Let's BREAK AWAY From Our BAD HABITS

Let's BREAK AWAY From Our BAD HABITS

No sirrrrs, I DON'T come clean enough.  Because I had my fair share of BAD HABITS.  BUT who says that everything is cast in stone?  NOT true.  NOT at all.  So, Let's BREAK AWAY From Our BAD HABITS.  In our gruelling daily lives, how often we ask ourselves, WHERE did the hours go?  WHY did the tasks take that long?  WHY do we feel unfulfilled at the end of the day?  Could we find the common denominator for all those interrogatives?  Yesirrrrrs, you hit the nail on its head.  The common culprit are our time-wasting habits💎💎💎

If you're perplexed, we DON'T need to dig deep to figure out the most common culprits.  LIKE your endless scrolling. Raise your hand if you've ever stumbled down the 'infinite scroll rabbit hole' on social media.  We all know the recurring pattern.  You just wanted to check on a message for a while but it turns out it stretches to an hour of mindless swiping of countless checks here and there.  Oh Oh, TIME EVAPORATES, leaving you with a vague sense of unease and the nagging feeling you accomplished nothing.  BTW, DON'T be fooled by those well-curated 'endless feeds'.  And WHEN you haven't subscribed, you'll get prompted to FOLLOW and SUBSCRIBE📗📙📘

So, let's NOT feel or act surprised that social media is here to stay and everything about it is designed to be addictive, hijacking your attention and turning you into a passive consumer of content.  Think of it like a casino slot machine, dispensing DOPAMINE hits every few scroll, keeping you hooked just long enough for another click.  BUT hold on, ISN'T it that social media is damn great to be connected to?  Absolutely.  Of course.  It is a powerful tool for communications and our communities.  BUT just like that tempting delicious slice of cake, too much can be detrimental.  We WON'T eat an entire cake in one sitting, right?  WHY do we subject ourselves to an unlimited buffet of digital distractions❓❓❓

NOW, here's the harsh truth.  That infinite scroll is a silent productivity KILLER.  Psychologists concluded in their studies that constant distractions shatter our ability to focus, leaving us fragmented and incapable of deep thinking.  It's like trying to write a novel in a crowded coffee shop, that constant noise will drown out any meaningful thought.  So, how do we BREAK AWAY From Our BAD HABITS?  Easier said than that BUT start with, SETTING BOUNDARIES.  Treat social media like a delicious dessert, a small indulgence to be enjoyed in moderation💧💧💧

Fearing BOREDOM?  Embrace BOREDOM.  The fear of missing out [FOMO] is a powerful tool used to keep us glued to our screens.  BUT experts say that BOREDOM can be a breeding ground for creativity and critical thinking.  Our takeaway?  Let your mind wander, step away from the screen and see WHAT sparks of inspiration might ignite you.  Let's BREAK AWAY From Our BAD HABITS❎❎❎

Need To REBOOT?

Need To REBOOT?

Seriously, when do we REBOOT or RESET in our life?  Yes it is true, we all face FAILURE at one point OR another, whether it is in our home life, our work life  and in our daily personal lives.  And WHEN we experience a major FAILURE, finding a strength to move forward can be one of the most difficult parts of that process in life.  Now, of all stuffs in life, the most challenging thread we can pursue is discussing FAILURE because sometimes, OR likely most of the time, once we are hitting the floor, that path towards recovery may seem to be a very steep hill OR mountain to climb📗📙📘

So, let's play out real-life scenarios.  FAILURE hits us.  WHAT then?  WHAT now?  Psychologists advise that, first and foremost, let us LOOK BACK as to HOW YOU DID IT BEFORE.  Look back and remember a time when you were able to move past a significant challenge.  WHAT motivated you that time?  WHAT kept you going?  WHAT made you resilient?  WHAT learning from this past experience can you apply to this current situation❓❓❓

Moving on, let us OPENLY accept FAILURE as part of our learning process.  BTW, be forewarned that that learning process will last our lifetime.  With every FAILURE, there is always a window of opportunity to turn it around.  You must NOT miss that opportunity while wallowing in your grief [arising from a FAILURE].  Instead, get ready for the next upcoming opportunity by FOCUSING on establishing a plan to apply the LESSONS LEARNED.  And WHEN you get hit with FAILURE, remember that an action FAILED and it was NOT you FAILING📌📌📌

And before you end up sulking in a corner for that FAILURE, go FAST FORWARD and think about your future COMEBACK PLAN.  Looking back my life, when I now looked back, with clarity and certainty, I know WHEN I have been proud of my response and WHEN I wish I handled things differently.  So, these days when I get hit with a FAILURE, I would always look back and plot a COMEBACK PLAN💧💧💧

Our takeaway?  Experts strongly encourage us to use POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONs and they recommend that a first strategy is to 'short circuit' your NEGATIVE THOUGHTS by using POSITIVE SELF-AFFIRMATIONS.  Those POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS include any phrase that reminds you of WHO you are as a person and serve as an encouragement to stay resilient in the face of adversity.  Experts claim that SELF AFFIRMATIONS [like 'I AM ENOUGH' or 'I BELIEVE IN MY DREAMS'] serve to boost our confidence, broaden our perspective, decrease the impact of a potential NEGATIVE event will have on you and from a bigger perspective, it should promote our optimistic outlook❗❗❗

Beware: Latest AI Scams !

Beware:  Latest AI Scams !

AI [ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE] has come and it's everywhere!  More than that, it is reaching latest unprecedented heights, which, for lack of a better adjective, are terrifying updates [call it PROGRESS] of AI.  You might ask, what is there to be Beware about the latest AI scams !  The past months, I did hear about AI voice cloning and that caused me to fall off my chair but hold your breath for the latest AI scam📌📌📌

In today's Channelnewsasia commentary titled "A US $25 million Hong Kong deepfake scam shows new AI risks in video calls".  How did the scammers pull off this feat?  Oh Oh, these scammers used artificial intelligence to disguise themselves on a video conference and swipe US $25 million from a Hong Kong-based company.  So, the perplexing question is:  How is ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE going to the next level?  Let's take a step back.  When did this ZOOM calls got introduced into our lives?  Remember, ZOOM calls all started when we were all got locked down by Covid-19 pandemic❎❎❎

And to see that these AI SCAMS did not come from a BIG BANG thing, it modestly started when we heard about SCAMS, it was revolving around voice cloning.  So, at that point, we were alerted and oriented how to spot and detect phishing emails and resist the urge to click on some dodgy attachments.  Of course, despite all our awareness, hackers, fraudsters and scammers need just one person out of hundreds to inadvertently download a malware needed to 'tunnel' into a corporate network💎💎💎

Ironically, much as the quantum leaps in technology brought us forward way beyond the brick and mortar days, with ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE-powered video tools, they have broken ground and achieved breakthroughs [if we may ironically call it such] by moving into territories we all [wrongly] thought to be considered SAFE enough.  WHAT this tells us are the significant strides DEEPFAKE TECHNOLOGY has really developed, all within the past one year.  And while it seems to be more science fiction than anything else, these elaborate frauds are now relatively easy to set up.  Scary indeed💧💧💧

Our takeaway?  Let's NOT be complacent at all, just because maybe you've never been a scam victim [YET] because, knock on wood, all these deepfake scams will hit hard on us at those moments when we feel either relaxed or just so cockily confident.  How scary things can be?  Go to Google now and openly, it gives the step-by-step guide how to create a deepfake video.  Scary days indeed.  Let's be wary of all these😌😌😌

Go, DREAM BIG

Go, DREAM BIG

I've blurted on this many times and I WON'T get tired repeating a zillion times.  Go, DREAM BIG, no less than that.  WHY?  There could me mile-long reasons WHY but if I may simplify a complex situation.  Everything starts with one's DREAM.  HOW fiery are you.  HOW ambitious are you.  HOW aggressive are you.  HOW BIG is your DREAM?  Pardon me BUT for the next few minutes, we'll circle around to DREAM BIG📗📙📘

Indeed, DREAM BIG about what you want to achieve.  DREAM BIG about the life you want to lead and the difference you want to make.  DREAM BIG about the person you want to be.  DREAM BIG because you might surprise yourself.  DREAM BIG because until do, you'll have no idea WHAT you're capable of.  In brief, there's just NO excuse NOT to DREAM BIG.  If you are still NOT sold to DREAM BIG, let's spend a bit of time, hoping that everyone of us will get aligned that for us to reach the farthest we can go, DREAM BIG no less💎💎💎

#1 reason that should push us to DREAM BIG is that, let's agree, there's LESS COMPETITION out there.  Look no farther than Elon Musk.  How come he's been a successful trailblazer in his business initiatives?  Simple.  There is just NO LESS COMPETITION but frankly, there is really NO COMPETITION.  In fact, there are far fewer applications for the huge, life-changing roles, contracts and grants than there are for the smaller ones.  And frankly, it's LONELY UP THERE💧💧💧

Sadly, many people talk themselves OUT of aiming high.  They settle for LESS, make excuses and very rarely leave their comfort zone.  They believe that someone else will be better qualified so they DON'T submit an application.  Hey dude.  Submit an application.  Put your name in the hat, and make the case for WHY it should be YOU.  BACK YOURSELF and DREAM BIG.  No else dares❎❎❎

#2, in case you fall short of that BIG DREAM, trust me, falling just short will still be great.  Try to picture hearing the best news you could ever hear, whether it is for your life OR your career.  Then, imagine falling just short of that.  Still sounds good, right? So, the BIGGER your plan is, the higher is that probability that your results will still be somewhere UP THERE.  To borrow that old cliche, SHOOT FOR THE MOON.  IF YOU FAIL, YOU'LL STILL LAND ON THE STARS, dude✅✅✅

When To WORRY About WORRYING

When To WORRY About WORRYING

Supposedly, WORRYING is NOT worth our time OR even be our thread today.  Simply because everyone feels afraid OR worried at times, BUT if these feelings begin to literally TAKE OVER your life, then we have a problem.  THEN, it is worth reconsidering that we spend a bit of time on this thread: When To WORRY About WORRYING.  NOT to raise alarms, though, the first threshold we should be wary to breach is what experts call GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER [GAD]💧💧💧

Problem is, we often endure the discomfort caused by GAD or we [wrongly] think that this is pretty normal.  In the end, this does NOT get flagged down as a problem.  BUT experts are warning us that if GAD is left alone to manifest, it may potentially lead to serious health problems [such as high blood pressure, depression and even addictive behavior like excessive drinking].  Admittedly, people with GAD will be unable to shake off that feeling that something BAD might happen and that they DON'T seem to be prepared .  They may even worry to excess about missing an appointment, losing a job, or having an accident📙📗📘

Surprisingly [and shockingly, some people even WORRY about WORRYING too much.  Now, before we miss out those tell-tale signs, allow me to share the below symptoms of GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER:

• Persistent, excessive extended WORRY on several things
• Fatigue and difficulty sleeping OR restlessness
• Trouble concentrating on task at hand
• Muscle tension
• Irritability
• That feeling tense

So, WHAT should we do?  Experts advise that first things first, let us acknowledge when we SEEM to be manifesting any of these common symptoms.  And that's our dilemma.  Many of us understand WHAT's causing their FEAR + WORRY but DON'T often want to face it.  Experts forewarn as well that physical symptoms can come in different forms and shapes.  And that includes racing heart, dry mouth, upset stomach, muscle tension, sweating, trembling and even irritability💥💥💥

Our takeaway?  WHETHER your doctor will advise you for medical treatment OR therapy, the 'ball is on your court'.  NOT to bad mouth pharmacology but medicines will offer you much greater symptom relief over time BUT there are potentially intangible help in the form of avoiding tendencies to EXAGGERATE difficulties OR unnecessarily concocting pessimistic assumptions, which exacerbate one's condition.  This is WHEN we need to WORRY on WORRYING❎❎❎

How To Leverage On Your Weaknesses

How To Leverage On Your Weaknesses

Have you ever felt like the weight of the world rests on your shoulders?  I can sense it because I've BEEN THERE, HAD THAT.  So, in life, we are all exposed to to various trying moments.  Like when we had to endure a stressful job interview.  What that kind of experience tells us is to be strong and believe in ourselves.  So, How do we Leverage On Your Weaknesses📗📙📘

Going through the wringer, sometimes fumbling BUT quite often surviving [and sometimes barely], we would learn how powerful confidence can be.  It's the kind of stuff that will keep you going, no matter what happens.  So, how do we move from hereon?  First off, let us accept our VULNERABILITY.  We all have that raw and tender side, the one that whispers fears, doubts and longings.  And indeed it is tempting to keep it under lock and key, to build a fortress around our hearts and project an image of unyielding strength💎💎💎

BUT WHAT IF we are told that VULNERABILITY isn't a weakness after all?  That it is that kind of a superpower we often overlook?  Let's visualize that daring tightrope walker, suspended up high above the ground.  Their every step is a calculated risk, a delicate dance between control and surrender.  They could easily build a safety net and close themselves off from the possibility of a potential fall.  BUT, without that VULNERABILITY, that openness to the UNKNOWN, there wouldn't be the breathtaking beauty of their performance💧💧💧

I came across this anonymous one-liner which kind of hit me:  VULNERABILITY IS THE COURAGE TO BE YOU.    So, it is NOT about spilling your secrets to every passerby but it is about acknowledging your humanness, flaws and all.  It is about showing up authentically, even WHEN it feels scary and trusting that your story deserves to be heard.  VULNERABILITY is that fertile ground where our human creativity gets uncorked and unraveled.  It is that raw material that somehow sparks and ignites our inner self.  And WHEN we dare to be VULNERABLE, we open ourselves up to possibilities😀😀😀

Our takeaway?  Let's go back the last time you shared a deep fear OR insecurity with a trusted friend.  HOW was it?  Did you feel the 'wall crumble'?  Did you feel much closer and more understood OR did you retreat further into your emotional isolation?  Thing is, our VULNERABILITIES are NOT our character flaws.  Instead, they are the cracks and chinks in our armor that let the light in, the imperfections that make us uniquely beautiful.  Accepting them ISN'T a sign of weakness BTW.  Instead, it is an act of immense courage, a declaration that we choose to live authentically even WHEN its risky.  After all, this is HOW TO LEVERAGE ON YOUR WEAKNESS, dude✅✅✅

Is Lost Memory Recoverable?

Is Lost Memory Recoverable?

Is Lost Memory Recoverable?  Yesirrrrrrrrs, the good news is that, akin to the lost data happening in our laptops and gadgets, LOST MEMORY is not all given up as LOST, thanks to the numerous medical studies.  Ironically, sometimes MEMORY of certain experiences remain crystal clear for life, like the moment you said "I DO".  Of course, other significant memories from long ago can be harder to recall BUT they may still be with you📗📙📘

This is worth noting, if I may reference some of the medical studies.  Of the many memories you accumulate every day, only those marked as 'MEANINGFUL' are recorded in your brain's "long-term" files.  Experts claim that we have a system in our brains that tags MEMORY  that are important in some way so we'll remember them in the future.  Surprise-surprise.  There are two things that tag a memory as special💎💎💎

EMOTIONS top the list.  Like getting married is an example of highly emotional events.  Experts claim that in that circumstance, a whole host of brain chemicals become active as these memories are being 'RECORDED'.  Close to the heels are memories of personal significance like WHEN you remember WHAT you had for breakfast this morning and WHAT clothes you wore yesterday.  BUT if we were asked about those in a few days or a month ago, you'll have NO MEMORY  for them because they're NOT just that important to you📌📌📌

Here's the catch though.  While experts claim that we can retrieve some of the significant LOST memory, aging affects retrieval.  And sometimes, even special or important MEMORIES  are harder to remember.  WHEN memory goes 'downhill' after age 30, to borrow medical jargon, by the time we're in our 50s, the frontal lobes [which are in charge of searching for memories] DON'T work as well as they used to be.  And here's a medical explanation that runs parallel to technology.  'BY NOT REVISITING THE MEMORY, YOU'RE TELLING YOUR BRAIN ITS NOT IMPORTANT'💧💧💧

Our takeaway?  We need to 'JOG' our memory because when we're younger, an internal cue [just thinking of something] can help retrieve a memory BUT when we're older, we rely more on external cues to retrieve memories, like a sound OR an image.  To reactivate our old memory, we must think about the senses that were engaged as the MEMORY was being recorded.  So dude, all is NOT LOST, literally speaking😀😀😀

Still Working HARD?

Still Working HARD?

WHETHER in work OR in life, most of us do strive to accomplish MORE in LESS time.  WOULDN'T it be nice to do in a few hours WHAT it used to take you half a day?  BUT by concentrating and minimizing distractions, YES YOU CAN.  So, if you're Still Working HARD, not to despair.  We can leverage on what battalions of experts have shared for us to leverage.  BUT please DON'T get me wrong.  We are NOT inciting people at the workplace to work LESS, NOT AT ALL sirrrrrrrrrs📗📙📘

Topping the list of recommendations is DELEGATION.  Delegate MORE.  Mastering that ART of DELEGATION is an essential skill.  BUT if you're a control freak, perfectionist or micromanager, it can be difficult.  Experts advise that the key is understanding that the ability to DELEGATE will make you more productive.  I've seen that many times in my life.  I had a colleague where we are all managing multiple projects.  BUT the problem arises when you start to work longer hours and YET you are unable to read and detect those bellwether signs and instead, you extend your work from 10-hour daily work to even twelve to fourteen hours.  One day, I talked to him, and gave him my unsolicited advice, which he did heed.  WHAT happened next, he talked to our Program Director and it was then mutually recognized that his workload was way beyond his bandwidth📌📌📌

Next most common miss we commit is our lack of focus on HIGH-IMPACT tasks.   Chances are, you have a mile-long task To-do List and instead of trying to accomplish everything or get to INBOX ZERO, focus on tasks that will have the greatest OR biggest impact.  Work SMARTER by concentrating on the things that are most critical💧💧💧

Next unpopular BUT very common miss we have is NOT KNOWING WHEN TO QUIT.  While it may seem counterintuitive, it is essential to know WHEN to shut down your computer for the day.  You know and you would see those TELL-TALE signs that your fuel tank is about to breach that EMPTY threshold. Before you know it your mind seems to wander, then you keep rereading the same content over and over again.  OR maybe you feel stuck and it's taking you half an hour just to write a simple email❎❎❎

Our takeaway?  A lot of times, when we are unable to DELIVER THE GOODS, the more common culprit points back to us.  NOT because we have tough customers, tough bosses, tough environments BUT it falls back on our lap due to these most common culprits.  Bottom line here is that LIFE is NOT about QUANTITY.  WHAT matters most are your ACTUAL deliverables, ACTUAL accomplishments.  Do you get credits for having a mile-long To-do List and accomplishing half of it?  No sirrrrs.  So, dude, let us WORK SMARTER✅✅✅

Are We THINKING About Our THINKING?

 Are We THINKING About Our THINKING?

Have we given that a thought, if at all?  That process when Are We THINKING About Our THINKING?  Just as water transforms into steam with heat OR solidifies into ice with cold, we too can often need a catalyst to transform our careers, relationships and lives.  BUT let's think about it, THINKING ABOUT OUR THINKING can be that process that may reshape our lives into something either new OR transformative.  In the field of psychology, experts called this METACOGNITION where it is defined as that practice of consciously watching, analyzing, evaluating and reflecting upon one's thought processes📗📙📘

Experts said that METACOGNITION often involves stepping back from our habitual patterns of thought and taking a bird's eye view of our mental landscape.  And studies figured out the reasons WHY we do that.  And the three-fold answer is as follows:

• To understand how we make decisions
• To solve problems sometimes based on the past
• To learn new things 

In brief, METACOGNITION really makes sense.

Experts analyzed that WHEN thoughts pop into your heads, they usually pop right back out.  BUT sometimes we invest a lot of importance to them.  Then those thoughts begin to mean something.  At worst, you feel to portend things to happen.  LIke when you're waiting for a job interview, when you think 'OH THIS IS GOING BAD' and all that stuff, you end up giving too much weight to it and you might take it as a prediction of the future rather than just awaiting for things to UNFOLD & then REACT💧💧💧

Experts claim that WHAT becomes worrisome is IF WHEN those kinds of NEGATIVE thoughts [which experts called 'COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS'] become habitual because WHEN it does, they claim it could lead to OR even exacerbate depression.  And when I did dig up into the results of their studies, what I unraveled is quite scary to even read.  One is ABSOLUTIST THINKING [when you think , 'I'M NEVER PREPARED' or 'EVERYONE IS AGAINST ME'❎❎❎

Another scary scenario is when we blurt, 'OH I DIDN'T DESERVE THAT PROMOTION. I WAS JUST LUCKY'.  And when one tends to overgeneralize, like when you made a single mistake, you tagged yourself as a TOTAL LOSER.  Our takeaway?  THINKING is fine BUT not to the extent of digging a hole deep enough to make things difficult for you to extricate from that hole😐😐😐

How Common Is Common Sense?

How Common Is Common Sense?

How Common Is Common Sense?  Hey dude, could a lack of common sense be holding you back in life?  For alignment, COMMON SENSE is a form of practical decision-making and the ability to imagine the consequences of something you do.  It then stops us from making irrational mistakes and makes it easier to make choices on WHAT to do.  We AREN'T born with COMMON SENSE BUT rather, we develop it over time📗📙📘

Like, it's the COMMON SENSE view to look before crossing the road, to bring the washing in from the line outside when it's raining, NOT to leave the candle alight WHEN you got to go out of the house, to complete an urgent OR important task first, BUT it's NOT just common to everyone, right?  Some people find it harder to think through the consequences of their actions and need to learn COMMON SENSE.  And for some highly intelligent people, they will never learn the COMMON SENSE-way BUT they then go on to make important discoveries to change the world, just like billionaire Elon Musk of late.  With intelligence, you will understand the reason it is raining but the COMMON SENSE view is to stay out of the rain OR take an umbrella OR raincoat, right❓❓❓

At work, we want to be with people WHO display COMMON SENSE as it makes our life just much easier.  They share a common view on WHAT needs to get done, appreciate the needs of the team and will properly complete a task and meet their deadlines.  It can often mean that we need to manage them more closely and this scuppers their chance of promotion.  Surprisingly, COMMON SENSE impacts us way beyond what we are probably aware of💧💧💧

Statistics also show that in the U.K., 68% of Brits believe COMMON SENSE is more important in a potential partner than good looks.  In fact, 48% of Brits wouldn't date someone WHO lacked COMMON SENSE and 20% have, in fact, DUMPED a romantic partner, all because of a lack of COMMON SENSE.  Indeed, WHEN our partner doesn't have COMMON SENSE, it can make us feel like their mother OR carer, constantly having to remind them to do things that most people would do with ease, like putting the bins out, lock the door❌❌❌

One of the interesting research studies shared that individual uniqueness of COMMON SENSE beliefs showed that agreement on COMMON SENSE  diminishes significantly in larger groups such that each person's idea of COMMON SENSE  may be uniquely their own, making the concept less common than one might expect.  Our takeaway?  COMMON SENSE is enhanced by personal experience, and to a far lesser degree, education.  That ability to perceive and discern a situation QUICK enough [and accurately at that] is usually enhanced by life experience.  To wrap-up this intellectual interchange, let's agree that COMMON SENSE  is WHAT we have BUT the other guy DOES NOT have.  Unfortunately, delving into a can of worms may NOT be fruitless unless one is a hungry bird?  After all, COMMON SENSE is not that COMMON😌😌😌