Is Self-Improvement That Boring???

Is Self-Improvement That Boring???

Is Self-Improvement That Boring??? YES YES yoH, it is such a boring thing to talk about, right?  WHY?  I'll play devil's advocate.  BECAUSE there are more pressing things in life.  BECAUSE I won't get penalized if I DON'T self-improve now.  BECAUSE while it's important, it's NOT at the top of the totem pole.  BECAUSE it DOESN'T hurt me if I put off till tomorrow, till next week, till next time.  BUT no sirrrrs, SELF-IMPROVEMENT should be topping our priorities📗📙📘

NOW, let's admit it.  Anything that seems OR looks hard is indeed boring.  BUT dude, actually it's NOT.  WHEN we realize we are gaining an unfair advantage over 99% of the world, we just want to get more better in the game.  YES, monopoly even excites us.  Of course, we got to do it for our own self.  BUT the real joy pops up WHEN the competition gets totally smashed with some eXtra effort.  For sure, adventure itself is hard💧💧💧

BUT can I tell you WHAT'S harder?  Pardon my being frank BUT being a mediocre piece of 'shit' is really that damn hard.  Especially these days when cheap dopamine is now a normal business.   Processed food.  Netflix.  Reels.  Even that snoozed button.  And do we think this is a coincidence?  Wake up dude.  Almost all the biggest companies are even chasing for your own attention.  Because they want it at any cost.  Your own attention is their very source of revenue.  So, WHY DON'T we brainstorm WHERE do we go from here✅✅✅

Numero uno.  SET GOALS for yourself.  WHAT is it you want to improve about yourself OR about your current situation?  Identify those steps you need to take in order to initiate those improvements and set goals and deadlines for accomplishing those steps.  Numero dos.  DISPLAY YOUR GOALS [even within the confines of your room].  Setting goals is great BUT it's utterly useless if you can set them OUT-OF-SIGHT and OUT-OF-MIND.  Hold yourself accountable with yourself and with your family by writing down your goals.  DISPLAY them such that you CAN'T avoid seeing them everyday after waking up and before bedtime.  NOT a tough ASK, dude, ISN'T it💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Start with those low-hanging fruits LIKE... cut down on SCREEN TIME.  LIKE... eliminate a BAD HABIT [you should know that, if you have it].  LIKE... Perform your tasks based on your validated priorities.  No random picks.  LIKE... reset your expectations by accepting imperfection.  The reason many of us give up after making one mistake is because of that mindset.  So, IS SELF-IMPROVEMENT THAT BORING😕😕😕

[Re-posting EN TOTO] Urgent Google Chrome ASAP To Fix Critical Vulnerability

Re-posting EN TOTO from lifehacker.comn 06.03.2025 Urgent Google Chrome ASAP-Fix Critical Vulnerability [by Emily Long]:  If you use Google Chrome, you need to update your browser right now. Google just released an emergency patch for a three security vulnerabilities, one of which is a zero-day that has been actively exploited.  Zero-days are high-severity flaws that are either actively exploited in the wild or publicly disclosed before the developer pushes an update to fix the vulnerability

The latest Chrome zero-day—labeled CVE-2025-5419—is an out-of-bounds read-and-write vulnerability that affects the V8 JavaScript engine, which would allow a remote attacker to "exploit heap corruption via a crafted HTML page."

The flaw was discovered and reported on May 27 by Clement Lecigne and Benoît Sevens from the Google Threat Analysis Group. While Google has acknowledged that the zero-day has been actively exploited, it hasn't disclosed any additional details as to how or by whom to prevent other bad actors from leveraging the bug until more Chrome users have applied the patch.

Google has confirmed that it pushed a configuration change to the Stable version of Chrome to address the vulnerability the day after it was discovered. On Monday, the company released a Stable channel update with patches for the zero-day and two additional security issues

Users should ensure they are on Chrome version 137.0.7151.68/.69 for Windows and macOS, and version 137.0.7151.68 for Linux. Check your version by opening the Chrome menu and selecting About Google Chrome. If an update is available, allow it to complete and relaunch your browser to install it.

Uncertainty Is Our Only Certainty!

Uncertainty Is Our Only Certainty!

Allow me to share here the Quora.com post of Ed Conley:  WHEN MY MOM WAS 100, SHE WAS STILL DRIVING and tells her son "I'M SO HAPPY". WHY MOM?  BECAUSE I HAVE NO FUTURE.  WHEN I WAS YOUNGER, I HAD A FUTURE AND I WASN'T SO HAPPY'.  So, there you go.  Nope dude, I'm NOT implying we should live till 100.  BUT the thing here is WHY worry about the FUTURE WHEN Uncertainty Is Our Only Certainty???

Oooooops, before I ger whacked here, I'm NOT implying that we should NOT plan for our FUTURE, our family's FUTURE.  Point here is, YES GO AHEAD, plan your and your family's FUTURE BUT the thing is, life is filled with uncertainty and worries WHEN we start talking about the FUTURE.  WHILE many things remain outside our control, your mindset is key to coping with difficult circumstances and then confidently facing the UNKNOWN💥💥💥

YES YES yow, UNCERTAINTY is all around us.  WHO was certain enough that US President Donald Trump will literally bounce back to become the world's most powerful authority again?  WHO thought that YouTube CEO Susan Wojcicki, a non-smoker, will die due to Lung Cancer?  WHO expected Indonesia Prabowo Subianto to be today's President WHEN he ran for President for the 3rd time?  And heard of celebrities in their 30s WHO unceremoniously died recently?  And heard of household names awash with wealth but are suddenly NOW languishing in poverty?  Years ago, I was liaising with my bubbly and active agent for my condo rental. One day, she was NOT responding to my messages.  WHEN I checked, she died from a cardiac arrest???

Oooooops, apologies if I painted a very dark horizon so let's swing to those couples now at the advanced age.  YET they are enjoying the bright sunshine everyday and do we see apprehensions OR worries in their faces?  NO traces, right?  YES, I'll loop back to that Quora.com post of Ed Conley WHEREIN his 100-year old mom confided that she's HAPPY because she has NO worry because she has NO future to worry about.  True, we're all different in HOW much UNCERTAINTY we can tolerate😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  This is a no-brainer folks.  We have discussed HAPPINESS a zillion times and nothing can take away the fact that we can best find and enjoy HAPPINESS right NOW, at the PRESENT, in the MOMENT.  WHILE it's true that NOT all our NOWs, PRESENTs and current MOMENTs can be considered as HAPPY ones but how about looking at the glass with half-water as half-full instead of half-empty?  Oh Oh Oh, in the spirit of DECEMBER, sharing this HAPPINESS CALENDAR.  Yes dude, UNCERTAINTY IS OUR ONLY CERTAINTY❗❗❗

Enjoy The Moment [EVEN IF It's Hard]

Enjoy The Moment [EVEN IF It's Hard]

In my daily browsing today, I stumbled across a heart-punching story about the late YouTube CEO Susan Wojcicki.  She died last August from lung cancer [despite her admission that she NEVER smoked and NEVER manifested symptoms of her illness NOT until she got diagnosed with it.  And two months before she died, she recorded a short video [which upon her instructions, it can only be released only 'months after her death'].  Without playing here that heart stomping video, her very practical but very relevant advice to us all was this one:  Enjoy The Moment [EVEN IF It's Hard].  She then admitted how life can be mysterious, with all the twists and turns NO ONE amongst us can predict OR anticipate📗📙📘

Her very insightful words shared to us all revolves around the fact that almost all of us are too engaged with one too many priorities in life.  In the end, we tend to miss life itself, the very MOMENT, the PRESENT.  Very true, many of us get hostaged OR at least embroiled in that punishing 'rat race'.  WHAT happens next?  We end up missing to enjoy the MOMENT, the very PRESENT, the NOW📌📌📌

Ironically, Warren Buffett, the world's 6th ranked billionaire [based on the latest 2024 ranking] celebrated his 94th birthday BUT instead of having all the parties and celebrations, he amended his hitherto issued inheritance instructions to bequeath 99% of his $130+ Billion wealth to the four family foundations.  Anticipating that his three children [WHO were designated to administer in bequeathing 99% of his wealth] were already aged 66, 69 and 71 to date, he designated additional administrators [just in case his children would not last long enough]😔😔😔

Going back to the very kind words from the late YouTube CEO Susan Wojcicki, she DIDN'T mince words that the most precious and treasured moments we should cherish and enjoy is the NOW, the PRESENT.  Before she died, she already got hit very badly WHEN his son died earlier.  And WHEN she died months after, that was a painful 'double whammy' to her bereaved family.  The question is: Is your MIND FULL???  Or MINDFUL???

Our takeaway:  All these shared narratives from the late YouTube CEO and even from Warren Buffett [WHO's still very much alive and healthy with all his cognitive capabilities still in 'A' mode, I believe that in case some of us are still missing that point of enjoying the MOMENT, the PRESENT, the NOW, it is NOT too late to rectify ourselves and think about all these.  With the way life can be unpredictable, we never know WHEN the next twist and turn will happen.  YES dude, EVEN IF IT'S HARD, ENJOY THE MOMENT, ENJOY THE PRESENT, ENJOY THE NOW!!!

Use It Or Lose It!

Use It Or Lose It!

Question:  HOW STRONG IS YOUR STRENGTH?  Surely, I'll hear confident if NOT cocky reactions to that pointed question.  And I WON'T question your response because I know for a fact that you have a solid basis for such level of confidence.  NOW, the challenge to us is to Use It Or Lose It!  HOW often did we miss out leveraging on our known STRENGTHS???

There's a catch here, though. For purposes of this healthy exchange of insights, we'll limit our discussion on STRENGTHs to us adults.  Let's leave out for now the STRENGTHs of children because that's another narrative.  So, the bigger nagging question is, WHAT stops us from tapping our inner STRENGTHs?  It's true that it is important in life to recognize our mistakes BUT it's equally important to recognize our own STRENGTHs.  And here's the scary thing.  The hardest BUT most important thing to do is to recognize our STRENGTHs and WEAKNESS at the same time, indeed a tall order BUT this is an outlier😌😌😌

HOW often do we hear either a work colleague OR even a family member blurt: 'I KEEP MAKING THE SAME STUPID MISTAKE'.  YES, to me, that kind of statement seemed to me to be another one of the many ways that a person can put himself/herself down on a regular basis.  And self-esteem issues will exacerbate things.  Psychologists have been having a field day running tons and tons of researches as regards humanity's general preoccupation with faults.  Sadly, one of the ways we protect our own self from further hurt and rejection is to put ourselves down.  NO WAY, Jose because it's as if you're saying, YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING TO HURT ME.  I BEAT YOU TO IT!@#$%?

Thing is, the issue at hand is fairly straightforward and that is, we need to focus on our STRENGTH, period.  BUT if we look around [Oh Oh, I was guilty of this a couple of times in the past], we tend to pay attention to our weaknesses and our own failings BUT almost never to our STRENGTHs and successes.  YET, by focusing on our mistakes and those things we believe we're wrong, the more we're making it really damn hard for ourselves to ever enjoy WHAT we did right❎❎❎

SO HOW?  Do we just recognize that pattern?  NO sirrrrrrrs.  Just recognizing that pattern shaping up DOESN'T make it change.  From my past failings, I consciously focused on WHAT I like and admire about myself which can help BUT again, often it's NOT enough to change a lifelong pattern of self-criticism and low self-esteem.  Our takeaway:  For one thing, if we are very critical of our own self, we may miss out to recognize our very own STRENGTHs.  And this becomes especially true if we are using our self-criticism as a kind of protection from criticism we expect from others.  BUT this is unduly unfair to us.  C'mon dude.  For our STRENGTHs, either we USE IT or LOSE IT❗❗❗

Is Pursuing Balance Really Worth It?

Is Pursuing Balance Really Worth It?

WHY is finding BALANCE so hard?  That BALANCE between resting and working? That BALANCE between saving and shopping?  That BALANCE to spend time between family and your buddies.  That BALANCE taking things lightly and seriously.  That BALANCE between being understanding and considerate versus being firm and rigid.  Question is, Is Pursuing Balance Really Worth It???

YES, at the heart of today's modern discourse on success lies that elusive concept of BALANCE.  From self-help gurus to executive seminars, the call to harmonize work and personal life echoes deafening loud and clear across the chambers.  We are bombarded with advice on HOW to achieve BALANCE, yet in reality, most of us find our own selves constantly struggling to maintain it.  And that's the mother of ironies here💦💦💦

So, the perplexing question [in case you're itching to ask] is:  WHY is BALANCE so damn difficult to attain?  It may be because the very idea of BALANCE implies PERFECTION, a PERFECT equilibrium between all aspects of our lives.  And let's face it, PERFECTION is indeed an unattainable goal.  We are human and therefore, inherently IMPERFECT.  YET, we continue to strive for BALANCE because it promises a sense of control and fulfillment💥💥💥

YES we believe that if we can just find the right formula, we can have it all [OH REALLY?], a successful career, loving relationships, and even a healthy lifestyle.  BUT as someone WHO constantly juggles myriad responsibilities, I did realize that BALANCE is NOT a destination BUT instead an ongoing pursuit.  It requires constant reflection and adjustment and that point of accepting IMPERFECTION itself❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  As the term 'IMBALANCE'  seems to eulogize a tranquil state of equilibrium, it is often misconceived as akin to stagnation.  BUT BALANCE in life equates to knowing WHEN to double-down on our commitments without jeopardizing our familial ties.  It's that intuition to invest in one's health WHILE fostering intellectual growth and serenity.  Quite simply, it means finding the right rhythm in one's life WHERE no aspect overshadows the other.  YES dude, that PURSUIT of BALANCE is more than a journey.  It's an expedition in fact.  So, the question WHICH we need to finally grind to a halt is:  IS PURSUING BALANCE REALLY WORTH IT???

[Repost from Channelnewsasia datelined 06.01.2025] Is There A "LEAST BAD ALCOHOL' Choice?

 

EN TOTO repost from Channelnewsasia datelined 06.01.2025:  Is there a "LEAST BAD ALCOHOL" Choice?  We all know about the health risks of drinking. But if you’re going to partake, it’s natural to want to minimise the damage.  If you’ve heard that red wine is better for you than beer or liquor, or that clear liquor like vodka or gin is less harmful than dark liquor like rum or whiskey, we have bad news.  “Alcohol is alcohol,” said Jurgen Rehm, a senior scientist at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto. Drinking any type of alcohol, in any amount, is bad for health.  Still, experts say, it’s sometimes not reasonable or even practical for people to avoid alcohol entirely. So if you’re going to drink, there are some strategies you can take to reduce your risk, and to avoid some of the other unpleasant effects of drinking, like hangovers.  When you have a drink, your body turns the ethanol that’s present in the alcoholic beverage into a “really nasty substance” called acetaldehyde, which can damage your DNA, said Timothy Stockwell, an alcohol researcher at the University of Victoria in Canada

Many tissues in the body, including those in the mouth, throat, liver, colon and breasts, are susceptible to this harm. And when that DNA gets repaired, cancerous mutations may arise.  This is why drinking increases the risk for developing at least seven types of cancer, said Katherine Keyes, a professor of epidemiology at Columbia University. Excessive alcohol use – which includes having eight or more drinks per week for women or 15 or more per week for men; or four or more drinks per occasion for women or five or more for men – is also linked with many other health conditions. These include heart and liver disease, depression, anxiety and memory problems, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The more ethanol in your drink, the more harmful it is, Dr Keyes said. One way to assess this is to look at a drink’s alcohol by volume, or ABV, which manufacturers must list on product labels. If you’re choosing between two beers of the same size, for instance, and one is 4 per cent ABV and the other is 8 per cent, the 4 per cent beer will expose you to half as much ethanol.  In general, beer has less ethanol than wine per ounce, and wine has less than liquors like vodka and tequila, Dr Keyes said. But there can be large variations within these categories, Dr Stockwell said. Some strong beers, for instance, have ABVs that are higher than those of some wines

A good rule for reducing your exposure to ethanol is to generally choose drinks with lower ABVs, the experts said. But it’s important to pay attention to how much you’re drinking as well.  A standard 12-ounce pour of a 5 per cent ABV beer typically has the same amount of ethanol as five ounces of a 12 per cent wine or 1.5 ounces (or a shot) of a 40 per cent liquor.  It can be tricky to calculate the ABV of cocktails, said Dr Peng-Sheng (Brian) Ting, an assistant professor of clinical medicine at the Tulane University School of Medicine, since they are often made with sodas, juices and sometimes multiple types of alcohol. For this reason, he recommends sticking with wine or beer in situations where you want to know exactly how much ethanol you’re consuming.

Our takeaway:  Some types of alcohol are also quite high in calories, which when consumed in excess can increase the risk of weight gain and obesity. And some cocktail mixers, like juices and sodas, can contain added sugars, also raising the risk for obesity and other health conditions like Type 2 diabetes and heart disease.  And while there’s no evidence that darker liquors are more harmful to health than clear ones, there is limited research suggesting that some darker liquors can cause more severe hangovers, said Damaris Rohsenow, a professor at the Center for Alcohol and Addiction Studies at Brown University. Darker alcohols (like bourbon, rum and brandy) tend to have higher levels of congeners, substances that are created during the fermentation process and contribute to a drink’s flavor, aroma and color. More congeners typically translates to worse hangovers, Dr Rohsenow said.

Why IMPERFECT Decisions Could Be The PERFECT Ones!

Why IMPERFECT Decisions Could Be The PERFECT Ones!

Life is NEVER perfect and likewise, decisions can never be PERFECT PERFECTLY.  BUT the truth is, nothing impacts our mental health quite like poor decision-making.  WHEN we regret the choices we make, it's easy to overlook things, place blame , worry, become anxious and more.  BUT the simple fact is that we all make a staggering thousands of decisions each day.  BUT do we know Why IMPERFECT Decisions Could Be The PERFECT Ones📗📙📘

This one is for the books.  Researches show that every day, we make more than 200+ decisions just about food alone.  It's NOT surprising then that every once in a while, we make bad choices .  Often times, a bad DECISION is fairly inconsequential.  Maybe you picked a new book and read and it was dull OR you decided to wash your car only to rain thereafter.  NO big deal though💧💧💧

BUT here's the catch, sometimes with poor DECISION making comes consequences.  Maybe you leave a good job for WHAT you think will be a great job and then the new company downsizes quickly and lays you off [Ooooops, this happened to me once [way back in Singapore] and it was damn painful].  OR maybe you made an investment with your hard earned savings only to lose it.  OR you yelled at someone, screaming that you DON'T want to see that face ever again [WHEN deep inside, you loved that fellow, ouch].  BUT the truth of the matter is that as much as DECISIONS look imperfect the next day or so, at that very point in time, that could have been the best PERFECT DECISION ever💥💥💥

So, it's NOT apt to be hard on our own selves on that aftermath of a DECISION made because the dynamics of every situation are so fluid.  BUT if indeed a particular DECISION is imperfect from whatever perspective you assess it, MAYBE, we can forgive ourselves even after feeling regret, OR anger OR even embarrassment OR sadness OR even manifesting a combination of any of those emotions, WHICH is perfectly fine😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  Much as we want to look back, the way to go is to move forward and take action.  The worst thing to ad after making a bad DECISION is doing NOTHING.  Can we repair a situation?  OR at least reduce the impact of its consequences?  Either way is an appropriate next move rather than sulking and beating yourself because IMPERFECT DECISIONS COULD BE THE PERFECT ONES💚💛💜

Going From HOT To NOT

Going From HOT To NOT

Here's a giveaway question:  HOW many times in your life you were achieving, succeeding, winning?  I'll bet many times, right?  Now, HOW many times did you go from HOT to NOT, from HOT to COLD?  I'm sure it's more than a handful as well, right?  YES, supposedly, Going From HOT To NOT should neither grab the headlines nor even deserve a space in our daily thread.  So, WHAT gives?  Truth of the matter, the road to success is one we aim to follow all the time.  We identify actions we need to take, create a routine and set out on our path.  BUT sometimes, along the way, we hit a wall.  We may get emotionally burned out, lose motivation OR face life's inevitable challenges.  Regardless of WHAT happens, we need to make sure we 'STAY IN THE GAME' as far and as long as we can💧💧💧

So, probably, our common question, HOW can we go back on-track once we either get waylaid OR potentially falling astray?  Most life coaches will probably sing the same tune.  Create your 'LIFE LIST', that vision for your life.  So, WHAT are the things you want to do, have, become and give?  WHEN we have a picture of WHAT we want our life to include, we can use that vision to motivate us.  So, you might ask, have I WALKED THE TALK?  Yes dude.  I have put my life on a vision board, with concretized pictures of WHAT I want to accomplish in life, and even motivational words, phrases and expressions [all because I want the fire to keep burning in my belly]😁😁😁

If you ever feel going off-track, simply reflect on the person you want to become and the life you want to live, and the motivation comes back.  YES, one practical advice to us all is to GET ACTIVE because, to borrow this cliche, ENERGY BRINGS ENERGY.  True, we cannot impose to everyone to exercise BUT again, they say, move your body📗📙📘

I strongly agree that WHEN you move, energy gets created [and that encourages you to continue to act].  It can be as complex as a high-intensity workout OR as simple as a walk with your dog.  YES, how about that, WHEN you need motivation, take your dog for a walk and listen to a podcast all at the same time.  Enjoying the best of both worlds, enjoying the whiff of fresh air and expanding your mind as well, picking up new ideas and maybe getting that renewed excitement to buckle down💥💥💥

Oh Oh Oh, WHO's NOT a huge fan of routine?  Although you can still get bored of doing the same thing every day.  BUT dude, sometimes, we need to switch up.  You can still maintain a routine such as getting up at a designated time, doing your workout OR connecting with others.  Simply put, it is all a matter of changing your approach.  In fact, experts do advise us to change our routines because that helps reinforce our cognitive aspect.  YES dude, work to vary your routine💥💥💥

Let's take a practical example.  IF your goal is to work out for 30 minutes a day or more, choose HOW you want to accomplish that goal so that you DON'T get bored.  You can consider floating between yoga, high-intensity classes and walking.  For connecting with clients, you can incorporate different modes of communication.  You can talk on the phone, even set up video chats, meet face-to-face, write handwritten notes OR schedule get-togethers😋😋😋

Our takeaway:  That old adage 'YOU ARE EITHER GROWING OR DYING' couldn't be farther from the truth.  One of the best ways to keep momentum is to expand your mind and learn daily.  YES dude, even as we speak now, I am learning new things everyday.  With the power of the web and technologies, there is absolutely NO LIMITS except you and yourself.  Technology makes it possible to learn anything from new tools to self-guides and even DIY techniques.  YES I am subscribed to TED TALK, Harvard and Cambridge platforms.  YES dude, you can remain HOT instead of GOING FROM HOT TO NOT but the catch is, you got to go the Xtra MILE, dude❗❗❗

Calming Down The Noise

Calming Down The Noise

With tons and tons of stressors in life, it's NEVER a surprise [OR a shock] if we live in the midst of these stressful times.  Calming Down The Noise is our best way to handle things BUT to set expectations, CALMING DOWN THE NOISE does NOT mean achieving an eerie silence, as calm as the environs of the church sacristy.  The most and the farthest we can aim for is to contain and limit the NOISE, at the very least its negatively impacting implications to us, to our life.  True, life throws chaos at us on a regular basis, whether it's our finances, our relationships, OR our health.  In the work world, studies show that approximately fifty [50%] percent of people are BURNED OUT especially in industries like health care, banking and even amongst non-profit organizations📗📙📘

HOW do we handle all those chaos?  We just tend to keep pushing through, surviving but heavily dependent on our own adrenaline.  We end up overschedule ourselves in our calendars.  Browsing a personal calendar with multiple overlaps across each day. Sounds familiar?  Then, we down another cup of 'strong' coffee, then respond to another email, another escalation, another brewing headache knocking on the doors of your mail inbox.  If we stay amped all the time, we [WRONGLY] think that we'll eventually be able to get things done, get over the hump.  NO sirrrrrrrrrs❌❌❌

BUT all those things will do is burn us out, even drain our productivity and lead us to exhaustion till we hit the rock solid floor.  BUT psychologists claim, this is NO time to call it quits as there's another way, a much CALMER way.  Cultivating a more restful, relaxed state of mind DOESN'T mean we'll drown under all our responsibilities.  Instead, researches suggest that it will bring us greater attention, energy and creativity to tackle them.  And science also points to simple ways we can tap into that CALM state of mind to be more resilient in our chaotic lives💥💥💥

Supposedly, stress was NEVER meant to be a harrowing 24/7 experience.  Even psychologists claim that supposedly, we are expected to feel stressed in the five minutes right before we die.  And WHEN you are being chased in the savanna by a wild animal, your stress response is supposed to save your life as it mobilizes your attention, your muscles and immune system to get you quickly out of danger.  WHEN animals escape, they come right out of FIGHT or FLIGHT mode and into the REST and DIGEST' mode WHERE our own nervous system is working to replenish our own finite resources😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  I've been through stress a zillion times and I learnt that WHEN we're tightly wound up, we are more likely to react to situations than to respond with reason.  We even tend to perceive the world differently as stress makes us narrowly focused, preventing us from seeing the bigger picture.  BUT WHEN we're calmer, our attention becomes broader.  In fact, I did realize that during those times, I literally see more things [instead of getting blinded].  And WHEN we're CALM, we also tend to manage our energy with a better handle because we're NOT burning ourself constantly, spending days with our [sympathetic[ nervous system in overdrive mode.  And CALM helps us to focus on WHAT we need to do and get it done much more quickly.  HOW many times in the past did you go through a state of panic and ended up with a better handle of the situation?  At best we would barely survive such a situation.  Dude, CALMING DOWN THE NOISE is NO patsy.  You got to roll up your sleeves, deep your hands in the cookie jar and even jump into the fire❗❗❗