Is CONSISTENCY An Issue?

Is CONSISTENCY An Issue?

Is CONSISTENCY An Issue?  Me thinks, it is a legitimate issue.  As we all know, some of us prefer to take SMALL STEPS towards achieving our goal[s] in life.  Others would prefer taking BIG STEPS with the same end view of achieving the goals in life.  WHERE's the disconnect?  It lies in the fact that regardless whether we opt for the SMALL STEPS or instead the BIG STEPS, many of us are somewhat guilty of INCONSISTENCY.  WHEN things become sporadic OR worse, WHEN randomness seem to become more as the default, then there is a gaping hole right in the midst of things.  And that confirms that CONSISTENCY is an issue📗📙📘

The truth is, for many people, CONSISTENCY can be a struggle.  Life's UPs and DOWNs and that's besides distractions and lack of motivation often hinder their ability to stay CONSISTENT.  BUT the good news is that CONSISTENCY is a skill that can be mastered with a practice, which personally, I simply did it in REPETITION, with CONSISTENCY.  So, the nagging question to us all is HOW TO BE CONSISTENT DAILY.  CONSISTENCY is a multifaceted concept that manifests differently in various situations.  In general, CONSISTENCY refers to putting forth a CONSISTENT effort day in and day out regardless of reasons💥💥💥

CONSISTENCY implies a commitment to follow through on plans and take action CONSISTENTLY to achieve the desired outcomes.  CONSISTENCY can be applied in various domains in life.  And to achieve personal goals and maintain relationships, CONSISTENCY is the key.  CONSISTENCY is NOT about being at your best every single day BUT rather striving to do our best everyday💧💧💧

So, CONSISTENCY is NOT about being at your level best every single day BUT rather striving to do our best each day.  It involves recognizing that you may face challenges and setbacks BUT still having that determination to stay CONSISTENT in your efforts.  BUT for us to move forward, let us align with the definition of CONSISTENCY, which is defined as the act of maintaining a REGULAR + STEADY effort OVER SOMETHING OVER SOMETIME😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  If at all, let us NOT be likened to the randomness of crossword puzzles because the importance of CONSISTENCY extends and spans across all areas of our life.  CONSISTENCY is crucial for success, whether it's on our personal relationships, academic pursuits or professional endeavors.  CONSISTENCY allows you to build TRUST + CREDIBILITY with others, as they can rely on you to deliver on your commitments on a CONSISTENT basis.  It also helps you develop a SENSE OF DISCIPLINE and perseverance WHICH are essential traits for long-term success.  So, IS CONSISTENCY [still] AN ISSUE?  It is very much, dude❗❗❗

Start SPEAKING UP!

Start SPEAKING UP!

From our early years in school, we were always taught and reared that SPEAKING UP is our most potent tool in life.  YET, what causes us to hit the initial stumbling block?  More often, it is because we are NEW in school OR  a new joiner in the organization OR a new member in the community.  BUT hey, I thought joining a new school OR organization should be thrilling and exciting enough, right?  That potential excitement of meeting new schoolmates, new colleagues.  And NOT to miss out, that 'high' feeling of taking on new challenges📗📙📘

And NOT to mention, those opportunities of learning something NEW [which you DIDN'T know before].  And WHAT comes along as well is that swag.  WHO DOESN'T like coffee mugs, laptop sleeves, and t-shirts that tell the world about the great place you are enrolled OR you are working.  BUT, again, as a newcomer, you also want to prove that you AREN'T completely raw💧💧💧

From understanding the policies in your new school OR organization to getting a good grasp of the new norms and practices in your new school OR organization, your end-view is always to know 'HOW THINGS ARE DONE'.  Thing is, the routines you learned in the past may NOT always be the best OR most efficient, though.  Inevitably, you will encounter issues that makes you pause OR question💥💥💥

WHAT happens next?  You end up NOT SPEAKING UP.  WHY?  Because you're new.  You're worried you might offend someone OR that your own opinions may hardly count OR worse, you may be thinking that you've got limited experience to attempt in making your voice heard.  And 100% of researches confirm that newcomers speak up LESS than those 'old timers', and WHEN they do offer their insights, they are less likely to be heard OR recognized😖😖😖

Our takeaway:  There is this subtle irony that arises beneath the surface of these newbies in school OR in the organization.  We need to be aware and be cognizant that we were admitted in that school OR in the organization because of your unique capabilities [and maybe expertise].  From small inefficiencies to significant issues, you have the power to shape the future of your output, whether it's in school OR in your new organization.  And that means, SPEAKING UP.  Sadly, everyone hold sacred beliefs about being new in an organization OR school.  BUT the truth is, many of the assumptions we make are NOT true at all.  Problem is, for many newcomers, they [wrongly] think that once they SPEAK UP, a 'eureka moment' will ensue.  BUT that's NOT how thinks work.  You just got to START SPEAKING UP dude❗❗❗

Breaking Bad Habits

Breaking Bad Habits

QUESTION: WHY is it so [damn] hard Breaking Bad Habits?  Simple logic tells us that if you know something is BAD for you, WHY CAN'T you just stop it?  A year-on-year survey says that approximately 70 percent of smokers say they would like to quit.  Drug and alcohol abusers struggle to give up addictions that hurt their bodies and tear apart families, friendships and even relationships.  And many of us have unhealthy excess weight that we could lose if only we would eat right and exercise more.  So, WHY DON'T we do it?  Everywhere, psychologists have been searching for answers and some researchers studied as to WHAT happens in our brains as habits form📗📙📘

And indeed, they found clues as to WHY BAD HABITS, once established, are so [damn] difficult to 'kick out'.  And according to these experts, understanding the 'biology' of HOW we develop routines that may be harmful to us and HOW to break those routines and embrace new ones, could help us change our lifestyles and adopt healthier behaviors💥💥💥

YES YES YES, HABITS can arise through repetition.  And this runs true way beyond humans.  DON'T look too far because even our pet animals around develop their own HABITS way after they have been trained, through repetition no less.  And indeed, most of our HABITS are a normal part of life and often helpful.  Waking up every morning, taking shower, combing your hair, brushing teeth, those are part of our core HABITS💦💦💦

We can even drive along familiar routes on 'mental auto-pilot' without really thinking about the directions.  So, WHEN behaviors do become automatic, it gives us that advantage because the brain does NOT have to use conscious thought to perform the activity.  This considerably frees up our brains for it to focus on different things instead.  BTW, HABITS can also develop when good or enjoyable events trigger the brain's 'reward' centers❗❗❗

Our takeaway:  If there is a culprit in all these HABITS, blame it to that chemical called DOPAMINE.  Because this explains WHY it is [damn] difficult and harder to break from pleasure-based HABITS. If you do something over and over again, and DOPAMINE is there WHEN you're doing it,and that strengthens the HABIT even more.  And WHEN you're NOT doing those things, DOPAMINE creates that 'craving' to do it again.  This explains WHY some people 'crave' for drugs even if that drug NO longer MAKES them feel particularly good once they take it.  In a sense, then, parts of our brains are working against us WHEN we attempt to overcome such BAD HABITS.  BUT the good news is that we humans have many more 'BRAIN REGIONS' to help us do WHAT's best for us.  After all, BREAKING BAD HABITs is not a tall order😃😃😃

NO Confidence? NO Problem!

NO Confidence?  NO Problem!

NO Confidence?  NO Problem!  Not too long ago, if you DON'T have that confidence within you, that's it, you're DONE, you're SCRATCHED, you're marked 'X'.  BUT that was the old school of thought.  Today, that DOESN'T hold water at all.  BUT let's align and accept on some GIVENs.  Building SELF-CONFIDENCE is NO mean feat.  It is NOT that easy OR simple.  Although some people appear to be so naturally CONFIDENT, most of us struggle with feeling CONFIDENT in our appearance, our abilities OR in any facet of our life📗📙📘

Regardless, it is essential to recognize WHEN and IF this situation is manifesting OR already happening because it has to be 'ACTIONED'.  Low CONFIDENCE can harm our happiness and well-being, one of those being a decrease in one's self-esteem.  Surprisingly, low SELF-CONFIDENCE could be manifesting even WHEN you feel like you CANNOT do the things you want OR need to do.  WHETHER you dream of travelling OR the world, achieving your dream career, finding a loving relationship OR going back to school💥💥💥

In any of these personal aspirations, LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE can get in the way of achieving these goals and aspirations.  If you frequently underestimate your ability to make your desires come true, that feeling of inadequacy likely stems from issues revolving around confidence.  Problem is, sometimes, these feelings manifest in ways that make us feel like NO matter how hard we try.  We will NEVER be good enough.  BUT there are some ways to counter any of these NEGATIVE feelings or manifestations.  Experts in psychology advise us of COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL therapy which is a form of retraining our thoughts and replacing the NEGATIVE thoughts with POSITIVE ones💦💦💦

Concrete example is WHEN you feel like you should NOT go on a social outing because you will make things awkward, replace that thought with something along the lines of "I AM A VALUABLE AND INTERESTING PERSON AND MY FRIENDS ARE EXCITED FOR ME TO GO WITH THEM".  The idea is, the more we catch these thoughts and correct them, the more our mind will automatically gravitate toward them in the future.  And how's this.  HOW often you feel worried as to WHAT other people will think of you?  True, we CAN'T always please everyone all the time.  It is that implausible that you will go through life and NOT meet at least one person who does NOT get along with you, that scenario is beyond impossible❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  It is harmful to place our worth on WHAT other people think of us.  A sign of low CONFIDENCE is if you care more about WHAT outside people think of you than WHAT you care more about WHAT you know and think of yourself.  Sadly, this way of thinking can lead to other problems such as anxiety and the need to change yourself to suit different people's expectations.  WHAT we need to realize is that if you DON'T have CONFIDENCE, NO problem😁😁😁

[As Much As Possible] DON'T Use Mobile Phones For Major Purchases

[As Much As Possible] DON'T Use Mobile Phones For Major Purchases

I'm NOT a techie SME but we hope you DON'T take this sharing with a grain of salt.  If you've been spending time online, probably you have stumbled across comparisons of 'laptop purchases' versus 'phone purchases'.  BTW, there is NOTHING intrinsically wrong if you use your phone even for major online purchases [if that is your only option left?  LIKE being stranded in the middle of Maldives OR Seychelles BUT [As Much As Possible] DON'T Use Mobile Phones For Major Purchases📗📙📘

Again, UNLESS/EXCEPT if your phone is your online device in your everyday life and you need to initiate an online purchase of a new home appliance as you have just moved-in your new flat located at the fringes of the countryside and all you have is your phone for an online purchase?  Now, for some practical and solid reasons WHY you should favor the laptop over your phone for major online purchases:  For obvious reasons, the bigger screen makes it easier to flip between browser tabs to compare prices and so on💧💧💧

True if you've been using phones 99% for every single aspect in your life, you're most comfortable with phones BUT here's the undeniable thing:  You're NOT getting all the information on a single screen which you can see and get from a laptop OR desktop.  And for obvious reasons, WHEN making a major purchase, more information works to your advantage before you make an informed decision.  BTW, before retailers will whack me, one reason retailers would actually love it if we use our phones due to the term 'FRICTION'💥💥💥

To simply FRICTION, imagine all the Xtra steps and open windows that slow down your online purchase process and IF you've ever had your finger twitch at the wrong moment and you wound up buying the wrong seats for a Taylor Sift concert as an example, you would realize how important that FRICTION can be.  NOW, this gets interesting.  Another reason a laptop is a better choice for a major purchase is 'DRIP PRICING', remember that initial advertised price WHICH looks extremely attractive✅✅✅

Our takeaway:  Observe the DRIP DRIP DRIP pattern how the initially very low price slowly ramps up for every single ADD-ON, amenity OR adjustment adding to the cost [often BEHIND THE SCENES].  And yes, people tend to make the WORST spending decisions when dealing with DRIP pricing strategies.  Lastly, and this is a huge trap.  When we use our phone for purchases, we are also fighting against the ingrained way we tend to use phones because as we use phones more casually [versus laptops/desktops], we are prone to DISTRACTIONS.  That subtle difference may impact how well we FOCUS when making online purchases.  At the end of the day, it's your decision which device to opt for, as long as you end up with a correct, informed online purchase.  TO BE FOREWARNED IS TO BE FOREARMED❗❗❗

Containing Struggles In Life

Containing Struggles In Life

It is hard to accept and swallow BUT the fact is, STRUGGLING is an important phase of our lives.  Fact is, we need to face STRUGGLES to improve our love, ourselves and learn from it.  Without it, it is just an illusion of a comfort zone.  Most of us have experienced STRUGGLING in life OR maybe you are going through it right now.  BUT that is the least you should regret because psychologists say that is a 'GOOD PHASE' but it's true, it is NOT a comfortable phase to live in.  Yes we know it, WHEN we're STRUGGLING, we are trying to get out of that rut and make your life better BUT WHAT's the benefit of STRUGGLING in the first place?  Yes, STRUGGLES help us become aware of our own situation.  This is all about us  Containing Struggles In Life📗📙📘

Let's paint a typical scenario.  Most of the time, we just enjoy our lives without being present.  We just think that this day is just another ordinary and comfortable day WHILE life is NOT always like that.  STRUGGLING is giving you awareness that the situation you are in right now is NOT right OR uncomfortable.  It might give you a sign that you need to get out of this right now because it needs to be improved💢💢💢

WHAT we often lose sight is the reality that all these STRUGGLES are an important key as we are being built to become stronger [compared to WHAT we are and WHERE we stand at that point of the STRUGGLES].  BUT the problem is, many of us [and that includes me at some points in the past], we seem to have that [misguided] belief in us that we are STRONG ENOUGH BUT try to read the real score, we could be far off from it💦💦💦

WHY?  Generally, it is because we always end up the need to face the limits of our very own STRENGTH.  Sadly, sometimes we have that misguided belief in ourselves.  BUT hey dude, if there is any guarantee we are entitled in life, it is the fact that we, you, everyone else CAN'T avoid STRUGGLES.  This explains WHY it is imperative to know that STRUGGLING is a good thing in life because it might be a sign that you are being built to become stronger [than WHAT YOU ARE now]💥💥💥

Problem is, NOT many people can deal with their personal STRUGGLES and end up becoming even much worse than before.  Other than that, there are people WHO can deal with their struggles and find a happy life as an aftermath.  They would eventually succeed OR overcome their failures and STRUGGLES they face.  This is actually WHAT we all wanted, WHICH is a GOOD ENDING.  Having said that, the price of a GOOD ENDING is still quite a steep price NOT 'cheap' enough from any perspective.  BUT the thing is, we need to pay for that price, regardless if it is NOT that 'cheap'.   This explains WHY people need to consider CONTAINING STRUGGLES IN LIFE❗❗❗

Monk Mode, Anyone?

Monk Mode, Anyone?

First off, what is MONK MODE?  This gained its popularity on platforms like TikTok is, at its core, a productivity-hack inspired by Zen-like focus of monks.  This personal development trend took off on TikTok last year with #monkmode racking up more than 77 million views.  Monk Mode, Anyone? So, MONK MODE is all about embracing principles like mindfulness, minimalism, and purposeful work. The idea is to unplug from the usual chaos and focus on WHAT truly matters by giving yourself yourself permission to concentrate on a task at hand📗📙📘

It's true that we all live in an extremely hyper-connected world [and ironically, WHEN we get hit with an internet OR power outage, it's like the end-of-the world], so it's no longer surprising that we get constantly bombarded with distractions.  Can we imagine reading a book while in the middle of Japan's Shibuya Crossing?  OR New York's Time Square?  OR Jakarta's Monas roundabout?  No way, Jose❗❗❗

So, WHAT's this craze all about MONK MODE?  As this is entirely new to me, let me take a leaf from what I do read.  That MONK MODE offers a respite from all the chaos that keeps challenging us.  That MONK MODE gives us the ability to set aside time for deep work and reflection.  And WHILE many are using it to simply ignore distractions and embraced a focused work instead, others find it helpful to give up bad habits such as drinking alcohol, eating junk food, getting hooked with drugs OR even getting 'hostaged' by social media💥💥💥

And according to the strong advocates of MONK MODE, this is NOT just a productivity hack BUT instead, a lifestyle change [drastic as it may be] that encourages us to be more intentional with our time.  And to the advocates, MONK MODE is akin to putting our brain on a high-performance cleanse as it strips away all possible distractions even as it sharpens our focus and even boosts our self-confidence😀😀😀

Our takeaway:  Surely, just at that tipping point WHEN you stumbled across the word 'MONK' you might have blurted out like, "I'M NOT A BUDDHIST" but hey dude, this is NOT about religion or faith at all.  This is simply embracing the best of both worlds, adopting the best practices which, by coincidence, MONKs are most noted for.  So, let's take a pulse check.  MONK MODE, ANYONE???

WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?

WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?

WHY Texting Is NOT The Best Communications?  If there's one noise I've been very vociferous throughout the years is the fact that SMS stands for Short Messaging Service and YET hundreds of millions of people are using SMS for "LMS purposes" [for LONG MESSAGING purposes] which is way off track.  Through the years, I noticed on first hand basis that majority of people use SMS to discuss [OR even argue] unresolved issues NOT only within the workplace BUT even amongst relationships.  Can we believe that?  SMS is the channel to resolve 'unresolved' issues?  Of course I am impressed with people who have that digital dexterity to carry on a reasonably coherent text dialogue for longer than two minutes.  BUT, personal challenges aside, I strongly believe that texting via SMS is NOT the way to negotiate OR resolve issues📗📙📘

As texting via SMS seems to have evolved as the second nature to a generation reared on iPhones and smartphones, it is worth noting that human beings were designed and destined to connect with each other on mutifarious levels.  Interestingly, psychologists opine that 58 percent of communications is via body language, 35 percent through vocal tone, and emphasis and a mere 7 percent through the content of a message like SMS.  And we all agree [I am guessing] that good communications is the very cornerstone for relationships to endure over time.  So, WHY attempt to resolve a disagreement using only 7 percent of your full expression potential???

Let's have analogies here.  Would you run a marathon with 7 percent of your physical strength OR take an important test with 7 percent of your intelligence?  Would you host a holiday gathering with only 7 percent of your house cleaned?  BTW, that's already a generous 7 percent.  Consider all the annoying slips of the finger that can interfere with clearer communications.  WHEN the difference between "sad" OR "bad" and "glad" is an errant thumb, wobbly finger gymnastics can be that 'costly' and worse, confusing!!!

To be fair, let's hear from the iGen's and GenX's.  To them, typing a phone number into the seldom-used CALL APPs on the mobile phone is an anxiety-inducing task, let alone having to hold a conversation.  Instead, WHAT do we hear from these latest generations?

I HATE PHONE CALLS  BECAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL MORE ANXIOUS

VIA SMS, AT LEAST I'M IN WRITING AND i HAVE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW TO REPLY AND WHAT TO SAY

EVEN IF I MAKE A PHONE CALL, I WILL STILL TAKE A POST-IT NOTE

Hey, WHY put oneself through such hassle when phone calls are simple DIAL-and-TALK affairs💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Now, let's hear from their own perspective as to why they shy off from SMS.

• TO AVOID REVEALING VULNERABLE EMOTIONS.  NO ONE CAN HEAR YOUR TREMBLING VOICE IN A TEXT MESSAGE
• TO PROTECT ONESELF FROM HAVING TO HEAR ANOTHER PERSON'S STRAINED VOICE, E.G. ANGER, CRYING etc
• TO HAVE CONTROL OVER THE CONVERSATION, LIKE SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

So, WHY can't we stop SMS as a default!@#$%?

Say Goodbye to BURNOUT!

Say Goodbye to BURNOUT!

NOT sure if BURNOUT is still part of today, no thanks to our iGen and GenZ generations because they are living their live around the clock, literally speaking.  NOT until one gets hit with BURNOUT.  And that is a consequence we will all face, like it or NOT.  BUT when can we Say Goodbye to BURNOUT?  YES dude, you can say adieu to BURNOUT now because that is myth proven to be hurdled and at best, even avert and avoid if we consciously embrace the need to pre-empt BURNOUT📙📗📘

Our human dilemma is that for the past century, people have talked a lot about anxiety, depression and burnout.  More accurately, these issues that have been affecting the human population since the beginning of time have gained more light as people removed the stigma about mental health issues and started talking about it😌😌😌

Admittedly, we've all [and that includes moi in the past] been struggling with this at one point OR another, whether it's obvious OR not, OR whether we want to admit it OR not.  Even to ourselves.  BUT there are little moments, here and there, WHERE we seem to be crippled with anxiety, fear, lack of stability OR simple mental exhaustion.  BURNOUT can happen to anyone routinely exposed to high levels of stress [and that's NOT limited even in a toxic workplace because there are equally toxic household environments that become the sort of breeding ground for the various levels of stress.  Problem is, it can cause symptoms of exhaustion, depression and isolation.  Yes, BURNOUT is a state of mental and physical exhaustion that can zap the joy out of you💦💦💦

Unfortunately, highly frequent exposure to stressful situations [even like caring for an ill family member, working long hours, or witnessing upsetting news related to either family life, health or safety can all lead to that stressful condition.  BURNOUT, however, ISN'T always easy to spot, that's the bigger challenge.  With that in mind, we need to be aware if we are potentially leading towards BURNOUT and be aware of its most common symptoms, at the very least💥💥💥

Before getting into proactiveness and subtle countermeasures to BURNOUT, let's be aware of these most obvious symptoms:  exhaustion, isolation, irritability, frequent illness, amongst others.  Our takeaway:  BURNOUT is NOT akin to a 'big bang' thing.  It will unravel in phases like DENIAL, WITHDRAWAL, BEHAVIORAL CHANGES, EMPTINESS and even DEPRESSION.  BUT by being incisive and sharp with these tell-tale signs, we can SAY GOODBYE TO BURNOUT❗❗❗

That Allure Of the New

That Allure Of the New

We all keep saying that life is too short, grudges are a waste of time, so laugh WHEN you can, apologize WHEN you must, and let go of WHAT CAN'T be changed, love WHAT you've got and always remember WHAT you have today.  Yet what's That ALLURE OF THE NEW?  Sometimes [OR probably many times] in our life, our human frailty is to be lured by the ALLURE OF THE NEW but WHAT explains that in the first place???

On the other hand, some say that life is like a flickering flame of candle.  WHEN the flame is snuffed out, the light is gone forever.  They believe that WHEN we breathe our last breath, we are totally extinguished, AS IF we had never been.  Hence, that pressing reason for us to CHERISH THE PRESENT rather than be lured by the ALLURE OF THE NEW.  Allow me to quote an unknown writer: 'I PASS THIS WORLD BUT ONLY ONCE, ANYTHING THAT I CAN DO, OR ANY KINDNESS THAT I CAN SHOW, LET ME DO IT NOW .  LET ME NOT DEFER IT FOR I SHALL NOT PASS THIS WAY AGAIN'💥💥💥

On the other hand, sometimes life's most meaningful moments grow even from the briefest of connections LIKE WHEN you go to a party and meet someone wearing your favorite band's t-shirt OR WHO laughs at the same jokes as you OR grabs that unpopular snack you alone [OR so you thought] love.  One small, shared interest could spark a conversation  and that conversation could progressively blossom.  WHAT this tells us is that NO matter WHAT we are in life, NO matter WHAT status we belong, NO matter WHAT circumstances we are confronted with, we should CHERISH THE PRESENT💦💦💦

Looking back, WHO else is to blame WHEN sometimes we tend to have some discontentment and are complaining, can we bear in mind that there are people in this very moment WHO are struggling for their survival, existence and worst, even their very last breathe [and that could be literally speaking].  IF only you were able to wake up [from your own deep slumber], WHY can't we be thankful for the life gifted upon us RIGHT NOW.  And as life changes constantly, actual life goes by so fleetingly quickly, we end up NOT noticing the changes that have been transpiring right in front us.  BTW, every minute of our life has an EXPIRATION DATE and that is 'NOW'.  Once a moment has passed, it is gone forever except in our memories.  Cherishing the present as they happen will NOT only help us feel thankful for life BUT also help us to have a more positive and happy outlook in life😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  At the end of our life, I am quite absolutely sure that we DON'T want to regret all the things we DIDN'T attempt OR recognize.  Nothing hurts OR stings worse than regret both of things we SHOULDN'T have done OR things we should have done BUT DIDN'T do.  THAT ALLURE OF THE NEW, can we relegate it in lieu of the present???