Don't Pickup The Binoculars Until You Know What to See

 

YES YES Yowwww, there are times in our life WHEN we are super-duper eager-beaver to achieve the mother of all our successes.  BUT alas, there are those WHO, in the end, seem confused and lost.  And in the midst of the chaotic situation, they will be tempted to grab for binoculars, thinking and believing that once they get glued through it, they will find their clear path towards their cherished goal.  BUT Don't Pickup The Binoculars Until You Know What to See.  On the surface, things may look so simple to handle until you get bogged down and stalled.  And once you pick up your pieces, you come across forked roads and nowhere to go📘📙📗

BTW, this dilemma of seemingly getting lost along the way is NOT limited to teens OR those in their 30s OR even to the retired pensioners because figuring out your direction in life can and may happen at any point in one's life.  WHICH reminds me of some people shocked to learn that someone in his advanced age suddenly seems lost in life [just like teenagers].  So, WHEN do we become vulnerable to getting lost along the way???

Anytime you're NOT satisfied in life, dude. And quite surprisingly, studies show that the most prevalent root cause of us getting lost along the way is our unconsciousness and unawareness that we have breached from thinking to overthinking.  And quite an alarm because the studies showed that 73% of those between 25 to 35 years old and even 52% of those between 45 to 55 years old chronically OVERTHINK.  
And WHILE taking time to THINK about big life decisions is important, OVERTHINKING leads to paralysis , deferred decisions and inaction💧💧💧

There's a quite uncommon fallacy most of us are NOT aware of.  Many of us [wrongly] think that finding the right direction in life is something that happens to us.  BUT it's NOT!  WHICH means, at some point, we have to stop thinking about taking action and start acting.  And researches also show that one of the most common reasons people DON'T act is FEAR.  They're scared of messing up things and scared that things will NOT work out favorably for them💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  As this did happen a few to me before, WHAT I learned [the hard way] is to trust your own instincts.  As it is our primal internal urges and alarms that help keep us alive, let us listen [and take an extra step of interpreting] those urges especially WHEN an impending decision may seriously impact our well-being.  Surely you heard someone muttered like:  IF I WOULD HAVE JUST GONE WITH WHAT I THOUGHT, THIS WON'T HAVE HAPPENED'.  Truth is, nine times out of ten, there are tell-tale signs a.k.a. red flags and things that feel 'a little off' about a situation that we simply shrug off and dismiss.  Worse, let us NOT pickup the binoculars UNTIL we know WHAT to see💚💛💜

How Much Effort Is Needed For Relationships?

 

How Much Effort Is Needed For Relationships?  BTW, me thinks that RELATIONSHIPs should not be a boring thread today, right?  The perennial fallacy we have been hearing through the years is that RELATIONSHIPs are a tough nut to crack.  I'll say YES and NO.  YES because that's it IF we look it that way.  NO because of the same logic.  Otherwise, this is NO complex lab research with algorithms and machine language all over the place.  Instead, we need to just put things in the right perspective that building and maintaining healthy RELATIONSHIPS is an important part of looking after our mental health📗📙📘

There's one enduring fallacy that points to couples being afar as the very culprit of failed relationships.  NOT TRUE dude.  Instead, numerous studies showed that being far apart was the #1 factor for at least 70% of those enduring relationships.  Oh Oh.  Looks like we were looking from a different vantage point because all these data-driven conclusions are telling us that distance even reinforces human relationships💥💥💥

Now let's listen to these expert counselings:

• KNOW THYSELF - NOT knowing HOW to regulate yourself [like your emotions] is a huge handicap
• WALK THE TALK - PUT INTO WORK because healthy relationships are NOT found BUT built
• SET/RESPECTIVE BOUNDARIES - It's NOT only about WHAT you DON'T want OR like BUT it's also about letting folks around know what you appreciate

• TALK & LISTEN - Once communications breaks down, it is likely that all the dominos will fall, one by one as well.  This is WHERE communication channels become the very first factor that can MAKE OR BREAK relationships.  In practically all circumstances [YES, even in Geo-politics], once communication channels break down,  it's akin to the last nail on the coffin.
• LET GO OF CONTROL - Here's the thing.  A lot of life is about HOW we react to our experiences and encounters.  Knowing that you can only really control WHAT YOU DO  and NOT WHAT anyone else does will save you TIME + STRESS
• REFLECT & LEARN - Reacting to other people in a health way is the proven formula over and over again.  Being angry with someone often comes from a place of feeling hurt and upset

Our takeaway:  If there's one miss I often see as one chronic concern is that most failed relationships could NOT have totally collapsed ONLY IF there was mutuality in the communications channels.  BTW, this thread would have been moot and academic if there has always been that GOOD FAITH and ACT of GOODWILL between the relevant [warring] parties.  Unfortunately, all it takes is for one 'spoiler' and everything can go haywire.  SO, HOW MUCH EFFORT IS NEEDED FOR RELATIONSHIPs?  Not much, seriously💚💛💜

Formula 101: INSPIRATION + KNOWLEDGE = ACTION

 

This is a GIVEN:  All of us went through tons of Mathematics, Algebra and maybe even Calculus subjects.  BUT for one thing sure, NO one ever taught us that INSPIRATION + KNOWLEDGE equates to ACTION.  BUT people will retort back that this INSPIRATION + KNOWLEDGE  formula has got nothing to do with anything numerical.  Because both INSPIRATION and KNOWLEDGE are variables wherein it may exist at various levels, WHICH then in the end, may lead to planned ACTIONS that translate to executed ACTIONS.  BUT alas there's a gaping hole!!!

YES, I totally subscribe to this KNOWLEDGE IS POWER but hey hey hey dude, there is NO blanket guarantee that every body of KNOWLEDGE translates to ACTIONS, NO, just NOT AT ALL.  I've known first hand people WHO are unusually intellectually superior BUT sadly, that DOESN'T complete their book of life to reflect that their body of KNOWLEDGE did translate to ACTIONS at all!!!

WHY oh WHY?  Simple.  KNOWLEDGE by itself CAN'T and simply CAN'T stand by its own feet.  The second variable in the equation of that is the [hands down] INSPIRATION.  HOW in the world can you get into an ACTION PLAN if your level of INSPIRATION is somewhere near the gutter level?  Worst of worse is you will be unceremoniously 'flushed' out by the onrush of gutter water as it flows through it💥💥💥

WHY does INSPIRATION stand in the way prior to ACTIONS getting concretized?  YES, INSPIRATIONs refer to that evoked state of creativity WHICH implies MOTIVATION no less.  This is most evident in the field of art WHERE domain specific knowledge such as visual art has a major impact OR visual stimuli processing, reasoning and evaluation, and this is WHERE INSPIRATION is overlooked elsewhere❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Let's do a reversal of things here.  WHAT IF you are so damn inspired to become a successful professional [e.g. lawyer OR doctor] BUT in school, your academic performance is yielding results that are way far off even from the median?  HOW far can you go with all the INSPIRATION but with your foundational KNOWLEDGE probably just standing on one leg?  C'mon dude, let's agree that we need both INSPIRATION and KNOWLEDGE to lead us into ACTIONS [in life]💜💛💚

"What I Do Becomes Bigger Than Myself" - Alex Eala

Hours back in New York in the 1st round of the 2025 U.S. Tennis Open, 75th ranked ALEX EALA defeated 15th ranked Carla Tuason.  And I got caught WHEN she said:  WHAT I DO BECOMES BIGGER THAN MYSELF.  Indeed, ALEX EALA is living a dream, giving her country the Philippines a glimpse of the unknown because NEVER before has a player from her country ever won a match at a major tournament like the ongoing 2025 U.S. Tennis Open📗📙📘

Truth is, the world of competitive tennis is very exclusive as worldwide, there are only four tournaments considered as 'Grand Slam' ones [e.g. U.S., Australian, French and Wimbledon].  WHICH means, just getting that playing card to be part of the tournament is every dream event of global tennis players and tracing the path ALEX EALA has taken is remarkable no less.  BUT her hitherto UNTOLD story is more remarkable💚💛💜

Personally, WHAT is remarkable to date is that early in life, ALEX EALA effectively invested her whole like into the tennis career she is aspiring to etch her mark.  At a very raw age @15 years old, she packed up her bag and became a permanent onsite resident of the Rafael Nadal Academy @ Mallorca, Spain.  Five years after [as she is now 20 years old], she is gradually reaping the fruits of all the struggles and sacrifices she has had💥💥💥

Enough of ALEX EALA though BUT this brings us to the undeniable fact that SUCCESS has to be earned and it's no me ean feat to go through all the ordeals and challenges in one's journey.  Early on, there will be MORE frustrations, MORE slip-ups, MORE bruises, MORE tribulations that often, leads us all to that 'forked road' WHERE we are confronted to decide which path to take in the middle of such crossroads.  To quote ALEX EALA, she has to 'DIG DEEP' in the face of all the challenges she has to hurdle, even as we speak now😁😁😁

Our takeaway:  A day before the ongoing U.S. Open kickstarted at plush Flushing Meadows, no less than American Tennis Star Venus Williams advised ALEX EALA just to 'HAVE FUN' WHATEVER you are into.  And she did warn that the moment you lose that 'FUN', that's WHEN and WHERE everything you take on will be like those steep slopes you are likely to slip.  YES, to quote ALEX EALA, 'WHAT I DO BECOMES BIGGER THAN MYSELF'🥇🎖🏅

Everyone In Life Is Either A LESSON Or A BLESSING

After so many years living on our planet, I believe almost everyone amongst us will agree that there are only two types of people, and they are either LESSONs OR BLESSINGs.  This is a classic case of a straight black OR white [BUT please DON'T inject a negative connotation].  BUT the thing is, there is simply NO IN-BETWEEN in our lives. Everyone In Life Is Either A LESSON Or A BLESSING regardless of any circumstances at hand.  We just need to grasp this concept by its lapel, embrace if you can and based on HOW I did go through in life, life will become a lot easier.  NO bad blood.  NO nemesis.  NO adversary.  BUT in real terms, if ever we do get into an argument OR altercation, we can feel and get aggrieved and it's NOT avoidable that at times, depending on the severity of a conflict, we could even be carrying that 'victim mentality' BUT how often do we succeed in shrugging it off???

NOT to be overly positive, even altercations OR arguments can either enhance our life experience and I personally believe that most of the time, those life experiences will teach us a lesson OR two.  Many years ago, I got into a major road accident WHERE, by local laws, the vehicle WHO ends up hitting another vehicle becomes [by default] the culprit of the road accident even if that second vehicle cut across the intersection WHEN there was NO GREEN traffic light yet.   To cut the long story short, I always told myself that that experience was a BLESSING because it happened at the "BEST TIME possible" ever💥💥💥

Otherwise, regretful expressions like "IF SHE WOULD HAVE DONE"  or "IF HE HADN'T DONE" would have resonated over and over again in many cases.  Instead, by embracing like AS IF it never happened to you, it becomes a reflection of you.  Stating the obvious, all of these do reflect back on you, on me, on us, as to WHAT we need to learn on experience in order to work through WHAT you signed up for, to become the best version of yourself.  If we choose to see it the way it really is, it is an opportunity because as they opine, life changes WHEN we come to understand HOW it works.  To play with words on a serious note, WHEN WE CHANGE THE WE LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT CHANGE💧💧💧

BUT again, this is easier said than done.  WHY?  Because most of us expect life to be fair [BUT sometimes it is NOT] because fairness was NEVER promised to us.  Instead, WHAT we have is a rule to live by, that is, if you DON'T learn your lessons, they will come harder UNTIL we end up getting hurt enough to choose a different path.  Question is, WHY WAIT till we get hurt [OR wounded] before we shift over to take a different path?  Another case of too little too late probably.  YES I am fully aligned to this and I can vouch for this too even as I did struggle severely before.  And BTW, relationships do NOT just refer to romantic ones.  Our relationships at the workplace equally matter too!!!

Our takeaway:  NOT to be mistaken that I am encouraging clashes in relationships BUT that is a fact of life.  And while those disconnects will initially be likened to pills that are 'hard to swallow', if you got to swallow it, swallow it.  BUT after swallowing it, you got to pick up the pieces, pick up the lessons learnt and eke out all the LESSONS from therein because all LESSONS have a thing OR two 'positivities'.  The only challenge is that those LESSONS are NOT like the icings on the cake WHERE no effort is needed to be exerted because it's all atop.  You got to exert an effort or two, dude because EVERYONE IN LIFE IS EITHER A LESSON OR A BLESSING😔😔😔

How Much Do We Value Silence?

As we all live in a world of cacophony, HOW often do we see people really cherishing every minute of SILENCE?  This reminds me way back my school days WHY we had those school-managed retreats.  At hindsight, those retreats gave us that very rare opportunity to reflect on the power of SILENCE and the range of responses it elicits from people. YES, some people still value and embrace SILENCE.  How Much Do We Value Silence???

BUT through the years, I did observe that some people seem really uncomfortable at the prospect of a period of SILENCE.  Oooooops, please allow me to qualify that that scenario is very much different from those households WHERE 'some' immediate family members just criss-cross each other, bumping across the staircase and hallways with nary a word.  That's just an outlier.  Otherwise, on reflections at the end of the silent retreat periods, some people do enjoy and cherish that SILENCE💚💛💜

BUT hey, some DON'T!  YES, it is also possible to look forward to a period of SILENCE only to find you CAN'T engage with I have had that experience in the past.  WHAT does this tell us about the functions of SILENCE?  Clearly, there is power in SILENCE.  Think about those raging arguments that get exacerbated with emotions and voices at the top decibels.  During those scenarios, I am cocksure that everyone is [silently] pleading for SILENCE but the problem is, their emotions get to hostage their own selves no end.  In the end, it seems that in our busy, noisy world, still, many people seem to fear SILENCE💥💥💥

If we listen to researches, they are all one in saying that it is fairly clear that too much noise is bad for us.  BUT does that mean that SILENCE is good for us?  Hmmm, well, I guess NOT necessarily as SILENCE is more than just an absence of noise.  However, those researches concluded by suggesting that SILENCE itself is beneficial both physically and psychologically.  Spending time in SILENCE has been proven to have the positive effects on our body in terms of reducing blood pressure, boosting the immune system and even reducing blood cortisol and promoting hormone regulation and somehow, to quote medical jargon, 'prevention of arterial plaque formation'❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Let's NOT push too hard to end up with up hard knuckles in the midst of arguments.  WHAT really matters here is that WHILE we know that utter SILENCE is just one sheer outlier, we all need it NOT just under very normal day-to-day circumstances BUT especially WHEN we are in the midst of those hit of anger and boiling emotions.  If there is any referee WHO can successfully call a truce, SILENCE can😀😀😀

Do We Really Need That SNOOZE Button?

 

Do we really that SNOOZE button?  If we do a lookup with Mr. AI's definition, it says that it ALLOWS USERS TO POSTPONE WAKING UP FOR A FEW MORE MINUTES.  Oh Oh Oh really?  All along, me thinks that this is utterly unacceptable because the night before, one has firmly decided WHAT time he/she needs to wake up and that timing is most likely aligned with one's priorities and schedules come next day📘📙📗

BUT alas, recent researches seem to shoot down even my perennial apprehension [OR frustration, to be frank] with regard hitting that SNOOZE button.  Amongst more than 1,700+ respondents in a Swedish study, 69% said they hit the SNOOZE button 'SOMETIMES' and 60% admitted that most often OR always, they did fall asleep between alarms, the result being that, on average, SNOOZERS got just a 'little less sleep'💥💥💥

And surprisingly, the top reason for choosing to SNOOZE rather than have an unbroken stretch of sleep was that a person COULDN'T wake up OR was too tired  And the next two most common reasons were that SNOOZING feels good and that it allows a person to wake up more slowly OR softly.  To take a closer look at the impact of SNOOZING, the researchers recruited 31 people to spend several nights in a SLEEP LAB.  And all of them admitted hitting the SNOOZE button several times.  BTW, none of them had sleeping disorders❌❌❌

And WHEN the respondents were told to hit the SNOOZE button, they ended up with six minutes less sleep on average BUT the overall structure of their sleep was the same.  And the participants' cognitive abilities were tested right after they got out of bed and then again 40 minutes later.  And WHEN it came to performance on cognitive tests, testing reaction times and solving math problems, SNOOZING appeared to give advantage😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  Although these clinical research showed a slight advantage with regard the cognitive abilities of SNOOZERs, I hate to say this BUT I will NOT peddle and aggressively egg everyone to join the SNOOZERS club because my take here is that, as part of our habit formation [that leads to character building], managing [and disciplining] our time management starts right at the time we rise up every morning.  My take is that the SNOOZE button is there for you to hit IF EVER you are unwell come next morning, right?  Otherwise, DO WE REALLY NEED THAT SNOOZE BUTTON???

One Day It's Too Late

YES YES YES yow, life is too short to live in anticipation of tomorrow.  SO HOW?  We must learn to embrace the urgency of NOW, to seize the moments we have and make the most of them.  Unfortunately, waiting for tomorrow might become our biggest regret because by then, it will be One Day It's Too Late.  If I am nursing any flickering hopes now, it's that hoping we can all express our feelings with maturity, understanding that emotions such as anger, disappointment and even hatred re a natural part of ourselves that cannot be ignored.  We must have that courage to face and deal with emotions openly rather than letting them build up and create inner chaos UNTIL ONE DAY IT'S TOO LATE.  YES, there's NO need to pretend.  Instead, it's better to be honest and firm in stating that we feel , WHAT we want and even WHAT we really reject OR disagree with📗📙📘

True, it is so damn easy [and practically effortless] for us all to fall into that trap of procrastination, believing that there will always be ANOTHER opportunity, ANOTHER day, ANOTHER chance to pursue our own dreams, ANOTHER hope to mend broken OR damaged relationships OR to even express our deepest feelings.  BUT WHAT IF there ISN'T?  WHAT IF the tomorrow we so eagerly anticipate NEVER comes?  WHAT IF the sun NEVER rises?  Then, maybe we could look back, we would be like saying 'I REGRET NOT LISTENING TO MY PARENTS ADVICE, I SHOULD HAVE PAID MORE ATTENTION AND TAKEN LESSONS FROM THEIR OWN EXPERIENCES THEY WERE SHARING TO ME THEN' or maybe IF ONLY I HAND'T RUSHED INTO THAT DECISION, MAYBE I COULD HAVE AVOIDED THAT PAINFUL MISTAKE' or maybe I REGRET HURTING THE PEOPLE I LOVE, I SHOULD HAVE BEEN WISER IN EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS AND PAYING BETTER ATTENTION TO THEIR FEELINGS AS WELL💚💛💜

How often we could hear expressions anticipating future apprehensions and fears like ONE DAY, IT WILL BE TOO LATE.  IT WILL BE TOO LATE TO TELL THEM THAT WE LOVE THEM.  IT WILL BE TOO LATE TO BEGIN AGAIN.  IT WILL BE TOO LATE TO DO ALL OF THE THINGS YOU MOST DESIRE, SO DO THEM NOW, AND DO THEM SOON, BECAUSE NO TOMORROW IS A GUARANTEE but rather that it is just one of the assumptions we make for our own sanity💧💧💧

Let's pause for a minute and think about it.  Often, some of us do take for granted the moments we have, assuming that there will always be another chance to make the things right [from wrong], OR to pursue the passions we always dreamt [but have remained dreams as such] OR to even mend fences with loved ones and even the person you considered as your BFF [best friend forever] tracing back from your elementary school days, whew!!!  Sadly, there are really NO guarantees in life  Tomorrow is NOT promised.  Tomorrow is NEVER etched in stone and the only moment we truly have is the present.  BUT we do hear you, we all live in a world filled with endless [and sometimes complicated and intertwined] distractions, obligations and responsibilities.  Heard of this narrative a zillion times.  A determined son/daughter decides to work as an OFW [overseas foreign worker] to extricate his/her family from the financial doldrums.  That time, he/she was counting that in 2 to 3 years, he/she will come back for good!!!

Alas, those narratives share the same 'endings'.  That hardworking son/daughter ended up working as an OFW for decades and by the time he/she decided to come back home, it was too little too late because by then, knock on wood, he/she was struggling with his/her failing health [after working his/her ass for many decades].  NOT the best story-ending script to read OR listen to BUT this narrative is so commonly heard especially with the 'unsung' heroes from the Third World WHO end up as OFW's for many decades, deprived of enjoying the fruits of his/her labor through the years.  Sadly, ONE DAY IT'S TOO LATE😂😂😂

Your PROBLEMS Should NEVER Be Bigger Than Your PURPOSE

 

True, problems are everywhere anytime in our life.  Worse, for some, even cloudy skies is a problem.  OR that horrendous traffic [whether you are in Mumbai, Lagos OR LA.  BUT dude, if that chronic traffic is a PROBLEM to you and me, are we admitting that PROBLEM becomes a constant [rather than a variable] in our daily life?  C'mon dude, we heard this one-liner many times so I thought let this be our thread at least for today, because  Your PROBLEMS should NEVER be bigger than your PURPOSE📗📙📘

We all heard the U.S. military missions in war-torn areas like Afghanistan and Iraq and we heard of their casualties at war.  As the soldiers always go on an operation in squads OR platoons, heard of that story WHERE almost all soldiers in one mission got killed except for one, WHO lost his leg.  WHEN he went home, his mom reminded him that he could have lost his life BUT instead, "God left him behind for a PURPOSE".  That simple statement from his mom served as his catalyst that helped him turn that challenge into an opportunity to rediscover the meaning and PURPOSE in his life✅✅✅

Despite losing his leg in Iraq, that soldier began his journey in pursuit of the Paralympics games WHICH ultimately resulted in him qualifying for a trip to the London Paralympics.  IF we are inspired by Paralympics athletes as I am, imagine WHAT it takes to overcome disabilities to compete at the highest level.  Simple daily routines that most of us take for granted are often significant obstacles.  BUT WHAT makes me admire these athletes is that they DON'T have time for EXCUSES💚💛💜

This sharing does remind me AGAIN that my very PURPOSE needs to be much greater than my PROBLEMS  In other words, if the reason WHY I am doing something is BIG enough, then we will be able to overcome the challenges and obstacles that may come our way.  If NOT, God knows, we could be consumed with the tons of PROBLEMS and in the end, we can fall into the trap of negativity, complaints and even excuses.  WHICH reminds me of this incisive one-liner:  HE WHO HAS A WHY TO LIVE CAN BEAR ALMOST ANY WHAT".  Well said because that's already a mouthful by its context😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  I realized that of all endeavors, sometimes, sports is just WHAT you need to give you PURPOSE, that reason to overcome, come back OR keep going.  In fact, I haven't heard of a sports man declaring like I GIVE UP.  Instead, for their very much bigger PURPOSE, for them it can be a tool to help us see that challenges re the very thing that brings out the best from ourselves.  For that American ex-soldier WHO lost his leg at war and yet he went over to be at the London Paralympics, it helped him rediscover a greater PURPOSE for his life, to make a difference in the lives of others, to give back in fact.  YES dude, YOUR PROBLEMS SHOULD NEVER BE BIGGER THAN YOUR PURPOSE❌❌❌

WHEN Is It Late To HARD RESET Our Life?

To RESET our life, that's been resonating over and over again with no end.  BUT WHEN is it late to HARD RESET our life?  Even experts agree that that's the more serious question facing us because more often, we hardly spend time and effort to plot out IF and WHEN we need to invoke and press that HARD RESET in our life.  WHY most of us are missing this out is moot and academic at this point in time📗📙📘

Throughout my work in the corporate world, I got so immersed working in the technology space such that more often, there is this [default] mission statement about that 'intersection' of technology and business.  YES, I lived there for donkey years.  Throughout my entire career, that was like my main [default] address.  And at times, I seem to lived in that address more than I lived anywhere else in my life, WHICH somehow did pose a problem for me once I deep-dive into my situation before💥💥💥

BTW, that jargon 'HARD RESET' was very much embedded within my persona from long way back my Day-1 in the techie world.  I remember WHEN even the SME's [subject matter experts] WHO were my 'seniors' then CAN'T fix the problem causing the whole mainframe-based systems to get stalled OR be in that 'hard wait', our 'HARD RESET' option was to RE-IPL [which means Initial Program Load].  So, HARD RESET conforms from the early days of computing, WHERE it becomes one's last card❎❎❎

A word of caution here.  IF and WHEN we so decide to invoke that 'HARD RESET' in our life, similar to WHAT it happens in technology, once we 'HARD RESET', that literally WIPES OUT ALL DATA and returns the state of that device back to the state it was in WHEN it was brand new and that pristine.  BUT invoking the 'HARD RESET' may simply gathering all your courage and decisiveness to take that drastic step BUT there's a mile-long list of questions that follows suit.  LIKE WHAT I would accomplish then?  LIKE WHAT happens next?  LIKE WHAT do I need to do.  So, that 'HARD RESET' is somewhat similar to doing a morning routine WHERE you ask tough questions before diving into work😕😕😕

Our takeaway:  There is NO exact and perfect formula to tell us WHEN should we press that 'HARD RESET'.  No one else BUT you yourself can give the best response [BUT only if you put your mind and heart rolled into one] to come with that informed decision.  Anything triggered by our emotions, impulse or external influences will deny us that singular opportunity to benefit most from that 'HARD RESET'!!!