Do We Deserve a 'SLAP on the WRIST' [always] ?

Do We Deserve a 'SLAP on the WRIST' [always] ?

We all make mistakes.  Who does not anyway.  But the bigger question, as an aftermath, how do we deal with ourselves ?  Do we subject ourselves to lengthy and endless 'harangue' similar to the way we give the kids a 'tongue-lashing' ?  Probably yes [but me thinks, LIKELY NOT].  My speculative guess is that we simply give ourselves a SLAP on the WRIST for our mistakes !@#%?&

Bluntly, the best person to 'STRAIGHTEN' us up is our very own selves.  Not even your partner.  Not even your loved ones.  Not even your boss at work.  Problem is, most of the time, we simply avoid facing the mirror.  Had we had that intestinal fortitude to face the mirror and confront ourselves as to where and how did we go wrong, you would have been a better spouse/partner, a better work mate, a better colleague.  But how can we improve our lot if we are so damn 'SOFT' on ourselves ?

Not to be biased on cultures but everyone should be familiar as regards the discipline of Japanese.  If you're tracking local news from Japan, it may not come out as 'news' anymore when you come across suicides  amongst Japanese.  And I agree, it doesn't end up as 'news' anymore because it's more prevalent than in most other cultures.  But from a holistic view across longterm, do we envy how Japanese end up with more success stories than ourselves who [wrongly] feel that SLAP on the WRIST is the appropriate reprimand we deserve ?!@#$%

What do we do then once we slip up ?  Go fasting ?  Avoid bathing ?  Remain unshaven ?  Unfortunately, those are exact samples of SLAPS on the WRIST.  C'mon, why don't we look into the root cause of our issues ?  Take a self-check.  Do we have BAD HABITS that seem to be 'KILLING' your self-discipline ?  Yes folks, WHY DON'T WE ATTACK the ROOT CAUSE of all our travails ?

Why don't we step back and look at things from a monk's perspective where the 'GREATEST POWER' is to be self-controlled, where we are encouraged to focus on our mind and energy, undeterred by anything else in life.  As monks say, detachment is not that you owe nothing but rather detachment means nothing owns you so the greatest detachment is to be close to everything without them consuming YOU.  And when YOU realize this, YOU won't just be slapping your wrist in your next slip up.  Please do.✅✅✅