goals.  Your upcoming chapter in your workbook.  There is a lot of energy associated with every goal and ambition we have in life.  And as per beliefs, WHEN you share too much about the future with someone [even if he/she is your closest and most trusted confidant], it could attract their jealous energies OR worse, even something more sinister.  Moreover, I 'walked this talk'.  Sharing your next move OR next plan can put up the pressure on you.  Imagine if everyone is aware of your next goal[s]?  Besides that unwanted pressure, if ever you stumble or fall flat in your next goal, you DON'T want everyone to be in the know, right?  WHAT for?  Yes, there are unwritten rules to KEEP OUR LIPS SEALED😌😌😌

It Feels Better Than The Truth

 

Last night, I was watching the Netflix movie FLIGHTPLAN starred by Jodie Foster.  Without spoiling your interest, at one point, as everyone was airborne [in that flight], the volunteering therapist bluntly told Jodie Foster [the bereaved wife bringing her husband's casket back to the U.S. and while airborne, losts her daughter WHO was seated/sleeping right next to her in their coach seats] that sometimes, "IT FEELS BETTER THAN THE TRUTH".  That egged me to pause that movie because I realized that there was a tinge of truth because in life, as much as we want the truth, there will be times WHEN hearing something, sometimes it FEELS BETTER THAN THE TRUTH

True, everyone sings HONEST IS THE BEST POLICY BUT experts may NOT absolutely agree on this mantra to be 100% all the time.  True, we were all taught to NEVER LIE as even our parents did teach us the power of truth.  And no less than your partner/spouse will remind you that honesty matters the most.  BUT here's the researchers coming in that there is a lot we get wrong about deception, truth-telling and trust and that, IF mastered, lying 'THE RIGHT WAY' can actually help build connections, trust and even businesses.  At one Ivy League university in the U.S. [I'm sorry I WON'T mention it as it might sound libelous], one professor opined that they should be teaching students WHEN TO LIE

Surprisingly, the Ivy League researchers say that we are MORE LIKELY TO BE LIED TO [and even TOLD TO LIE] than we can ever realize ever, if at all.  And their case studies were like real-life.  LIKE your mom reminding you to tell your grandma that you enjoyed the meal at her home.  LIKE you giving feedback to a co-worker that DOESN'T seem to capture the whole truth.  Still that so called 'ART OF DECEPTION' is more nuanced than we might think of.  LIKE if we have someone's interests at hear, WHEN lying being detrimental BUT you know your best friend at work is so vulnerable with the slightest 'BAD NEWS' to cause her to be demoralized [and obviously you DON'T want that end-result to happen [all because you were 100% truthful]💚💛💜

LIKE WHEN someone in the family has been diagnosed with a very serious illness BUT divulging the whole truth will simply push your loved one's own 'spirit' spiralling downwards.  Experts tell us that people's primary interests is WHAT really matters most because generally, people care about whether you have good intentions a lot more than WHETHER the person is being honest per se.  A parting shot from the experts:  LIES ARE MOST BENEFICIAL WHEN THEY'RE NOT SELFISH.  If you tell your partner he OR she looks great before a date to boost his OR her self-esteem, that's one thing.  BUT saying it just to get your loved one out the door because you're already late, that's WHERE your ill-intentions rear its ugly head, there lies the bridge of goodwill and intent breached💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  WHEN sharing feedback, indeed honesty is important.  WHY commend one as SUPERMAN if he's a LEMON?  And in that NETFLIX FLIGHTPLAN movie, the therapist was trying to console a grieving widow [WHO was bringing her husband's casket on that very same flight only to loose her daughter WHO was tucked and seated next to her in their coach seats].  In short, that debate over lying is NOT only about WHETHER honest information is delivered at the right time.  In those situations, people tend to appreciate withholding the truth until much later.  WHICH brings us back to the idea of control OR simply a distraction.  Thing is, we need to be incisive as to WHEN IT FEELS BETTER THAN THE TRUTH😗😗😗

If You Were Good Then, You'll Be Good Now

 

Anyone WHO agrees that POSITIVE TRAITS and ACTIONS are contagious enough in life?  Straight from researches, those studies show that once we have established those POSITIVE TRAITS and even ACTIONS, it will take considerably less efforts to be exerted as compared to IF you haven't rooted it deep within you.  Part of habit formation.  Part of character building.  Listening from the experts, they claim that is NO sheer coincidence.  Instead, they are telling us that this all boils down to one's consistency of character.  As the age-old cliche goes,  IF YOU WERE GOOD THEN, YOU'LL BE GOOD NOW💚💛💜

I CAN'T question OR debate the idea that if you have been known for being GENUINELY and LEGITIMATELY kind, honest, and compassionate, it will be very likely that those very positive traits will naturally continue to shape your actions in the future, barring outliers.  And being GOOD involves more than just a moment of kindness.  NO FLASH IN THE PAN please because it's all about consistent behaviors and choices.  SO HOW?  I CAN'T claim to be an expert counsellor on this BUT doing good, even WHEN unnoticed and incognito, can create that ripple effect in our own life and even the lives of others [WITHOUT even approximating the recognized philonthropists]💧💧💧

There is one school of thought that is difficult to disagree with, that is, CHARACTER FORMATION must be intentional and that it CAN'T be separated even as stand-alone.  Rather, it has to be inclusive and consistently sustained every step of the way.  BTW, our CHARACTER FORMATION is frequently in a forked road, as it could either veer towards the good OR the bad.  BTW, the more common NEGATIVE traits that get embedded within us.  LIKE being fatalistic, which is seriously detrimental.  Imagine if we're facing a problem and we simply shrug our shoulders off because we would leave everything to God !@#$%? to sort out things and eventually fix our problem.  Frankly, this is a very self-defeating mindset!!!

And there's that CRAB MENTALITY?  That attitude to pull down and bring down someone else [whose trajectory is going up 'north'] and all along, our 'sinister' hope is bring that person down down 'south'.  And there's that short-spanned EXCITEMENT where we would witness at the start of every endeavor or activity BUT after all the initial hoopla, the momentum wanes until things would seem to fizzle out💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  The biggest miss we often witness WHEN it comes to CHARACTER FORMATION is that sometimes, we do act and move but it becomes TOO LITTLE, TOO LATE.  We DON'T plant the seeds of positivities once we reach middle age.  It would even be late to plant those seeds by the time we're settling down and starting to raise our own family.  Lesson learnt many times over is that undeniable fact that IF YOU WERE GOOD THEN, YOU'LL BE GOOD NOW [barring those outliers of course😡😡😡

[FRAUD ALERT Bulletin] How To Spot Malicious Two-Factor Authentication

 

EN TOTO sharing herein From lifehacker.com's Emily Long dated 09.12.2025 titled How To Spot Malicious Two-Factor Authentication.  With hackers looking for any way they can to gain access to your personal information via every form of phishing scheme, it's critical to take every precaution to protect your data. Multi-factor (MFA) authentication is one way to boost account security, but it has to be employed correctly, and even then, you should be on the lookout for malicious prompts that give bad actors the codes they need to log in easily

First, a reminder that two-factor and multi-factor authentication are not necessarily made equal. 2FA uses exactly two factors to verify a user's login, and both can be something the user knows, such as their password plus a PIN or SMS code. MFA, meanwhile, requires at least two independent factors, like a password (a knowledge factor) plus a biometric ID (an identity factor) or a time-based, one-time password (a possession factor) from an authenticator app

Knowledge factors (and some possession factors) can be phished relatively easily, which is why 2FA codes sent via SMS are the worst option for authentication, especially if you have alternatives. Bad actors may also try to trick you into engaging with fake 2FA prompts.

HOW TO IDENTIFY MALICIOUS 2FA PROMPTS

One way hackers get past 2FA is by wearing you down with repeated authentication requests, a tactic known as prompt bombing. You may get dozens, even hundreds of push notifications to your phone in a short amount of time or late at night when you're less likely to be thinking clearly. 

Threat actors are counting on the fact that if you get annoyed enough, you'll eventually approve one of them. DON'T!!! If you get a 2FA prompt when you're not trying to log into one of your accounts, that's an instant red flag.  Another sign of a malicious prompt is that the attempted login is coming from an unfamiliar device or region—for example, a Google notification for a Windows machine when you're a Mac user or a location in an entirely different country

Hackers may also contact you by phone, text, or email to request your 2FA SMS codes. It is easy to spoof phone numbers and email addresses, so you shouldn't trust caller ID or a sender even if it looks legitimate.Bottom line: If you receive suspicious 2FA requests via push notification, text, or other method, ignore them, and change the password on the related account by going directly to the website or app, never via the prompt itself, as this may lead you to a phishing site that could further compromise your information.  Due, to be forewarned is to be forearmed😡😡😡

Why Regret Yesterday And Fear The Next Day?

 

Question:  HOW many times were you regretful of something that happened in the past?  And HOW many times were you worrying about tomorrow, and even that distant future?  Once, I met someone in that dilemma and he told me point blank that his own REGRET were like whirling around and around his mind like a whirlpool threatening to suck him in and later drown him.  I was flabbergasted because he was a poet and during those trying times, he was consistently poetic as he eloquently expressed his innermost struggles into words.  The thing is, ruminations about past indiscretions, OR opportunities NOT taken OR decisions that were poorly arrived at, are remarkably common to most of us

WHICH brings me to remember some of those poetic one-liners like:  MANY OF US CRUCIFY OURSELVES BETWEEN 2 THIEVES, REGRET FOR THE PAST AND FEAR FOR THE FUTURE.  While this quotation has religious references, it is typically stripped of its original Christian connotations EXCEPT WHEN we use it in religious contexts.  Being more theoretical, I am tempted to tag this as our own way of self-sabotaging.  Like thieves, cognitive distortions a about the past and the future would likely steal the joy of the moment and rob us of our appreciation of the present

Out of respect to those WHO we may not share the same religious beliefs, the thing is, we tend to secularize useful ideas with religious origins.  And we can find many such examples in our everyday language LIKE "IT IS NOT SET IN STONE" [which somehow makes reference to that immutable 10 Commandments inscribed on stone OR the 'GOSPEL TRUTH' which invokes the Gospel stories to emphasize the veracity of a statement

WHILE I did have my fair share of missteps [and even blunders in the distant past], regretting the past OR fearing the future were NEVER a part of those missteps OR miscues.  WHY?  In the olden days WHEN technology was NOT that mature, we DIDN'T even know about that UNDO function.  And that was a huge blessing, else that could have egged us to hunger for that UNDO function even in our life lessons.  And fearing the future?  I always reminded myself, WHY should I get hostaged by the future???

Our takeaway:  Much as we all live an imperfect life, we have been harping a zillion times that we should LIVE IN THE PRESENT, LIVE IN THE MOMENT.  WHY?  Because that is the best time for you exert your best efforts for whatever endeavor and pursuit you are focused.  Much as you could have committed a huge blunder yesterday, the least you can do is to LEARN YOUR LESSONS and never to repeat that same mistake come next day again.  And fearing the future?  God knows WHAT's in stock for you in the future.  WHY get so hanged up WHEN the calendar has yet to flip over?  YES dude, live life, LIVE IN THE MOMENT more than yesterday and without being pre-hostaged by the next day that has yet to dawn

Some Of Our Daily Habits Are REWIRING Us

 

YES YES yow, maybe it's time to veer into the health threads as I do observe that some [OR maybe a lot] of our daily habits are slowly REWIRING us.  Oh Oh Oh, we always hear medical experts tell us that our human body is designed to thrive with the right conditions, name it, proper nutrition, regular movement and minimal toxin exposure as these factors create the foundation for our optimal health📗📙📘

However, WHAT we have been hearing instead is that modern lifestyles are working against our basic needs, causing various disruptions at the 'cellular level' of our health.  WHAT's next?  Widespread chronic illness, dependency on prescription drugs, and a health care system that treats symptoms rather than addressing the underlying problems therein.  SO WHAT NEXT?  We are egged to UNDO the damage caused by modern living and return to that kind of lifestyle that supports our overall health💚💛💜

HOW's life these days?  Walk into any grocery store and you'll see shelves lined with products that claim to be 'HEALTHY, NATURAL' and even 'NUTRIENT-PACKED'.  Flip them over and the ingredient lists would tell us a different [and likely] shocking story.  Imagine, foods filled with artificial flavors, preservatives and 'cheap fillers'❌❌❌

This is stating the obvious but allow me to rattle some of these 'horror stories':

• Foods are STRIPPED of nutrients!
• EXCESS sugar is 'hidden' almost anywhere
• Recently, I heard of LINOLEIC ACID [a.k.a. LA] for the first time as it generates toxic byproducts and compounds that cause damage to DNAs, proteins among others

Our takeaway:  Setting aside all these processed foods, one of the biggest threats to our health is a sedentary lifestyle.  A 2024 survey found that one-third of Americans spend at least eight hours a day sitting, whether at a desk, in the car, OR in front the LCD/screen.  And that prolonged inactivity causes our body to deteriorate faster and increases that risk of premature death by up to 30% and worst, NO AMOUNT OF EXERCISE FULLY OFFSETS the damage done by then.  Dude, SOME OF OUR DAILY HABITS ARE REWIRING US❗❗❗

Worrying Does NOT Take Away Tomorrow's Troubles [BUT It Does Take Away Today's PEACE]

 

WORRYING does NOT take away tomorrow's potential problems.  NOT to say that WORRYING is wrong BUT the truth is, it is inimical to our health at the very least.  True, WORRIES we all have them.  In fact, we all deal with them everyday and sometimes right before we hit the sack and even right after we wake up come next morning.  Do we worry about WHAT will happen to us in the future?  These things rob us of our today's PEACE and joy, and we end up losing that singular opportunity to be living in the present.  To put it short and sweet, WORRIES need to either be forgotten OR addressed as needed to put on a plan OR a list.  You might retort:  DO WE REALLY NEED TO PLAN for WORRIES???

In the simplest terms possible, if we WORRY about WHAT we need to get at the grocery store, the simplest approach is to put together a list.  IF we are WORRIED about something that needs to be done around the house, the thing to do is to put on a calendar as WHAT needs to get done OR better create 'reminders' to do the work and forget it for the time being.  Those reminders could be post-it-notes OR even your smartphone notepad OR even enabling the alarm clock if that is warranted.  If it's a complex planning, then clearly write a plan OR list of actions OR steps as that is very key to transition your WORRIES into the plan so you can then move on your life IN THE PRESENT💚💛💜

That is a perennial dilemma for many of us [and I was guilty of that zillions of times before].  BUT the harder part always lies ahead.  That of LETTING go and FINDING PEACE.  I admit that is one of the most difficult things that we can do OR even learn to do.  I've known many people WHO did heed the first step of writing down and coming up with a TO DO-LIST.  BUT after that step, many people do get stuck [as if they do NOT trust themselves] so the very root of the WORRY ISN'T that they have a plan.  The very common root cause of the WORRYING piece is one's lack of trust in their own ability to execute the plan or TO DO-LIST that they drafted [in that first step]💧💧💧

Truth of the matter is that finding time to find PEACE is damn hard in today's world as we tend to surround our own selves with so many things to do, people to talk to, places to go and the worst culprit of all, the incessant 'hostaging' of our own selves by social media.  In the end, we tend to miss the opportunity to be truly spending time to be with our own self, meditate and let time pass.  How many times I heard people complain that their work is stressful.  Next thing I heard, they went to the gym, they went to yoga classes.  BUT I commiserate with them because WHEN I did reconnect with them again, hoping to hear something positive, they admitted they were still worrying of tomorrow's trouble, whew💥💥💥

Our takeaway: I witnessed the sincere intentions of people to clear up their minds and LIVE THE PRESENT by worrying less of tomorrow's troubles BUT pitifully, come next day, come next week, they remain embroiled in that chronic and vicious cycle.  So WHAT's the possible FIX?  Gather all the courage and determination to get over the hump because no one else but yourself can extricate yourself from that chronic and vicious cycle.  And let us agree that WORRYING DOES NOT TAKE AWAY TOMORROW'S TROUBLES [BUT alas, it can TAKE AWAY TODAY's PEACE]❗❗❗

If It's Meant To Be, It Will Be

 

I've witnessed up front several people WHO were so focused to win the top LOTTO prizes so much so that, everyday they would buy and bet.  And as the months and years went through, his LOTTO betting just seemed to escalate as well.  Similarly, I came to know someone WHO got so focused in that raffle promo of a Mercedes Benz car if you'll buy the telco's prepaid load cards.  He ended up splurging in buying that telco's prepaid load cards EVEN IF he had little need for it, if at all.  Until he had to loan for small amounts to defray his excessive purchases of that telco's prepared load cards.  You might ask me.  DID he win that Mercedes Benz car?  DID he win a major LOTTO prize📗📙📘

Swinging over to relationships, we have seen couples whose relationships are hitting rough patches until things exacerbate BUT either protagonist WON'T let go of the other.  BUT dude, if you love something, set it free.  That's borrowing the usual advice from counsellors.  True, that idea of letting something go that you love may sound noble and self-sacrificing BUT HOW does it actually play out in the real world?  Does the adage hold up OR is it just a way of trying to make heartbreaks sound meaningful and poetic?  In a bigger scheme of things, we are told and reminded that the universe has plans for you, for us✅✅✅

Having said that, we DON'T imply that letting go of things ISN'T hard.  IT IS, in fact and in truth.  We become attached to the people in our lives and permitting them to fly can indeed be damn scary.  It is imperative to remember that we can keep caring about them BUT we CAN'T try to control their choices [and eventual decisions especially if we are oblivious of such].  This is where PERFECTION comes into play as well.  And true, TRUST is a big part of releasing PERFECTION and it's TRUST in our own self that life is happening to you and for you.  PERFECTION says 'YOU HAVE TO FORCE, MANAGE and CONTROL YOUR LIFE TO BE HAPPY'💥💥💥

IMPERFECTION tells us that 'YOU DON''T HAVE TO FORCE WHAT'S MEANT FOR YOU'.  You can be yourself and then everything will fall into place just as it should.  You can then be happy.  In the NOT so distant past, PERFECTION, FORCE and CONTROL used to be my 'jam'.  I thought I needed to be PERFECT for things to go 'MY WAY'.  Lo and behold, it turns out that 'MY WAY' ISN'T always WHAT's best for me even in the long haul. I wanted to avoid messing up or mis-stepping so I used PERFECTION to try and control the outcome.  BUT the thing is, IF IT'S MEANT FOR YOU, you CAN'T mess it up.  That goes for relationships, jobs, opportunities, anything and everything in fact💚💛💜

Our takeaway:  In our various pursuits in life, as we aim to achieve something and we pour it out and still fail, expectedly, frustration creeps in.  So, we could get caught up in that vicious cycle of trying and trying our best [WHICH is perfectly fine].  BUT if we keep falling flat on our face, dude, it's time for us to face the mirror and remind our own selves that IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE.  Otherwise, you could have reached that reckoning point WHERE a forked road needs you to choose and decide between 2 or 3 ways to go.  It just can't be a single-track on an end-to-end basis.  Never forget that you got a foot brake and even a handbrake to pull up, IF and WHEN needed😔😔😔