WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?

WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?

WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?  If there's one noise I've been very vociferous throughout the years is the fact that SMS stands for Short Messaging Service and YET hundreds of millions of people are using SMS for "LMS purposes" [for LONG MESSAGING purposes] which is way off track.  Through the years, I noticed on first hand basis that majority of people use SMS to discuss [OR even argue] unresolved issues NOT only within the workplace BUT even amongst relationships.  Can we believe that?  SMS is the channel to resolve 'unresolved' issues?  Of course I am impressed with people who have that digital dexterity to carry on a reasonably coherent text dialogue for longer than two minutes.  BUT, personal challenges aside, I strongly believe that texting via SMS is NOT the way to negotiate OR resolve issues📗📙📘

As texting via SMS seems to have evolved as the second nature to a generation reared on iPhones and smartphones, it is worth noting that human beings were designed and destined to connect with each other on mutifarious levels.  Interestingly, psychologists opine that 58 percent of communications is via body language, 35 percent through vocal tone, and emphasis and a mere 7 percent through the content of a message like SMS.  And we all agree [I am guessing] that good communications is the very cornerstone for relationships to endure over time.  So, WHY attempt to resolve a disagreement using only 7 percent of your full expression potential???

Let's have analogies here.  Would you run a marathon with 7 percent of your physical strength OR take an important test with 7 percent of your intelligence?  Would you host a holiday gathering with only 7 percent of your house cleaned?  BTW, that's already a generous 7 percent.  Consider all the annoying slips of the finger that can interfere with clearer communications.  WHEN the difference between "sad" OR "bad" and "glad" is an errant thumb, wobbly finger gymnastics can be that 'costly' and worse, confusing!!!

To be fair, let's hear from the iGen's and GenX's.  To them, typing a phone number into the seldom-used CALL APPs on the mobile phone is an anxiety-inducing task, let alone having to hold a conversation.  Instead, WHAT do we hear from these latest generations?

I HATE PHONE CALLS  BECAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL MORE ANXIOUS

VIA SMS, AT LEAST I'M IN WRITING AND i HAVE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW TO REPLY AND WHAT TO SAY

EVEN IF I MAKE A PHONE CALL, I WILL STILL TAKE A POST-IT NOTE

Hey, WHY put oneself through such hassle when phone calls are simple DIAL-and-TALK affairs💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Now, let's hear from their own perspective as to why they shy off from SMS.

• TO AVOID REVEALING VULNERABLE EMOTIONS.  NO ONE CAN HEAR YOUR TREMBLING VOICE IN A TEXT MESSAGE
• TO PROTECT ONESELF FROM HAVING TO HEAR ANOTHER PERSON'S STRAINED VOICE, E.G. ANGER, CRYING etc
• TO HAVE CONTROL OVER THE CONVERSATION, LIKE SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

So, WHY can't we stop SMS as a default!@#$%?

Say Goodbye to BURNOUT!

Say Goodbye to BURNOUT!

NOT sure if BURNOUT is still part of today, no thanks to our iGen and GenZ generations because they are living their live around the clock, literally speaking.  NOT until one gets hit with BURNOUT.  And that is a consequence we will all face, like it or NOT.  BUT when can we Say Goodbye to BURNOUT?  YES dude, you can say adieu to BURNOUT now because that is myth proven to be hurdled and at best, even avert and avoid if we consciously embrace the need to pre-empt BURNOUT📙📗📘

Our human dilemma is that for the past century, people have talked a lot about anxiety, depression and burnout.  More accurately, these issues that have been affecting the human population since the beginning of time have gained more light as people removed the stigma about mental health issues and started talking about it😌😌😌

Admittedly, we've all [and that includes moi in the past] been struggling with this at one point OR another, whether it's obvious OR not, OR whether we want to admit it OR not.  Even to ourselves.  BUT there are little moments, here and there, WHERE we seem to be crippled with anxiety, fear, lack of stability OR simple mental exhaustion.  BURNOUT can happen to anyone routinely exposed to high levels of stress [and that's NOT limited even in a toxic workplace because there are equally toxic household environments that become the sort of breeding ground for the various levels of stress.  Problem is, it can cause symptoms of exhaustion, depression and isolation.  Yes, BURNOUT is a state of mental and physical exhaustion that can zap the joy out of you💦💦💦

Unfortunately, highly frequent exposure to stressful situations [even like caring for an ill family member, working long hours, or witnessing upsetting news related to either family life, health or safety can all lead to that stressful condition.  BURNOUT, however, ISN'T always easy to spot, that's the bigger challenge.  With that in mind, we need to be aware if we are potentially leading towards BURNOUT and be aware of its most common symptoms, at the very least💥💥💥

Before getting into proactiveness and subtle countermeasures to BURNOUT, let's be aware of these most obvious symptoms:  exhaustion, isolation, irritability, frequent illness, amongst others.  Our takeaway:  BURNOUT is NOT akin to a 'big bang' thing.  It will unravel in phases like DENIAL, WITHDRAWAL, BEHAVIORAL CHANGES, EMPTINESS and even DEPRESSION.  BUT by being incisive and sharp with these tell-tale signs, we can SAY GOODBYE TO BURNOUT❗❗❗

That Allure Of the New

That Allure Of the New

We all keep saying that life is too short, grudges are a waste of time, so laugh WHEN you can, apologize WHEN you must, and let go of WHAT CAN'T be changed, love WHAT you've got and always remember WHAT you have today.  Yet what's That ALLURE OF THE NEW?  Sometimes [OR probably many times] in our life, our human frailty is to be lured by the ALLURE OF THE NEW but WHAT explains that in the first place???

On the other hand, some say that life is like a flickering flame of candle.  WHEN the flame is snuffed out, the light is gone forever.  They believe that WHEN we breathe our last breath, we are totally extinguished, AS IF we had never been.  Hence, that pressing reason for us to CHERISH THE PRESENT rather than be lured by the ALLURE OF THE NEW.  Allow me to quote an unknown writer: 'I PASS THIS WORLD BUT ONLY ONCE, ANYTHING THAT I CAN DO, OR ANY KINDNESS THAT I CAN SHOW, LET ME DO IT NOW .  LET ME NOT DEFER IT FOR I SHALL NOT PASS THIS WAY AGAIN'💥💥💥

On the other hand, sometimes life's most meaningful moments grow even from the briefest of connections LIKE WHEN you go to a party and meet someone wearing your favorite band's t-shirt OR WHO laughs at the same jokes as you OR grabs that unpopular snack you alone [OR so you thought] love.  One small, shared interest could spark a conversation  and that conversation could progressively blossom.  WHAT this tells us is that NO matter WHAT we are in life, NO matter WHAT status we belong, NO matter WHAT circumstances we are confronted with, we should CHERISH THE PRESENT💦💦💦

Looking back, WHO else is to blame WHEN sometimes we tend to have some discontentment and are complaining, can we bear in mind that there are people in this very moment WHO are struggling for their survival, existence and worst, even their very last breathe [and that could be literally speaking].  IF only you were able to wake up [from your own deep slumber], WHY can't we be thankful for the life gifted upon us RIGHT NOW.  And as life changes constantly, actual life goes by so fleetingly quickly, we end up NOT noticing the changes that have been transpiring right in front us.  BTW, every minute of our life has an EXPIRATION DATE and that is 'NOW'.  Once a moment has passed, it is gone forever except in our memories.  Cherishing the present as they happen will NOT only help us feel thankful for life BUT also help us to have a more positive and happy outlook in life😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  At the end of our life, I am quite absolutely sure that we DON'T want to regret all the things we DIDN'T attempt OR recognize.  Nothing hurts OR stings worse than regret both of things we SHOULDN'T have done OR things we should have done BUT DIDN'T do.  THAT ALLURE OF THE NEW, can we relegate it in lieu of the present???

NO Talent? NO Problem!

NO Talent?  NO Problem!

Before anything else, our thread today does NOT intend to underestimate OR downplay the TALENTS we do have in life.  Because everyone of us have our own respective TALENTS and most of our respective TALENTS are unique enough.  And BTW, it's nothing to feel 'small' if you're NOT a rocket scientist.  And it's fine if your talent is making origami paper initiatives.  BUT just in case you DON'T really have any TALENT, then, NO Talent?  NO Problem!  WHY?  There are tons and tons of opportunities for you to showcase the BEST OF YOURSELF [even sans any TALENT you're sure NOT to have.  This is the huge miss of most people with NOT much TALENT.  Without any TALENT, they [wrongly] thought that their life is kaput, it's done???

Most of the time, you will hear from numerous mentors that you should come on time for the scheduled meetings.  I beg to disagree because through the years, my favorite one-liner to my team members is this:  WHEN YOU'RE ON TIME, YOU'RE LATE,  If you're ready to debate me on this, I'm more than willing to roll-up my sleeves and get into the fray.  WHY?  If you got a 900am meeting and you walk into the room at 900am, very likely, the host has started the meeting [SO, at that point, technically, YOU'RE LATE!@#$%?

Let's share these no-frills stuff for you to even eventually 'rise up' even in the middle of a mammoth crowd, even if you got ZERO TALENT:

• YES, BE PUNCTUAL - As I espoused awhile ago, IF YOU COME ON TIME, YOU'RE LATE.  So?  You should walk-in or join the call approximately five minutes prior.
• BE AGILE, BE ADAPTABLE - The past twenty years, the workplace environment has turned upside down.  If you're a line manager, you are NOT expected to signoff approvals on your swivel chair all the time.  Be ready to adapt

• KNOW THE RULES, PLAY BY THE RULES - This is the least one can do, playing within the rules.  Breach it and you're  one foot down.
• BE READY FOR THE EXTRA MILE - Gone are the 8am to 5pm clockworks.  Given that many organizations are now operating by FOLLOWING THE SUN, be ready to take the EXTRA MILE even if that means burning the midnight oil or even waking up at the wee hours of the next morning😁😁😁
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  Our takeaway:  There are tons of INTANGIBLES that will equip yourself in life even if you think so that you got no TALENT at all.  Projecting that POSITIVITY through your attitude and mindset is a good start.  Attitude is one of those ephemeral qualities that people love, BUT usually CAN'T define.  In this case, attitude means POSITIVITY.  Giving a hundred HIGH FIVEs, hyping your teammates up, being the first to rush to the field WHEN someone else makes a big play.  Everyone loves that kind of teammate.  And be READY all the time.  It's all HANDS ON DECK, the NEXT MAN UP.  In the NBA, almost all players are damn good but for a 15-man team, easily half a dozen are warming the bench because of the rotations BUT they're always ready as the NEXT MAN UP.  NO TALENT?  NO PROBLEM!!!
  

Where Is The BEST FREE TIME?

Where Is The BEST FREE TIME?

Where Is The BEST FREE TIME? Is it the FREE TIME that just falls on your lap?  You'll be surprised a plurality, if NOT majority, will scream AYEs.  BUT let's be more incisive.  Is that really the best way for us to earn the FREE TIME we truly deserve?  C'mon dude.  We talk a lot about FREE TIME.  BUT WHAT we fail to to get is the thing that FREE TIME gets the right flavor WHEN it is earned.  THAT's WHEN we get to just enjoy the time📗📙📘

The thing is, you CAN'T just wake up in the morning and say you have so much FREE TIME.  Like you just DIDN'T do any work.  So, WHAT's the fuss for the FREE TIME?  You are unhappy because you are always happy???? That kind of baffles me.  You are getting food.  You are getting to sleep so much.  Your parents are giving you everything.  And life is just so okay.  Sadly, eventually you are the one WHO is the SADDEST👽👽👽

BUT hey, everything seems in place.  It's true we humans are the happiest WHEN we are building things.  Our lives.  Our business.  Our mind.  Our body.  Solving problems are at our core level, that's the naked truth we got to embrace.  It's time for us to take up some tough work ahead.  So, WHY DON'T we get busy and start having a packed up schedule.  FREE TIME is earned from a busy schedule and now, DON'T ever fall for the trap that FREE TIME comes anyway💥💥💥

To quote William Penn, the famous English writer, 'TIME IS WHAT WE WANT MOST BUT WHAT WE USE WORST'.  Thing is, you can find time in your day.  To be happy and productive, you need less time than you may think.  Getting enough FREE TIME in your day is possible if you control your time.  How much FREE TIME do you wish you had?  Your answer may surprise you, seriously.  Having too little FREE TIME is terrible for you and having too much FREE TIME is bad for you as well.  Let's find enough time and learn that 'sweet spot' of FREE TIME is critical❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  let's heed the advice of experts.

• DETERMINE YOUR NON-NEGOTIABLE - Once you identified the non-negotiables, you can make time for them.
• FIND OUT YOUR TIME WASTERS - It's as simple as going to your smartphone, see WHAT apps you used the most that day.  See your SCREEN TIME display.  WHAT apps are really wasting your time?

Bottomline, CREATE YOUR FREE TIME and DON'T wait for FREE TIME to fall on your lap😌😌😌

What Your Life Is Right Now DOES NOT MATTER

What Your Life Is Right Now DOES NOT MATTER

Mr John could be a billionaire.  Ms Suzy can be a middle-level office employee.  Mr Billy Joe could be a teacher who's struggling to make both ends meet day-in day-out.  Ms Trixie could be a student who attends school in the evening so she can work in the daytime because she's financially self-supporting.  Mr Wong could be in and out of work through the years because of the economic instabilities in his country.  Mr Murayama could be a Japanese farmer in the far-flung areas of Okinawa.  Mr Kombawa could be languishing in an African jail because he got embroiled in past troubles which he admitted his guilt.  BUT hey, What Your Life Is Right Now DOES NOT MATTER.  It is HOW YOU FEEL YOUR LIFE which really matters.  DON'T even think as to how anyone else feels.  WHAT MATTERS is HOW YOU FEEL YOUR LIFE, without factoring all the external 'noise' all over the place📗📙📘

Problem is, most of us approach life in an 'upside-down' manner [you could include me as one of those in the past].  We tend to care more about HOW our life looks on the outside to others than HOW IT FEELS on the inside to our very own selves.  WHY is that?  First off, people are akin to function as our very own 'CONFIRMATION DEVICES' as they tend to act as our MIRRORS and help us maintain the illusion of our separate individual selves.  WHEN other people praise OR validate us, our existence is affirmed.  WHEN other people reject us, our non-existence is affirmed💧💧💧

And since non-existence [which looks and smells like 'death' ouch] is WHAT we fear most, we then strive for others to VALIDATE us.  Indeed, this sounds confusing BUT this is WHAT's going on in many people even as we speak now.  A second culprit for this dilemma is looking back how we were all taught how a GOOD LIFE is supposed to look like and from the day we enter school, the indoctrination machine makes sure our lives develop that socially accepted 'LOOK'😁😁😁

Once we have graduated from our schooling and leave the school portals, we then firmly believe that we want a career, a house, a car, a family.  We then strive to become useful and respectable members of our community.  Oh, how convenient things can be, right?  BUT has it ever occurred to you that MAYBE all the things you think you care about you DON'T care about one bit at all???

Our takeaway:  Have you ever asked yourself if the life you're working so hard to achieve ISN'T just the 'pre-existing template' that you and everyone else get served by default?  It's true many of us would sacrifice our enjoyment of life in the attempt of trying to fill the that 'template' with exactly the 'RIGHT CONTENT'. And this is our problem because we tend to focus all our attention on the 'CONTENT' instead of the context.  By 'CONTENT', we're referring to the details of your life while by CONTEXT, it's HOW YOUR LIFE FEELS TO YOU.  So, WHAT YOUR LIFE IS RIGHT NOW DOES NOT MATTER at all dude❗❗❗

Is Your $$$$$ At Risk With Digital Banks?

Is Your $$$$$ At Risk With Digital Banks?

Is Your $$$$$ At Risk With Digital Banks?  No sirrrrs, I'm NOT here to harangue OR bad-mouth digital banking because it is generally safe and NOT that easy to hack.  And to be fair to digital banks, they are required by their respective country banking regulators to implement precautionary measures to keep the clients' monies safe.  Popular measures rolled across borders include data encryption, MFA [multi-factor authentication] and compliance with deposit insurance.  So, Is Your $$$$$ At Risk With Digital Banks???

So, WHAT lures us to digital banking?  The past year OR so, I've been receiving an avalanche of marketing emails and even SMS notifications from new digital banks now in operation in my country.  So, you might ask, have I fallen for those aggressive marketing ploys to date?  Unfortunately, I'll admit that I remain hesitant those enticing offers of higher interest rates for obvious reasons💧💧💧

So, WHAT holds me back?  First and foremost, let's admit it, through the years [decades in fact], we have all been comfortable with those traditional brick-and-mortar banks.  BUT given the recent collapse of U.S. banks Silicon Valley Bank and Signature Bank, it behooves that we look at the fine print of digital banking safety.  For your awareness, in-country banking regulators are the very cornerstone of consumer confidence in the banking system because of the required depository insurance💦💦💦

Be informed of 'fintech intermediaries' wherein the digital bank is literally linked with a traditional bank.  Look no farther than the most recent collapse of US-based SYNAPSE wherein the traditional bank to whom SYNAPSE was linked had not filed for bankruptcy.  So, technically, the helping hands of U.S. FDIC [Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation] was tied behind its back.  NOT to scare you folks but popular banking apps like PayPal [oh no, I do maintain a small-small account there] and Chime only 'PARTNER' with banks [INSTEAD OF OWNING THEM]😌😌😌

Feel free to browse the CNBC Synapse update @ https://www.cnbc.com/2024/07/02/synapse-fintech-fdic-false-promise.html.  Our takeaway:  Nothing wrong to have digital banking accounts BUT please LIMIT YOUR EXPOSURE.  Never be lured by the higher deposit interest rates by putting all EGGS IN ONE BASKET.  At the end of the day, prudence dictates upon us to be aware of the differences of e-wallets versus e-vaults so you have your answer to the question 'IS YOUR $$$$$ AT RISK WITH DIGITAL BANKS?💥💥💥

Only PASSION Can Stop CONSUMERISM

Only PASSION Can Stop CONSUMERISM

Only PASSION Can Stop CONSUMERISM.  BUT you might ask, WHAT'S CONSUMERISM?  Let's go by the books WHERE it is defined as an economic theory that consumer spending is the key to individual WELL-BEING [?????].  Can we believe that?  WHO agrees to that definition BTW?  THAT this time around, our WELL-BEING hinges on our activities [spell it out loudly as S-P-E-N-D-I-N-G] as a consumer?  Just to clear up things, there is NOTHING wrong with spending as a consumer BUT to peg it to WELL-BEING???

Seriously, a few minutes ago was the first ever attempt I made to look for the definition of CONSUMERISM [and I almost fell off from my chair, honestly].  DON'T get me wrong because I am a CONSUMER through and through BUT can we agree that if we embrace that CONSUMER mindset, that might likely keep us stuck at our financial level OR even worsen, leaving us constantly longing for more and preventing us from appreciating WHAT we already have.  No sirrrrrs, this WON'T be a rant about how we should stop striving for more because in fact and in truth, having aspirations is simply great. BUT having said this, sadly, most of our GOALS are often driven by CONSUMERISM!@#$%?

Regrettably, we want something NOT because we are passionate about it OR because it makes us happy BUT more often than NOT, we desire things simply for the sake of consuming them.  Unfortunately, by the definition of CONSUMERISM, we can see that CONSUMERISM aims to achieve happiness and fulfillment alongside status.  HOWEVER, here lies the biggest question behind CONSUMERISM.  Is this HAPPINESS real OR is it merely a result of the flood of CHEMICALS in our brains???

Is it REALLY [moi doubts it] genuine HAPPINESS OR just the satisfaction of conforming to the norms of this CONSUMERISM-driven world?  So, the brutally frank question is, ISN'T CONSUMERISM simply a form of materialism?  If so, HOW can it bring happiness?  In the end, CONSUMING does NOT bring lasting HAPPINESS, at least that's HOW I do observe.  Instead, let us consider that true HAPPINESS stems from a genuine passion for life💦💦💦

Our takeaway:  CONSUMERISM keeps us financially constrained, unsuccessful and even unmotivated.  It tends to accentuate deficiencies we have and feeds on 'HUMAN GREED'.  And once we develop a PASSION FOR LIFE, we can break free from this vicious cycle.  We WON'T feel like we DON'T belong OR that we lack something.  PASSION is something that CANNOT be lacking because it is WHAT propels the world to move forward.  Instead of getting fixated on consumption and remaining in a state of the lack-mentality, we should instead redirect our focus and energy toward living the life filled with PASSION.  Dude, let us NOT do things solely for CONSUMERISTIC or MATERIALISTIC reasons.  Let us LIVE LIFE fueled by our PASSION for it💚💛💜

Do We Live In ONE-WAY STREETS?

Do We Live In ONE-WAY STREETS?

Do We Live In ONE-WAY STREETS?  BTW, here's a typical road for the average person.  Goes to school.  Gets good grades.  Gets a job.  Buy things on debt.  Buys properties on mortgage.  Settles mortgages and debts.  Teaches the same to his kids.  Retires.  Dies.  And the vicious cycle loops.  Along the way, sometimes that 'road', that ;cycle' gets interrupted.  WHAT happens next is panic

As we progress along in life, we start at entry-level, get trained, get mentored.  And along the way, we build relationships and rapport with our mentor[s] and seniors and our more seasoned colleagues helpful to our growth and development.  BTW, I also went through those formal technical trainings @IBM.  For a long time, that's all mentorship was to me, a linear relationship WHERE seniors taught, supported and advocated for their juniors.  These days, do we notice, that 'old school' kind of thing DOESN'T happen all the time anymore.  In fact, I uncorked REVERSE MENTORING

After so many donkey years, I realized that things do RESET.  You could have been trained and honed for so many of those capabilities you have [till now].  Then WHEN you fast-forward to the present, you would realize that you need to RETOOL and UPSKILL yourself.  WHY?  Because you want to keep abreast with the times, with the developments in life.  And bottom line is, you want to keep yourself RELEVANT [and avoid ending up IRRELEVANT, right]

Today, WHAT's my realization?  It is that MENTORSHIP is NOT a ONE-WAY STREET.  Your age, your experience OR even experience has NOTHING to do with the value you bring to the table.  You have as much to contribute as those WHO are seemingly more experienced than you.  This is the case of REVERSE MENTORSHIP, which, simply put, it describes a situation in which a younger OR early career professional mentors a much more senior colleague

Our takeaway:  WHILE the overarching goal mirrors that of a traditional mentorship. which means advancing the professional growth of the MENTEE, because roles have reversed.  So, this shows that everyone goes through that experential learning that is as valuable.  If you're just starting out in your career and you want to get involved in a REVERSE MENTORSHIP, do figure out WHAT you have to offer.  WHAT lessons are you willing to share?  HOW can you communicate your knowledge to someone else without overwhelming them?  You can bring them VALUE and help them do their jobs better by sharing your experience around HOW you think about.  So, DO WE STILL LIVE IN ONE-WAY STREETs?  Let's depart from that❗❗❗

Are You More Of A DREAMER Than A DOER?

Are You More Of A DREAMER Than A DOER?

Are You More Of A DREAMER Than A DOER?  Good question I guess for today.  BUT before anything else, please DON'T get me wrong dude.  NOTHING wrong with DAYDREAMING.  I did a hell lot of DAYDREAMING all throughout my life.  DAYDREAMING [a.k.a. mind wondering] is of one of life's great enjoyments.  You can indulge in it WHEN you're stuck in a boring meeting [oops I am NOT implying that I do that at work] OR [this one, I'll admit I've done a zillion times] WHEN you are in a perennial traffic gridlock.  They reflect WHAT you want in life and something to strive for.  BUT they can also keep you stuck in life. BUT there is a shocking realization about this📗📙📘

DREAMERS get nowhere in life without becoming DOERS.  Indulging in the desired future ignores possible obstacles and therefore masks the necessity to act. BUT admittedly, for most of us [and that includes moi] DAYDREAMING can provide a source of creative inspiration.  In fact, it is a mental capacity for freedom from an immediate event toward inner thoughts and feelings💦💦💦

Truth is, DAYDREAMING is a virtual world WHERE we can plan for and rehearse future scenarios without risk.  In contrast, merely focusing on present reality does NOT give a direction of WHERE to go.  An intense FOCUS on our setbacks [and even problems]  may NOT always lead to immediate solutions.  DAYDREAMING helps problem-solving and planning for the future.  However, DAYDREAMING OR fantasizing  about our desired future may make people feel accomplished [at least temporarily].  After all, if you can imagine a world in WHICH you've achieved your goals, WHY bother pursuing them in the real world!@#$%?

Let's picture an imaginary experience of SUCCESS that diminishes the energy to translate fantasy into reality through action.  So, the bigger question is, WHY, then, are we so prone to fantasizing about the future, if doing so, in fact, reduces the chance of achieving our dreams?  True, POSITIVE fantasies are indeed so alluring and 'seductive'.  POSITIVE thoughts and images provide feelings of relaxation [a.k.a. RELIEF from boredom] BUT unfortunately, a false sense of security❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  Similar to drug addiction, we need to be cautioned about DAYDREAMING because extreme DAYDREAMERS do get the pleasure from DAYDREAMING and end up finding their private world so difficult to 'escape', literally speaking.  Psychologists have termed this as 'MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING' although it is NOT officially recognized as a disorder.  BUT if things turn from bad to worse, WHO knows we'll end up worse with just another disorder❓❓❓