Stop Trying Harder!!!

Stop Trying Harder!!!

When we were children, we often felt confident.  We had that spark of innocence and joy, and we DIDN'T know WHAT it was to feel inadequate.  BUT as we grow up, our worlds get bigger and simply more complex.  As a result, we start to wonder IF we're good enough for this world.  We might even compare ourselves to others OR set unrealistic expectations for ourselves based on other people's standards.  This is particularly the case WHEN it comes to to perfectionism.  Listen dude.  Stop Trying Harder!!!

True, WHENEVER we want to do something, it has to be done just right, even if this means spending hours on end agonizing over WHAT simple word should go in a sentence OR WHICH outfit looks the best.  A common culprit for all these is our tendency to veer towards PERFECTIONISM.  And one of the best ways to stop BEING HARD on yourself is to understand the very roots of one's PERFECTIONISM.  For some, it might be that they NEVER got the support they needed growing up.  For others, it might be their FEAR OF FAILURE.  WHATEVER the reason is, understanding WHY you are so HARD ON YOURSELF is the very first step to overcoming it💧💧💧

Take some time for yourself to really think about WHAT your perfectionism means.  WHAT are you trying to achieve?  WHAT are you afraid of if you DON'T succeed?  WHAT would happen if you just accepted that you're NOT perfect and that's okay?  Once you are able to answer these questions, it will be easier to take the next step WHICH is, letting go of your PERFECTIONISM, if at all.  BUT experts tell us that in their researches, they have proven that there are also other ways you can stop BEING HARD ON YOURSELF if this DOESN'T work for you.  And topping the list is to FIND SUPPORT.  If you find that you're BEING HARD ON YOURSELF, it's time to stop💥💥💥

So WHAT's our next step?  It's to find someone you can talk about your struggles.  This could be a friend, a family member or even a co-worker WHOM you can trust and comfortable to talk to, with regard your struggles.  Talking to someone about the things that are troubling you will allow you to gain perspective on the situation.  The last thing you can [HARSHLY] do for yourself is to cloister and lock yourself on your own❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Sometimes [and probably MANY TIMES], our situations in life are NOT as complex as they seem.  And frankly, sometimes [and probably MANY TIMES], we are guilty for making our situation complex and maybe miserable.  Please consider to also take time for yourself every day.  TURN OFF your mobile phone, put your smart device away, spend time alone.  Doing this will allow you to come back to the world feeling refreshed and ready to take on the next step❗❗❗