Does Time Heal The Wounds?

 

DOES TIME HEAL THE WOUNDS?  Everyone of us did experience pain, disappointment, heartbreak, OR even one level of trauma OR another.  WHO did not anyways?  And well-meaning people will assure us that that pain will eventually fade with time.  That proposition has been shot down many times by experts WHO claim that that's untrue and no less than a fallacy.  WHY?  Because there is NO evidence that time heals wounds!@#$%?

WHAT is of common understanding is that time indeed helps in healing the wounds.  Everyone is a first-hand witness HOW time has become a factor in healing wounds.  BUT WHO will claim that time alone heals those wounds?  All the experts will scream and howl that NO WAY time heals on its own, never at all.  First of, the nature of the wound OR pain can affect as to HOW time influences the healing process.  In one study, researchers found that time did have an effect on whether people were willing to forgive an interpersonal transgression.  As time passed, people became more likely to forgive, suggesting that time played a role in healing that hurt.  BUT numerous researches proved as well that time alone does NOT heal the wounds.  In one study, bereaved people had high levels of prolonged grief even one to two years after the death of a loved one💥💥💥

The bigger and lingering question was WHAT was time's actual role in healing those wounds?  Psychologists wanted to equate time to an opportunity such that how someone heals over time ultimately depends on HOW they decide to use that opportunity to shape their present and even future circumstances.  LIKE people can use time to gain insights, have a healthier relationship and a more positive orientation leaning towards growth [instead of that 'stagnation' WHEN we observe that to people WHO are facing that enormous difficulty of overcoming grief, pain OR trauma.  In the end, some successful case studies proved that people would use time as an opportunity to collect experiences that orient them toward their values and dilute OR challenge difficult experiences!!!

Those positive orientations could be, amongst others, connecting with well-meaning friends, developing new relationships [NOT necessarily romantic ones], or push themselves to get engaged in activities WHICH they will find to be rewarding and helpful enough in their 'healing process'.  In a nutshell, TIME and TIME itself will and cannot guarantee that wounds will be fully healed.  Instead, we've got to reorient ourselves, if possible, redefine the 'rules of engagement' that can keep us keenly interested and engaged until you realize that you're over the hump [BUT a word of caution here, this WON'T happen overnight]❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  One trap that can turn a bad situation to a worse one is RUMINATION WHEN reflection does NOT integrate thought and emotion.  Clinical experts defined RUMINATION as usually ALL emotion OR ALL thought.  Whereas, a healthy reflection integrates both the emotion and the thought to help us gain new inroads towards grasping and achieving a much better clarity in our healing process.  So, DOES TIME HEAL WOUNDS?  Partly YES BUT never depend on time because it is you WHO will drive things to heal💖💖💖