Have You Picked Your POISON Yet?

Have You Picked Your POISON Yet?

Oh, have you picked your POISON yet?  Or are you one of the intransigent minority who simply refuses to recognize that our lifetime is littered with poison around us.  Not your choice.  Not your liking.  But that's simply the very harsh truth.  You could be a student now.  Or an up and coming yuppie worker.  Or someone dead serious to commit for a lifetime .  Or an entrepreneur ends up contemplating whether to fold up his sinking business or take up a bank loan to try resuscitating his failing business.  Or have you heard of that relationship where the battered wife refuses to leave her abusive husband simply because she does not want people to see her relationship ending up as an utter failure.

We got to realize that our lives are structured around making decisions. Everyday we make simple choices and yet bigger decisions [that could probably change our lives or even impact our lives or even our loved ones.  So how do we go about this quandary?  I heard this advice so many times in the past. "FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION".  When we feel stuck or indecisive, it's typically because we are disconnected from ourselves.  When faced with "i DON'T KNOW" stalled points, we need to take a TIME OUT and listen to the 'SILENT WHISPERS' of our soul.  Take a few deep breaths.  Close your eyes and TAP INTO YOUR INTUITION.    

Run each choice through your mind and notice how your body responds.  If you feel contracted or feel a 'pit in your stomach', that is a clear 'NO".  If you feel 'fluttery' [but quite expansive and excited], that's a 'YES' but you're just being stretched out of your comfort zone.  So, GO FOR IT.  To quote Camille Sacco, a renown meditation instructor, MEDITATE and LISTEN to your INNER WISDOM.  Meditate and ask for that guidance from within.  And challenge yourself by asking yourself for the Nth time if that is the answer that will make you proud for you to tell your family or friends.  Note that sometimes, it's not deciding between the devil and the deep blue sea because at times, it's about deciding on two good options, leaving you to discern where are you better off✅✅✅

Reclaiming 'LOST SPACE'

Reclaiming 'LOST SPACE'

Oh, how many of us have lost that 'space' in life which we felt we owned or at the very least, we deserved to have but lost instead?  Need for samplings?  Sure.  How many felt that they can't manage their very own time anymore?  And how about losing that 'proprietary privacy'?  And how's that control to make your very own decisions?  And how about that entrepreneur whose revenues are skyrocketing BUT the bulkof his revenues are just 'RECEIVABLES' impacting his cash flow? Do you now want to Reclaim 'LOST SPACE'?

Unfortunately, we are NOT akin to our compjuter hard disk when all we need to do is run a DISK CLEANUP and run DEFRAG.  Then voila, you have reclaimed 'LOST SPACE'.  In life, it is complex web of layers and silos scattered all over the place which you need to really 'drill and dice' before figuring out how you can reclaim 'LOST SPACE'.  Studies show that 30% fail to reclaim that 'LOST SPACE'.  Why?

Thing is, many of us DON'T realize that doing a balancing act between our own life and our life at work is most crucial because once you tilt lopsidedly the weight on side, your boat can simply overturn and run aground.  In blunt and frank terms, what this means, your life can end up like a 'TRAIN WRECK' unless you are successful enough with your own WORK-LIFE BALANCE.  Just last week, one of my ex-team leads years back reached out to me because of her intent to apply back to our company [when in fact she's now employed as a manager in one of the country's oldest and biggest company.  I asked why she wants to come back?  According to her, it's because of WORK-LIFE BALANCE.  In real terms, she wants to reclaim that 'LOST SPACE'.   

So?  How do you reclaim that 'LOST SPACE'?  First off, recognize that indeed you 'LOST SPACE'.  Unless you recognize and accept that as a problem, no way you'll figure things out.  Next, DO THINGS YOU ENJOY.  There's a time and place to be hard-working.  But you shouldn't be working 24/7, right?  Why let things take over your life?  So how?  Set work limits [unless you're manning 24x7 operations and a major incident is escalated to you].  

When you need to stand up to commitments you made to your family, stand up to it.  How?  'UNPLUG FROM WORK' [unless you're manning 24/7 operations and you got an escalation, oh poor you].  In a nutshell, to reclaim that 'LOST SPACE' is not akin to Mount Everest being too steep and cruel to climb.  All it takes is our WILL POWER, that persistence to get back on track [before you get off-tracked forever] ✅✅✅

Be READY So You DON'T Need To Get READY

Be READY So You DON'T Need To Get READY

Is it worth it to spend time today for us to discuss this 'GETTING READY' thing?  Too bad, many will argue that this is a non-issue because people get ready when they see the need to get ready.  Wrong, off track, invalid reaction.  Too much time have been wasted.  Too much pressure have pushed people against the wall.  Tons of unnecessary effort have been exerted.  Mutiple levels of anxiety endured.  All because it happens when we simply miss out to Be READY when in fact we DIDN'T Need To Get READY for us to be READY.  Instead, we would end up one, two or even ten steps behind.

DON'T look too far.  Just look at those expectant mothers.  Why is it very very rare for us to find expectant mothers running like headless chickens, panicking when they start feeling the labor pains?  Simple.  It's because they are always READY way ahead of those birth pains.  When that do they gain out of that super-advanced preparations ?  When it's time to face the urgency, they DON'T Need To Get READY at all, as in nothing.  What do they gain out of that readiness all the way back?

Of course, you can always opt to take the side of Sponge Bob and share his frustration when he readied up everything for Valentine's Day only to end up with no date.  What did he lose from that?  Obviously frustration creeps in.  But let's turn things around.  If he didn't get ready and his Valentine Day date pops up, won't he feel that pent up pressure that will blow out right on his face, all because he wasn't ready?  Well, there's always that argument. Wouldn't all my efforts go for naught when all the things I readied up turns out of no use?

I remember the years prior to this pandemic, every year we had our collective opportunity as a family to take a memorable vacation at least once a year.  But before that holiday kicks in, myself and my wife spent enormous time and effort.  Budgets and financials is one but the biggest component in getting ready for that annual family holiday are all the logistics and of course, figuring out WHEN is the best time to book the flights and the hotels?

Look no farther than all the successful names in sports.  In NBA, we don't need to mention the big-star names like Lebron James.  Name even the average NBA player.  He spends hours and hours per day, sometimes by himself together with his trainer, honing the areas where he is either weak or even aiming to strengthen his existing forte with the aim of ramping up.  When the buzzer sounds, see how these NBA players go all-out.  Be READY So You DON'T Need To Get READY

When Everyone Wants a Piece of You

When Everyone Wants a Piece of You

Does this sound familiar, when everyone wants a piece of you?  This should not be another shocking news to everyone I guess?  Especially the past two years when we all got locked out by this pandemic, ending up with virtual and remote work which we all [wrongly] thought as another 'walk in the park'.  Alas, it didn't shape up that way.  Instead, it was 'POOR ME', the hapless virtual worker now working from home not because we opted for it.  And that mindset that we could recline back in our chair and just go through with the motion just didn't happen either.  Instead, when everyone wants a piece of you.

For some of us, it was kind of TOO LITTLE, TOO LATE for us to realize that this remote and virtual work we all had no choice to opt out the past two years but instead, we often ended up in a quandary by asking ourselves [haplessly and helplessly] how can we live, survive and wiggle out when everyone wants a piece of you?  C'mon, let's NOT give up so easily.  We can lift ourselves out of that vicious cycle but this will take concerted and collaborative efforts NOT just from you but from all the parties and entities you're working with these days.

Clinging to the old cliche 'better late than never', we'll share with you some basic ground rules when everyone wants a piece of you.  First off, MAINTAIN a default schedule and define your official work time versus your time after work.  Then, MAINTAIN those work hours.  Resist from deviating, where possible.

Then, leverage on that commute-free time.  Need to realize that your pre-pandemic total travel time can be utilized as part of your personal free time.  Catch is, use the time for SOMETHING GOOD, whether that's more R&R time to manage stress or a fun project you have been wanting to start on.  Now for the no-brainer.  Ensure that your workplace at home is comfortable enough and away from the 'traffic' of people within your home.  Now, BEWARE THE LURE OF THE COUCH.  If a couch is nearby your workstation, slouching on the couch for extended periods may cause you to slacken as well.

Now, DON'T be too tough on yourself.  You gotta take morning and mid-afternoon breaks, whatever it takes.  Now, STAY CONNECTED.  Quick phone calls to friends and consider even virtual lunches to catch up with your friends.  Now, RESIST distractions and disruptions from within your home and neighborhood.  Oops DON'T overlook your health.  In fact, be in the pink of health.  Bottom-line, when everyone wants a piece of you,  you know what to do next ❗❗❗

Would You Rather Be BITTER or BETTER ?

Would You Rather Be BITTER or BETTER ?

Would You Rather Be BITTER or BETTER ?  Oh, this may seem to just be another casual question but dive deeper, this could all lead us to deep-seated arguments as to why we should waste our time with a play for words.  But hold on.  This is NOT a play for words.  The message we'd like to drive is that with just a 'one letter' difference, there's a huge difference being 'BITTER' or 'BETTER'.

Sometimes, we too oversimplify our daily lives.  At times, we thought that being 'BITTER' or 'BETTER' is pure semantics.  But hey, being 'BITTER' or being 'BETTER' are worlds apart.  How many times in our life where we 'BITTER'?  And what benefits did we derive out of that 'BITTERNESS' ? I'm afraid you ended up with feelings of anxiety, stress and maybe undue and unnecessary negativities enveloping you even as you were going through your daily activities?  Didn't you feel the undue burden arising from that 'BITTERNESS'  which randomly may even lead you to anger and worse, to being loathsome and hateful?

Either way, being 'BITTER' or 'BETTER' could lead you to live a life that is positive or you choose, a life of negativities? Be 'BETTER' instead of being 'BITTER'.  We need to remind ourselves that forgiveness is important if you want to live a positive life.  Forgiveness helps you move on from the negative aspects of life.    

We need to forgive people NOT because they deserve it.  It is because you DESERVE a better life. Compassion, acceptance and forgiveness break the chain of resentment that keep you stuck in the past.  Today, we all live busy lives.  We are overwhelmed with the lure of things and material wealth.  If at all, we need to remember that we are NOT alone. 

No one lives a full life without having to experience at least one disappointment, setback or challenge.  Every person you see in your life has went through all these.  Exposing yourself routinely to universal problems can serve as a comfort particularly if you feel alone.  In times of personal uncertainty and isolation, the concept that "you're not alone" is very comforting.  In addition to that, seeing messages of comfort and hope cutting across becomes powerful.  From this day onwards, if there is any tinge of 'BITTERNESS' still lingering in your life, please DUMP and THROW that out pronto now, AS IN NOW for you to be 'BETTER' off  📌📌📌

QUOTE "You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don't Take" UNQUOTE

QUOTE "You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don't Take" UNQUOTE

Less I be accused of plagiarism, let me quality that the title of my piece today is quoted straight from this poster saying "You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don't Take".  Can I brag that there should be nary any arguments at all to this one-liner.  It is just so damn straightforward and simply factual.  If you are an NBA player and you got fielded in the court but you refuse to throw the ball into the cup, then you will be guaranteed that you will miss 100% of those shots you didn't take.  Whereas had you thrown up that attempt, you still have that china man's chance that that ball will go into the cup.  Having said that, it still befuddles me why many of us [including me once or twice in the past] would simply default from that chances to make it and score even if your probability is that low.

Decision points could be as casual or petty as weight loss.  Do you want to try out any of those weight loss options or NOT?  Try it and outright you can claim to have that hypothetical 1% chance of making it.  Too bad because in our lifetime, multiple times we already LOST by DEFAULT, by NOT trying at all.  Isn't that a huge waste?

You could challenge me though with tons of WHAT IFs.  WHAT IF I miss?  What are the consequences I need to face?  Oh my.  First of, definitely frustration will seep in.  And you have to brace yourself for that frustration because IT IS WHAT IT IS.  What happens next is ALL UP TO YOU.  But if you go by our natural cycle of TRY-FAIL-SUCCESS, then go through that cycle because eventually you'll make it.

Why is that darts board so popular? It's because it gives a very simplistic but visual view of our goals in life.  In your initial attempts to throw the dart, God knows, the dart itself may not even hit the dart's board not until many failed attempts.  And when do you think you will hit the bullseye?  Good question.  That could take you a thousand failed attempts or donkey years before you could make it.  But guess the feeling of making it.

Have you heard of some who took even close to eight years before graduating from the university?  Honestly, I admire them multiple times compared to people who I'm aware they spent eight years in university but till now, they never graduated from any course at all.  So, my last challenge question is Do you want to miss 100% of the shots you DON'T take !@#$%&

The Grass is Greenest When You Water It

The Grass is Greenest When You Water It

Who says the grass is greener at the other side of the fence?  Oh oh oh, hold on.  Fences now are a thing of the past.  Not even virtually in fact.  As we all co-exist now, what seems to be the only separator is a thin invisible line and nothing else.  So, if we're talking about opportunities a.k.a. grass, let's NOT pass the buck.  As we continue to be on our very own grassy knoll, DON'T look far to find for the greenest grass because The Grass is Greenest When You Water It.

Luckily, distinguishing an opportunity for growth and optimism would NOT frequently need too much effort to figure out what is crap and garbage, if at all.  Truth is, most of the time in our lives, those 'apples are scattered all over the place', waiting for our picking.  Problem is, we got so used to the abudance of all the goodness in life, such that, when there is an opportunity to grab within our fingertips, we still fail to realize that the Grass is Greenest When You Water It

Remember those times in school whenever it was our favorite subject, we usually ended up with high marks?  Why?  Because we WATERED THE GRASS.  That time we were wooing our partner/spouse, why did we successfully end up with them? Because we WATERED THE GRASS.  When we were jobhunting, why did we end up successfully?  Because we WATERED THE GRASS.  When that entrepreneur started his business, why did it grow? Because we WATERED THE GRASS.

In brief, we really DON'T need to jump over the fence to know and see that the grass is greener at the other side of the fence.  Meaning, it is all PERCEPTION.  That PERCEPTION is what spoils the broth.  That PERCEPTION is what causes us to [wrongly] think that we're on the wrong side of the fence.  Hence, we need to cross over the fence?  In real life, how many debacles have we heard?  Someone who, out of desperation, bribed people so he can fly over to Dubai for a coveted overseas work, only to end up duped? 

This poster says it all.  'NOW' means NO OPPORTUNITY WASTED.  Truth is, many of us could have [wrongly] assessed every variable in the equating in a condescending manner, thinking and cockily believing that you had all the cards stacked in your favor and there's no way for you to go wrong.  To further that truth, there are a minority of core believers that The Grass is Greenest When You Water It.  C'mon, be on the right side please📌📌📌

Never Listen to the NOISE

Never Listen to the NOISE

Oh well, we all live in a cacophonous world  of bedlam and sounds all rolled into one.  That should make us least surprised why there has been a hell lot of disconnect despite all the technology add-ons right on our fingertips.  Name it, you have it, whether it is connecting via bluetooth or having a noise-cancelling headset, not to mention all the audio conferencing tools. So how can we never Listen to the NOISE?

How often have you experienced processing so many inputs coming from so many sources, including the unsolicited ones and yet in the end, we would either end up with the wrong decisions or worse, ending up indecisive when one gets just too confused because of cacophonous 'NOISE' coming from various quarters.  Remember when you were contemplating as to what course to take in the university?

Or those times at work when you were doubtful and you ended up hearing from very opinionated colleagues, only to cause you to end up with an erroneous report?  Or remember those times when you were dead serious to commit in a relationship but there were opposing forces pulling you in opposite directions? And for entrepreneurs, how many times you Listened to the NOISE, leading you to wrong decisions?

And what could be the end result if you get way laid by the cacophonous noise all around you?  It is spelled C-H-A-O-S no less. When you become an 'UNWILLING CAPTIVE' to all the noise around you, you would lose control in coming up with 'INFORMED DECISIONS' because that's what matters most and Never to Listen to NOISE.

What's our end point then?  Envision coming up with INFORMED DECISIONS after thoroughly assessing all the PROs and CONs, after listening to all valid inputs and FILTERING anything and everything that is more akin to those unwanted noise.  Unfortunately in our lives, technology's offer for NOISE CANCELLATION is no help to fix and save us from that predicament.  Bottom line, never listen to the NOISE so that you will come up with INFORMED DECISIONS 📌📌📌

Losing Momentum in Life

 Losing Momentum in Life

We all value the ignition key, the switch and the starter and once things get ignited, we lose sight of the need to keep the momentum going in life.  And when get stuck and stalled, we'll pull out a rabbit and rattle an endless litany of reasons which caused you to get It is stalled [a.k.a. FAILED].  With a flurry of RCA's [root cause analysis], fingers will be pointed all over the place but guess what remains unsaid and/or missed most of the time?  It is the ROOT CAUSE for losing that momentum when all along, the locomotive train was in full speed.

And guess what's today's most common suspect for the ROOT CAUSE of losing the momentum in life?  Politely, let's tag it as technology but to be blunt about it, the common and recurring culprit is SOCIAL MEDIA.  Remember that student who was burning the midnight oil because of a next day final exams?  Or a relationship that was so warm and genuine inside out until one day it went sour?  Or a newly wed couple when the honeymoon seemed over so soon?

Or at the workplace, after you got onboarded, everyone was impressed of you.  You even received commendations from your clients.  Until one day, all you heard was kabooooom!  There, you lost your momentum.  Or have you heard of entrepreneurs whose sales revenues were going beyond the rafters until one day you heard the coffers drying up unexpectedly.  Think about it, what is the common denominator of all those debacles?  Simple.  They all lost their momentum.  The whole train locomotive just went kaput.

So, the most common question is when do I realize that it is TIME FOR A COMEBACK?  The answer is a four letter word spelled A-S-A-P.  As soon as you detect that the velocity has changed or when acceleration suddenly turns into deceleration or when things start 'to go south', it's time to BREAK THAT GLASS IN CASE of EMERGENCY' and summon whatever is left in your fuel tank to turnaround the situation.  What could be the worst blunder?  That is, if you commit back-to-back blunders.  That's alarming.

Why is it a cause for alarm if you are unable to realize that you got to BREAK THAT GLASS IN CASE of EMERGENCY' ?  Simple.  That is your last chance to avert a disaster, a failure or worst, a crisis.  Now, when someone reaches that FAILED END, do we think you still have that china man's chance to turn things around.  Frankly and bluntly, at that point in time, you have lost and missed your last chance to turn things around.  Which means, when things are BEYOND REPAIR, your most optimistic option is to REBUILD, to RESET, to RESTART all over again.  Imagine the tons of effort and time you need to re-invest again WHEN EVERYTHING IS DOWN?  Folks, let us not wait for our backs to be turned against the wall because by that time, the odds will be stacked against us.

You Can't Carry Out Till You're Carried Out

You Can't Carry Out Till You're Carried Out

A lot of things we can carry on in life just like the locomotive train that goes chug chug chug.  But alas, not all though can be carried on. You Can't Carry Out Till You're Carried Out.  Some stuff need to be way laid.  Your failed past which cannot be undone.  Your 'excess baggage' that needs to be left behind.  Your unnecessary burden that will cost you more than it will benefit you.  Your faux pas which cannot be rectified.  Even your blunders which are by now a thing of the past.  Quite a bagful of stuff in life that can let your locomotive train go chug chug chug with the right-sizing, with efficient loading sans the 'excess baggage' that is worth nothing.

Have we seen locomotive trains struggling in the never ending rail tracks of life ?  Or have we witnessed lives struggling on a day by day basis because tied up around such life are all the burdens and undue baggage which can be easily offloaded ?  Have we witnessed relationships in the rocks for donkey years but stuck till now ?

What do we deserve ?  It's to be FREE unconditionally.  FREE from unnecessary burdens.  FREE from excess baggages.  FREE from liabilities that deserve to be dropped on the fly.  FREE from irritants in life that have become as pests rather than pets in life.  FREE from the clutches of anything that are no less than a burden, burdens that don't deserve a minute at all.

What do we need in life ?  Everything that checks all the boxes.  Everything that gives us the GREEN signal in life.  Everything that can become a catalyst for us to move on.  Everything that makes us life lighter, brighter and positive enough as it trudges through.  Who needs an albatross on the neck ?  Who needs a suffocating chain that paralyzes your life ?  Who needs handcuffs that ties you behind your back ?

If you need to 'RESET' your life, go girl !  I've seen so many lives on the brink of disaster but who have turnaround their fate simply because they had the 'balls' to press 'RESET'.  And 'RESET' includes ENVISIONING the life you want, SETTING your goals, TURN your goals into actions, LET GO of things that are NOT worth it, keep HEALTHY and ensure to surround yourself with SUPPORTIVE people.  You'll be good to go from there, promise✅✅✅