Fork in the Road
Not our choice but everyone of us will have to travel through the roads and highways in life. But that should be the least of our problems. In fact and in truth, being out there in the roads is never a problem per se but it's part and parcel in our life. It's when we hit the 'fork in the road' when we need to take a momentary pause because every 'fork in the road' can make or break you. It could spell the difference between success versus failure. It could be that 'tossed coin' in your life.lNo one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Thursday, June 17, 2021
Fork in the Road
Wednesday, June 16, 2021
That 'SPARK' We Need
That 'SPARK' We Need
WHO and WHAT needs a SPARK ? Easy answer. EVERYONE and EVERYTHING does. Machines need it for it to start. Vehicles need that ignition before it goes. Even horses get whipped before they do gallop. And when we get hit with a power outage, generators need to be ignited for it to start off. How about us humans ?Tuesday, June 15, 2021
Albatross On Our Neck
Albatross On Our Neck ?
Who needs an albatross ? Guess none of us will welcome an albatross. Unfortunately, some of us [or probably many of us] do have that 'albatross on our neck'. Just to be clear, having that 'albatross on our neck' does not mean that we're referring to a curse. May not be a curse in most cases but I'd rather tag that 'albatross on our neck' as anything that seems to become a burden in our life.Sunday, June 13, 2021
Mediocrity Is NOT Acceptable
Mediocrity Is NOT Acceptable
DON'T get me wrong. MEDIOCRITY is not a crime. It's just a result that varies from bad to worst to even fatal and catastrophic. But it's a plight that cuts across segments of our society, from the most mundane tasks up to the most sophisticated processes in production plants of vehicles and even aircraft. You could just be ordering burger at McDonalds or ordering those addictive milk teas or you could bringing your car for regular maintenance and servicing or in the technology space, you could be delivering end-to-end services for an enterprise-wide rollout.GOOD NEWS: Breaking free from mediocrity is not a rocket science. You DON'T even need to enroll in any course or training. And the best thing is if you're damn conscious and focused enough NOT to be mediocre, breaking free from mediocrity could even be effortless. It's not extra skills or knowledge that matters. It's one's commitment to ensure that anything and everything he does is not mediocre.Over at the dart's board, can we figure it out why that board is peppered with hits within the periphery of the bullseye ? That augurs well then because it simply means more are focused to excel than to be that mediocre. Aiming for the bullseye should have been our very mindset every step of the way. And that 'bullseye mindset' should be contagious enough every minuteIn the service industry, what could propel things to go from mediocrity to service par excellence ? I attest that CUSTOMER FEEDBACK MATTERS. Years ago, I bought an alluring Swensen's ice cream cake in Singapore and although I stored it in the freezer, it melte, whew. I gave the country director a call, that melted cake got replaced.During the travel peak season more than 14 years ago, I received an SMS notification from Singapore Airlines that my waitlisted booking was finally confirmed but when i attempted to have it ticketed, I was told that that booking was not a valid one. When I lodged a complaint directly to the Vice President for Public Affairs, I was awarded a booking that was even upgraded to business class. What's driving first world economies way away from MEDIOCRITY ? It's their drive for QUALITY. That explains why we hardly hear of MEDIOCRITY when it pertains to the first world. But c'mon, first world or third world, MEDIOCRITY IS NOT ACCEPTABLE.✅✅✅
Saturday, June 12, 2021
Fear Factor Revisited
Fear Factor Revisited
That Fear Factor American game show had a good run from 2001 until the curtains came down for the last time in 2018. But while the game show quite turned off some viewers for its extreme 'fear factor' stunts, it all boils down to the fact that in our life, all forms of fear will always be a factor, with their respective ramifications and consequences.There are just one too many kinds of fears in life and a big chunk of those could have serious ramifications in our life. It could be as mundane as fear of people's opinion. But you won't believe this. I'm aware first hand of real life stories wherein his life did grind to a halt, getting stalled simply because he was in fear of the opinions of other people. Even assuming the opinions feared are coming from your loved ones, your family members or your workmates, the consequences are similar if the people concerned are strangers or people you hardly know.These days when we are living in a very much connected world. it's natural to hear when we have that FOMO, that fear of missing out. Who wants to miss out the boat, the last ride, the last trip. Human nature dictates that we seem paralyzed when we're along by ourselves. Obviously, we don't want to get missed out.
Is there a quick fix for our fears ? Unfortunately, there is none but there is a fix to it. Firstly, you gotta believe that you can handle things and recognize your lack of self esteem. Begin by fortifying yourself by monitoring subconsciously your inner conversation and start talking to yourself. Learn to be your own 'booster' and if you need one, start encouraging yourself. Start facing the mirror, talking to yourself that you 'CAN MAKE THIS HAPPEN'. But DON'T miss asking yourself, WHY is it so many things are NOT happening ?
Friday, June 11, 2021
Of Headwinds and Tailwinds
Of Headwinds and Tailwinds
Yesirrrrrs, it's worth talking about HEADWINDS and TAILWINDS, and not leaving this topic as a monopoly for aircraft pilots because we ourselves are pilots of our lives as well. We need to be piloting our life from takeoff till touchdown and obviously, we are never in control of life's TAKEOFF & TOUCHDOWN but we can control the HEADWINDS and TAILWINDS in life.As it is, not all HEADWINDS cause difficulties in our life but for a plurality, it does become a challenge. More often, the same HEADWINDS may become favorable to one but unfavorable to the next guy and it's NOT the HEADWINDS that matter but rather it's how we handle it. It's how we come up with the effective countermeasure, that antidote that will turnaround a tight situation. Heard of 'going with the flow' ? Exactly, that's the trick of the smart survivors. The thing is, never go against an immovable force because you will get knocked off. More often, you gotta assess the strengths of the HEADWINDs before you decide if you would gonna go against its direction. Allow yourself to consider the expanse where you exist at that very moment. All these would depend on how you conceive the limits of your being. Where you need to fix things, just go and fix it.Do fix the things, those irritants that keep recurring over and over again even if people just shun it off because they take it as trivial. And somehow, things you do everyday may seem trivial as it comprises 50% of what you need to do for a given day but remember, those are NOT mundane at all. In fact and in truth, the things you do everyday are the most important things to do. A 100% adjustment to your being means there is a lot less rubbish around you and fewer traps for you to step into. In the midst of all the turmoils in life, what is best for you may not have been asked at all, so what comes next will be like random snakes because they DON'T know where they were [probably because they DIDN'T look or DIDN'T know they should look. Too bad, IGNORANCE and WILLFUL BLINDNESS have been always tagged as great catastrophe so people ended up never figuring it out where to go or why.
Regardless of HEADWINDS and TAILWINDS, all we yearn in life is to be like the cool and placid waters in the lake, waters so calm, gentle, mild, serene and tranquil enough for you to hear ripples in the water, if any. Bottomline is, let us not leave our fate to HEADWINDS and TAILWINDS. Instead, we gotta be in the controls, navigating through the air turbulence till our life gets back to its stable state at its cruising speed. C'mon guys, let's control our life INSTEAD of life controlling us.✅✅✅
Thursday, June 10, 2021
Birds of the Same Feather Flock Together
Birds of the Same Feather Flock Together
This could be one of the oldest and most recycled proverb within the modern times, i.e.Birds of the Same Feather Flock Together. Question is, how can it continue to endure and get requoted a zillion times till now ? It's because it has been proven true over and over again over time across all the strata of society and cutting across ages and generations. Is this still worth talking today ? Absolutely YES because there are many insightful lessons we can pick up from this old proverb, albeit heavily recycled. DONT get me wrong. We're NOT shying away from this proverb. We're NOT shooting this down and peppering with bullets. If it's NOT detrimental to us and if it's NOT inimical to us, let's go for it. I'm all for it. BUT here's all the BUTs. If you round up with losers, you'll end up with losers. And when you're with losers, unconsciously you'll pick up their habits and attitude in life. If you're with negative and cynical people all the time, you'll become cynical and negative. In the end, you will end up living the lives of other people. What's the fix for all these? Align yourself with positive and powerful people. People who can encourage and empower you. People you can learn from. Align yourself with people LIKE YOU, people who dream LIKE YOU, people who want more in life, people who keep stretching and searching and seeking the HIGHER GROUND in life as opposed to the majority out there. Always strive to get on top in life because it's the bottom that's OVERCROWDED. Why is it OVERCROWDED there? Because it doesn't take any effort to be there.
But hey, you DON'T want to be at the bottom because it doesn't take any motivation in order to stay down there on a lower level. Harness yourself and tell yourself that you're going to challenge yourself. Many times, things that we shouldn't do, we do. And this tells us that the biggest enemy we gotta deal with is ? OURSELF, whew ! As that old African proverb goes, 'IF THERE'S NO ENEMY WITHIN THE ENEMY OUTSIDE WILL DO US NO HARM'. So what is it you're doing now that will be a liability to you ? Look towards the future, take an inventory of yourself and ask yourself, what is it about you that you should leave behind because it NO LONGER FITS ? Unless you change your behavior and pattern, you're going to continue to produce the same results in
your life. When you reassess yourself, you would know whether you got a SMASH or a FLOP. Worst, when you say 'NO' to yourself, by then you have taken yourself out of things. And here's a VERIFIED FACT: 87% of our SELF-TALK is NEGATIVE. So we gotta take a conscious and deliberate effort to extricate ourselves from this deep morass. And remember that whatever you have done in the past is not a reflection of your possibilities but instead, it's just a reflection of your consciousness. Final word ? let's TRUST OURSELF by building up the very foundation of our self-confidence. As the French say, 'TU PEUX LE FAIRE" [YOU CAN DO IT]. 📌📌📌
Wednesday, June 9, 2021
Recency Bias
Recency Bias
Being bias is not good per se but what
makes this matter worse is when we get hit with RECENCY BIAS.
Multifarious events or results tend to be influenced and/or shaped up RECENCY
BIAS. It's the PAST that dictates the results, instead of the the very
PRESENT moment, that very moment itself.
Unfortunately, the cognitive part of us seem to be illuminated by those bulbs such that when one bulb gets busted, the cognitive part in us can vividly remember that it was the second bulb from the left that got busted. On the other hand, if the RECENCY you could recall are successes or milestone achievements, that may [LIKELY] lead you to succeed and succeed more. That's the streak most bemedaled competitors are motivated to the hilt.
Too bad, till now the market innovators have yet to invent 'eraserheads', tools that can erase out those RECENCIES in our cognitive part. Either way, we should have heard of streaks. Winning streaks. Losing streaks. Those streaks of 'bad luck' when in fact and in truth, what dictated those losing streaks is RECENCY BIAS.
Too bad if we ourselves are stuck with RECENCY BIAS. Those moments of turmoil when you can hardly literally move on because you were so damn frustrated with the turn of events such that things seem to have driven you many wedges deeper. How to get over this dilemma? Clear. Initialize. Reboot. Restart things even if you need to start coldly.
Where and when you get trapped between headwinds and tailwinds, go for the latter. Never get trapped by headwinds Remember your life is your responsibility. If you DONT hold yourself accountable enough, you will come up with the tons and tons of reasons why you can't do this and that. Take that game-changing step dude.✅✅✅
Tuesday, June 8, 2021
Never Burn Bridges
Never Burn Bridges
That path in our life, land mines are planted all over the place, leaving you very little room left to wiggle out. Arguments, disagreements, duels, skirmishes, tiff and really bloody fights are all part of our life stories. And expectedly, we would end up bruised, scarred and even injured, sometimes, when the stars don't align, things could have a fatal end. But if there is a basic NO-NO, NEVER BURN BRIDGES.Work environments are a very learning experience. Decades back, you can spew fire at your ex-boss out of sheer frustration exacerbated by emotions. And you just won't give a damn because you were almost cocksure that you have seen the last shadow of your ex-boss. Fast forward in today's connected and digitized world, gone were those silos, those trenches. You would never know really. In your next job hop, were filling up an online form unaware that your ex-boss is in that organization. Or, you may have finally hurdled all interviews and all that's waiting for you to sign the job offer on the dotted line is a required reference check with your ex-boss, and that's all. But WHAT IF you burned your bridges ? Where does that leave you ? Probably in a deep deep trench you just can't extricate because by that time, much as you want to mend fences with your ex-boss, how can you have the temerity to reach out when that rickety bridge is all in tatters and just beyond repair.This poster says it all. If there's anything you got to protect every step of the way is your integrity. There could be huge gaps and disconnects with your previous bosses but both of you can agree to disagree, that's all [and nothing more than that]. Things can still end up amicably, civilly. And that runs true even to your friendships. God knows, a decade or two later, you would need to leverage on a helpline where your former bff is at the other end. I've witnessed these scenarios quite a few times wherein a decade later, your friend from way back is already a successful litigation lawyer and you're in a legal tussle where he's the realistic option in your community. You and I may easily give a cold shoulder those people now pulling the strings, those straddling the corridors of power. But they should never be looked beyond their shoulders because you'll never know that you need to initiate a courtesy call to a friend way back in school simply because you need HELP. And when we need HELP, remember we would even cling to the sharp edges of the sword simply because we needed HELP. So please, NEVER BURN BRIDGES.📌📌📌Monday, June 7, 2021
End That Pity Party
End That Pity Party
Everyone of us do have our UPs and DOWNs in life and probably for some of us, there could have been more DOWNs than UPs. And when we're down, it's fine self-pity will creep in. But when things go down our way, we need to focus on finding the light. With no vision, we could drift away. In brief, we gotta fix our life then. But saying it is better than done so let us translate our words into action via steps proven to be effective over and over again based on clinical studies.Sulking would be fine but again we can only get so far into that. Eventually, we need to allow ourselves to consider the expanse where we exist at that moment. And it really depends on how we conceive the limits of our being. And if there are issues recurring repeatedly, we gotta fix the things that repeat everyday because people might think of it as trivial. Things we do everyday may seem trivial as it comprises approximately 50% of what we need to do for the day but those are just NOT mundane. The things we do everyday are, in fact, the most important things we do. And if probably you initiate a hundred adjustments to your being means there's a lot less rubbish around with you and in the end, that would mean there will be likely fewer traps for you to step into. So how do we take the next step ? Stay within your domain of competence. You just DONT walk up to repair a helicopter and start tinkering on it. The phoenix is a classic example of transformation. The thing is, the importance of what you learn is proportionate to just how wretched it is to learn it.If what you're doing is working, you get what you want but there's no learning in that. It's when you stumble across something difficult, then you recoil then you're down to the depths and you have to sort yourself out and you realize you're down in the dumps and you need some fixing. That's where things get murkier because we human beings are strangecreatures because we're very malleable compared to animals, just like those grizzly bears now and grizzly bears a thousand years ago are the same, they do the same thing, there's NO transformation but we human beings have this massive brain so we pay a big price for it [as a challenge]. Finding out something you're doing is wrong, that sort of built into like a character, that element of character, a presumption of your perception or a deep habit really built into you and its a neural structure, it's alive and you gotta have to kill it. And if you need to go through a massive revision, it's like the person that comes out the other end might hardly be the same person just iike if you're trying to combat alcoholism which is a wretched thing to do, maybe because all of your friends are alcoholic. In the end, it's NOT how addicted you are to the substance but it's how you live with it. At the end of day, there is no such thing as a LOST CAUSE except when we feel we're lost in the maze of life.✅✅✅
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