How Far Can We Be An 'OPEN BOOK'

 

As always, we always hear that we should be an OPEN BOOK because that's spelled T-R-A-N-S-P-A-R-E-N-C-Y.  Verily true, every mobile app these days has always that 'SHARE' functionality.  NO wonder, sharing is all over the place.  And it's fine, we love to SHARE parts of our lives with others as it even indirectly helps us connect and even reinforce relationships.  BUT NOT everything needs to be said out loud, dude.  Some things are better kept to yourself, NOT because they are bad BUT because SHARING them may lead to misunderstandings, unnecessary drama OR worst, even regret [LIKE, 'MY BAD, WHY DID I CLICK THE 'SHARE'], ouch📗📙📘

Psychology experts do tell us that keeping certain thoughts, plans and personal details private can actually make us happier, and more AT PEACE.  LIKE your biggest goals.  True, we would feel proud to trumpet our goals and ambitions BUT sharing them TOO SOON might actually work against us.  Remember even as casual as it may be, if before stepping out of your home, you happily tell your neighbor [WHO'S idling around the vicinity] that you will be going to your fav clothes shop as you're eyeing a nice dress you saw in their online shop.  Trust me, on your way home, before you blurt out, it's your neighbor WHO'll ask you if you managed to buy that dress!@#$%?

 BTW, yes you can OPEN YOUR BOOK but just like in Meta's FB, you can initiate an 'ONLY ME' post, right?  I remember the jargon of experts WHO said that WHEN we announce our 'BIG PLANS', our brain gets a little dopamine boost, similar to WHAT happens WHEN we actually achieve something.  And WHERE does the problem lie?  That very fleeting satisfaction [of our brain] can quickly and easily dissipate and replace that motivation we needed all along.  Instead of telling everyone your goals, keep it to yourself and LET YOUR ACTIONS SPEAK FOR ITSELF💚💛💜

LIKE our good deeds.  Doing something kind for someone else should come from the heart [and NOT from our SELF-RECOGNITION].  YES, in an assured way, I can stand on this because my lips remain sealed with regard the good deeds I have extended to other people all through the years.  BTW, without breaching confidentiality, when my sibling was overseas at that time, I visited our hometown and without giving any clue, I advised his wife to accompany me to the supermarket.  And I drove her back only after her supermarket cart was LITERALLY overflowing with goodies to restock her small store.  Even as we speak now, I never shared this to my sibling💥💥💥

OH, how about your insecurities?  We all have things we're self-conscious about BUT sharing them with the WRONG people can do more harm than good.  There's this psychology jargon tagged "LOOKING-GLASS SELF" which means we tend to see ourselves based on HOW others react to us.   WHOAHHH!  Your finances?  Your past mistakes?  WHAT the hell, WHY do you want to switch from ONLY ME to PUBLIC???