When It's ABOVE YOUR WEIGHT

When It's ABOVE YOUR WEIGHT

Many say that in a relationship, there is a 'REACHER' and a 'SETTLER', the former being someone who's landed someone out of their league and one who's made do with someone below theirs.  BUT recent studies show that partners/spouses who are roughly equally attractive have a better chance of staying together.  And it defies When It's ABOVE YOUR WEIGHT as you've probably seen movies where the nerdy guy gets the popular girl💴💷💵

And if you've watched SPIDERMAN or BACK TO THE FUTURE, they imply that you can OVERACHIEVE in the romance stakes.  BUT studies proved otherwise  as it suggests that those admittedly 'FEEL GOOD' cliche is probably best left in the cinema.  Other studies showed that people of corresponding and similar desirability were MORE LIKELY to be in a successful long-term relationship than, say, a flat-out 10 and a mediocre 5.  And how about that overly used tag for 'SOUL MATES', what does it really mean with 'SOUL MATES'.  Again, it all boils down to people with similar wavelengths📗📙📘

In a nutshell, whether one is PUNCHING ABOVE HIS/HER WEIGHT [or not], it all revolves around people's preferences and people's actions.  Surely, we have our 'ideal' image of the partner we dream in life BUT looking at someone desirable  may be impacted by societal norms.  In the shortest words, there is NO point asking someone what they look in a partner because likely they'll describe someone UNATTAINABLE💎💎💎

Let's step out of the confines of our room.  If you saw someone and you think she's a 10 [and you're NOT], DO YOU STILL HAVE A CHANCE?  Now how do we value our partner OR even a prospective one?  Well, the VALUE you place on a woman is based on the VALUE you place on yourself.  So, if you're dating a woman WHERE you think you're PUNCHING ABOVE YOUR WEIGHT, then it's likely you'll pedestal her and put yourself in the pit❎❎❎

Let's paint this scenario.  You're at the pub and a 'drop dead' woman walks in.  BTW, what's the first thing you'll tell yourself?  THAT "she's OUT OF MY LEAGUE'.  "I'LL NEVER GET A WOMAN LIKE THAT'.  In that case, you have made a decision about her that's just a reflection of your own sense of SELF-WORTH.  BTW, you have NO idea of what she thinks as you're deciding for him.  So, are you WHIMPING OUT OF THE RACE before finding out if you could win the trophy❓❓❓