Talking About 'PAY'

Talking About 'PAY'

This could be interesting talking stuff, once we start Talking About 'PAY'.  To set things straight, we won't be talking about PAY GRADES as that is way beyond our purview.  Instead, let's dissect when we hear from some quarters that they are working more than what the PAY they are getting.  How often we hear these rumblings on the ground, that he/she is NOT getting a fair share of things because things DON'T seem equitable enough because his train engine seems to CHUG-CHUG-CHUG way beyond and above his/her PAY.  Can we pause for awhile and really validate if this noise makes sense.   Really ?

Whereas, there is small plurality who can't believe it that he/she is getting PAID way more than he expects.  This is no figment of our imagination.  We should have witnessed some of those whom we know quite well enough are part of a rare group who feels they seem to be paid more than the the work they put in.  So, what sets them apart from the majority.  Well, there is a huge disconnect, as wide as the Red Sea where the disparity in mindsets and motivation are just too huge, too mind-boggling for us to explain.  Suffice it to say that these two groups are really poles apart.

What becomes inevitable is the obvious apples-to-apples comparison between these two disparate groups.  And for the seemingly deprived and short-changed group, it's just damn tough for them to accept that for the same volume and kind of work, a small plurality is receiving 20% to 100% more than he/she is getting.  But that's where COMPETITIVE EDGE arises.

It's true, most of us work to live, rather than live to work but hey, how can we overcome that huge disparity between the seeming short changed ones versus the seeming high flyers in the work place.  But rather than dissect others, let's dissect ourself.  Are we too QUANTITATIVE? Is OUT-of-SCOPE our favorite retort?  Are we just too ensconced in our silo such that collaboration and team plays are foreign to us?  Are we just too exacting such that we want to avoid being short-changed because we won't even consider to compromise at work?

At the end of the day, our stakeholders may NOT be favoring any particular one but in a workplace, it is inevitable that we all get compared on apples-to-apples basis.  And when you are 'penny conscious' and just too quantitative, think about it as eventually, the decision-makers will have to separate the men from the boys❗❗❗

How Often Are You Late

How Often Are You Late

Apologies if I'd seem confrontational with this frank query:  How Often Are You Late?  And how aware are we with regard the consequences of LOST TIME?  Are we to quantify the ACTUAL LOST TIME? WHAT IF you LOST TIME because you missed the project submission deadline?  WHAT IF you ended coming late to your final job interview?  WHAT IF you arrived late in your agreed appointment with the girl you're wooing?  WHAT IF you arrived late for a bidding?

Our bigger problem though is NOT recognizing the LOST TIME we incur and sometimes when we do recognize it, we never get to recognize the concrete ramifications into our lives.  And should we agree that every LOST TIME can't be bought with $$$$ at all? So, how can we recoup those unquantifiable LOS TIME? Of course, you could retort that there's a TOMORROW anyway so you can recoup that LOST TIME.  But hey, the time you will tap for tomorrow is not the LOST TIME of yesterday.  Time that is lost is time that went down the drain, period.

Last month, we had a scheduling issue since we had a confirmed holiday that was a hundred miles from home.  To accentuate things, we got to attend an engagement which was a good hundred miles from our holiday location.  And the catch is, I've never been there to that engagement site before [so we I had to cling on WAZE].  Lo and behold, we arrived at that location for the very first time a good fifteen minutes ahead of schedule.

But hey, why can't we learn our lessons enough?  I have an answer though.  We are just damn stubborn, so that explains why we never learn our lessons NOT UNTIL we got hit badly and we realized that we were able to claw back and recover because by that time, all the cards were stacked against.  So?  Would you now agree that being LATE IS UNACCEPTABLE❓❓❓

When Things Are In a 'HOLDING PATTERN'

When Things Are In a 'HOLDING PATTERN'

How often have you been in a situation when and where you felt READY and all FIRED UP for something but things were just NOT progressing at all, not even an inch?  Hmmm that doesn't happen often but it does a few times in our life when you end up so befuddled because you seem to be in a state of stupor simply because Things Are In a 'HOLDING PATTERN'.

Remember al these from your past.  You had by then graduated from university and ready to TAKE THE PLUNGE in the job market but one job option after another just fell through.  OR you were ready to TAKE THE PLUNGE by getting married but your fiance/fiancee just seemed to be 'UNREADY' yet? OR you were all ready to launch your business but 'show stoppers' kept popping up over and over again.

Indeed, getting caught in the quagmire of a 'HOLDING PATTERN' is tough to say the least, and there's just no way to overstate that. When this dilemma creeps in, a hell lot of negativities will start to creep in.  Frustration. Exasperation. Disappointment.  Bitterness.  And sometimes, even anger creeps in.  But hey, when that 'HOLDING PATTERN', here's what we should handle it when they universe tells you: ' Hey, you think you're ready but you're NOT, actually'

Let's have an analogy when an arriving flight is caught up in a 'HOLDING PATTERN'.  What happens down below, at the airport, is nothing less than CHAOS and PANDEMONIUM all rolled into one.  Why?  Because people end up so helpless.  They would feel like being in the darkest room ever, clueless of anything to clear things up.

How to handle being in 'HOLDING PATTERN'?  Rather than trying to make it happen, we need to recognize that sometimes we are in that 'HOLDING PATTERN', where we are asked to wait until it's time.  That waiting may feel like fatigue. We got to accept that our physical body just can't move as fast as our minds or as light.  We've got  gather more than enough PATIENCE as our body calibrates to the frequency of the new things we desire.  When you reach that point of realization, you'll be back to your 'cruising altitude' in life❗❗❗

Why Things Get Worse Before It Gets Better

Why Things Get Worse Before It Gets Better

Yes indeed, this is one of the perplexing things in life.  While we all wish, dream and pray that things will go from good to better to best, in most cases, it doesn't happen that way.  Be it during your school days, at your workplace, in your family and domestic life and even over to your entrepreneurships.  Indeed, Why is it that things need to go worse before it gets better [if at all]?  Indeed, that's one of the mysteries in life that remains unsolved till even as we speak now.

Indeed, there is one principle in our life that is very essential to recognize early on because no one is immune from this syndrome.  Otherwise, not understanding and accepting this harsh reality in life has the potential to forestall things, when and if it gets misinterpreted.  And truth of the matter is: Things USUALLY get worse before it can even get better.

Whenever you set an intention and actively sork towards a goal, there tends to be a general worsening of the situation at the onset.  This can come in the form of an inner resistance or reaction, but surprisingly even in the form of external events.  You set off to a new endeavor and ironically stuff starts breaking, hiccups happen, money is lost, accidents get in the way.  

But this gets even more obvious when you set an internal goal, maybe you work to get a calmer mind and it gets even more agitated, or you take a course to improve your life and get only more frustration out of it.  That explains Why Things Get Worse Before It Gets Better.  And this is akin to medicines.  Occasionally, medicine may worsen the symptoms at the initial stage before the disease is eventually cured.  It's like bringing all the symptoms to the surface, allowing their full manifestation before they plateau and finally leave the body.

This principle is particularly obvious with inner work and any form of shadow work.  Whatever is supposed to leave your mind and body, first needs to fully come to the surface of consciousness.  This explains why healing past traumas can be so painful.  Because the trauma needs to be fully relived and reinterpreted consciously while the natural tendency of the mind is to push it down to the subconscious layers where it can cause less hurt.  This same phenomenon is observable in any area of personal growth where you keep trying to build self-confidence.  This explains as to Why Things Get Worse Before It Gets Better✅✅✅

Why Wait for the 'LAST STRAW'?

Why Wait for the 'LAST STRAW'?

Care for the  'LAST STRAW'?  Oh, you won't believe it, many of us are partial and comfortable in stretching and stretching things, so patient and persevering and worst, [wrongly] thinking that eventually he'll be fine, that things will turn out favorable, that the turn of events will eventually end based on his sheer optimism.  That probably explains why we tend to have misplaced optimisms such that we keep waiting for the 'LAST STRAW' but it's too bad, only a minority of us all assess the risks and probabilities in a level-headed manner.  Very few in fact amongst us give an impartial and balanced revalidation and reassessment of the debacle they are currently confronting.

One could be in a very trying relationship that has seen more DOWNs than UPs through the years.   And yet, surprisingly, there are folks with misplaced optimism as they remain nursing for hopes that eventually, the other protagonist [and that could be his/her partner/spouse] will eventually welcome him/her back in open arms despite and inspite of all the wrong things he's been guilty of.  In short, they keep waiting for the 'LAST STRAW'.

In life, when you start things out, you could find yourself so secure with a robust-looking rope but what we tend to overlook is that even the sturdiest rope will experience its natural 'WEAR and TEAR' till the last strands of its fiber becomes the the 'LAST STRAW' that will eventually snap off.  Sounds familiar?  Yesirrrrrs we have seen that scenario day-in day-out in our life.

Hey, let me confront you.  Do you really want to turn a blind eye in the face of all the risks you're facing?  And hoping against hope that you will never end up to that very 'LAST STRAW' that will hit the camel's back?  Good grief.  That probably explains why many of us in a debacle end up badly beaten black and blue, no thanks to being stubborn and just blink to the harsh realities we are facing.  And when your partner unceremoniously walks out from your domicile, many of us get floored, sometimes fatally.

Don't look far.  Instead, relook at our relationships now with our partner/spouse and re-examine things proactively.  Doesn't it make sense that we do a REALITY CHECK in case we will end up wit the LAST STRAW that will BREAK THE CAMEL's BACK?  C'mon, it's never late to do a reset❗❗❗

All GAS and No BRAKES

All GAS and No BRAKES

No sirrrrrs, today's piece is not related to the current oil price conundrum which, as of yesterday, the price per barrel was just a shade below $100.  But instead, what I want to pitch today is all about pressing all GAS and NOT to pull on the BRAKES

Instead, this is all about egging us all that in life, when we set our goals and go for it, let us frame our mindsets to go ALL GAS and NO BRAKES.  So, what does going ALL GAS mean?  Simple.  It means being focused, being ALL-OUT, firing all cylinders at its full throttle.  You might challenge me as you might think this is a no-brainer.  But here's the fact.  At the very least, 50% of us all don't really give it all when we are on something.  We exert efforts just right, just enough.  Likely you heard relationships when a partner is not ALL GAS

So, why is it sometimes our bosses at work or our partner/spouse will express concern that you DON'T have that ALL GAS mindset?  Well, where there is smoke, there is fire and when one gets HALF-HEARTED, what else do you expect? Do you expect the healthiest relationship if all you gave are token efforts and no more than lip service.

Oh, this is my poster for the day.  GIVE UP, GIVE IN or GIVE IT ALL YOU'VE GOT.  Regardless of your endeavor, and be it at the workplace, in your relationship or even in your business, the drivers of either your SUCCESS or FAILURE can be dissected back as to whether you have decided to either GIVE UP, GIVE IN or GIVE IT ALL YOU'VE GOT.  Your fate in life will be shaped as to whether you will opt in for the first option or the last option.  Let's go ALL GAS and NO BRAKES, dude✅✅✅

Never Miss Out the BACK-BURNERS

Never Miss Out the BACK-BURNERS

Yes, that is true, We are all biased and partial to those that are at the forefront, at the main burners.  Problem is, the bulk of things going on are in the BACK-BURNERS.  And that is our problem.  The frontage always gets the attention but what gets missed out are the BACK-BURNERS.  To ensure we are all aligned, let us do a sampling of typical goings-on in our lives which are often left in the BACK-BURNERS.  If you're in school, the minor elective subjects seem to be left in the BACK-BURNERS.  In your relationships, the gross disservice is when your partner/spouse seemingly gets stuck in the BACK-BURNERS, huhuhu.

Isn't that a 'RECURRING REPEAT' [pardon for the intentional redundancy] but here's the thing.  How often we heard that the spouse/partner gets overlooked, gets relegated alongside the backdrops until the relationship hits its rough patches and its foundation starts to weaken until it crumbles down to the ground.  All because the partner has been pushed to the BACK-BURNER.  Before you know it, the flicker and the luster of the once super sweet relationship has dissipated in thin air.

Let's now swing over to the workplace.  At the start when a 'prized catch' gets onboarded, his value to the organization seems to be at an all-time high [and that always happens in the 'honeymoon period' anyway].  Then when that 'honeymoon period' is over, that 'prized catch' has lost his luster and he ends up in the BACK-BURNER.  What happens next?  As he gets less and lesser attention, he starts to look out in the job market again.  Poor dude.

Truth of the matter. It is human nature to end up in a vacuum-like situation when after all the frenzied attention that did abound, when that dreaded eerie silence creeps in, one realizes that probably, he's now part of the BACK-BURNER, NOT deserving of the premium presence, NOT worth the attention of the stakeholders.

But hey, let us NOT 'over-analyze' and 'over think' unless you are able to validate that your best days in your school, in your organization, in your relationship or even in your business, that those BEST DAYS are behind you because there is nothing left of you except your shadows as a BACK-BURNER.  But hey, ask me:  can you get a 'second wind', a 'second life', a 'second change' around?  Sure you can but you got to DIG DEEP into your bag of tricks ❗❗❗

Make It Stick, Dude

Make It Stick, Dude

Oh, let me caution you.  Today's piece should not be one boring one.  Although STICKS seem that boring.  But would you agree that Sticks do Stick?  Whereas there are many more complex and convoluted things in life.  But the challenge we have in our hands is that more often, we are not given a second chance to redo things all over again.  Obviously, we are all confident that if we doing things take a second time around, we could do things much better, with more finesse, with more aplomb and most importantly, with an impactful aftermath.  However, the catch here is that things could have been impacted either way around.

How about clowns?  Why are they so impactful?  Why do they grab the headlines for extended periods of time, with their stories told and retold across?  What sets clowns apart from us?  Simple.  They are the best exemplifications of making things stick.  Throw clowns in any country, in any culture, in any event.  When the curtains fall, they would have likely left their mark deeply across their audience.  Hey, what makes clown impactful?  They are the top proponents of making things stick.  While they perform based on $$$, that's a non-issue.

BTW, to make things impactful, you DON'T have to be so convoluted and complex.  In fact, to quote Bill Clinton, "KEEP IT SIMPLE, shit". And by keeping things that way, you can leave your own imprint.  If you're a student in school, your submitted academic projects should be spotless and spot on.  If you're in the workplace, you must leave your own imprint such that you will be known for it.  Be it quality-focused, SLA-centric, customer-driven or even innovation-driven.  In a relationship, your partner/spouse must know from head to foot your personal imprint as a partner/spouse.

If you're an artist, leave your personal imprint and if you, your artwork will likely stand out and your audience will realize your work attributes in terms of perfectionism, creativity and an artist driven with meaning in his artworks.

You may NOT be an entrepreneur but think about your own BRANDING.  Obviously, this is easier said than done but think about it, if you get to be touted based on your best attributes in your endeavor, people will all swarm towards you, not because of you yourself but it's because of your BRANDING, how you have etched a name in your endeavor.  And if it's about relationships, if your partner/spouse 'adores' you heads over heels, imagine if you end up with more 'secret admirers' [not because of an ill intent]✅✅✅

When It Does NOT Gain Traction

When It Does NOT Gain Traction

Many things in life do NOT gain traction right on the first try.  BTW, some could have tried things out for the umpteenth time all in vain.  So how?When It Does NOT Gain Traction, what do we do?  Give up instantly? Or retry till we drop dead?  No sirrrrs, either way, it does NOT work that way.  For obvious reasons, why give up INSTANTLY?  On the other hand, let us take the extreme scenario when and where someone just keeps retrying and retrying forever?

Now comes social media all over the place.  As a first-person account, I did bear witness to people who just never gave up after falling flat a hundred times.  No thanks to social media, someone can keep reaching out via FB, via twitter, name it.  Does that make sense when it does NOT gain Traction

So, what exactly is traction?  Why fuss much about it?  Simple.  Gaining or NOT gaining traction is your very bellwether.  It tells us if we started things on the right or wrong foot.  While it does not guarantee that you will succeed on that endeavor, it does give us the affirmation that you are on the right path, right track

No need to look far.  Those successful athletes finally made their mark after arduous tries and trials and they all went through a game plan that was formulated not for the short-term but even for the long-term.  But how and what made them decide to pursue that long-term game plan?  It is because, at its earliest stages, they confirmed gaining traction because they were slowly seeing the fruits of their hard work, albeit in small drips and drops.

Where and when you DON'T gain traction, what do you do?  Simple.  Go back to the drawing board.  Reset.  Reboot.  Revalidate because things are way off mark.  This holds water especially in relationships.  If you and your partner/spouse have been in 'turmoil' in extended periods, re-examine, reboot and restart the relationship❗❗❗

Tomorrow is Promised to No One

Tomorrow is Promised to No One

How often do we hear:  HOW ABOUT TOMORROW?  Whether it's a task to be performed, something to be processed, an output that needs to be generated, a discussion that needs to clear up the air, a conflict that needs to be resolved, a problem that needs to be fixed but hey, Tomorrow is Promised to No One.

But we can retort, why are we NOT entitled to tomorrow?  Well, you and I are entitled to tomorrow but what is NOT promised that when tomorrow comes, the task you put off will be done, the output you need to generate will churn out the report, the discussion will transpire, that conflict will be resolved, if at all and the lingering problem will be fixed.  As this poster goes, tomorrow is promised to no one.  Semantics-wise, yes tomorrow will come but your misplaced and unfounded expectations may not materialize, if at all.

Oh yes, I got an idea for today's piece when I recently watched an old movie by Clint Eastwood, and that one-liner did hit me beyond my lapels.  Why?  Because many of us [that includes me many times in the past] invested so much hope and expectations for tomorrow, missing out the fact that what matters most is today because this is the moment.  Why do many of us put off for tomorrow what can be done, fixed, resolved or accomplished today?  I know the answer.  We got so spoiled by Father Time, skewing and even distorting our understanding, this time around, [wrongly] thinking that anything you put off for tomorrow, you will be fine.  No Senor, not at all.  

So while promises abound everywhere, let's think about the cynics, the pessimist.  How often you come across someone who worries much about tomorrow?  Like WHAT IF there will be a thunderstorm.  Like WHAT IF there will be a traffic gridlock.  Like WHAT IF there is too much work tomorrow.  Like WHAT IF you feel lazy and not so energized come next day.  And that litany goes on like you are in the infinity pool.  But can we throw out of the window all those WHAT IF [although this is the truism if you are in Risk Management].

Indeed, quite often we are in a quandary because too much is at stake and YET, too much is tied up to tomorrow, a day that was never promised to us but we kept clinging to it.  How many debacles have we witnessed wherein we end up scratching our head because when indeed tomorrow did come, alas, what we thought was NOT there, what we expected was NOT there either and the 'HAPPY ENDING' we optimistically thought did not materialize at all.

So what's the fix?  Let's have both our feet firmly on the ground.  Let us have a REALITY CHECK and as to how we are faring, let us run a PULSE CHECK to know where things are going right and where things are off track.  In our lives, when the locomotive is shaping up to be a train wreck, even before disaster strikes, there will be RED FLAGS that will pop up.  It's for you to recognize it and rectify asap.  Just constantly remember that TOMORROW IS PROMISED TO NO ONE❗❗❗