False Positives in Life
Supposedly, life is so simple, just X's and O's, nothing more nothing less. But alas, our life is such a topsy-turvy thing because that's when the inverted and the reversals would show its tail, further confusing us as to what is TRUE or what is FALSE. And this is where False Positives in Life would creep in. BTW, before we get waylaid with a 'to and fro' discussion, let us agree what False Positives really mean.While there is certainly something to be said for having a sunny disposition in life, it's also possible to to overdose on the sickeningly sweet nectar of platitudes such as 'everything is awesome'. Now, let's tackle that 'DARK SIDE' of the positive vibes [a.k.a. toxis positivity] and ow its overuse causes harm and leads to the very suffering it aims to quash. American author Mark Manson, 'EVERYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE IS WON THROUGH SURMOUNTING THE ASSOCIATED NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE. ANY ATTEMPT TO ESCAPE THE NEGATIVE TO [EITHER] AVOID IT OR QUASH IT OR SILENCE IT, ONLY BACKFIRES. He further adds that 'THE AVOIDANCE OF STRUGGLE IS A STRUGGLE and the AVOIDANCE of SUFFERING IS A FORM OF SUFFERING and THE DENIAL of FAILURE is a FAILURE and HIDING WHAT IS SHAMEFUL IS ITSELF A FORM OF SHAME. Very well said.At work or in school, once you get an A+ rating, does that affirm that you are that GOOD? Not necessarily. In fact, that rating could be farther from the truth. And that is a classic case of a False Positive. A False Positive is a variable that tells us that what is apparent may be a fallacy, the UNTRUE. So when someone tells you in your face that "YOU'RE AWESOME", pause for a moment and challenge its veracity.No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Tuesday, October 11, 2022
False Positives in Life
Monday, October 10, 2022
Can't Win Them ALL
Can't Win Them ALL
Admittedly, we are a pack of humans so spoiled within our comfort zones such that everything else outside of our comfort zone is not even thinkable at all. Not to blame ourselves, from our childhood through early adulthood, we got used to be egged and motivated by our close circle of family and friends, all forming part of the ra-rah cheering team that kept sustaining our adrenalin levels way beyond the threshold for a time longer than it can remain. What get's missed out is that we Can't Win Them ALL. But by the time we realize that, it comes too little too late๐๐๐You might retort back that the fact we Can't Win Them ALL is not even a 'talking point'. But if it is not, how come we have seen this over and over again wherein people just refused to accept defeat and failure. Whether they are athletes. sportsmen or politicians, the aftermath will always lead to either an utter protest or a vehement rejection of the unfavorable results๐๐๐So how can we have both our feet back firmly on the ground. Simple, As long as we come to the realization that we Can't Win Them ALL because such is life. But that's the bright side of things. The sad part is that often times, greed creeps into our life and we start to [wrongly] thought that we can still WIN THEM ALL. However, let us NOT be like Floyd 'MoneyMan' Mayweather who, until now, firmly believes he can WIN THEM ALL. So what did he do? He keeps fighting anyone, even patsies, even from Martial Arts, all because he so believes that until now he can WIN THEM ALL. But do note that whatever victories MoneyMan is claiming, those are pyrrhic victories.
Sunday, October 9, 2022
What Wears You Down
What Wears You Down
What Wears You Down will absolutely WEAR YOU DOWN. But that's NOT the question though. Instead, the bigger question lurking behind us is, do we know what WEARS US DOWN? Or are we simply oblivious and unaware of the variables in life that are indeed WEARING US DOWN? So, what exactly WEARS US DOWN? That's a looooooong list though if we need to run down. Instead, let's sit down and focus on the core list of variables that seem to be WEARING you down. Do you struggle with self-doubt and self-defeating habits? Do you want to feel more confident about yourself?BTW, what could be wearing you down is your EXCESS BAGGAGE. So, the $64 question you need to ask yourself is to identify your EXCESS BAGGAGE. And the best way to start feeling better about yourself is to notice the automatic mental and emotional habits that DON'T serve you well and find more self-compassionate and life-affirming ways to think and behave. With conscious awareness and a daily focus on changing old habits, you can begin to build new, positive emotional pathways in your brain. Our brains possess the capacity for neuroplasticity, which means that practicing new ways of thinking.So how do we overcome the most common barriers to feeling confident, happy and successful? Let's start with guilt which we learned way back our childhood. 'EAT YOUR FOOD. THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE STARVING' or 'I'VE BEEN WORKING MY FINGERS TO THE BONE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND ALL YOU IS COMPLAINT?!@#% As adults, we can internalize these messages and as a result, feel like we're never enough or can never do enough.BTW, guilt is counter-productive. That GUILT about not doing enough to help someone else when in fact you have already done a lot. That GUILT about having more money or better relationships than friends. That GUILT about thoughts that you DON'T actually act on, like feeling jealous of a friend who just had a baby. Thinking about FAILURE is another unknown enemy. Many of us have a sense of failure that colors our perception of ourselves and our achievements. If you look at your life through the lens of failure, you will fail to pay attention to your achievements๐๐๐Oh, are you a perfectionist? That could be dangerous to your mind and body. An article in the Review of General Psychology, it found that perfectionists are more likely to struggle with depression or anxiety and more likely to commit suicide. Perfectionists are also more likely to be diagnosed with conditions such as chronic fatigue. and can only like themselves if they do well. But nobody can do well all the time. So, it really pays to know What Wears You Down⏳⏳⏳Saturday, October 8, 2022
Did You 'ACE THE TEST'?
Did You 'ACE THE TEST'?
Did You 'ACE THE TEST'? Or were you ever aware in the past that you were about to go through a test, frankly to test your mettle? Unfortunately, many of us tend to live life casually and passively to the extent that we are totally unaware of particular phases in our life where, not to our choice or liking, we are put to a test, either in school, at work, in our relationship with our partner/spouse or even for entrepreneurs, in the business forays you would get into.BTW, to 'ACE THE TEST', that's not just happening in the academic space because it can happen any day anywhere. And those TESTS will happen NOT just to test your skills or capability but it could be to TEST anything within you. Could be your CHARACTER, your FAITH, your INTEGRITY, your LOYALTY, your PATIENCE, your PERSEVERANCE, your RESILIENCE or even your MENTAL HEALTH. And the harsh reality in life is that we should and cannot FAIL any of all those tests. We got to ACE THE TEST.Regardless of the test you would face in life, never hesitate to ask this post-mortem question: Did You 'ACE THE TEST'? And assuming you failed the most recent test, that's fine. By being aware that you failed in the most recent test, that can WAKE YOU UP to shape up because you got to ACE THE TEST.So how do you 'ACE THE TEST'? Simple. PREP IT. ACE IT. Simply put, prepare for those tests to come and happen. Not to be pessimistic and ending up haunting you, you need to be fully aware of the CHINKS in your armor because that should trigger you to correct those CHINKS in your armor and ensure you 'PLUG YOUR HOLES' up front.At the end of the day, you DON'T need to be obsessed to 'ACE THE TEST'. Just remain focused and steadfast with that singular objective on a consistent basis. I'll assure you can ACE THE TEST❗❗❗Friday, October 7, 2022
Deboning Problems
Deboning Problems
Deboning Problems is not far different when we're deboning fish to prepare for a fillet. It is NEITHER rocket science NOR is it a simple equation like 1+1=2. Without over-simplifying things, most problems are not complex enough to break us down to our soul and spirit. Truth is, most problems are an offshoot of our day-to-day living. And quite often, a minor snag may trigger something that leads to a result that farther leads to another complication that creates a new problem๐๐๐
Much identified closely to fish by affinity, problems are often rightfully resolved by Deboning Problems via the proven technique the old school refers to as FISH BONE ANALYSIS. It is a reverse approach to 'debug' a problem by starting to look at it from the surface and from the most obvious levels before you deep-dive on a per step basis๐๐๐
Truth is, most of our problems impact us mentally, psychologically, emotionally or a combination thereof. Sometimes, it tends to torment us no end till we feel that things are spinning around, running in circles around us. So, the nagging question is does it seem to appear that we humans seem to be swamped with enormous volumes of problems most of the time
It's because during those times of helplessness, we DON'T see, to have the tools + capability to deal with the problem itself. Instead, we seem to run from end to end like a headless chicken nowhere to go. So what's the first step towards fixing such a quandary? First off,calm down and regain composure. Many of us, in those moments of torment, we tend to lose reason and logic from within. Instead, we should have nothing less than all these interrogatives. HOW? WHY? WHO? These are an integral part of Deboning Problems 101 such that when you either overlook or miss out these basic interrogatives, you will end up seemingly helpless and on the precipice of giving up. C'mon dude, life was NOT meant for us to give so soon, right❓❓❓Thursday, October 6, 2022
Those 'AHA' Moments
Those 'AHA' Moments
Ten [10] years ago, in August 2012 to be exact, Merriam-Webster released their annual list of new dictionary words and at the very top way above 'bucket list' was 'AHA' Moments. As famous American celebrity Oprah Winfrey explained, 'AHA' Moments as those moments of 'SUDDEN INSPIRATION, iINSIGHT, RECOGNITION or COMPREHENSION. But let's not talk about Oprah. Instead, let's look back into our lives. Surely you had those 'AHA' Moments but the bigger question is, were you aware with those 'AHA' Moments
But the tougher nut to crack here is that the thing about the 'AHA' Moments, you would never thought of it that way before but you can't have those 'AHA' Moments unless you already knew it. So, the 'AHA' Moments is the remembering of what you already knew, articulated in a way to resonate with your own truth. So, the 'AHA' Moments isn't somebody teaching you something. Instead, it is somebody helping you to remember.
Do you remember the last time you said "so that's how this works"? Hold on to that memory because that was an 'AHA' Moment. To be a little scientific, emotions are the consequences of the chemical messages revealed from our brain through the body. To cite a relevant example, when we identify or experience something rewarding such such as a notification from Twitter that says 'someone retweeted your post, our brain releases dopamine, oxytocin or serotonin which are the chemicals that make us feel good.
Sometimes, the effects of the feeling are very strong that it drives our behaviors and decision-making. And those 'AHA' Moments are such moments that make a user decide to employ a product. In real life, we could have benefitted a lot more from Those 'AHA' Moments. How? Firstly, by taking those 'AHA' Moments as the moments to inspire us in our next steps.
On the flip side, what if we simply shrug off our shoulders after having those 'AHA' Moments? Simple. Those 'AHA' Moments would have gone to naight because we didn't leverage on that positivity. What a WASTE. What a MISS for Those 'AHA' Moment๐๐๐
Wednesday, October 5, 2022
Anger Is One Letter Away from 'DANGER
Anger Is One Letter Away from 'DANGER'
Wake up every morning, turn on any gadget to watch and view news streaming worldwide and you would see our global village littered with 'ANGER'. Be it the raging Russian war in Ukraine, the actions by extremist Islamists in the Middle East or even the 'saber rattling' in the South China Sea between China and Taiwan. Voila, there is 'ANGER' all over the place, seriously. And why do we think the situations in Ukraine and elsewhere have become dangerous? It's because Anger Is just One Letter Away from 'DANGERAnd who are we quoting with this one-liner? No less than the respected ELEANOR ROOSEVELT, the U.S. First Lady during the term of President Franklin Delano Roosevelt said that: Anger Is One Letter Away from 'DANGER. Indeed it is. And this is were ANGER MANAGEMENT really comes into the picture. Studies have shown that eight percent of adolescents display ANGER issues that qualify for lifetime diagnoses of intermittent explosive disorder. BTW, ANGER issues aren't limited to teens and it's important that we understand anger symptoms, causes and effects if you suspect you are in that ANGER predicament.It also helps that we dig dipper into that ANGER problem if we perceive that that indeed exists. Individuals who have trouble controller ANGER or who experience ANGER outside of a normal emotional scope can present with different types of ANGER disorders. Unfortunately, experts have presented contradicting lists of ANGER types. If we start rattling down the most common types of ANGER, you will be surprised, it's a long listIf you had prolonged ANGER, that's CHRONIC. If your ANGER does not always come across, that could be PASSIVE ANGER. If your ANGER is at times too much for you to cope, that's OVERWHELMED ANGER. When your ANGER is directed to yourself, that's SELF-INFLICTED ANGER. And when that ANGER is directed towards others, that's JUDGMENTAL ANGER. And when your ANGER includes spontaneous excessive, that's VOLATILE ANGER. Unfortunately, there is no best choice from this long list of ANGER types. And your only choice is to improve your ANGER MANAGEMENT.
Tuesday, October 4, 2022
Taking A Quantum Leap
Taking A Quantum Leap
Are you contemplating to dump your 'old school' way of taking 'baby steps' and instead Taking A Quantum Leap? Kudos to you BUT only if you succeed. But let's not sing hallelujah too soon. You can dare ask me, how often in the past did I decide on Taking A Quantum Leap? Don't get me wrong, Taking A Quantum Leap is very very commendable and laudable but hold on, can we pull the brakes for a while and debate on the pros and cons of Taking A Quantum Leap? I myself, I'll admit, I fell flat on my face in the past after Taking A Quantum Leap.And before I get bashed by a mob, please DON'T get me wrong. Per se, there's nothing wrong Taking A Quantum Leap BUT things become quite concerning when you often risked taking it and failed over and over again. So, where's the beef?
Monday, October 3, 2022
A Good Advice Is Only As Good if....
A Good Advice Is Only As Good if....
How often do you receive advice? I doubt it if you do receive it everyday. But regardless, a GOOD ADVICE is only as GOOD if...... you accept it. But then, it seems UNSOLICITED ADVICE seems quite common these days. Whether they are financial tips from your in-laws or business suggestions from a random entrepreneur, everyone has an opinion for you to considerSocial media and online forums seem to feel the notion that it's good to share your advice regardless if whether someone is looking for suggestions [or NOT]. And while there are times when UNSOLICITED ADVICE can be helpful, quite often, it's irrelevant or impractical. So, you DON'T just accept an advice hook, line and sinker.So, it's important to distinguish whose advice is actually worthwhile and whose advice you should TIME OUT. Otherwise, you could waste a lot of time and energy considering advice that just isn't helpful at all. So, why DON'T we narrow down the list of people we can reach out for advice. Frist off, those people WHO [genuinely] care for you. And people who truly care for you, whether it's your mother or your BFF, will give you heartfelt words of wisdom. If they disagree with what you're doing, those who care the most will be willing to tell you. Their motivation to help you will make them happy once you succeed. Quite often, they will be able to see your work from a different angle and their suggestions may be instrumental in helping you to move forward.Of course, there may be times when you have to SET LIMITS with an over-zealous well-meaning person who may insist on bombarding you with advice. Too much unsolicited advice, even when it's well-meaning, can get in the way of your goals. Again, never miss out that A Good Advice Is Only As Good if.... if you will heed it in GOOD FAITH.And those people with expertise, they are another good source of advice. It's easy for spectators to criticize your work but their opinions shouldn't hold much value if they aren't in the ring with you. Look for a successful person with proven expertise. On the flip side of things, you can waste a lot of time worrying about a harsh critic or getting defensive but do TUNE THEM OUT unless it is a GOOD ADVICE as that's all that matters❗❗❗
Sunday, October 2, 2022
When You Are in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'
When You Are in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'
When was the last you were in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'? Probably you won't know. And it's probable you won't know because you were NOT even aware that you were already in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'. What this means are those times when you make or project yourself to be 'TOUGHER THAN TOUGH'. You might have heard the U.S. Air Force planes in a 'SCRAMBLE MODE' in the South China Sea.So, when exactly do we get inclined to go in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'? Some common scenarios when we tend to go on 'SCRAMBLE MODE' are instances when we are in panic more or panic attack. Those moments when we feel we are in a 'state of siege', when we tend to feel helpless, when we think we are left with no cards to play. Often, more as part of huiman nature, to go to 'SCRAMBLE MODE' seems part of our defense mechanism.When we feel we have 'lost face' for whatever reason, valid or not, we would then go in 'SCRAMBLE MODE' to burnish our facade and project a 'show of force'. But the question, is going in 'SCRAMBLE MODE' does make sense? Yes it is if it will give you that legitimate impression. So the bigger question is, when should we NOT go on 'SCRAMBLE MODE'?
Now, i'd share the instances when we, you should NOT go 'SCRAMBLE MODE' at all. Firstly, if you re culpable and guilty of something. Why should you go 'SCRAMBLE MODE'? Secondly, if you offended someone, especially your partner/spouse or even your bosses at work. Thirdly, If you still need to rectify a mistake you've done. Got to remember that a mistake done CAN'T be undone. But you can make amends by admitting that it's your fault and most importantly, you are GENUINELY remorseful for what you have wrongly done. But by being remorseful, it does NOT make sense for you to really go on 'SCRAMBLE MODE' at all๐๐๐So, if at all, how can we avert and avoid being in 'SCRAMBLE MODE'? First off, DON'T PANIC. If you do, sometimes, the human reaction is more influenced by emotions rather than what is logically wrong because otherwise, you may end up by doubling things wrongly rather than 'righting the wrong'. Bottom line, to go 'SCRAMBLE MODE' is only the very last card you can play❗❗❗
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