Those Toxic Habits
I once heard that our GOOD HABITS do far outweigh our BAD HABITS. And I'm totally aligned with that [NOT because of vested interests but by and large, I believe that man, by nature is that version with more GOOD HABITS than BAD HABITS. BUT here's the catch though. Many of us AREN'T even aware of our very BAD HABITS. And I am one of those once guilty in the past. BUT it certainly makes sense, our HABITS seem to be automatic, we DON'T seem to think before we act. BUT once we are aware of Those Toxic Habits, shouldn't we do something about it, dude❓❓❓
And according to studies, on average, 40% of our daily actions are automatic, those actions where even our brain hardly functions anymore. And this serves us in many ways though. Imagine if we had to remind ourselves to breath. OR re-learn how to drive everyday. OR erase our memory and identify the roads and route we need to drive going to work. On the other hand, we have enough HABITS which can be tagged as toxic enough. Heard of someone's life wherein he/she is letting his/her PAST dictate his/her PRESENT and even the FUTURE? Imagine an elephant chained to a small stick, it is conditioned to believe that it CAN'T escape at all, many of us are like that elephant, WHEN we end up as the prisoners of our PAST. HOW often do let your PAST influence WHAT you do now? Having a BAD PAST relationship and letting it influence your PRESENT and FUTURE ones is a choice you make, however unaware you areπ§π§π§
Just because your EX cheated on you, it DOESN'T mean your next partner will end up similar to your PAST. So, instead, create a new beginning, decide HOW you want to feel about something going forward, DON'T let one memory taint your FOREVER and be open to creating new ones for yourself. Another common misstep we commit is EXPECTING THE WORST to happen. It's fine to be cautious and cynical BUT NOT at the expense of becoming a pessimistπππ
So, assess yourself, how often do you think about the things you DON'T want to happen? Like HOW you DON'T want to be late due to the traffic gridlock, OR how you hope it WON'T be another painfully stressful day at the office? It seems to be an all too common default way of thinking, BUT it clearly DOESN'T do any good at all. WHAT you focus on expands, so start to think about WHAT you want to happen instead. Simply put, focus your thoughts on the GOOD THINGS that can happen and make a conscious effort NOT to worry so much. You will feel so much better because both your body and mind will NOT only be less stressed, BUT actually expectedly happy too✅✅✅
Now, for the SENSITIVE part. How often do we TALK ABOUT MUTUAL FRIENDS WHEN THEY AREN'T AROUND? If you are honest with yourself, you will admit to speaking about others WHEN they AREN'T around, however harmless. You know WHEN you are CROSSING THE LINE and WHEN you do, you should know you SHOULDN'T be. Doing this gives the impression that you CAN'T be trusted. Those TOXIC HABITs, let us dump it off, throw it away and abhor it dude❗❗❗