Whatever It Takes, EQ It Is!

 

Recently, I attended a clinic hosted by a well-reputed resource in Psychology and the event started off with him instructing us to do these:

• To close eyes & sit quietly in a comfortable position 
• Bring to mind something a little sad [BUT NOT much]
• Observe as to where in your body you feel sadness
• Place a hand @ that part of your body in a caring way
• Repeat the above steps BUT substitute different emotions for sadness like fear, anger and joy

Immediately after the exercise, I DIDN'T wait for another second to raise my hand and with that curiosity, I asked for WHAT was that exercise for.  The host enlightened us that increasing our awareness of these bodily sensations is key to becoming more EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT.  And WHEN we examine our emotions carefully, we see that they consist of a bodily sensation accompanied by a thought, an image OR both💚💛💜

Apparently, the more clearly we can recognize emotions in our bodies, the more clearly we know WHEN a feeling is arising within us.  Surprisingly, our resource said that sensations can serve as an 'early warning signal' for problematic OR negative emotions that we might NOT want to act on automatically.  LIKE for instance, imagine your spouse OR partner says something that upsets you in front of your close friends.  Take a moment to feel those sensations of anger in your body, BUT DON'T react OR say something [NOT EVEN take action] right away BUT instead wait a few moments till you can think clearly first way before you take that action OR reaction❎❎❎

Sometimes, people do end up mixing up IQ versus EQ [emotional quotient]  BUT they are simply poles apart as EQ is crucial for us to be navigating life effectively both in our personal and even professional life.  That then allows us to understand and manage our own emotions as well as recognize and even influence the emotions of others.  WHAT's sometimes lost in the maze is the fact that it more often, it takes 2 to tango.  The way you react will influence HOW the other party may react.  That's WHEN EQ kicks in💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  True all these are easier said than done BUT let's take stock of things.  If between 2 parties, if both can leverage on their acceptable EQ levels, it's like those interest incomes we either earn [in our bank accounts] OR those interest charges [in a bank loan] WHERE the amount compounds and multiplies.  That goes true WHEN that positive EQ kicks in, it will likely lead to better, clearer communications then leading towards better relationships [WHEN even gaps OR frictions are averted].  So, this all boils down to us asking ourselves if we recognize the emotion we are feeling?  And can we manage those feelings WITHOUT allowing them to swamp you?  If we responded in the affirmative to all these, it is likely that your EQ is NOT in a 'bad state' that needs to be repaired OR reversed.  Boring as it may sound, we need to increase and improve our EQ capability.  Ooops, advanced HAPPY VALENTINE's Day to our readership😀😀😀