Kick That 'DOPAMINE KICK' Out

 Kick That 'DOPAMINE KICK' Out

You may be unaware of that 'DOPAMINE KICK' but likely, you got that so embedded within you these days, unaware that many of the 'goings on' are either being influenced or shaped by that 'DOPAMINE KICK'.  That's the catch.  How would you know there is 'something you DON'T know ?  That could end up to be your worst enemy if things go wayward and off-track.  So, what gives? 
iWhy don't we 'KICK That 'DOPAMINE KICK' Out if that will bring down to our eventual downfall?

Please DON'T get me wrong.  Dopamine per se is good in our daily life.  Besides, who doesn't need pleasure and rewards ?  To start with, looking at Parkinson's disease and drug addition, they have a commonality and that's the improper levels of dopamine no less.  This chemical acts as a 'messenger' between our brain cells.  The importance of dopamine in our daily behaviors can never be understated.  Whether it's how we move, what we eat, how we learn, all these are influenced by these chemical messengers in our brain called 'neurotransmitters'.  

In large amounts, it motivates you to repeat a specific behavior whereas, low levels of dopamine will mean reduced motivation and decreased enthusiasm for things.  In short, we still need to increase our dopamine levels in a 'NATURAL' way, like as follows:

• PROTEIN - get it from eggs, dairy, soy among others
• Eat LESS SATURATED FAT - this is a no-brainer !
• EXERCISE EXERCISE EXERCISE - yesireeeeeee
• REGULAR, HI-QUALITY SLEEP - this is non-negotiable
• MUSIC - A bachelor Asian former president who passed away fed himself with tons & tons of music
• SUNLIGHT - Sun exposure is clinically proven as good.
• SUPPLEMENTS - If you're deficient in iron, niacin, B6
  

Bottomline is, dopamine is an important brain chemical that influences our mood and feelings of reward and motivation.  Do you recall posting in social media and you constantly checked the likes ?  Do you recall sending an SMS to your close friends and no one was replying back ?  How was your mood during those moments ?   

So where do we stand as regards dopamine? Hmmm, for your goodness sake, I humbly suggest you gotta KICK THAT DOPAMINE KICK out of your system.  That DOPAMINE LOOP where it's our human nature of wanting more of whatever feels for us, eventually you will be 'missing those butterflies'.  That's when smoking, drinking and gambling will kick-in into your life, whew.

But good for smoking, drinking and gambling, they all have age restrictions.  A pre-teen can't just do a walk-in at the casino.  But how about social media ?  Sadly, we have to admit that there is UNFETTERED ACCESS to social media.  For some hardworking parents overseas and separated from their kids, what's the birthday gifts the kids would receive ?  Smart phones or a budget for it.  So what happens to our millennials ?  They become hardwired to social media.  But we gotta pity the millennials because they end up with no coping mechanism to handle stress.  So when stress pops up, they don't turn to a person. Instead, they turn to the smart devices.  Impatience.  Stress.  Depression.  All these will lead to much bigger complications unless we KICK THAT DOPAMINE KICK OUT.📌📌📌

Got Your Compass in Life ?

Got Your Compass in Life ?

Life was always perceived to be standalone.  THAT you DON'T need anything else except life itself ?  THAT all you need is to stand on your own feet and you're spot on ?  THAT once you did hit a few initial successes. you can now cruise in 'auto pilot' ?  No sirs, on all fronts you got it all wrong.  You could have hit your stride right after you graduated from school but leaving your school's portals is just the very 'tip of the iceberg'.

And if there's something indispensable in life, that's your 'COMPASS in LIFE'.  The compass is akin to the orchestra conductor.  It gives the direction that leads to euphony and synchronized cadence in life.  Without the compass, yes your boat is still afloat in the Pacific but being afloat doesn't mean anything because being afloat may mean that your boat is simply adrift.  And when your life is adrift, you won't have the slightest clue of your direction.

The most disconcerting truth is that many of us would vehemently disagree that our life has no compass, that our life has no direction.  And that's when our real problem really creeps in.  And that's at the very core of our problems, when we even refuse to confirm that our life is rudder-less.  Yet, it is what it is when our life is going nowhere.

Surely, you're itching to confront me:  HOW CAN WE KNOW THAT OUR LIFE HAS NO COMPASS, NO DIRECTION ?  There are numerous manifestations that are symptomatic of that problem.  When you become indecisive to make decisions.  When you keep flipping your decisions.  When you are just so stoic and stubborn to admit that your life is going nowhere.

If we live with a compass, a direction in life, we can get anything we want in life but the bigger question is that why, more often, we DON'T get what we want ?  It's all because of FEAR, of SELF-DOUBT.  And that short narrative tells us why we can't do something.  So, what's next ?  Let's get to the ground and figure things out.  Bluntly, in what ways are you kidnapping yourself from the life you really want ?  Take a U-turn then by:

• DO a SELF-AUDIT.  What's working for you. What's not?
• FOLLOW YOUR FREEDOM - Go for perfection no less.
• ENGAGE - Take action.  Connect to your truth, your purpose.

Have You Found Your Way Yet ?

Have You Found Your Way Yet ?

This poster may seem over-quoted or just too old school to be worth dissecting but let's think about it, doesn't this just really makes sense to ask ?  Let's get these facts right:

• 80% of people NEVER set goals for themselves
• Of the 20% who set goals, 70% of them fail 
• And of those 20% who set goals, approximately 50% of those goals are like 'low hanging fruits', those easily achievable goals.

These numbers tell us that it becomes a wonder then that anyone accomplishes anything remarkable at all whether in business or in one's personal life.

So what's mind-boggling is that these numbers neither seem apparent or evident in our daily life.  People go through the motions everyday.  The less busy tends to seem busy.  The less focused seems to be focused.  And those lost in their tracks seem to cover-up things so it does NOT become obvious that they seem lost at all.

This infographics tells us that it takes tons of failures, tons of attempts and tons of patience till you eke things out. Now we gotta know that there are two kinds of goals, namely the "BE" goals and the "DO" goals.  "BE" goals are those we wanna be.  "DO" goals are those we wanna achieve.  And within "BE" and "DO" goals, there are four areas of goals, namely:  wealth, health, relationships and self-fulfillment.  So, any goal you set for yourself will fall into one of these areas.

But before we rush out and set our goals at random, we need to figure out what and where are those traps we need to avoid, if at all.  

• FEAR of FAILURE
• LACK of UNDERSTANDING of GOAL 
• WEAK COMMITMENT to the GOAL
• INACTIVITY
• ANALYSIS PARALYSIS [have you seen people who end up spending all time analyzing and analyzing forever ?
  
  Yes it's true, either way you or either way you end up, LIFE GOES ON but hey, it's NOT just LIFE GOES ON.  We gotta ask ourselves, what kind of life is going on ? Do we deserve a life that is going down south, in a tailspin ?  Or do we deserve a life whose upward trajectory are akin to the best golf swings in the fairway.  Have you found your way yet ? 👉👉👉

Between Two Banyan Trees

 Between Two Banyan Trees

One banyan tree is too big enough to block the sun from shining through.  But what happens when there are two banyan trees next to each other ? Will the sun still shine through it ? Singapore had a 'banyan tree' in Lee Kuan Yew.  Indonesia had two 'banyan trees' in Sukarno and Suharto.  Malaysia had Dr. Tun Mahathir. And the Philippines had its share of 'banyan trees' in Ninoy Aquino and Former President Cory Aquino'.

With the passing today of the former Philippine President Aquino, what gets brought out from the shed is the fact that in one of Asia's most famous political families with 'two banyan trees' [represented by the Aquino parents], it was  never expected that the son will shine [like sunlight streaking past between the 'two banyan trees'. But, shine he did.  The lingering question is, how did he do it ?

Tough question indeed because no amount of prodding can motivate us humans to eke out and etch our own name in history.  Human nature dictates upon us that with no driving need to really shine, we tended to be passive, laid back and ready to be in the background instead at the front of things.  But this is where Asian cultures are really steeped in tradition.  If an apparent heir has to carry the mantle forward, he has to pick up the gauntlet.

Thing is, in life, challenges will be the norm of the day.  Give me a day with no challenges, that's akin to a 'lifeless life'.  You need a challenge-free life ?  You're probably at the wrong place at the wrong time.  You gotta figure it out where you should be.  Even the scions of the powerful Asian families who were born with a 'silver spoon' in their mouth, they never fail their parents, their own 'banyan trees' once they're called upon to pick up the mantle.

Question:  for you to pick up that mantle of a challenge, what else do you need ?  It all boils down to that 'LEAP of FAITH'. Summon and gather all your reservoir of energy for you to have that 'LEAP of FAITH'.  See in yourself that tiny goldfish in a fish bowl.  When that goldfish decides for that life-changing move, the 'LEAP of FAITH' is all it takes for you get that china man's chance to let the streak of sun get through between banyan trees.✅✅✅

Basking in Success

Basking in Success

Achieving even a milestone success is success by itself and who says you DON'T deserve to celebrate for that ? Any success that is hard-earned is really worth all the hard work [after all the frustrations alongside the pain that goes with it].  So, basking in success is just the right move but please, not too long.  Not long after the frenzy that goes along with success.  Not way long after we have ran out of wines for kampais.  Not when you have over-stretched all the high fives you deserve.  Enjoy while there is still that luster, enough for you to bask in success.

To quote Faisal Khosa, "PAST SUCCESS SECURES FUTURE FAILURE IF WE CONTINUE TO BASK IN ITS GLOW FOR TOO LONG".  Well said.  In competitive sports, we have seen one-time champions who were gone the next round.  We have witnessed record-breaking performances that shattered all previous feat.  But besides being sad, we gotta figure it out why things went haywire way too fast.  The WWE is littered with a long list of the shortest championship reigns ever.

Don't get me wrong.  Celebrations are celebrations especially if we are steep in traditions just like the Chinese whose traditions have heavily influenced even other cultures.  Let us focus on the key reasons for celebrating success namely, our SATISFACTION, our MOTIVATION, our BONDING, our PEER REINFORCEMENT and as part of our LEARNING.

Wanna celebrate more ?  There are multifarious ways besides endless kampais.  Let's build recognition and gratitude into our existing activities.  Let's engage in 'social celebrations' virtually [especially since we're still in this pandemic].  Lastly, build that attitude of giving small-small things with immediacy.  Find a way to show you have noticed someone, highlighting where he did shine and how he did catch your attention.

BTW, not to deter success but there's a big legion who believe that SUCCESS IS GOOD BUT FAILURE IS BETTER.  Bottomline is, NEVER LET SUCCESS GET INTO YOUR HEAD.  On the other hand, NEVER LET FAILURE GET INTO YOUR HEART.  Sometimes, in fact, most of the times, things don't go as planned [and THAT'S PERFECTLY FINE].  When failure creeps in, it simply means there is something to be learned or likely, there is another alternative path you can trek.  In a nutshell, failure is a REDIRECTION.  It tells us which direction we should go.  And failure is an OPPORTUNITY.  That gives us the chance to evaluate things.  And lastly, failure is NOT FATAL.  So, it's fine to be basking in success but not too long, please.✅✅✅

Why Fear the 'UNKNOWN' ?

Why Fear the 'UNKNOWN' ?

What could be our WORST FEAR ?  NOT financials.  NOT the hegemonist power of China.  NOT even the pandemic.  NOT the rice bowl we need for the next meal.  And it is unfortunate that studies show that the worst fear of mankind is our fear of the 'UNKNOWN'.  Most of us [including me in the past] gave so much credence and weight to the 'UNKNOWN'.  What a waste.

Too bad, many of us end up crippled [frankly, i'll say 'paralyzed] because the 'UNKNOWN' is gobbling us up, mentally, psychologically and even emotionally.  The 'UNKNOWN' becomes the monster that can just push us down the ravine for a fatal end.  BUT IS THIS FAIR ?  What is there in the 'UNKNOWN' which pushes us to the edge, to that precipice towards sheer disaster ? Is it the 'UNKNOWN' of the 'UNKNOWN' ?

We can say this over and over again but this is it.  Only CURIOSITY of the 'UNKNOWN' will get us through and let's not mince words on this.  Let us not look far.  See how this pandemic is going on.  Should we fear that the 2nd dose of the vaccine is not enuf ?  Should we doubt the efficacy of Moderna or AstraZeneca ?  Should we fear that there will be a 3rd Wave, a 4th Wave ?  Should we fear that the economy will further go down the drain ?  Should we fear losing our jobs ?

Truth is, by being so misguided by wasting our time, efforts and focus on the 'UNKNOWN' will cause an enormous drain we will never be able to recoup.  It's akin to finding that needle in the haystack.  At the end of the day, this could lead you to sleep deprivation, anxiety and eventually, depression.

In practical terms, here we go.  Let FEAR become useful.  Let us leverage on FEAR to trigger that adrenaline surge from us.  Look at that half-watered glass as half-full [and NOT half-empty].  Think that if we live in a risk-averse existence because of fear, we also live a joy-averse existence.  How do we unlock these all ?  It's building up that POSITIVE MINDSET.  That will carry you through, trust me.❗❗❗

Blunders & Brilliancies in Life

Blunders & Brilliancies in Life

Blunders and brilliancies are not limited in chess.  It's more relevant in our everyday life because we, as humans, do commit blunders.  Worst, those blunders seem to happen over and over again.  But that's fine because we all have rough patches in life but we are not expected to be causing blunders in a streak till you get knocked off.  Unfortunately, this has been just too normal because surely, you have seen friends and even relatives whose track records became synonymous to blunders.  Worst of the worst, people think it's just fine? Can't figure out when was the last time you stumbled down flat on your face ?

On the other hand, the perfectionists and purists will argue that you don't even have to commit mistakes.  Just look around and learn from the mistakes of others, which BTW, can't be debated at all.  Thing is, time is just too precious and finite to end up using up big chunks of your time for back-to-back mistakes.  Learning from others would be the most pragmatic approach because when you're far away and you can see the forest, that's the time when you will have a more comprehensive and wider view of things.

BTW, we don't even need to read the tea leaves.  It's enough to figure out the storm in a teacup.  Before it becomes a brewing storm, nip things in the bud so that a mistake doesn't get compounded.  Many times in our life, we tend to go on a losing streak, those periods when the stars don't seem to be aligned.  But as inspirational gurus keep harping on, what matters most is NOT the mistake but it's HOW YOU DEAL with it.  It is the 'post' thing that matters and when you are unable to deftly handle things, things could just get out of hand and before you know it, you have a pandora's box right on your very nose.

Folks, we gotta remember we were NOT born to be 'AVERAGE'.  We are just too clouded by the noise, the expectations of our family about us.  And if there are stuff that may 'kill' us, these are our destructive beliefs.  When we MAGNIFY OUR MISFORTUNE.  When you carry on unhealthy belief of others or those unhealthy beliefs of the world like when you worked hard, you deserve a cosmic reward ?  C',mon.

So, how can you avoid a pity party ?  You gotta BE ON FIRE !  You gotta have that mental strength and it all starts with a small step .  Find that path for your time to shine.  And it's fine if you do things even not knowing how things will turn out.  Remember, thoughts influence actions.  We just need SELF-AFFIRMATIONS because you gotta get away from people who may tear you down.  I rest my case.✅✅✅

What's Your 'SHELF LIFE' ?

What's Your 'SHELF LIFE' ?

What's your 'SHELF LIFE' ? Yessireeee I'm asking you.  In he past, when we talked about 'SHELF LIFE', we always referred to good and commodities.  But as life has become more exacting these days, can we widen the net and redefine 'SHELF LIFE' because it has to be inclusive.  You could be a student, a worker, a parent, an entrepreneur, a civil/government worker or YES, an elected officer in a political office.  We all have a 'SHELF LIFE' like it or not.  You just DON'T want to be compared to an EXPIRED product on the shelf.  You want to look and perceive to be good and outstanding enough to merit the attention of your stakeholders.

In the past, all the small-town grocery owner has to do is to literally 'dust off' the goods on the shelf.  Is that enough to lure you as a consumer to grab those canned goods on the shelf ?  Unfortunately, that's NOT enough to lure you to grab and pay for it.  Household names DON'T guarantee anymore that 'rule of the incumbent'.  In fact, new names, new packaging are the norms of the day now.
 

So let's go down to basics.  What really is 'SHELF LIFE' ?  That's your relevance, your usefulness, your competitive advantage, your allure and your luster all rolled into one.  Even as a worker, probably when you got onboarded on DAY-1, everything was 'NICE and DANDY' and that could go probably within your Year-1 but from Year-2 onwards, you gotta take stock of things.  Face the mirror and reassess if you remain that 'HOT ITEM' as you were perceived from the time you hurdled the interviews till you got onboarded.

Who wants to be akin to that apple which looked so fresh and enticing when it was first brought from the reefer van over to the shelf ?  Not us, right ?  Otherwise, your days will be literally numbered because in a few days, you as an apple WON'T look that fresh anymore and a week after, you're just as worth as crap, to be blunt about it.

So how do we go about things ?  In the not so distant past, just fitting it was all it takes for us to be relevant.  These days, you can remain that fit but what's your 'COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE'?  Unless you can showcase that 'COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE', you will be tagged just another foot soldier from that battalion.  So how do you extend your 'SHELF LIFE' ?  Reinvent. Overhaul. Re-tool.  Upskill.  And that includes the most coveted soft skills that will delight & positively impact CUSTOMER 

Do you want to be just another persona there in a mammoth crowd ?  Or worse, is it just fine if you are ignored simply because you've been on an extended run that has gone beyond your 'SHELF LIFE' ?  If you're a student, you extend your 'SHELF LIFE'  if your teachers continue to rank you in the 90 percentile.  If you're a worker, you want that you remain your management's #1 GoTo Guy when needed.  Think about your 'SHELF LIFE' folks.  Oh, BTW, it's Father's Day today.  Let me extend my 'SHELF LIFE' further ✅✅✅

Enjoy the Sun While it Lasts

Enjoy the Sun While it Lasts

The cliche 'Enjoy the Sun While it Lasts' is much older than our ancestors.  It could even be as old as that Loch Ness monster, that fabled part of Scottish folklore.  And while 'Enjoy the Sun While it Lasts' could be construed for various things, one thing is certain in life and that is, "LET'S KEEP THAT STREAK [and even STRETCH it] AS FAR AS POSSIBLE."  It could be confluence of events, a combination of multifarious factors in life, e.g. expertise, top-notch productivity, sheer luck or you simply have that MIDAS TOUCH in you such that you can even 'TURN GARBAGE INTO GOLD'.  When we've been down for so long, battered and bruised, all we hope and pray is for a breakthrough. And when we finally 'HIT THAT BREAKTHROUGH', the least we should do is not to lose that momentum, we gotta keep it going.

When the sun shines, we all should sieze those moments when all the stars seem to be aligned, when nothing just goes wrong, when everything runs in our favor.  Those are the 'WINNING STREAKS' we hear from success stories and the question is, why do those success stories trumphet their 'WINNING STREAKS' ?  It's because they know what it takes to keep and sustain that momentum.

Problem is, I've seen people who, after achieving one small success, they start to bask under that solitary success and what happens next ?  Kampai's left and right.  Celebrations till the wee hours of the morning.  We have seen frenzied celebrations arising from a paltry and solitary success.  So do we know now why 'WINNING STREAKS' hardly come in our daily lives.  We just gotta stop those premature celebrations.

Even the ostrich and the ducks, they do enjoy the sun while it lasts but everything is done in a modest way, not to the extent of that penchant for frivolous celebrations.  In short, let us not bask on the laurels of a one-off success.  Let us not be casual with our dreams else we will end up a casualty.  Instead, "CAN YOU JUST BETTER YOUR BEST ? "  In Steven Kotler's 'ALTERED STATE', he says that we tend to live in SINGLE FREQUENCIES unaware that our minds can live in multiple frequencies.  

Our dilemma is, we tend to forget that one day, it becomes a rainy day and we need to shield ourselves from the rain.  Let's make hay while the sun is shining because when rainy days come, we become defensive in most of our activities, with the pressures dictating and shaping up our decisions which sometimes are ill-advised ones.

In brief, once we are on top of things, let us endeavor NOT TO BREAK THE CHAIN.  We don't want to lose that momentum of winning, of being on top of things. Let's ENJOY THE SUN WHILE IT LASTS.✅✅✅

Rumors Fly, Truth Walks

Rumors Fly, Truth Walks

Yes sirs, RUMORS FLY, TRUTH WALKS.  Quite unconsciously, almost every tick of the clock, rumors fly around faster than the speed of sound.  And in this highly digitized age, it's least surprising that rumors fly that fast because of this [damning] technologies.

From the earlier generations, the perennial culprit are the 'LOOSE LIPS'.  And they were even touted [figuratively] to be able to 'SINK SHIPS'.  Taken in context, those 'LOOSE LIPS' did wreak havoc on the tranquility of relationships, of homes, of communities, all simply because those 'LOOSE LIPS' go let loose that fast.

End result ?  Irreparable damage and we do witness this almost everyday in our lives.  Debris of damage is littered across everywhere.  Relationships at home or at work.  Peace situation at home or even in villages.  Even with local and national governments.  So much is damaged because of 'LOOSE LIPS'.

Now comes social media.  We all embraced it because suddenly, news will be literally right at our very finger tips but NO THANKS to technology.  Although social media became the communications channel we are all dependent to, social media seemed to be the pallbearers of FAKE NEWS.  In fact, truth was an exception.

Any quick fix for this ? Yes there is a fix but ain't a quick fix because when you do the fact-checking, one post or one tweet can trigger a mass-driven buy-in of such FAKE NEWS and by the time FAST-CHECKING is done, it's just too late.  No way to UNDO.  Ironically, so many Apps now has the UNDO function [except for FAKE NEWS].

FINAL FIX ?  Always listen to rumors with a grain of salt.  DON'T take it hook, line and sinker.  You may end up with a ticking time bomb right on your hands.  Unfortunately, we are all caught up in a quagmire where there is no one solution that will fix all those rumors and fake news all over us.  If we need to re-educate and overhaul our self-discipline to become more discerning and judicious before coming up with either premature or half-baked conclusions, take it that way.  Remember, RUMORS FLY, TRUTH WALKS.❗❗❗