DON'T Rub Salt on the Wound

DON'T Rub Salt on the Wound

How often do we get into conflicts in life ?  Surely, we all went through various forms and severity of conflicts in life so we know how it is to get inflicted with wounds which may be taken either literally or figuratively.  And it's not to be ashamed if at various points, indeed we were licking those wounds.  The pain we had to endure with those wounds may be superficial or deep-seated but what matters more in this piece is that when those inflicted wounds seemed to have exacerbated and worsened not because of the wounds itself but when either of the protagonists may have rubbed salt on the wound with actions that could not help improve the conflict.

Common trigger of salt getting rubbed to the wounds, it is our emotions, when we get controlled by it instead of us controlling our emotions.  Studies have shown that 98% of personal conflicts went from bad to worse all because the emotional layers of us humans lorded it all over the conflict.  And this has been proven 99% of the times.  Emotions are hardly a help to fix conflicts.

Conflicts 101 does tell us go through this:

• Get a DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE
• Get a SECOND OPINION
• Get hold of your EMOTIONS
• DON'T see yourself as the VICTIM outright
• DON'T blame or shame others
• TALK IT OUT

From the long list of DOs and DONTs, you're right, the last trick does the trick.  TALKING IT OUT devoid of all the emotions will be the first concrete step back towards having a constructive and positive approach in a conflict that will otherwise circle back to you.  Have we experienced that ?  When you may seem blameless yet after all the hullabaloo, fingers end up pointing back to you ?

Yes, all is well when things end well but that's the end result of a long ordeal both protagonists need to grapple with.  Worse is, the situation will turn from bad to worse before it improves even by an inch.  And where an intervention may be of help, seek it out because in a fierce deadlock of a conflict when neither party would budge, it's the intervening help of a NEUTRAL PARTY that will pave around.  Do note that that party has to be NEUTRAL, else that worse situation will just spiral to be the WORST❗❗❗