Let's GET OFF THE FENCE!

Let's GET OFF THE FENCE!

Time to dip our hand into the cookie jar when it comes to relationships!  HOW often do we hear couples often struggle and SIT ON THE FENCE?  With WHAT you see OR what you are aware of [either as a family member OR being one of the coterie of close friends, you might attest that 'that' couple are trying [BUT do they, really?].  Instead, either one OR both will wait for the other to change, to cave in, to waver, and they still think it can go on FOREVER!@#$%?  Dude, before the waters break loose, Let's GET OFF THE FENCE!!!

NOW, what's kind of puzzling is WHAT causes people to get stuck up, SITTING ON THE FENCE?  Oh Oh, this is NO rocket science though.  Psychologists all sing the same tune, that to break this vicious pattern, either/and/or the protagonists need to take DECISIVE action.  Either you gather all your gumption to push for real, concrete behavioral changes OR if that is next to impossible, part ways!!!

HOW often have you heard stories like these WHICH undoubtedly pushes us to think these are concocted fiction stories:  A couple have been together for 7 years but for the last year or so, it's been a STRUGGLE for both, to say the least.  They briefly separated for a few weeks then got back together.  They then talk about breaking up, then giving it a try that lasts a couple of days, then they fall back into talking about breaking up AGAIN!!!

Sounds familiar?  Absolutely dude.  That kind of couple continue to SIT ON THE FENCE and either/and/or would waffle back and forth.  They both manifest ambivalence and the worst thing about ambivalence is that it is damn contagious because WHEN you waffle, the other person waffles too OR in the end, each is waiting for the other to initiate a concrete move that can turn into a blink contest.  BUT how long will that last???

Our takeaway:  This is a case as simple as a black OR white, a yes OR no.  BUT frankly, there are just two options at hand, namely, to mutually endeavor to work things out as a COMMITMENT but if that ends up like a boogie dance, waffling and waffling, you are left with NO other option BUT to separate, really a difficult pill to swallow especially WHEN you are overwhelmed with all these intangibles.  Bottomline is, our mutual aim should be to break OLD PATTERNS of treading water, complaining, and NOT decisively acting.  Else, you will remain in that punishing vicious cycle.  Dude, LET'S GET OFF THE FENCE and decide!!!

What Value Can You Bring To The Table?

What Value Can You Bring To The Table?

Through the years, I lost count of the interviews I hosted as the hiring manager for various roles cutting across management, leadership, associate and even entry-level job roles.  What Value Can You Bring To The Table?  Oh, that was my favorite one-line opener and I hope I DON'T get questioned for it because let's face it, the interview process is meant for the interviewee to impress that he/she is the best candidate for the job role and for us hiring managers, we'd like to short-list them and figure out the 'cream of the crop' before we make a decision📗📙📘

BUT whether it's a job interview process OR you are wooing the 'girl of your life' OR you are worming your way into a certain group WHO share the same advocacies you are pushing, we will likely end up with the same question 'WHAT WILL YOU BRING TO THE TABLE?"  And it's NOT a Mount Rushmore kind of question as long as you're sincere😀😀😀

BUT let's place things at the right perspective.  Either way, good people DON'T need to beg at all.  WHO like to?  And most people with healthy self-esteem WON'T do it either and WHO can blame them?  Nevertheless, if someone will pose you that question, IF you can stifle your nausea long enough to answer the question a different way, you might find that the 'questioner' is NOT a pompous idiot after all, BUT only someone WHO HASN'T questioned OR departed from that traditional script of asking that question.  And let's NOT feel slighted OR offended because that frame-shifting question is/was NOT meant to put you down at all❌❌❌

I always coasted with these Q&A kind of situations with an open mind.  NO way should you entertain NEGATIVITIES because that can even blur your thought process.  Moreover, I always harped on the analogy that for every product, there has to be a salesman and I always vouched that a product is as good as the salesman is [and NOT the other way]❎❎

Our takeaway:  I remember WHEN I was relatively a rookie in the workplace and there I was, ending up with job interviews every few years [no thanks to my headhunters then WHO permanently saved my CV/Resume's in their archives] and I always told myself, I can be the best product ever BUT everything hinges on my shoulder as to HOW I will sell my very own self as a product.  So, WHAT VALUE CAN YOU BRING TO THE TABLE?  Get back on your bare knuckles and rattle off that long list of exemplary and outstanding traits you have.  Good luck dude in your endeavors!!!

Don't Be A Headless Chicken By Losing Your Identity

Don't Be A Headless Chicken By Losing Your Identity

With many things happening in our life, our SENSE OF SELF refers to our perception of the collection of our characteristics that define us.  Our personality traits, abilities, likes and dislikes our belief system and morals, and the things that motivate us, these all do contribute to our self-image, our unique identity as a person.  And people WHO can easily describe these aspects of their identity typically have a fairly strong sense of WHO they are.  Thing is,  Don't Be A Headless Chicken By Losing Your Identity📗📙📘

Studies showed that people WHO can easily describe their aspects of their identity typically have a fairly strong sense of WHO you are.  IF EVER at some point we seem to be struggling to name more than a few of our characteristics might point to a less defined SENSE OF SELF.  It's true that we DON'T spend so much time consciously thinking about our own identity BUT it still affects our life though.  Knowing WHO we are allows us to live with purpose and develop the satisfying relationships we deserve, WHICH, at the end of the day psychologists claim will contribute to an overall good emotional health.  So, you might pester me, WHY is it so important to keep our identity, our SENSE OF SELF💥💥💥

And this brings us as to what living authentically is all about.  Having a well-developed SENSE OF SELF will be hugely beneficial in helping us make our choices in life.  It could be as trivial as your favorite foods to even those larger concerns like your personal values, knowing WHAT comes from our own self versus WHAT comes from others would make things easier for us to accept our own SENSE OF SELF💚💗💛

On the other hand, for the sake of our discussion, let's assume lack a clearly defined SENSE OF SELF.  Even on the surface, it will lead us to situations wherein it makes it tough to know exactly WHAT you want.  And if you feel uncertain OR indecisive WHEN it comes time to make important choices, WHAT is quite scary is if you may end up struggling to make any choice at all.  WHAT's scarier here is the probability that we might end up drifting through life, carried and influenced by other people and circumstances💦💦💦

Our takeaway:  You might get back to me as to WHERE does our SENSE OF SELF will fall on the spectrum?  Perhaps you would notice a pattern of making choices based on WHAT you think other people want from you.  OR maybe you DON'T have many ambitions OR deep-seated passions and simply feel content to go with the flow. And this could boil down to a very curt but incisive question to ourselves:  DO YOU SAY YES TO MAKE OTHERS HAPPY?  Oh yes, that's totally fine to accommodate others 'SOMETIMES' BUT IF you always agree to WHAT others want, you likely AREN'T living for yourself. Defining yourself mostly by relationships with others OR your ability to please your loved ones can suggest a 'LESS DEVELOPED' SENSE OF SELF within you.  In a nutshell, DON'T BE A HEADLESS CHICKEN BY LOSING YOUR IDENTITY❗❗❗

Focus On Yourself, PERIOD

Focus On Yourself, PERIOD

WHEN was the last time you stopped to consider your needs without also taking into account WHAT someone else needs.  So, WHAT does Focus On Yourself mean?  Focusing on yourself means prioritizing your OWN needs and desires rather than those of other people.  That DOESN'T mean you're actively working against others.  It simply means you AREN'T depleting yourself to make them happy.  I recall hearing someone share his insights WHEREIN he said it's helpful to think of your life as a garden with each flower representing a component of your well-being, comparing it to the Daffodils as representing work demands, roses as your romantic relationship, daisies as friendships📗📘📙

So, this brings us back one full circle.  WHY is it important to focus on yourself?  If your life is a garden, focusing on yourself is about refilling your watering can, so you can continue to care for each aspect of your life.  Even like making time for your hobbies and big goals can help boost our self-esteem.  And that improved self-worth can likely overflow into your work and even your relationships.  And to borrow an opinion by psychologists, "YOU'LL HAVE POSITIVE ENERGY WHEN YOU'RE AROUND OTHERS".  As an analogy, taking time for yourself can also help you identify the flowers that demand too much water❎❎❎

As an example, you might end a toxic relationship to better focus on your career OR you might change jobs to have more time with your family.  This may feel like being selfish at first.  BUT actually, stepping back is an opportunity to improve yourself and refocus on WHAT you want in your life.  BUT let's face it, finding the 'right balance' is damn difficult.  With multifarious competing priorities in our life, our tendency to try doing everything all in one go can be and assuredly draining.  So, WHERE do we go from here???

Heeding the advice of experts, let us recognize that "NO" by itself is a complete sentence.  In some cases, it may be helpful to provide a reason for setting boundaries in life.  LIKE WHEN you need 'space' from your best friend OR significant other, a conversation may help protect the relationship.  BUT in most instances, though, a conversation may help protect the relationship.  BUT in most instances, you DON'T have to justify yourself.  IF you DON'T want to attend a party, a simple curt advice LIKE "I CAN'T MAKE IT BUT THANKS FOR INVITING ME" will be acceptable, right???

Our takeaway:  At the end of the day, we need to let people feel HOW they will feel.  If someone is hurt because you're spending time on yourself, WHY DON'T we allow them to process their feelings as well as they have the right to their emotions just as you have the right to your space.  Yesirrrrrs, eventually people will get used to your newly delineated 'boundary'.  And in case they DON'T support you taking care of yourself, that may help you safely conclude that MAYBE they DON'T deserve to be clubbed as part of those WHOM you consider as your "GREAT" friends.   Bottomline is, BE KIND TO YOURSELF [way prior to extending your kindness elsewhere].  Yes, it is very noteworthy to take care of others BUT NOTHING BEATS SELF-CARE [HOW can you take care of others then if you are unwell]???

How's Your HAPPINESS FLOW?

How's Your HAPPINESS FLOW?

Do you ever find yourself so completely immersed with WHAT you're doing that you tend to lose track of time?  All of a sudden you look up the time and realize that hours have passed and you missed your meal?  Let's pause and think a minute about this.  WHEN does this loss of time and total engagement typically occur for you?  True, this loss of consciousness that happens WHEN you are completely absorbed in an activity has been coined by psychologists as that STATE OF FLOW.  And in order for a FLOW STATE to occur, you must see the activity as voluntary, enjoyable, and it must require skill and be challenging with clear goals towards success.  Hobbies such as chess are a great example of implementing and experiencing that STATE OF FLOW.  Yes, I admit I spend on average, an hour for my chess games on my smartphone as this dovetails to our HAPPINESS FLOW???

So, How's Your HAPPINESS FLOW?  A growing body of scientific evidence indicates that flow is highly correlated with HAPPINESS.  Studies also show that people WHO experience a lot of FLOW regularly also develop other positive behavioral traits like increased concentration, self-esteem and performance.  With today's age of growing distractions, frustrations and uncertainties, let's admit it's difficult to attain genuine HAPPINESS💦💦💦

BUT there is hope though.  And psychologist advise us to start by lowering our stress levels as studies show, that leads to one's improved resilience in the face of adversity.  And we're advised that on the surface, let us be incisive to detect when our mind starts to be 'WANDERING' because at worst, it could lead to a spiral of despair.  Hurdling it could give you a head start going into that 'HAPPY ZONE' when we're expected to be completely engaged and absorbed, WHERE time flies happily by and WHERE toxic thoughts are banished from our mind❌❌❌

Moreover, we are advised to identify and build our personal HAPPINESS-boosting inner strengths to make us even stronger.  A recent study showed that people WHO identified their key strength and used it in a new way each week did significantly increase HAPPINESS and conversely reduce depression.  BUT the challenge for us is to discover within yourself how to better deal with adversity [WHEN it hits us hard] and taking the next step of building strong relationships with our family and friends.  At the end of that path, we should reap the benefits of developing gratitude with an unbridled optimism of our future😀😀😀

Our takeaway:  Barring outliers that can be attributed to 'Acts of God' [AOG], psychologists assure us that we have that human capability to enhance our ability to recognize and celebrate the simple pleasures in our daily life as they occur.  And without veering our careers towards psychology, we are encouraged to increase our awareness as regards POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY for us to focus to strengthening our character to enable us to build a life of meaning and purpose [and move BEYOND just surviving and flourish instead.  So, HOW'S YOUR HAPPINESS FLOW, dude?  That's NOT a long shot to achieve❗❗❗

Tough Times DON'T Last. Tough People DO.

Tough Times DON'T Last.  Tough People DO.

At some points [and probably many times more for some] in our life, financial discouragement plagues all of us from time to time.  So, IF you're discouraged by your situation today, there are some things you can do to counter those feelings and even ramifications arising from your situation.  BUT over and above, the most important thing to consider is that Tough Times DON'T Last.  Tough People DO.  This may be an oft-quoted one-liner but this says a mouthful.  One day your next-door neighbor came home with a brand new SUV and you end up overwhelmed with those feelings of desire and even envy.  WHEREAS before you could buy a new car, times could have changed, things are 'different' now📗📙📘

BUT WHEN things change, please DON'T take it NEGATIVELY.  Maybe things changed now because you DON'T make financial-related decisions impulsively [as in the past WHEN you even seem to live a life of a one-day millionaire].  By that time, the car you amortized is now fully paid and it meets your family's current needs.  BUT still those feelings are bubbling up [unfortunately].  And just as soon as you recognize them, WHAT should we do?  Start ERASING those destructive attitudes that seem to be creeping back [to life].  BUT HOW?  Immediately and instantly replace those thoughts of your 'financial freedom' you're enjoying now.  NOT paying those cut-throat bank interest rates.  NOT getting tied to the atrocious insurance premiums rammed through your throat as a condition by your banker/creditor.  In short, try to instantly replace NEGATIVITIES with POSITIVE ones💧💧💧

BUT here's the catch.  NO one else can become your surrogate counsellor WHO can help you fight off those NEGATIVITIES.  BUT regardless of the tough circumstances we face in life, the fact is there is always HOPE even in the worst situation.  Over four years ago WHEN I started my personal blogsite, I never had the slightest intention of turning this into more or less a permanent venture [non-profit, BTW] nor did I realize that this will carry me this long and this far because honestly, I would give credit to the Covid-19 pandemic for triggering me to exploit to the hilt my blogging capabilities.  BUT it does and here I am.  Though, NOT without challenges.  And certainly NOT without some levels of appreciation with me sometimes hitting the LOWs, and sometimes hitting the HIGHs.  And a few times, I am squeezed between my passion for blogging versus those times when I need to go offline [for days] to go on a holiday💥💥💥

Looking back, me thinks that perhaps it was that eternal optimism that has gotten me this far in the first place. And the prospect of eventual success worthy of the sacrifices made by pursuing writing like a pseudo full-time commitment and even entertaining the thoughts of pursuing my blogging and foregoing that uncontested security of a full time job.  BUT the truth is, there are days WHEN I feel I am tested and challenged to 'stay the course' and NOT to 'jump ship'.  BUT lest we forget, challenges do persist from time to time.  BTW, challenges can't be stricken off permanently.  So, WHAT we need to do is to develop that character to handle that success 'WAITING' to reward our perseverance down the road😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  Truth is, one's character is never developed by those WHO are handed or born into success [ like those fortunate scions WHO were born with a silver spoon].  Instead, we need to develop that character to give us that needed depth and achieve a brighter perspective WHEN we do make it, because by then, we would have 'earned' that level of success we have hungered for so long.  In a nutshell, just like the seasons that change and the clouds that give way to the sun, we must remember that so do our circumstances.  NO challenge, regardless of HOW intense, is permanent.  TOUGH TIMES DON'T LAST.  TOUGH PEOPLE DO!!!

Have You Unlocked Your Potential YET?

Have You Unlocked Your Potential YET?

The past years, I had the honor to cross paths with senior executives in the industries WHERE I worked, people who have established their niche.  BUT I often asked myself, Have You Unlocked Your Potential YET?  Ambitious professionals often spend a substantial amount of time thinking about strategies that will help them achieve greater levels of success.  They strive for a more impressive job title, higher compensation, and responsibility for more sizable revenues📗📙📘

NOW, a bit of alignment makes sense because we always hear UNLOCKING POTENTIALS but famous American coach and writer Tony Robbins argues that everyone has the POTENTIAL already and WHAT's needed instead is for us to UNLOCK our capacity on the basis that our brains already have that capacity in place📌📌📌

In the field of psychology, they coined the term 'ACQUIRED SAVANT SYNDROME' where it involves some people who got into a major accident and WHEN he wakes up, he's speaking another language OR suddenly, he's playing the piano but that is a rarefied few.  WHAT this tells us though is that our brains may actively suppress certain functions in order to help us focus on our primary needs💥💥💥

HOW we can unlock our potential is no simple formula though BUT that long arduous journey starts with a small step in our own BELIEF.  As they say, for you to have an extraordinary life, you must have that unstoppable BELIEF in yourself, that burning desire for unlocking your own potential and seeing + believing WHERE and HOW far it can take you.  I'll give credit to my own BELIEF in myself long time back WHEN no one flies in as a tourist for a week yet he has secured confirmed week-long interviews with prospective employers.  YES I did that BTW💧💧💧

Our takeaway:  WHEN you believe in something deep enough, it will come into your life.  They call it LAW OF ATTRACTION and it's the key to unlocking potential.  BUT experts counsel us that for it to make it work for you, we have to dump out in the window all forms of NEGATIVE thinking.  True, DOUBT BREEDS DOUBT BUT hey dude, do you believe that SUCCESS does breed SUCCESS?  YES dude, you can UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL yet😁😁😁

Does DISCIPLINE Top It All?

I think everyone will agree that for the longest time, we were always shaped and influenced by the discipline-centric approach our parents, teachers and mentors always inculcated in us [as part of our progressive growth].  And as we get into adulthood, we would hear left, right and center, everyone talks PRODUCTIVITY and as a confluence of events, PRODUCTIVITY and DISCIPLINE get tied-up and mapped.  How often do we hear: I FAILED TO BE PRODUCTIVE BECAUSE OF MY DISCIPLINE but Does DISCIPLINE Top It All???

In the end, we would harp and tell ourselves that we want to be DISCIPLINED in WHAT we're working on, WHETHER it's being at work OR as trivial as waking up early OR performing our other daily routines.  So, I did think that to be consistent and productive, the key was DISCIPLINE, DISCIPLINE and DISCIPLINE and simply doing my thing.  In the past, I have to admit that I ended up forcing myself to just keep working HARD by using and pushing my WILLPOWER to deal with intermittent procrastination and frankly, sometimes even laziness WHEN it creeps.  And frankly, that was a despicable situation for me when sometimes I did procrastinate, finding myself getting dragged into my old despicable old habits, WHICH sometimes I realized things were getting worse💥💥💥

End result?  I got stressed no end until it reached a point WHEN it seemed that I DIDN'T enjoy my work [at that time, and that was quite a donkey years ago].  And WHAT followed next was the dominos began to fall one by one.  I started to sleep late, even struggling to wake up come next morning.  And even after I would wake up, I would end up scrolling my Blackberry mails until I feel 'READY' to start my day.  Then the burnout comes in.  Then, I end up telling myself that I'm burned out.  Unfortunately, I started getting confused because I was doing a balancing act handling my concurrent projects.  Even so, I failed to get back on track and by then I realized that I f*cked up❎❎❎

To deal with my dilemma, I thought I needed to find my inner self again and as an aftermath of my soul searching, the lesson I learned is that being DISCIPLINED, consistent OR even productive in our daily work is actually more about LOVING the work than merely working HARD!  And that reinforced my belief that if you LOVE YOUR WORK, you will mostly do the HARD WORK WITH EASE, OR even if you DON'T notice it, by then you already have WORKED HARD ENOUGH.  So, I reckoned that this boils around on loving WHAT we do and that egged me to even plan HOW to make my work FUN by making my favorite coffee blend with a mix of music before I work😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  Let's dice and drill here.  WHAT are the pressing reasons to do WHAT WE LOVE?  Enjoying your career should be a priority over earning a high salary OR a flashy title BUT that may NOT have been the case WHEN you first considered WHAT you wanted to do for a career.  NOW, WHAT do we expect if we will LOVE the work we do?  Topping the list is, we are almost assured that we will feel more FULFILLED.  As the lines between working life and personal life blur, a job is as much about personal fulfillment and growth as it is about a paycheck, right?  YES, I can assure you HOW I felt when I started loving my work then.  I felt MORE productive.  NOT because I worked less then BUT because I started loving WHAT I was doing.  Bottomline here is that the main reason to do WHAT we love is our HAPPINESS.  Finding that place will NOT only provide contentment BUT also make us more motivated and yes, more productive.  Word of caution though.  We're NOT dumping the need for DISCIPLINE, dude!!!

NO Sirrrrs, Life Is NOT A Rehearsal!

NO Sirrrrs, Life Is NOT A Rehearsal!

Each of us is born, spending all our days searching for peace, success, love, happiness, freedom, name it [until one day, we die].  Some people leave a positive legacy behind WHILE others leave a 'NOT SO' positive one.  Some people contribute to the lives of their fellow men WHILE others only take from society.  And some people have a positive impact on the world WHILE others end up creating a negative impact. Oh NO Sirrrrs, Life Is NOT A Rehearsal!!!

WHAT befuddles me is the very huge difference between those two kinds of people BUT frankly, we CAN'T end up defending people WHO end up creating MORE negativity than ever.  Instead, let's admit it that each one of us has a unique gift of a new day, a new chance and even a new responsibility to serve if we are blessed enough to see another sunrise.  YES dude, LIFE IS NOT A REHEARSAL or something later OR better💥💥💥

Instead, each day is the FIRST & LAST ACT of your personal performance in our respective lives.  Some people seem to live with the illusion that life will be better WHEN they are older, wiser, richer, happier, busier, better looking.  NOT SO.  Life is either good OR NOT good now, regardless of your circumstances.  TRUE, you may be richer later BUT WHO is to say you will need OR even want the wealth later WHEN the truth is, you may be wiser later in life BUT WHO is to say you're NOT wise now?  YES, you may be more famous later BUT WHAT does real fame mean???

NOW, let's call a spade a spade.  So many people do chase the illusions of life with that rigorous zeal hoping that somehow, life will be better in some way BUT there CAN'T any guarantees that they will work OR we will be able to enjoy OR benefit from them.  So, let's bask in the shadow of sunshine OR the shade, WHICHEVER you prefer now, be happy now, have fun NOW, love NOW, spend money NOW, save for the rainy days NOW and feel gratitude for the life you have, NOW it's all that is guaranteed.  It DOESN'T really get better [and this depends on HOW each of us chooses to define 'BETTER'] later, just different.  IF you're NOT happy WHERE you are now, it's unlikely you will be even happier WHERE you AREN'T yet or will be because life is NOT about tomorrow OR yesterday because this is all about NOW.  So, if you forgot about the lines, today is NOT the rehearsal.  Today it's SHOWTIME, dude!!!

Our takeaway:  HOW many times we personally someone causing OR doing a fumbling act and retorts that he'll retry the same thing 'NEXT TIME'.  Alas, UNKNOWNST to some of us, frankly in life, there is NO 'NEXT TIME'.  Your time is 'UP' right now and it will NOT repeat tomorrow because come next hour, next day, next time, it will be a totally different time expecting you to perform that will be appropriate enough for that day and time.  So, let's keep in mind that everyone WHO excels in any area of life, and that includes athletes, actors, parents, teachers and even students, they hone their skills, they get prepared to be ready for that NEXT ACT [WHICH IS NOT A REHEARSAL].  So, WHAT'S your life routine for getting better every day?  WHAT was the last book you read, the last seminar you voluntarily attended?  IF it's NEITHER OF THE ABOVE, DON'T be surprised if failure OR disappointment happens next.  Good luck, dude!!!

When was your GREATEST COMEBACK in your life?

 

When was your GREATEST COMEBACK in your life?  Surely you had a handful at the very least.  Yes, I had tons of it and I would always leverage on my GREATEST COMEBACKS.  You might wonder, WHAT makes me leverage on those GREATEST COMEBACKS WHEN many would claim that the PAST IS PAST?  Yes dude, for very insightful reasons, from time to time, we need to go back down memory lane and leverage on our GREATEST COMEBACKS?  BUT you might challenge me that by then, the luster is gone. BUT hey, if you got knocked down in your life [WHETHER it's about your job, your health, your finances OR your relationships with your loved ones], WON'T you agree that that luster will continue to shine for the longest time☝☝☝

SO HOW?  Let's leverage on those COMEBACKS as our inspiration IF and WHEN we get knocked down again.  We never know, right, IF and WHEN lightning will hit us again [as I DON'T buy WHAT they claim that lightning strikes once only].  Here's the thing.  Success AIN'T about avoiding another fall.  Success is about getting back up after life takes the best [or the worst] out of us.  YES very true, sometimes life will hit us hard BIG TIME and lead you to question everything about life💥💥💥

And based on the bruises and multiple knockdowns I had to endure in the past, trust me, WHEN you get hit hard, sometimes you end up questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself.  And YES, it's irrelevant as to how much monies [OR wealth] you've got OR WHAT car you drive OR HOW good-looking you are WHEN wearing a suit.  Life's gonna humble you BUT those KNOCKDOWNS are necessary❗❗❗

YES please, DON'T whack me for bluntly stating that those knockdowns are necessary.  WHO can claim that your resilience and fortitude got reinforced WHEN you had those multiple streaks of successes?  NO sirrrrrrrrs.  You can count all your successes in life BUT you pick up lessons from those KNOCKDOWNS, period.  Very true, I got stories for days about being down and out.  And those times shaped me, prepared me for more ordeals to come [NOT to scare, sometimes, you can get hit with a streak of KNOCKDOWNS too, whew] and I have to admit, the pain you'll go through may seem unprecedented❌❌❌

Oh Oh, I love this poster.  I CAN'T agree less.  Because the GREATEST COMEBACKS in life will likely NOT pertain to cars or material things BUT simply being HAPPY, period.  You can have all the material things in life BUT if you're NOT HAPPY, that's it, that's the worst KNOCKDOWN we can have in our life.  WHY?  Because material things CAN'T buy us that genuine, enduring and lasting HAPPINESS in life.  Living life and breathing life with a deep exhilaration of thankfulness and gratefulness because we walk up again to another bright day ahead.  YES dude, we do live on borrowed time.  WHO thought that so suddenly, the life of famous Taiwanese celebrity Barbie Hsu will be snapped [even WHEN she was in the midst of her Japan holidays?]  YES PLEASE, let us NOT forget those GREATEST COMEBACKs in our life because at the end of the day, we are the ultimate beneficiary💚💛💜